Quote from: taru on July 18, 2007, 06:52:24 PMThe important part is interpretation. e.g. some people have had therapists requiring them to wear heavy makeup and skirts to be female and other such things. The guidelines are used by some systems against some TS individuals.
I'm not into much makeup except for the occasional formal event. On a day-to-day basis, lipstick is about it for me, and only because society seems to demand it somehow.
When I was trying to live up to the expectations society expects of one whose body comes with a penis, I always admired the females who wore little or no makeup, and kind of recoiled from the Tammy Bakker look-alikes or Mary Kay Commandos who were OVER done.
Why are we trans women expected to ESPECIALLY adhere to society's stereotypes of How A Woman Should Look And Behave, where the natal women don't have to?
I'm so glad my therapist recognised my feminine nature on my first visit. She tried 'giving permission' to wear more makeup and jewelery to me a couple of times, and my answer was, "Okay, when I feel like it..." That's pretty much over, and I have my SRS letter.
WPATH SOC is a good idea. It's a set of guidelines for competent professionals to use when evaluating and assisting transitioners. The problem is that some professionals may be too rule bound or have agendas. You, the transitioner, the client, the patient, are the leader in your transition. You hire the pros to give you guidance and keep you out of trouble.
If the inappropriate candidates are not 'weeded out', though, there may be a great reduction in availability of SRS surgery for those for whom it is indicated. According to Lynn Conway's estimate, there are 600,000 post-op T-women alive right now. The regret rate is less than 1%. But that's still up to 6,000! How many time can you fill up a Jerry Springer stage before running out of "Look Who's Sorry, Now!" subjects and shows?
If you feel your therapist is on an agenda, rather than is doing what's best for you, CHANGE them. But listen to yourself, too. If you're doing this because it's what you're supposed to do, slow down and really look inside yourself.
SRS is for the rest of your life.
Karen