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Assuming you FTMs had the ability to be pregnant just like a typical woman... would you want to be?


Personally, I could never be pregnant.

The idea of another human being taking up residence in one of my internal organs for 9 months freaks me out.  :P :o

30 years ago I might have thought about it.

no. i've always been scared to death of it.

no way jose!  8) 8) 8)

No because personally I would then be a woman and the mother.

I have nothing against other men doing it.

I just couldn't

yuk! no way

being pregant is for women

Ugh, no thanks. Not for me.
If I ever change my mind (right now I don't have plans to include any kids in my personal equation,) then there's plenty of already-born kids who need homes.

I agree with the two posts above this one.

If I wanted to get pregnant, I wouldn't have put my eggs through the testosterone wash they've been swimming in for quite some time now.

No. I would want to be a father..not a mother

As much as I would like a kid...I just can't even fathom pregnancy...and birth...how do women do it? I can't even think about it...eugh

Nothing is going in or coming out of that hole.

Quote from: Pay-Parrot on January 05, 2009, 03:43:11 AM
If I ever change my mind (right now I don't have plans to include any kids in my personal equation,) then there's plenty of already-born kids who need homes.

Yes exactly how I feel.

Quote from: Kayden on March 07, 2009, 06:29:28 AM
Nothing is going in or coming out of that hole.

I hear that! ;)

Jay

I have been.
While I have no objection to people getting rid of unwanted pregnancies.. I got guilted by family not to..

It was the worst experience of my life..
Second only to the actual birth... which.. gods.. there are no words for the pain! Seriously! I've had kidney stones since, and it was about 10 times as bad as that!
And then there's the scissors...
they still give me nightmares!

I love my daughter, but !!!!!!!

Never again! NEVER!

Quote from: Miniar on March 07, 2009, 07:41:39 AM
I have been.
While I have no objection to people getting rid of unwanted pregnancies.. I got guilted by family not to..

It was the worst experience of my life..
Second only to the actual birth... which.. gods.. there are no words for the pain! Seriously! I've had kidney stones since, and it was about 10 times as bad as that!
And then there's the scissors...
they still give me nightmares!

I love my daughter, but !!!!!!!

Never again! NEVER!

there's scissors involved?!!? feeling a bit queasy.  :eusa_sick:

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there's scissors involved?!!? feeling a bit queasy.  :eusa_sick:

"Cut for an even stitch, or just let it tear up and make a mess of you." Are the options I was given.
They looked like a miniature version of the jaws of life..

^{edited quote}

They're actually not really supposed to do that. :-\ A ragged edge actually speeds up the healing process and sometimes they cut more than they have to..  :-\ I'm sorry you had to go through that.

That's terrible, N!

It's stories like that, that remind me why I care so much about the birthing industry as a feminist issue. :(  It's terrible what they do to people with vaginas in that place sometimes. :|

Quote from: whatsername on March 07, 2009, 03:57:18 PM
That's terrible, N!

It's stories like that, that remind me why I care so much about the birthing industry as a feminist issue. :(  It's terrible what they do to people with vaginas in that place sometimes. :|

wasn't me, it was Miniar. i can't even imagine. yep, you'd think after zillions of years, they'd come up with a better way. just goes to show how far we've really got to come with women's (and vagina possessing people's) health care.

Already have kids (adoption) and just couldn't wouldn't do it for so many reasons.
Myles

My FTM so and I have already decided I get to carry the kids. Wheeeee! *cough* No, really, I want kids. I like the idea of giving him a family. But the idea of birthing scares the crap outta me.


Slightly OT, but I don't think there really is a "better" way to open up someone more for that, unless they gave everyone a C-section. S'not like the doctors can make the walls stretch beyond their means, or shrink the babies (Though that would be nice. Bear-type birth anyone?)

what's a bear type birth?

Lol supposedly bears give birth in their sleep during winter hibernation to small cubs.  (I heard that when I was younger, but it's probably false). I do know that black bears give birth to EXTREMELY small babies, so that's gotta make it easier.

I've always had a fascination and somewhat of a jealousy with pregnant women. I'd go for it in a heart beat. Prob. with a donor though  :laugh:

Quote from: krptcmschfmkr128 on March 09, 2009, 04:19:34 PM
Lol supposedly bears give birth in their sleep during winter hibernation to small cubs.  (I heard that when I was younger, but it's probably false). I do know that black bears give birth to EXTREMELY small babies, so that's gotta make it easier.

Yeah, that's true.
It was on QI.

But even that would be too much for me. :p

Um, hmm, let me think about this one... no thank you. I had a developmental psych professor who briefed our class on all the wonderful things that go on in a "woman's" body during and directly after pregnancy... count me out. In America, even after one has gone through all the influxes of feminizing hormones, the baby's head pressing against organs and bones so hard that it can displace things permanently, and the risk of all sorts of latent diseases coming to light, common procedure on the birthing table is a pre-delivery enema, lest you soil yourself, and a requisite episiotomy (the scissor part). No thank you.

I always figured I'd adopt kids... I don't really care if my children are genetically mine, as I figure any child I welcome into my home will be loved without question. My wife, however, wants at least one of our own genetic makeup... so I insisted on surrogacy. Yes, it'll take awhile before we're able to do that financially, if it happens at all, but I just can't take the risk of carrying one of my own.

However... if I were to accidentally become pregnant, abortion is ABSOLUTELY NOT an option for me. So while I certainly don't want to be pregnant, I'd do it were it forced upon me. Fortunately, however, I'm back on T now, so I don't think that'll be a problem.

SD

Quote from: Sebastien on March 10, 2009, 06:05:13 PM
the baby's head pressing against organs and bones so hard that it can displace things permanently

This little thing is often forgotten in the anti abortion debate.
It takes the body 6 years to get everything back into place that will go back into place.
It's been 7 and a half years since I had my daughter and there's still an inch gap down the middle of my abs.. as in, my abs on the left and the right have parted from one another and not come together again properly again... They might Never come together properly again.

Quote from: Miniar on March 10, 2009, 06:25:42 PM
This little thing is often forgotten in the anti abortion debate.
It takes the body 6 years to get everything back into place that will go back into place.
It's been 7 and a half years since I had my daughter and there's still an inch gap down the middle of my abs.. as in, my abs on the left and the right have parted from one another and not come together again properly again... They might Never come together properly again.

omg! that's from the baby's head? wow, i never heard of any of this.

Quote from: Sebastien on March 10, 2009, 06:05:13 PM
Um, hmm, let me think about this one... no thank you. I had a developmental psych professor who briefed our class on all the wonderful things that go on in a "woman's" body during and directly after pregnancy... count me out. In America, even after one has gone through all the influxes of feminizing hormones, the baby's head pressing against organs and bones so hard that it can displace things permanently, and the risk of all sorts of latent diseases coming to light, common procedure on the birthing table is a pre-delivery enema, lest you soil yourself, and a requisite episiotomy (the scissor part). No thank you.

I always figured I'd adopt kids... I don't really care if my children are genetically mine, as I figure any child I welcome into my home will be loved without question. My wife, however, wants at least one of our own genetic makeup... so I insisted on surrogacy. Yes, it'll take awhile before we're able to do that financially, if it happens at all, but I just can't take the risk of carrying one of my own.

However... if I were to accidentally become pregnant, abortion is ABSOLUTELY NOT an option for me. So while I certainly don't want to be pregnant, I'd do it were it forced upon me. Fortunately, however, I'm back on T now, so I don't think that'll be a problem.

SD

i thought you wanted to carry a kid, oh, last week?

Okay, dude, I realize you're trying to ruffle everyone's feathers lately, and you've got a special place in your heart for me, but read over what I actually said before you start with the accusations:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,55916.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,55916.0.html)

I said I almost thought about it, but didn't want to even think about what it might do to my body. And please, let's not get back into the whole testosterone and ova discussion.

SD

Quote from: Sebastien on March 11, 2009, 12:35:07 AM
Okay, dude, I realize you're trying to ruffle everyone's feathers lately, and you've got a special place in your heart for me, but read over what I actually said before you start with the accusations:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,55916.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,55916.0.html)

I said I almost thought about it, but didn't want to even think about what it might do to my body. And please, let's not get back into the whole testosterone and ova discussion.

SD

I will add you to the list of folks who clearly misread every single thing I type.  So far there's two of you on it so at least you'll have someone to compare notes with.

And, also, I have a life outside of the internet.  I knew that children and your eggs were involved, excuse me for not having one zillion percent accuracy.

Quote from: Mister on March 11, 2009, 12:39:21 AM
And, also, I have a life outside of the internet.  I knew that children and your eggs were involved, excuse me for not having one zillion percent accuracy.

You do? For someone who's so preoccupied with reality, you certainly seem to get pretty up in arms about what people say on these forums. And if you're trying to steer clear of groupthink, you might not want to sound so much like Big Brother.

SD

Quote from: Sebastien on March 11, 2009, 12:43:59 AM
You do? For someone who's so preoccupied with reality, you certainly seem to get pretty up in arms about what people say on these forums. And if you're trying to steer clear of groupthink, you might not want to sound so much like Big Brother.

SD

up in arms?  again, misinterpretation.  i'll fedex you a decoder ring. 

big brother sounds much more official than i do.  they don't use words like 'dude' or 'hrmph.'

Hmm, prolly misreading again, but could you two just allow each other to go your separate ways, please? Maybe before this escalates? Thank you.

Nichole

Quote from: Nichole on March 11, 2009, 12:46:28 AM
Hmm, prolly misreading again, but could you two just allow each other to go your separate ways, please? Maybe before this escalates? Thank you.

Nichole

i asked a question.  dude's got his boxers in a bunch.

Ok, neither of you is at fault. But occasionally just a bit of compliance rather than the "I am not doing anything" would be a good idea.

At the risk of being Big Sister I have locked the topic. Since we are gonna play the "I'm innocent" game I'll take the guilt instead.

Try to cool it guys. Thank you. I'll unlock in the morning after I return. Have a great night.

Nichole

Nope. My girl and I have decided we don't want children, (she is 15 years older than I and already has a 22 yo son that's like a useless teen anyway) .... if the mood changes and we want children, I am a big fan of adoption. My mother was adopted and I am so greatful for my wonderful grandparents adopting her. Going through this transition to mle, dealing with surgeries, discrimination, legal issues, and the wonderful and not so winderful side effects of T ... I couldn't imagine taking a step backwards towards womanhood and bearing children. I have nothing against FTM's that do get pregnant, but as for me ... I was a woman, now I am a man. Despite what I may or may not have between my thighs, I am a man ... no questions about that one. LOL

No way. If I want kids i'll adopt I couldn't stand having a baby inside me, women give birth men don't.

I would like to adopt as my number one choice, though if my significant other REALLY wanted to have a biological baby it would only happen through a surrogate. No pregnancies for me!

I love kids, and I would like to be a father!
Right now, if it's possible...  ;D
I'm ready!  ;D

But to be pregnant? Hell no!
I think I would freak out...

I have to second the desire to be a father, and not a mother.  I was always disturbed by the concept of being a mother, but when I was in a serious relationship a while back, our discussions about children (and I as a father) always left me feeling floaty.  The concept of being a father made me happy, but it does pain me that I can't "donate" my own sperm.  I could never be pregnant.

Quote from: Adrian on June 26, 2009, 11:01:12 PM
The concept of being a father made me happy, but it does pain me that I can't "donate" my own sperm. 

I feel you there. Sucks.

I could never be pregnent, the idea freaks me out too much. And at the moment, I don't want kids. If I change my mind, I'll adopt.

with all the orphans the world has to offer... there's alway adoptions ;)

:eusa_sick: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.

Quote from: northy on June 28, 2009, 01:31:31 AM
:eusa_sick: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.

So you are fairly undecided Northy?

Would I like to be pregnant?  Yes. Not just a woman but female and all that means, the whole nine yards.

Have 4 natural kids, set of twins even. Never again.

Well, being a father would be cool, I hope I will adopt some children later in my life. Having my own kids would have been great as well, but as I never wanted to be pregnant while I could have been (and now that's absolutely no question for me), I'll never have my own children...

o.o;

Wow, this thread makes me glad to be trans. All the trouble of being pregnant, and monthly pain... It's like god invented genitals to torture people.

I mean, the penis has painful erections at awkward moments, not to mention it's just WEIRD.

Quote from: Miniar on March 10, 2009, 06:25:42 PM
This little thing is often forgotten in the anti abortion debate.
It takes the body 6 years to get everything back into place that will go back into place.
It's been 7 and a half years since I had my daughter and there's still an inch gap down the middle of my abs.. as in, my abs on the left and the right have parted from one another and not come together again properly again... They might Never come together properly again.

Yeah, a lady I sat next to in class a year ago had this problem. Time and ab exercises have reduced the gap but not all the way. It's awful.  :(

My ex-wife asked me yesterday "what happens if your gf decides she wants kids?"

I smiled and said "nah, that won't happen"

She replied: "Are you sure?  Maybe she says she doesn't want them now but you never know later!"

I just said "yeah you're right, we'll see!"

(Ironically, in this context, she is on the contraceptive pill)

I want kids really badly...and I want kids that are biologically part of me. I just don't want to give birth. So far I've heard a lot of people push against what I plan/hope to do and say that adoption is much better and what I should do.

Unless you can rapidly evolve a capability for herbaceous propagation, yes - adoption or cloning are the only alternatives to natural birth (assuming you've discounted caesarian?)...and only one of them is a viable option (right now).

Quote from: finewine on August 03, 2009, 02:06:10 PM
Unless you can rapidly evolve a capability for herbaceous propagation, yes - adoption or cloning are the only alternatives to natural birth (assuming you've discounted caesarian?)...and only one of them is a viable option (right now).

Surrogate is another option.

QuoteSurrogate is another option

Yes, you're right - I confess I had mentally lumped that in with "adoption".

I never wanted kids as either the mother or father, but I totally agree with you that the thought of having a baby inside me just freaks me out. 

I gave birth to two (large - almost 10lbs each) babies, five years apart. Both were overdue, both were induced, both were 20+ hr labours, with one I had tearing and with the other I had a large episiotomy (four full-length snips of the scissors - "third-degree mediolateral"). Those of you who mentioned the horrible things childbearing does to the body, you are *absolutely* correct. And that's not even counting my two miscarriages.

At the time it was part of the "try to do good in this 'woman' role" thing... That being said, I'm so glad that I have my daughters, they are the light in my life, the anchor that rights my keel in difficult times, and they absolutely challenge me and produce growth in me as a person. Plus, I love the heck outta those kiddos, and don't even want to imagine my life without them.  ^-^

Would I ever do it again? Parent a child, absolutely. Carry and deliver one, not on your life. Which I had decided a couple years even before I had come out to myself as trans. Even with my ex-fianceé, at which time I identified as a lesbian, I absolutely wanted to be the "father" side of the parenting partnership, and even went so far as expressing to her how I wanted to inseminate her with donated sperm and a strap-on rigged with a catheter to get the most "natural" experience possible. I also expressed disappointment that I didn't have my own sperm to use in the process. (Um, *how* did I not figure this out sooner?? lol)

For future, would I still want more children? Maybe one more as long as I'm not the one bearing that child, and again, I'd like to use the jerry-rigged-strap-on method mentioned above. I'd be happy emotionally with adoption, but I just don't see myself ever being able to afford adoption (especially not within my child-raising years). That's the same reason that I don't think in vitro (for my partner) or sperm-bank sperm would work (known-donor would be preferable anyhow), but I'd probably be happy to consider surrogacy (though I'm not sure what the involved costs would be).

Quote from: NES_junkie_James on August 15, 2009, 09:36:33 PM
I gave birth to two (large - almost 10lbs each) babies, five years apart. Both were overdue, both were induced, both were 20+ hr labours, with one I had tearing and with the other I had a large episiotomy (four full-length snips of the scissors - "third-degree mediolateral"). Those of you who mentioned the horrible things childbearing does to the body, you are *absolutely* correct. And that's not even counting my two miscarriages.

Ouch!

Quote from: N on August 15, 2009, 11:35:01 PM
Ouch!

Haha... a'yup! But like I said, my two lil "monster-heads" ;) were totally worth it in the long run. ;D

I felt my junk creep into my abdomen on that one...

not at all, I think its creepy, claustrophobic, gross, and I hate kids lol

man I bet all of the MTF reading this hurts their hearts.. I'm sorry, I know most of you girls would give anything to experience what it is that us guys are throwing away in disgust.

My daughter got the 2010 edition of the Guinness Book of Records for her birthday and that included an entry for Thomas Beatie (http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/us_and_americas/article3628860.ece) - a married guy with a trans history who got pregnant.

I've never been the motherly type and would never want to be 'mom'. I do think i'd like to be a dad but unfortunately unless I'm the one carrying the kid I'll never have any. I'm not one for adoption. If it's not biologically mine then I'm just not interested. Kudos to those that can..I just can't.

One of my mates is 57 and has 4 grown kids of his own and grandkids. He talks about them a lot and I feel like someday I won't have anything of my own.  I'm pulled two ways....

There's always surrogacy, Kurzar. And you might feel differently about adoption in the future. I, for one, would be fine with either of those options. I can't conceive of having my own kids unless someone else were to carry them, especially after hearing the stories of my best friend's pregnancy and the problems that ensued.

SD

The idea disgusts me. No way.

The idea that I have a uterus disgusts me, this is worse. I'd rather have my reproductive organs removed, and as soon as possible.

I think I just threw up in my mouth a little... NO!

Apparently I've got a very "parental" personality. I like little kids... in small doses. They like me.
But I don't want to give birth to one... That idea quite honestly makes me a little sick

just not happening.

no way.

I can't fathom the idea of having to teach a creature how to speak, eat properly, use the loo.

Of the three, only the third one is really taught, and some kids have been known to teach themselves that.  What is almost bothersome about kids isn't what you have to teach them, its how fast they somehow learn it themselves.

it's refining those skills and teaching them to have near flawless manners in mixed company
I almost had to use a 2x4 to do it, but it can be done.

Quote from: Alistair on December 14, 2009, 04:31:51 AM
True, what I mean by "how to speak" is how to speak properly. A friend of mine has a niece that is six years old, and due to the fact that she doesn't have a proper parent figure she doesn't speak well. It's always things like "Me want" or "I no do it" when you ask her to do something.

It's not so much the basic skills that I wouldn't want to teach, it's refining those skills and teaching them to have near flawless manners in mixed company...etc.

The hard part of parenting (from my perspective at least) is not the skills you teach, the manners you instill, or even the rules you make and how you follow through on them. For me, the hard part has been making choices when the only options all end in your child going through pain/disappointment/struggle/sadness. Or even worse, knowing that there has to be an option that won't emotionally scar your child, and yet not knowing for the life of you WHICH option that is... Or the hardest of all (for me), feeling like you've made the right choice, you're doing everything as best as you can for your child, and finding out that despite your efforts, despite thinking long and hard and weighing all options and searching your heart and sleepless nights, you STILL ended up somehow picking the option that caused your child conflict or further baggage.

People can say "we all go through pain in our life, it's the challenges that strengthen us and make us who we are", and I know that it's true, but watching your child go through those hurdles and ESPECIALLY being the cause of some of them, is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, and it makes me feel like I'm actively destroying my children one. little. incident. at a time.

I love my children with all of my heart and soul, I love having them in my life and reaping the joy and wonder that is being a parent, but "parenting" itself, I absolutely hate. It makes me feel like a horrible person, and I wish I could protect my children from every hurt out there, but I know that doing so would be even worse for them and only spare me my misery at their expense, and so I'm stuck watching them suffer through a broken family, a queer parent (they don't even know I'm trans yet, and I'm terrified to drop that on their lives), conflict between their two families, and overall "human error" in day to day decisions and even the big "life choices" made by the people who are supposed to protect them above all else.

I wish there was an "easy" button, or at the very least a "less guilt" button...  :(

no such thing as parent without guilt, only parent with less guilt

i looked at it as, i hurt now they hurt later or they hurt now and use what they learned later

it works for me, BTW 2x4 might have done the trick....

Quote from: LordKAT on December 14, 2009, 10:54:24 PM

i looked at it as, i hurt now they hurt later or they hurt now and use what they learned later

See, I know this "logically" but to really truly feel it in my marrow just seems impossible. I think the big challenge for me is that so many people in my life reinforce how damaging my life and my choices have been/are/will be for my children. Now things like my queerness, my transness, etc., I didn't choose, but I did choose to leave my marriage and come out as "gay", and I am choosing to move forward with my transition (although not until I tell my kids which is still a long way off), but those are still choices I'm making that have/are/will hurt them. I could have chosen to stay with their dad, but I knew that would hurt them more in the long run than in the short run, so I went through with leaving him.

I can choose to never transition, but it might hurt them more in the long run, or I can choose to not transition til they leave home (in ~10-15 years), which might be better for them in the long run... Or I can choose to transition now, which will pretty much guarantee them pain and suffering (especially considering their dad and his fiancee are completely closed-minded redneck a$$holes who already think I'm "the evil lesbian"...). And when everyone is telling me that transitioning will be so hard on my kids "especially with all they've already had to go through" it breaks my heart, locks the chains of guilt firmly around me, and pretty much guarantees that I stay in the closet "until it won't hurt them". Which... when *is* that?? Next year? Three years? Five years? When they're teenagers? When they're moved out? When they're parents themselves??

I know that no matter when I do it, it'll hurt them, but I at least want to choose the least-damaging path to tread. If I'm delaying my transition but sparing them hardship, isn't that worth it?

Ugh. These are some of the ramblings that've been plaguing me. :(

oh god the thought of becoming pregnant, god it makes me so sick just the thought of birth and all that god no! If i became pregnant i wouldn't think twice about aborting it. I just couldn't do it, i'd hate the child for the entire pregnancy, i think i'd even try to find ways to induce miscarriage, the thought petrifies me.
However i do want to be a daddy, i cant wait to adopt some wonderful kids and be a perfect daddy and do all those great things, just...pregnancy...no way. Never.

I always had an irrational phobia of pregnancy when I was younger, I guess I know why now lol.

However, I would love to be a father in the future, that would be ace.

I voted no because as much as I'm looking forward to being a dad someday, I'd very very very strongly prefer not to get pregnant. This is on top of pre-existing fertility issues that make it highly improbable.

But, depending, I wouldn't completely rule it out. I'd just think of myself as a seahorse.

Quote from: FullofPop on January 22, 2010, 07:32:01 PM
But, depending, I wouldn't completely rule it out. I'd just think of myself as a seahorse.

:D :D :D
I would never want to be pregnant myself. Unfortunately my mom doesn't seem to understand this... it's why she won't let me on T. Seriously, there's a jillion orphans in the world, if I ever want a kid why go through nine months of... that? I'm fine with other dudes that want to be pregnant, but it's really, really not for me.

I have had nightmares and it's been one of my worst fears ever since I was a little kid. Absolutely not!

Nothing against being a mother, or anything. It's quite a noble pursuit, but it's SO not for me.

In fact, I'm actually a little sad that I can never be a biological father to anyone.

I forgot about this thread, quite hilarious now seeing as I answered "I think I just threw up in my mouth a little"

and now I'm a seahorse ;D

I may be a man inside, but I've always wanted to have a kid. That little girl notion stuck in my head that i'd make a good mommy (or later a good daddy) :)

I don't have a maternal bone in my body. x.x

Hell no I've never wanted kids and I'm 33 now and still don't.

Never again.

I really want kids [two at the most], but I'm S**T scared of pregnancy. =_= Thing is, I want to have kids with my fiancé, as in OUR DNA and stuff, but short of some sort of surrogate carrying FOR me, it's looking impossible to me. As much as it scares me, though, I might have to bite the bullet and go through it eventually [even though typing it now is causing me to freak a little] since unless there's no way medically that I can carry, I really have no excuses [physically, I mean]. =_=

My problem is that I REALLY DO want my OWN kids. So I think the desire to carry on the DNA is sort of causing me more confusion. xD I can say now, though, its certainly not a 'motherly' feeling nor desire. xDD

Gawd, no. I am not a fan of kids, and the idea of actually carrying something inside of me is disgusting. My gender dysphoria is manageable where I am, but if I were to get pregnant and actually carry through with the delivery, I would probably die.
Besides, even if I wanted kids it would be irresponsible for me to produce offspring. Mental illness runs so strongly in my family and I could never bring life into the world just so it could suffer like I do and still have a good conscience.

No way never! I want to be a dad though, ill probably end up adopting someday.

I got pregnant by accident.  :-X   And I gave birth to my daughter almost 7 years ago. The whole thing was terrible and breast feeding was the worst possible thing ever. The whole experience was so weird and foreign to me, especially anything having to do with breast feeding. But I love my daughter to bits.

I don't want anymore kids though, one is enough! And I certainly do not ever want to go through any of that again.

She calls me mom which is fine by me, but when she makes a sign to put on her door to keep people out it says, "No boys allowed except for dad and mom"...lol

Quote from: Kayden on March 07, 2009, 06:29:28 AM
Nothing is going in or coming out of that hole.

Amen.

Seen as i don't dig guys my first thought would be 'ALIEN GUNNA DIE'

Aliens so freak me out, look i'm freaking out over saying it...ergh.

Not particularly.  I'd probably wind up in a wheelchair because of being pregnant so I'd rather not...Plus, I can only imagine having kids if I was to enter a relationship with a woman (bio or not) and that's not very likely to happen in my area.  And kids scare me.  Or at least put me off guard and babies are the worst.

Quote from: Vin on June 14, 2010, 05:02:38 PM
I don't have a maternal bone in my body. x.x

lol, neither do I but somehow I have three kids!  My partner and I just accept he is the much more maternal one amongst the two of us.   

I enjoy being a parent and I enjoyed being pregnant.  Even though I had to put off my transition when I became pregnant with my daughter.  I had the parts why not use them?  It was a beautiful miracle and I got through it.  I knew what I was inside.

Point is that phase of my life is over and this phase is just beginning!   :D  Onward and upward that's what I say

I love kids but I myself would never have one. I loved my ex partners child as my own no problems and till the day my ex took her I was her "daddy". That makes me think that one day I would love to adopt a kid but I'll be waiting till I can not only afford it but can pass entirely. Besides, I'm only about 20, no need to think of kids yet.

Never. I wouldn't be able to handle that. I love kids though. If anything, I would adopt.

Quote from: Shade on June 30, 2010, 08:22:52 PM
She calls me mom which is fine by me, but when she makes a sign to put on her door to keep people out it says, "No boys allowed except for dad and mom"...lol

heh, that is adorable :D

I wouldn't personally want to be pregnant.  For me, it seems unnatural for my body.  I think pregnancy is a beautiful thing - it's just not for me.

I could not imagine being pregnant. Never ever. But I couldn't imagine aborting either if an accident happens, for religious reasons. So if the sh*t hits the fan, I might end up being pregnant.   :o

Quote from: Shade on June 30, 2010, 08:22:52 PMShe calls me mom which is fine by me, but when she makes a sign to put on her door to keep people out it says, "No boys allowed except for dad and mom"...lol

That's cute.

NO WAY!
I want to have kids, but there's no way in hell anything's popping outta me!

I have a bit of morbid curiosity about what it feels like to be pregnant.  Though I highly doubt I'd ever really want to be.  The thought of giving birth makes me feel all gross.  I knew even before I knew I was FTM that it was an experience I'd rather miss out on.

No, but for some reason I'm more into women who already have kids. I'd like to have kids in my life and I don't want to disappoint a woman who's never had any. I'd rather not be responsible for a woman's sorrow in that regard.

I've been pregnant before (by accidental). It was an really awkard feeling for me espically when my daughter would punch and kick me like I was punching bag. I had a scheaduled birth my dr induced my labor. My labor did hurt quite a bit, but still I was barely in tears during all of the labor. My blood preasure went up to much tho so they gave the shot which stopped my labor and I ended up having a c section. I was doped up on morphine and the epidural so I didn't feel a thing. But I don't want any more babie coming out of me heh. Too awkard and creepy for me heh.

I guess I don't really know.  I've thought that I was certain I was transgendered when I realized the worst thing about being born female is that I'll never get to be a father.  Can you be a father after carrying a child?  It's a weird thought.  I'm filled with an overall feeling of gross every time I have my period, I can't imagine feeling okay about being pregnant, but if it's my own child how can I possibly reject it.

It's weird, I've thought about this one for a while and I guess despite my own discomfort if my partner and I could have a son I would bear him because he would be too precious to give to anyone else.

Oh hell no.
Even before I recognized I was transsexual, I hated - loathed - the idea of me giving birth. I wouldn't mind having a child, but I just refuse to give birth. I want to be the one holding my wife's hand while she's giving birth, not being the one giving birth. Or, since I'm bisexual, if I ended up with a guy, I would adopt.
However, I don't really want a kid unless the person I'm with really wants one. The same goes for marriage, honestly. I don't really want one unless the other person is dying to have one. In which case, I don't really want to hold them back from the things they want.

Not a chance.  It was not even something I could envision myself doing back when I thought of myself as a girl.  And now, the thought of being pregnant is utterly horrifying to me.

Wow!  I said "yes" would... as this feel natural to me no matter who i am. I guess I am different from most considering there is only 8 that said yes and most said otherwise.

Ouch?

Quote from: Gia on October 01, 2010, 01:02:03 PM
Wow!  I said "yes" would... as this feel natural to me no matter who i am. I guess I am different from most considering there is only 8 that said yes and most said otherwise.

Ouch?

I'm pretty sure you aren't FTM, that'll be why your answer is different from most

Quote from: Jeatyn on October 06, 2010, 05:33:47 AM
I'm pretty sure you aren't FTM, that'll be why your answer is different from most

Did I ever have a choice? Is is that a problem solved?

:P  dang evolution classes always a race case

Ever since I was really little, like 4 or 5, I have said I wanted to adopt. And at this point I don't ever see myself wanting to have a child, hysto- is top on my to do list.

No way. Dot.

I would rather being humiliatingly tortured and killed.

I am NOT a seahoarse. The answer is NO!

Quote from: Mr.Rainey on November 24, 2010, 09:25:43 AM
I am NOT a seahoarse. The answer is NO!

Omfg. You just made me shoot water out my nose. XD

Quote from: Kayden on March 07, 2009, 06:29:28 AM
Nothing is going in or coming out of that hole.

You're my hero.

absolutely not. i've had bad dreams about getting pregnant. thinking about how much the idea disgusted me was one of the things that made me start questioning my gender in the first place.

Quote from: lostradio on November 24, 2010, 06:08:33 PM
absolutely not. i've had bad dreams about getting pregnant. thinking about how much the idea disgusted me was one of the things that made me start questioning my gender in the first place.

Now have that choice taken from you. It changes things.

I have already had two and after the last one I told them to rip all that crap out of my body before I did it myself. I made it very clear to the doctor I NEVER wanted to be pregnant again. Now...do I love my kids? Oh yes, I do. I have a girl and a boy that I love to death. My daughter will be 4 this coming May...My son with be 2 in February...It's rough...but I don't regret it.....It felt weird and nasty to me yea....but in the end worth it.

I would never want to be pregnant and sometimes I feel sad that I will never have any flesh and blood offspring. Egg freezing and transplantation isn't that feasible an option. Really, for most female bodied people the options are bear a child or go without biological offspring. The desire to procreate and continue one's line is natural. That puts us in a tough position. Each guy ends up choosing the lesser of those two evils according to him.

never :D

pregnancy in general weirds me out and makes me pretty uncomfortable. problem with that is, there's always some pregnant woman around. it seems all people know how to do around here is reproduce >:(

i realized eventually after figuring out I'm into dudes that first, i be paranoid about him being protected if he's a g guy and if i accidentally got pregnant I'd HAVE to get an abortion. there's no way i could torture myself like that by staying pregnant any more than a couple weeks or something. and i think it's really irresponsible for me to be a parent anyway seeing as i don't really like kids that much, yeah they're cute..when they're not crying, screaming, throwing a fit which they all probably do on at least a weekly basis. being horrible, smart mouthing they're parents or whoever they're with with the same language people in their 30's use - I've seen waaaaaay too many kids even really young ones, act this way. it seems to be normal now and i have a good feeling parenting would make me miserable. plus there's all the crap that runs in my family. physical or mental. just no. insanity.

Oh hell no! :o "I think I just vomited in my mouth a little" pretty much hits the nail on the head for me...

Ugh, all your uteruses are going to waste. Someone donate theirs to me. >.>

^ you can have mine, i swear having your period is the worse thing in the world.
my opinion on this is i never want to be pregnant, i am a man and men dont get pregnant thats how i see it. i want nothing to do with my lady parts so why would i do something that only women can do.

I always disassociated myself with the word 'pregnant' or 'pregnancy'. Knew it would never happen, and used to believe with all my heart that it was impossible for it to happen because my body wasn't 'built that way'. It took one doctor to say that 'I could not take this medicine if I was to become pregnant' for me to actually hate the word. I knew he meant no wrong by it but that really struck a chord with me. All in all, I'm going to say noooooooooooo.

Edit: I've been picking around through all the older posts and realized how many guys want to be fathers of biological children but not necessarily get pregnant and I realized I read an article not too long ago that kind of can ease some spirits. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/the-prospect-of-allfemale-conception-444464.html (http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/the-prospect-of-allfemale-conception-444464.html) [I'm not sure if this has been posted before, sorry if it has]

ajborelli, periods are my dysphoria for at least 2 days every month.  Men don't leak bleed from there crotch every month.  I try to put a tampon in and forget it is even happening again.  I want no part in getting pregnant.  Want to get those extra internal parts removed when I can.

Quote from: mm on June 24, 2011, 09:37:49 AM
ajborelli, periods are my dysphoria for at least 2 days every month.  Men don't leak bleed from there crotch every month.  I try to put a tampon in and forget it is even happening again.  I want no part in getting pregnant.  Want to get those extra internal parts removed when I can.

i agree with you completely, i hate the blood. i think having my period is worse than having a chest.

i've been pregnant once, and it was wonderful. my hormone levels flattened out at a point where i could really feel good about life and everything, my period was gone, i got more in touch with myself than i'd ever been before. pretty much everything i hate about being a woman disappeared, except for the obvious feminine shape. giving birth took 5 hours from start to end, with only 3 hours of severe pain. i got an adorable daughter, 2 stitches, a few stretch marks, and a perfect a on the exam i had the day after. i need to thank my parents for good genes..

but this is not a thing i plan on repeating unless i find the perfect marriage partner, and that person happens to be someone who both really wants children of their own and can inseminate me. i'm not sure if my reluctance to do it again is caused by me being too much of a man, or if it's because i'm not woman enough to want to ever use my vagina again during intercourse

anyway, there's no reason for a man to become anything other than a dad, even if he bears and gives birth to his own child. pregnancy doesn't make you any more of a woman at all. after i finished it i was less of one than i'd ever been before

While I'm somewhat okay with other people of any sex/gender getting pregnant and having babies, for me it just seems so disgusting.

There are WAY too many kids in foster care who never get adopted because people use the system because abortion is "wrong" and everyone's obsessed with giving birth to the next Abraham Lincoln or MLK (frankly, I'd be a little startled if I gave birth to a full grown man with a beard and top hat) -- but why not raise one?

I'm adopting kids. But carrying my own? Gross and unnecessary.

Explorer was this pregnancy planned?  How long ago was it? Is the sperm donor still around?  I think of all the things I don't like about having a baby.  The whole process of getting pregnant turns me off. Then your hormones change continually for 9 months, along with your body growing a large tummy and boobs, then stretch marks afterwards.  The whole birthing process sounds long and painful. Then you are responseable for raising the child.  No periods for 9 months is a only plus I see.

the process of getting pregnant and the new softness in your body are the only things i see as turn-offs. my hormones didn't change much at all, it was such a nice break from the emotional roller-coaster caused by hormone changes due to the menstrual cycle. my stomach didn't even get very big, because of well developed hips and possibly that i was pretty young (18-19). and you can get stretch marks without getting pregnant too. giving birth was in some way less painful than the monthly cramps, because giving birth is something that is over when it's over. but as i already wrote, it didn't take much time for me, other people will experience much more severe pain and suffering than i did

the pregnancy was kinda planned in my case. i was pretty desperate to grow up and become a good woman, no idea what i expected to come if i managed that though.. as soon as i'd become a mom i realized how wrong both the relationship with my boyfriend and me trying to be a woman really was. only reason i won't totally refuse to get pregnant again is that i know my body can handle it very well

F**K NO!!!!! I would die!!!!!

Quote from: Kayden on March 07, 2009, 06:29:28 AM
Nothing is going in or coming out of that hole.

Exactly. Their are plenty of children that need a home, but I wouldn't judge ftms that would put their bodies thru that, if you can handle that, kudos. :)

Quote from: Knarx on July 04, 2011, 04:50:59 PM
Exactly. Their are plenty of children that need a home, but I wouldn't judge ftms that would put their bodies thru that, if you can handle that, kudos. :)

if an ftm really wants to have a kid go for it, but to me it is a womens thing. so i will adopt haha.

I would never do such a thing. This is probably offensive to some, but I've always found pregnancy to be disgusting, regardless of who the person is.
I guess I'm similar to Silas in a way-- I'd prefer people to adopt rather than bring more children into the world, but I guess it's just a bit idealistic, since most children aren't planned, anyway.

Though, if someone truly wants to have a kid and go through pregnancy (FtM or not), so be it. Life is too short, I'm not one to dictate what others do with their lives, especially if it makes them happy.

No, no, no ,no, no, no, no. noooooooo!!!!!!

I just dont understand the guys who do end up having a baby AFTER transition. I mean doesn't that kind of defeat the purpose of transitioning?

Not if you want bio-babies.

QuoteI just dont understand the guys who do end up having a baby AFTER transition. I mean doesn't that kind of defeat the purpose of transitioning?

Not necessarily. Like Trista said, some just want bio-kids, but I guess didn't want to wait so long before starting hrt. Or they realize a bit late they'd like kids. I always thought it was a bit easier to pass a pregnancy bump off as a beer belly / fatness with a more masculine appearance, so I guess it could be a passing thing. I don't really know. I know the Thomas Beatie guy carried his kids because his wife couldn't. Or maybe some people just want to feel pregnancy.

I don't know, really. I don't understand the need to have biological children in the first place, so I can't really get the thought process. My mom freaks out with me because she says I might change my mind and want kids, but it's mostly her wanting grandkids. She lucked out with an asexual daughter and a gay son who are both extremely annoyed with overpopulation. She once told me that us adopting wouldn't be the same as "having real kids". While I disagree with the notion adopted kids are any less one's real children than blood-relateds, some people do think this and it could be one deciding factor in carrying a kid after/during transition.

(Since my sister's biological father adopted me and my bio-dad has no idea I exist, my sister once joked I was only half real. XD)

I understand how your mom feels. Adopting children wouldn't be the same. :-\ I want my child to be a part of me, and I also want them to be biologically related to my family, which I'm close to, and I definitely want lots of grandkids who also have the same connection. It's hard to explain, but it's not such a bad thing to want.

If you guys were my kids, I would be really disappointed that you only wanted to adopt, lol

I dont mind other men or women doing it and I dont feel it make a trans less to get a baby, if cis-gender guys really wanted a baby and had the same oportunety there sure woud be some to do it..

for me it really no go...

once i where little some kids told me I where pragnent because I had layed in bed with a boy and kissed (with undiess), and I got so scared and sad that I didnt knew what to do.
of corse I wasnt pragnent becaus I where way to young for that to even happening but it still freaking me out and I knew if it happent today I would be as much freaked out as when I where a kid.
pretty much everything about it freak me out, being pragnent, attentions, giving birth, taking cares of a baby.. I also think I wouldnt be a good father by the moment because of my age and my life isnt setteled for having a famely (well at least not yet).
and even by other pragnent people I feel diffrent because many people getting pregnent got congratuated and lot of attention and I always stay 2 meters back thinking..
"its a alien.. inside her stomack!!! :embarrassed:" try not to say anything to be rude, but yeah that how my brain goes..

the sad thing is I like guys so there is a risk for me to get pregnant,
sure testrogene minimise it, + condoms but there still a risk and I cant take pills beside my testrogene.. wich always make me worry.
by the law I can be castrated when I turn 25 and im 18 now so it kinda suchs that I have to wait unless i figure out something..-__-

hmm I dont even know if I want kids generally, when I where little I thought about being a father, but i dont know, I always had the kind of felling that I couldnt get kids or married so I should just forget these thoughts. because I didnt like to do it "the straight and biological way"
I dont even think adoption is posible for transgender in my country? but if it where I would consider adopting when I got older.

Believe me, I understand how some feel a stronger link amongst blood-relatives, but I have so many siblings and cousins that people could tell me aren't really my relatives because of a divorce, because we're not related by blood, because of adoption, et cetera. But I feel close to them, they're real to me. I have a connection with my granddad, and we're related by a piece of paper that says adoption -- a paper that may or may not exist.

I don't know; haa, I understand the desire for biological kids. I just can't view any children/relatives as "just" adopted kids. Blood may be thicker than water, but love is thicker than blood. ;D

I agree w you Silas. I have so many family members that aren't blood, they're my friends and Godparents, that its insane, but they're are the best family I've ever had. I dunno if this applies to others, but I've had horrible experiences with blood relatives, who are supposed to protect you and love you unconditionally and haven't.

I perfectly happy adopting, if I can at least adopt one new born I'll be happy. Plus I can always get a surrogate if I really feel the need, but there's too many children out there just waiting to be adopted. The closest family I've ever had was whilst in foster care, and I while I was in their home I was considered theirs and treated as such. 

As an adopted kid myself, I never understood the need to have a "blood tie" with a child. To me, it's the emotional bond that makes a family, not genes. I regularily forget I'm even adopted unless the topic is somehow brought up, and my family has said the same thing. The people who take blood ties so seriously actually piss me off.
For example, my band teacher had two adopted children before they had a birthed one, and her in-laws visibly favor the birthed one, and have told her that they dislike how she "seduced" their son into adoption, which was clearly not the case. I think that's just wrong on so many levels. You should love your family no matter what.

As for would I want to be pregnant? NO. I probably won't even adopt. I just can't take children. I have no idea what to do with them.

true true, got alot of adopted friends, and always refern there parrents just as parrents without anything.
im not adopted but I didnt knew my brother tecnically where my half brother untill I turned like 14,
we never refern each other as "half"
but my fathers famely always treat me better than him because "im his REAL child" and my brother also refern my dad by the name insteed of dad.
I figured out pretty late, but still feel his my brother, and thats whay I always say.

Quote from: Espenoah on August 05, 2011, 11:04:00 AM
The people who take blood ties so seriously actually piss me off.

Well jeez, I'm sorry I piss you off sooo badly. -_- People who think I'm such a bad person for wanting biological kids and say adoption is such a morally right thing to do piss me off. If you want to adopt, more power to you, but don't judge me for my decisions.

I'd kill myself.
Seriously.

Quote from: Espenoah on August 05, 2011, 11:04:00 AM
As an adopted kid myself, I never understood the need to have a "blood tie" with a child. To me, it's the emotional bond that makes a family, not genes. I regularily forget I'm even adopted unless the topic is somehow brought up, and my family has said the same thing. The people who take blood ties so seriously actually piss me off.
For example, my band teacher had two adopted children before they had a birthed one, and her in-laws visibly favor the birthed one, and have told her that they dislike how she "seduced" their son into adoption, which was clearly not the case. I think that's just wrong on so many levels. You should love your family no matter what.

As for would I want to be pregnant? NO. I probably won't even adopt. I just can't take children. I have no idea what to do with them.

1.- We are animals
2.- The principal purpose of life is have progeny

Absolutely not for me, I'm not going against others making that choice though. If anyone else wants to go through all of that then that is totally your decision.

Absolutely not.

If I wanted kids. I'd adopt or foster.

No way would I become a spectacle like that.

Worse than a spectacle.

Id feel weird and uncomfortable.

I was actually pregnant twice before I realized I was transgender. Back when I was in denial, I knew there was an extremely uncomfortable feeling about being pregnant but I had no clue what it was and thought that it was all in my head. Turns out those feelings of extreme discomfort were the dysphoria. I love my babies and would never change what happened though. They're both super close in age(age 1 and the older one is 3 in September. I also have a seven year old step-child) and I'm not sure if I want any more kids. Not only was the dysphoria bad; I also had a very difficult first pregnancy. I developed gestational diabetes, sciatica and pubic symphisis separation. Dealing with all of those on top of having chronic interstitial cystitis was brutal. And now that I know who I really am, if I were to get pregnant again, the dysphoria might get too much for me to handle.

No, no, no. Just no, it's not for me and I don't even want to have kids. I'm more than happy that all my potential to have offspring has been taken away.

That being said, those who decide to go through with pregnancy (or have done so already) have my utmost respect.

Ha no. Giving birth sounds horrid. I mean I got nauseous when I took my earrings out, pregnancy seems unimaginable. Then again I never thought I would consider getting top surgery either and the idea still freaks me out, so I guess if someone wants something bad enough it will happen no matter what. I never wanted kids though either. I figure I have a kid brother so that'll get out my need for spoiling a kid on holidays. :)

Seiously though, for those who have kids, I'm impressed and have lots of respect for you.

I have two kids. I actually enjoyed pregnancy until my body decided to try to kill me 30 weeks into my last pregnancy. Being pregnant didn't make me feel like a woman but it was incredible to feel my children growing within me. My birth experiences were also overwhelmingly positive. I also breast fed my children. I am non binary enough that I enjoy being "mom"... I'm just a mom who is a guy or a guy who is a mom.
That said, I would never judge anyone for choosing to or not to parent.

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Absolutely not

I have 3 children that I gave birth to before I realized I was trans.  I wouldn't change that. Now that I know I am trans and am actively taking steps to be the real me, I don't think I would be able to cope with being pregnant at this point.

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Quote from: lil_red on July 11, 2016, 07:25:14 AM
I have 3 children that I gave birth to before I realized I was trans.  I wouldn't change that. Now that I know I am trans and am actively taking steps to be the real me, I don't think I would be able to cope with being pregnant at this point.

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I also don't think I could do it again even if I wasn't afraid of it killing me.

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I have a kid, actually.  I was told I couldn't so it was definitely shocking.  I didn't want to.  It was terrifying.  I should have been happy.  Every other pregnant person I met was thrilled.  It felt so weird.  I was depressed, scared, and felt so weird.  It did help me come to terms with who I am.  It was just so wrong feeling.  I love my child.  I really do.  I went through sterilization afterwards because I never want to do that again.

DiedrichH, must have been a real surprise to you.  Were you already living as a guy?  It would about killed me to have to see a OB dr living as a guy.  I am glad you decided to keep the baby, how old is he/she now.  I am glad you got fixed so no more.

No. Can't wait to be sterile.

No, I don't want to... but if it would happen, abortion or anything similar would hardly be an option... wouldn't even mind having children,  just not with me getting pregnant.

NO!

It would probably triggering my dysphoria too much and I doesn't like children that much. (I mean, fathering them isn't my thing.) I would rather disappear from the existence than being pregnant...honestly...  :o

Oh baby no, what is you doin?

I have two kids. I am almost ashamed of saying I had easy labours. Kids just popped out before the doctor even had time to come in to the room. I hardly got into hospital before they were out.

No anasthetics. Just pure parental energy.

I don't feel less male. Kids sometimes say dad-mom to me. Being male is how I feel about myself. I never felt like a MOM. I'm not a mom. You can call me anything but it's still my inner image that counts.

Non of my kids were planned. Would I do it again? No. I did a hysterectomy 7 years ago.

I'd love to have kids- in fact I'm getting my eggs frozen so I can keep those doors open, but doubt I'd undergo pregnancy unless there was truly no other option to have kids.
I don't think I'd like to go off HRT to do that... then again, I haven't gone on HRT yet.

Quote from: undautri on June 29, 2017, 03:39:07 PM
I'd love to have kids- in fact I'm getting my eggs frozen so I can keep those doors open, but doubt I'd undergo pregnancy unless there was truly no other option to have kids.
I don't think I'd like to go off HRT to do that... then again, I haven't gone on HRT yet.

The question of how much cryogenic storage costs comes up frequently.  Have you priced it recently?

Hugs, Devlyn

Devlyn
In the UK, it is free to get your eggs frozen under the right circumstances. When/if I get the go-ahead for HRT I'll apply to see if I can get them frozen. if I have to pay, though, I'll pay, even if it's more than I can afford right now. I'll find a work around. I am very determined to have children in the future, I love kids.

Ah, very good. Thank you.

Hugs, Devlyn

Nope. Although I'd love to have kids some day, maybe, I've literally never had the desire to get pregnant. This feeling only amplified when I found out I have several chronic illnesses that I can easily pass down to possible kids AND which will make pregnancy and childbirth much more painful so, nope. It's a definite no from me.

Adoption is a thing too, and so is fostering, so that's what I'd want to look into.

Hell to the No.... Pregnancy would have to be the polar opposite of transitioning. Transitioning is taking steps forward towards the real you, pregnancy is running back in the other direction and padlocking yourself in the closet to me. It would personally feel like I had violated my body. Although I want to have Kids, yes. I'd like to be a father one day. If a partner wanted to get pregnant that'd be their call and I'd be supportive, but would be happy with adoption.

Glad to see I'm not the only one that feels this way, my friend (who is obsessed with birth rates and probably been reading too many stories about pregnant transmen) seemed to think that despite transitioning I would still want to get pregnant as I'd have maternal urges! Had to set him straight on that one and explained that the transmen who do this are a clear minority and that it's as ridiculous as me asking him if he wants to get pregnant if he had a womb...

Never wanted to, and never will. I don't feel particularly good with kids anyway but if I had my own I would adopt. That's always appealed to me more but I'm still unsure if I would want kids at all.

I'd rather have dogs than babies. I don't have much patience with or fondness for young kids, but I know how to raise young animals. I've been the 'parent' of quite a few. 

Hell no! The mere thought that this damn body at this point could probably theoretically still do that if I used it that way disgusts me to the core and could make me aggressive already.
I can't wait to get rid of these awful organs and with them that ability. To me it's humiliating that those things are there and could theoretically function, I'm severely dysphoric about their existence.

Beside that carrying a child and giving birth is the most womanly act out of them all to me personally.

Additionally I don't want kids anyway; I am not good with children, am not fond of them and caring for one is the most uninteresting and restricting task I can possibly think of.

No.

I couldn't even imagine giving birth when I was a child...

Getting pregnant, giving birth & breastfeeding would feel devastating. Feels like that would perpetually ruin my life...

Even before I came out I knew I never wanted to experience pregnancy. I've always been uncomfortable with my vagina/uterus as sexual organs. I've never liked anything penetrating me, and the idea of being pregnant and giving birth is so incredibly unpleasant.
I'm still unsure if I want children in general, but if I do make that choice, I will 110% adopt.
Until then, dogs will just be my babies!

When I was pretending to be a guy. I felt my deviance, which is what we were called at the time, deviants. I did not want children because I did not want them to suffer for my sins. Well then I did some drugs and came home horny as a heathen and the rest is history. It was the biggest mistake of my life until I realized It was not. It actually was the best thing I ever did. They gave me a purpose to live. I have always had nurturing instincts that I got to express. But I always wanted to be female and one of the things that make females, female. Getting pregnant and having a baby is the ultimate "Do I pass"

This

Quote from: Frazer on September 07, 2017, 01:42:31 PM
Hell to the No.... Pregnancy would have to be the polar opposite of transitioning. Transitioning is taking steps forward towards the real you, pregnancy is running back in the other direction and padlocking yourself in the closet to me. It would personally feel like I had violated my body.

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Quote from: Corax on September 15, 2017, 03:05:54 PM
Hell no! The mere thought that this damn body at this point could probably theoretically still do that if I used it that way disgusts me to the core and could make me aggressive already.
I can't wait to get rid of these awful organs and with them that ability. To me it's humiliating that those things are there and could theoretically function, I'm severely dysphoric about their existence.

Beside that carrying a child and giving birth is the most womanly act out of them all to me personally.

Even if I was the last person on earth who could repopulate it by giving birth, sorry everyone but that would be the end of our species because I'd rather die.

I'll have neices and nephews I can spoil the crap out of then send back home when they're too much to handle. I've been told I'd make a good father but I value my quiet time, free time and financial stability and I'm just not willing to sacfirice those kinds of things for kid/s. Maybe in an ideal universe but I still wouldn't be the one giving birth to them.

A strong "no" from me. I'm not sure if I'm even fertile, cause pre-T my periods were always irregular and I've had unprotected piv-sex with cis men on several occasions over the years, but it never lead to anything. I've never wanted kids and the thought of ending up with one for life probably terrifies me even more than pregnancy itself, cause at least that would be over in 9 months, but I'm also careless and impulsive with sex partners cause I forget how to use my brain when I'm horny.

The thought of being pregnant freaks me out quite a lot. I think it would be very dysphoria inducing and do a real number on my mind with all the female hormones. My mood was a total mess on estrogen before I started taking testosterone. In terms of giving birth I mostly just shrug though. Physical pain doesn't really bother me much. Not since having lived with chronic pain for the past 13 years, it doesn't really get to me anymore, even when it's extreme.

Now I plan on getting a hysto, so I won't have to worry myself half to death whenever I'll end up being careless and impulsive with another guy. And to never have to worry about possibly getting abortions, taking birth control, etc. Then I just have to worry about std's and frankly, that's enough already. I enjoy using my vagina for sex, but a pregnancy is not the kind of result I want from it!

I really don't have a parental bone in my body. I look at others' kids and just think they're weird and gross. As a young kid I never liked playing with dolls that looked like babies or play pretend family scenarios. I thought that was stupid and couldn't see the fun in it. I once held a baby when I was 14 and I just wanted for the mother to come back and save me from it asap, as she just dumped her kid in my arms for a phone call or whatever. At age 15, a classmate of the same age as me got her first kid while still in 9th grade. I just really couldn't understand how she could be happy about that.

Now I'm 29 and more and more of my friends start having kids and I just shake my head about it. I don't get why people do that. I don't think I ever will. I'd much rather raise a bunch of cats instead. That's the kind of family I'd want, preferably with a boyfriend/husband as well, if I can find one of those someday.