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Started by SarahElizabeth1981, February 25, 2016, 11:11:27 PM

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Jenny0713

Yep


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Rachel_Christina

Hey eveyone, I think is the start of the real hard work now this week, I wont get. Much chance after that to visit, or reply.
My mother is so far really taking this bad, we hadn't much time to talk through the week with harvest, but I can see she is struggling, I feel so bad about it all, what did she want me to do? Say nothing, end up depressed or worse?
I alway thought I would just run away, dissapear, but I trusted her and now I am being guilt tripped to no end, and its all based of Selfish how will people look at the family sort of bs. I am sick with it :/
On the other hand, I have talked to my other younger brother, who was super suportive, he was so interested by it all, he is a great ally, I could youse him to tackle my mother, but I have told him not to let her know he knows yet, I want her to come to terms with it by herself. She looks up all the negative stuff, thats the problem.
She has never read anything nice! :/
Anyway ther is some positive and that is what matters.
I hope you girls will all be OK and have some fun these next coming weeks, do it for me atleast :')
It should have all calmed down by November.
I will see you girls latter, byyyeeee
*Hugs* Christine


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Rebecca

Really glad your bother is with you. Your Mum sounds a bit like my older sister. She kinda freaked out doing the whole "What will people think?" but once she knew that everyone knew the question was answered allowing her to chill out. Funniest part was being asked if I was sure I was trans, like seriously 😂

Hope your Mum gets over what HER problem rather than yours. Funny how much some think the problems we have already dealt with on our own are such an inconvenience to them.

Really hope all goes great while your away and you see this before you go offline.

Hugs ♡

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SarahElizabeth1981

Hey girls,
    Jenny  that really sucks about your wife dragging things out. I hope you can get it resolved quickly.

Christine, it's good to hear your are finding some support from your brother. Mums can have a really hard time with this. hopefully, given some time, she will come around. Also, congratulations on telling them I'm sure it was tough to do. Try not to work too hard and take care. looking forward to hearing from you when you have time.

So, here in Canada October 10 is Thanks giving. we had a family dinner the day before which was really nice. Had lots of laughs. It was overall pretty good. people made an effort to call me Sarah. though I was called and referred to by my old name as well. I don't mind that much it's pretty new for them and I haven't seen them that much. it was actually the first time I saw one Aunt and uncle there since I started transitioning. So, I'm being pretty understanding. Especially since people were making an effort to refer to me correctly.

Perhaps Christmas won't be as bad as I feared. I've personally come a long way these last few months and i got a couple more to go. I think it will be ok.  ;D
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Tasha_

Very happy for you Sarah!!! Glad that went well AND that you are understanding to others' adjustments as well.... Christine, I feel for you.... I hate people making it seem like we are "choosing" this "thing" that is going to inconvenience them because it is so worth everything else we "want" to deal with..... it sucks!!! Hope everything comes out okay!!!

Love you ladies, goodnight!!!!
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Rebecca

Brilliant news Sarah. So glad it went well and you had a good time. The more time goes on the less you should hear old names which is wonderful. By Christmas I think everyone should be used to you being you making your first Christmas extra special.

I'm still smiling at not hearing the shortened form of my name since my name change shenanigans.

FB fixed too (thank you hack recovery tool) life is good.

Another name dead :)
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Rebecca

Would totally love to be but I'm scared.

I worry about trans stuff somehow bleeding into my FB but sitting here in the car thinking about it now it seems kinda silly of me. Was trying to think of some clever way before to like split things to keep my "normal" life separate from everything I do to make it happen if you know what I mean. I know it sounds horrible and it probably is...... scratch that.

New plan going to try something...
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Rebecca

Tried a messenger thing starting "Hi Tash. Guess who" if you want to throw me a friend request. Found a setting so only people on my friends list can it which is half the battle. Didn't know my list was public before that.

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Jenny0713

May I do the same Jerrica?


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Rebecca

Still testing FB stuff. Making progress only friends can see friends but only if they are mutual friends.

Now to think about filtering breadcrumbs. Must be a way.

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Jenny0713

Ok. Let me know when your testing is complete. :)


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Rebecca

Closest I've got is a partial solution which would pretty much work but I don't like part of it as it's not fair.

First the good news Sarah, Tasha & Christine all have fully shielded profiles so breadcrumbs totally not an issue there can just do regular friend requests as if someone gets nosey and looks you up its basically a dead end which is the same as me.

Now the horrible bit but I have to explain something important first about my own problems which I cannot stress strongly enough are MY problems.... As you know I have major big time issues with wearing a trans label that part isn't news to any of you.

In truth I am deeply ashamed and resentful of my past which I consider to be my trans time costing me decades of my life and leaving me with deformities that can only be properly masked with surgeries. The same way I get parts removed from my physical body to be closer to normal I do the same with information about me.

I do truly admire those that can own the trans gig like Jenny but it's not something I can do. It really is great how open she is about everything and I would never ever want her to dull her sparkle but I can't directly link to her profile.

There is a way around it and can still be friends on FB but by sticking a Restricted tag on her it prevents any breadcrumbs.

I don't want to treat any of my friends differently than others but it's the only thing that gets close to what I need.

Like I said it's horrible but it's honest.

I'm really really sorry Jenny and hope I haven't upset you but I need my life this way. I do want to be your friend on FB and know I could have just tagged you without saying but it wasn't fair so wanted to explain.

If any of you would still like to be friends on FB I'll send requests or chat things so you know where I am.
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Jenny0713

Oh, Jerrica, you will never upset me. I completely understand your caution and support you 100%. Can you help me understand what I need to do to make my profile more secure to be able to see your stuff?  I did accept the friend request that I saw. Just let me know how I can help.

Jenny


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Rebecca

Thank you I do worry about upsetting people as I know how fragile I can be at times.

You should be able to see everything as far as I know. I'll boot up the laptop to try the preview as someone else thing.

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SarahElizabeth1981

I think I understand Jerrica. When I created my facebook for Sarah and even still I didn't want just anyone being able to see things. I'm also picky who I accept friend requests from. For instance I have to know you. Seems pretty simple to me but just because we have mutual friends or share some other connection doesn't mean I want you on my facebook.
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Jenny0713

I feel the same way. I don't accept any friend request from anyone I don't know even if they are friends with my friends. If they are, I check with my friend before I accept.


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Rebecca

Same I'm very strict only family on mine plus my 1 friend of 18+ years or so (who later became family too) and you 4.

Nothing that exciting on my FB but it's my wee life and I love it so I'm ridiculously protective of it.

The Restricted thing is rubbish btw; doesn't do what I wanted it to so I've removed it but not to worry.
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Michelle_P

Hi, hope you don't mind my poking my long nose in here...

Facebook can be pretty neat, but damn, the algorithms they use can be sneaky and deep-digging.  Like most of you, I have a fairly locked down facebook account, Friends only on everything, and not much of that.  In addition, to dodge the pesky cookies Facebook leaves everywhere (every page on the Web with a "Like" icon drops a unique cookie, and Facebook reads and associates all of them), I access my Facebook account from a separate "Michelle" user account on a single personal computer and a dedicated "Michelle's iPad2".

I don't want Facebook associating Michelle with my family and bombarding them with suggestions that they "friend" my ugly mug, and I don't want Facebook's Auto-Outer outing me or killing my account, as they have done to many LGBTQ friends.  I go to some lengths to keep Facebook from doing its clever network building for me, as I don't want that help at this time.

Once I go full-time and get my ID paperwork finished I may change this, but for now, "Be Careful" is the phrase of the day. 

Oh, my avatar on Facebook is the same as here, just mirror reversed.  (Yes, I know how their face matching algorithm works.). In case anyone wants to find me. :)

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SarahElizabeth1981

OMG my mom just called me Sarah for the very first time!!!!!!!!!! she said Marcus at first and I was a little annoyed but then she said Sarah!!! Wow progress

wwwww Jerrica now I feel special!    ;)

Hi Michelle,  welcome to our little group post. we just try and support each other and share with each other what going on with us.
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