Can't say that I can generate "hate" for any word, but I respect that others often do. It could be my age, and my experience with the communit(ies) over time that leads me to be fairly attached to claiming transsexual for myself, in counterpoint to what was once something many would insist upon, that it only properly applied to "post-ops" which for me was an issue, as I started out feeling very questioning about why I should feel compelled to seek an operation, when what was going on for me was a matter of how I, myself, identified.
I could appreciate how social prejudice made living more wholly was complicated without conforming to the expectations to transition, and to do so according to a roadmap laid out by others, and containing no small amount of prejudice. For me, I suppose I'm being a bit cantakerous or confrontational (or at least I was seen this way a few decades ago) when I was brave enough to express my concerns and reservations, at a time when so much of the struggle we were going through was just what ought to have been a simple thing, to have medical pros listen and accept that many of us needed the procedures and options that were then available, but often closely guarded by some pretty strangely conformist and controlling people.