Ok, this is interesting!
Way back in the "old days"

(1970-ish), pre-op, there was no doubt in my mind that I WAS a woman and that I preferred MEN.
After a wild year and a bit post-op (making notches on the bedpost

) I found myself in bed with another woman! The sad part was that I ENJOYED it!
Did that ever f##k with my head! Here I had gone through Hell backwards and sideways to become the woman I had always known myself to be and I wake up next to a WOMAN! I didn't even enjoy that pre-op!
Anyway, many years have gone by, many lovers, mostly male, and I have learned a few things.
Intamacy between two women is a "different flavour" than between a man and a woman, not better, not worse, just different.
If I could chose someone to spend the rest of my life with, it would be a man (even though they can be a PITA!). If I was spending the rest of my life with someone and had "an affair", it would probably be with a woman.
As long as I don't have to spend the rest of my life trying to have a "meaningful conversation" with a man, I'll be alright