Utterly devastated

[LizMarie]

Grace, there are two reasons to send the letter Cindy mentions.

One is in case there's a change, slim though it may be.

The other, however, makes a positive impression with the employer. They know you were interested and you've taken being passed over maturely and still look at the company in a positive light. For some employers that becomes an "Aha!" moment and your name becomes one they might call back later about another position. In fact, I know one person who did this, and the company was so impressed that they turned around and created a new position just to grab the person.

So send the letter. It can't hurt at all and it could help later in different ways.


As for the job search, don't give up! You'll find something wonderful, I'm sure!

[ImagineKate]

How lame, I don't think anyone has even called my references before >_< I'm sure you'll find work soon! Don't give up yet ^_^

Employers have called me as a reference because I've been a supervisor/manager and I am one now.

I am honest but I warn people putting me as a reference that I am. Most of them who use me as a reference get the job.

So yes, they do call. Always be prepared for them to call.

[Athena]

Stay strong it will happen for you sooner or later.

[rachel89]

I'm sorry to that you were not hired, for no other reason than the other candidate's references were more super-enthusiatic about the candidate. I think I can understand how upsetting this is for you. In the U.S., there is still a shortage of good jobs in many places (but lots of low-wage service-economy jobs), and it can be even more difficult when you happen to be a transgender person. I hope you can get hired somewhere else, hopefully at an even better place soon.

Hugs   

[Eva Marie]

I'm sorry Grace that you didn't get the job. But you never know, they may have already chosen a candidate before they did the obligatory interview process to satisfy a company rule. I ran into that a bunch the last time I was job hunting and it is aggravating. Write the thank you letter and treat yourself to something nice and then get back out there girl!

[Zumbagirl]

When I went full time oh so many years ago now, I was so worried about job prospects. I went through a lot of job interviews. I even had people get up from the interview and leave without even saying thanks for coming in. It was very hurtful but I kept at it. It took a lot of persistence to land back into the working world again. Now the funny thing is, years later these same people come to me looking for a job. It's very funny how things end up. Keep at it, and don't worry. I am sure you will do fine. It just takes a lot of stick-to-it-iveness to get where you want to be.

[Ms Grace]

Thanks everyone, your support and well wishes has helped me through this more than you can realise. It's another day and I feel a bit better, enough to face it anyway. I know something will probably be out there... I just feel like I took a leap of faith, missed the ledge by a fingernail because the rules changed mid leap and now I'm plummeting into who knows what...............and it's scary.

@ Eva, no I think this was a totally new position with no internal applicants. But sometimes it's who you know that makes the difference.

@ Kate, yes, this is the first time I've had a ref call me to tell me they've been contacted about me and then not get the job. I guess they were in a hurry to make a decision before the new year and rather than call a second interview (which I would have preferred) they split the hairs over the refs- a bunch of people who, quite frankly, could be anyone.

@ Dee, not quite sure what you mean...??

[Monica Jean]

Late to this topic.  Sorry you had to go through all that.  Sounds horrific to be right up at the top and not get chosen

HUGS  (and polish)

[Stephanie2]

Grace, I know how you feel. I desperately needed a job that I could make a living at, especially since the job I have now ends on New Year's Eve. I want for another job, which would have been ideal. More money, benefits, which my present job doesn't have, plus very close to home, saving much gas money. Ideal. The interviewer was very impressed with me and sounded like I was going to get the job. I was qualified for the job and everything. Well, I didn't get the job. Life just isn't fair. Nothing we can do about it, as I did everything correctly, but to just keep trying. Sooner or later will get something. Just that it most likely be later.

[Ms Grace]

All the best on your job hunt Stephanie. It's crushing to miss out. Here's to something great just over the horizon.

[Dee Marshall]

What I meant, Grace, is that you said, I believe, that your current position was to be made redundant on or about Jan12. Nasty suspicious mind that I have, I wonder if that position will be redundant just long enough to get you out of it and then a few weeks later be recreated. If this were to happen is there anyone there who would tell you that that happened?

[Stephanie2]

One thing I could say, though. I do have premonitions occasionally and when I went for that job, I did have the feeling that I wouldn't get it. Even though the interviewer made it sound like I got the job. Premonitions can be good or bad, but can create pessimistic feelings when a bad one occurs. My premonitions would be equivalent to a woman's intuition, I guess. So, I guess I am intuitive! 

[Stephanie2]

Oh, and thanks, Grace!!

[V M]

Every time I read the tittle I picture exploding boobs 




*Runs to hide*

[Ms Grace]

What I meant, Grace, is that you said, I believe, that your current position was to be made redundant on or about Jan12. Nasty suspicious mind that I have, I wonder if that position will be redundant just long enough to get you out of it and then a few weeks later be recreated. If this were to happen is there anyone there who would tell you that that happened?

Oh yeah, no doubt I'd find out. They're a bit too clever for that, based on past behaviour it will be different enough to not be the same job.

Every time I read the tittle I picture exploding boobs 

..."tittle"? I think that explains why you might have boobs on your mind!!