I like being straight

[Natalie]

Whoah. That's pretty hard core

But I'm single for many years now, not by choice.

I am by personal choice with no intention of ever changing that.

[YinYanga]

Who knows Evelyn, you never can be 100% sure

[Auroramarianna]

Eh. It's okay.

I would like to love and feel loved 

Sometimes people just over-think what their preferences are, turn on and turn off, but the truth is when love knocks the door, you will open an exception to some of the requirements you had established before. 

[Natalie]

Eh. It's okay.

I would like to love and feel loved 

Sometimes people just over-think what their preferences are, turn on and turn off, but the truth is when love knocks the door, you will open an exception to some of the requirements you had established before. 

That's pretty credulous to speculate that. I don't and never did make exceptions irrespective of who they were or how great they seemed. I never deviate from my standards and that in itself sort of refutes this erroneous claim. Don't apply your own anecdotal experiences on everyone else. Just because you would make exceptions does not mean other people would.

[Jess42]

Eh. It's okay.

I would like to love and feel loved 

Sometimes people just over-think what their preferences are, turn on and turn off, but the truth is when love knocks the door, you will open an exception to some of the requirements you had established before. 

That my dear is why I never limit myself to gender, orientation, race or anything else. Loving someone and feeling loved is one of the best feelings that you can have. Whether it is a couple of months or a lifetime. Letting your guard down, letting youself be vulnerable to that special person, which leads to mutual intamacy and secrets between one another that you have without judgemnt from or of that person. It most definately is one of the sweetest emotions that we will ever feel.

Love can come from any direction and usually the direction in which you are not looking toward. I think Cindy said "Blindsided by love" and more often than not that is true. Love may have been under you nose the whole time and all you gotta do is take a leap of faith if you are attracted to someone. The results may be surprising.

[Auroramarianna]

That my dear is why I never limit myself to gender, orientation, race or anything else. Loving someone and feeling loved is one of the best feelings that you can have. Whether it is a couple of months or a lifetime. Letting your guard down, letting youself be vulnerable to that special person, which leads to mutual intamacy and secrets between one another that you have without judgemnt from or of that person. It most definately is one of the sweetest emotions that we will ever feel.

Love can come from any direction and usually the direction in which you are not looking toward. I think Cindy said "Blindsided by love" and more often than not that is true. Love may have been under you nose the whole time and all you gotta do is take a leap of faith if you are attracted to someone. The results may be surprising.

Uhh so totally this. ^

And Natalie, I wasn't trying to be rude or implying my beliefs are superior to yours. It's okay to have standards. But again, love is a feeling and therefore it is irrational in most ways. For example I may picture myself with a blondie blue-eyed surfist who has a really hot body, but who says I can't hit it off with a geek, nerdy, muscly and short guy and fall in love with him subsequently. If you're too strict with the people you meet, you'll possibly desmiss someone that could be the absolute love of your life. Just sayin'

[Jess42]

Uhh so totally this. ^

And Natalie, I wasn't trying to be rude or implying my beliefs are superior to yours. It's okay to have standards. But again, love is a feeling and therefore it is irrational in most ways. For example I may picture myself with a blondie blue-eyed surfist who has a really hot body, but who says I can't hit it off with a geek, nerdy, muscly and short guy and fall in love with him subsequently. If you're too strict with the people you meet, you'll possibly desmiss someone that could be the absolute love of your life. Just sayin'

Yeah standards are really good to have. Mine aren't really that high though. Long hair, tats and an attitude bigger than life and extreme self confidnce. I can live without the first two but the latter two pretty much describes every man out there that hits on ya'

[Natalie]

It does not matter, YOU make a "choice" on whether or not you want to date said person or make an exception to your standards. People like me "never" waiver on our standards not now not ever. Furthermore, I am not sure how you missed that I have no desire to date anymore and haven't dated in many, many years (since 2006). I don't want to nor do I ever anticipate ever doing it again and if I did "like" someone I will remove them from my life just like I've done before. You faltering on your position is your decision. That's great that you feel romantic love is all wonderful, however, others (me included) simply do not feel the same way. To me its a big joke and I want nothing to do with that.

[Auroramarianna]

It does not matter, YOU make a "choice" on whether or not you want to date said person or make an exception to your standards. People like me "never" waiver on our standards not now not ever. Furthermore, I am not sure how you missed that I have no desire to date anymore and haven't dated in many, many years (since 2006). I don't want to nor do I ever anticipate ever doing it again and if I did "like" someone I will remove them from my life just like I've done before. You faltering on your position is your decision. That's great that you feel romantic love is all wonderful, however, others (me included) simply do not feel the same way. To me its a big joke and I want nothing to do with that.

My comment was never directed at you specifically. And I never said romantic love has only positive aspects, it does bring sorrow as well. Also, I don't even understand why you say you have standards and then not even being open to dating, you're actually contradicting yourself.

But anyways, I never said it is not okay to have standards. Just that if you stick to them very strictly, you'll likely dismiss people (based on a first impression, not necessarily their character) and possible meaningful connections. That's all I meant, and it wasn't in any way directed at you specifically.

best wishes.

[Hideyoshi]

if I did "like" someone I will remove them from my life just like I've done before.

Well I sincerely hope you can be happy in life.

I would be miserable without a partner.

[Alice Rogers]

I'd say the best thing so far about transitioning is when I'm in public with my boyfriend. I can be close to him, touch him, hold his hand, give him a peck on the cheek, and there are no double takes from anyone. Just a straight guy with his straight girlfriend.

It's such a weird feeling. Normally, when I'm in guy mode with him in public, we just act like two quiet guys; and nobody would suspect a relationship since there's no affection shown between us. But if I'm a girl, there's no reason to hide it anymore.

and it feels good

Honey I could hug you so tight! I feel exactly the same way, before I started my transition we got funny looks if we so much as walked too close together, since I started presenting full time female noone gives us a second glance, I can hold his hand, hug him, pecks on the cheek, even little pecks on the lips, its a brave new world we live in!

[Natalie]

I know it was not directed at me entirely.

If you're too strict with the people you meet, you'll possibly desmiss someone that could be the absolute love of your life. Just sayin'

That's your subjective opinion on the matter, but I don't think about that because I know the exact type of person I want and would date. Anything less is not worth my time or effort so I am not missing anything that I'd care about. Based on your statements in this thread it appears that you are worried more about probabilities, I'm not.

...Also, I don't even understand why you say you have standards and then not even being open to dating, you're actually contradicting yourself.

I have standards and "did" date so I am unsure why you are not making a correlation here. Also, how is having standards and not dating contradictory? Since I don't date I can't have standards about dating? That doesn't make any sense. So, using that rationale, apparently I am contradictory because I have standards against drug use even though I don't use drugs or I am contradictory because I had standards about dating before I started dating as a teenager. I guess I am also contradictory because I have standards on what type of car I want before I buy it. Can you see the absurdity here? I mean, it's down right funny stuff!

Furthermore, you do think love is some wonderful thing and you never stated anything about how you feel it can induce sorrow as well until after the fact:

...And I never said romantic love has only positive aspects, it does bring sorrow as well.

Like every other human being, I cannot magically read minds. I see love as a meaningless emotion that is nothing more than increased levels of Oxytocin due to often and prolonged physical interactions with someone romantically. It's something I avoid at all cost.

[YinYanga]

Anywayyy...I'd love to be straight, give me that potion please ^^

[Auroramarianna]

I know it was not directed at me entirely.

That's your subjective opinion on the matter, but I don't think about that because I know the exact type of person I want and would date. Anything less is not worth my time or effort so I am not missing anything that I'd care about. Based on your statements in this thread it appears that you are worried more about probabilities, I'm not.

I have standards and "did" date so I am unsure why you are not making a correlation here. Also, how is having standards and not dating contradictory? Since I don't date I can't have standards about dating? That doesn't make any sense. So, using that rationale, apparently I am contradictory because I have standards against drug use even though I don't use drugs or I am contradictory because I had standards about dating before I started dating as a teenager. I guess I am also contradictory because I have standards on what type of car I want before I buy it. Can you see the absurdity here? I mean, it's down right funny stuff!

Furthermore, you do think love is some wonderful thing and you never stated anything about how you feel it can induce sorrow as well until after the fact:
Like every other human being, I cannot magically read minds. I see love as a meaningless emotion that is nothing more than increased levels of Oxytocin due to often and prolonged physical interactions with someone romantically. It's something I avoid at all cost.

But you saying I consider love to be wonderful and to have no negative aspects is also your subjective opinion, since I never said so.

Also how can you claim to know exactly what you want? It is also pretty credulous to speculate that, even if you had an exact image on your mind and someone happens to match it, doesn't mean you will have any chemistry with them. Again I am not saying standards aren't okay but again if you are too strict that means you will desmiss people that you could connect.

I am not the type to write a list of what I want in a partner (blue eyes, college degree, nice, charming, that kind of thing, you get the idea). I wouldn't want to date a drug addict either but limiting yourself too much will do no good in any kind of relationship, but that is my opinion, I never said it had to be yours.

[Evelyn K]

I am by personal choice with no intention of ever changing that.

Natalie I've read a few of your posts and you have an interesting take on relationships. I have two completely innocent questions, please don't take it personally. 1. Would you consider yourself asexual? 2. Would you consider yourself a misanthropist?

[Jaime R D]

There's nothing wrong with being asexual or even frigid for that matter.