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Started by Jamie Starr, September 27, 2013, 01:34:46 AM

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Jamie Starr

So I am yet to book a appointment, still looking for a therapist, in the last few months I have come leaps and bounds looking back even a year I am not the same person I was slowly this emotional armor I have been wearing is coming off maybe not too the outside yet but to myself, for the first time ever I truly see me for me.

This is a long tough road I am terrified but in a good way but also find myself getting giddy with excitement, now that I have decided to do it.

How I change when I get into HRT is unknown I am 25 years old I have no idea how ill respond and if I will look different, I've already started losing weight I let myself get to a whooping  315 pounds down to 300 now and working very hard, the Weight lose is the easy part, never before have I had this drive in life.

But over the years I have become a recluse, no friends due to me not being me, I now have a very positive outlook on live it's going to be a hard road with heartache but worth every step.

So I have noticed a lot of girls have profile pics of themselves and was wondering If I could get some advice on my face, I do not think I am a manly looking person but wanted people opinions and I am yet to turn to the family fully as I fell it would better to wait until a few sessions are underway with the therapist (before HRT though). I plan to get FFS surgery the extend is unknown of course,
Just wanted your  opinion as I have really no one too share this with atm and am excited, and wanted some of your views.  have not linked a photo yet as wanting to see if you think it's a good idea or not

thanks
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Taka

you could try this thread in the mtf forum: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,146688.0.html
don't expect replies too soon or be disappointed if you don't get a reply. it's easy to miss a post in those threads. i'm sure you'll get an answer if you post your pic right here, but you wouldn't have the same safety of disappearing in a crowd.
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KabitTarah

Quote from: Jamie Starr on September 27, 2013, 01:34:46 AM
So I am yet to book a appointment, still looking for a therapist, in the last few months I have come leaps and bounds looking back even a year I am not the same person I was slowly this emotional armor I have been wearing is coming off maybe not too the outside yet but to myself, for the first time ever I truly see me for me.

This is a long tough road I am terrified but in a good way but also find myself getting giddy with excitement, now that I have decided to do it.

How I change when I get into HRT is unknown I am 25 years old I have no idea how ill respond and if I will look different, I've already started losing weight I let myself get to a whooping  315 pounds down to 300 now and working very hard, the Weight lose is the easy part, never before have I had this drive in life.

This was much the same for me! I was super excited and happy, elated to know who I am. This was difficult for the people around me (who knew) to deal with (my wife & parents). That feeling does fade somewhat, but it doesn't completely go away. I still smile to know who I am and where I'm going - even if the rest of my life went into flux.

I was also obese. Over the last 2 months (since I came out) I was able to drop 30 lbs and I'm working on the other 20-30 I have left. This was a big driver for me in coming out to myself... my health was declining (I am 35), I was diagnosed with high BP and early diabetes (which I'm hoping will be in complete remission at my next appointment).

Most of all, therapy has helped me tremendously. You should find a good therapist who is open to your needs. If you need help finding them, there are a few sites with information - though they don't seem to be up to date. This list is the best, but again... not up to date - my therapist is on it w/ the wrong address (even though we've tried to update it). Be sure you call first and/or do your research online.
http://www.t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_by_region

And good luck!
~ Tarah ~

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