I am me, the sum that is Das Es. Who I am is not necessarily who you think I am, and if you look at me now, you'll know nothing.
So over the course of the past few years, I began to HATE the idea of gender and the self-righteous presumptuousness that people bring to the table every single time they say they won't.
So I didn't begin wishing I was something else, I just stopped identifying as "male" or "female." I started feeling like not only did it NOT matter, but it did not apply to me, because who I am feels and looks absolutely nothing like people expect.
Eventually the dust settled and my new sense of self developed as something that seemed almost ambiguous, but was more than anything just alien. Not male, not female, but something unique between the two, comprised of traits from both genders. Thanks to my body I do feel almost residual, very pale and bland, and maybe almost atrophic masculinity, but there are no English pronouns that feel befitting, no English pronouns that do not make me absolutely cringe. To be called "son," "uncle," or "nephew" feels unsettling and out of place, broken and twisted.
And it feels as perfectly natural to me as computers and software; as if this is who I was born to become.
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Honestly, it feels like I'm missing something or communicating something incorrectly, but this is as close as I can get right now.