Yes miss Elizabeth... that is definitely the case.... what more do you need for clothes as a man than a few pair pants, a few shirts, a pain is shorts and a dressy outfit? As soon as I started shopping as a woman, I would buy cute stuff and be like "but now I need a top/skirt/pants/shoes to go with this".... it seems like as a woman there are sooo many options and fun ways to make an outfit that you simply need.... more!!!

What's cool though, is that I actually feel pretty now when I get dressed up, and even without a wig and makeup, I feel cute in some of my more casual clothes. You girls here have really helped me to accept myself and incorporate my desires and true feelings into my life. I truly appreciate you all!!

Tasha

Ha yes Amber its the wife I gota watch out for!
And yes Tasha I'm the same getting too, my hair is pretty long now about 9 inchs all over,and my confidence is starting to sore, I feel cute even without my extensions, sometimes I'll look in the mirror even in guy clothes and wonder how people don't say anything! I've been sort of glowing lately, and this is simply thanks to talking about how I feel and self acceptance. I haven't started anything else

Ya Christine, my wife and I have talked about it, and we don't think hrt and all that is what we want,  it top surgery is about as far as we think is right for us, and I am growing out my hair so I can get an a-line Bob... we like my other parts the way they are, I am scared of side affects and losing the intense sexual relationship we have. I think I'll have to be able to pass as a man until I get towards retiring because of my job.... unless my job changes....but I am happy being able to be fluid.... although the farther I go the more I find myself as a woman.

Quote from: Tasha_ on April 16, 2016, 07:05:47 PM
although the farther I go the more I find myself as a woman.

This exactly.  I wasn't entirely sure where I would want to be when I started this journey.   The more I experiment the more I feel drawn to the feminine.  I have been so happy the last few days with the positive support I have received.  I have also noticed a trend that my younger friends (mid 20s) accept it much more readily with fewer explanations of motivation than my older friends (mid 30s).  I love you girls on Susan's.  Just being able to talk about things helps so much.

Yes Tasha do it!, A line bob is stunning, especially with a long thin neck, ghost in the shell style,  I would do it but I want my hair long!, its already looking amazing!
I can understand what you mean, though my sexual relationship is much more on the emotional side, physical sex is quiet rare for a young couple as we are!
HRT and and Orchie is a must for me, with SRS a potential later, I think I will be happy with the diminished bulk of that area after everthing settles in.
Yes the further down the line you go you may end up going further is right!
What is the job if you don't mind me asking?
Amber you too feel similarly to Tasha about slowly morphing more female!
I'v always been very settled on the idea from very young, like looking in the mirror I would just see a guy pretending, every night I would pray to be a girl in the morning, and my body would stay as female as possible!
Acctually I'm very lucky body hair is baisicly non existent, facial hair too, never got very thick! But the main thing for me was my head hair, it is sooo thick, thicker than my girlfriends, if I would have thined or started balding at the front or crown I think I would be depressed!
I was so lucky for that!
I just cant wait for July, get me hormonely right anyway
As Amber says us girl here on Susans has been a fantastic fountain of Support and Info, I love you girls! :3
Hugs, Christine

Lol... I always thought I looked so feminine, and there are a couple of issues I have with my body.... hair!!!!, waaay too much.... I need to have real breasts, well, as real as possible.... and I need to learn to tuck better, because as much as I hate the bulge, I love using it!!! My wife and I have alwAys been been  wet physically attracted to each other, and had a very physical relationship (even more so now that I am behaving more feminine...) and we hate even considering the possibility of that diminishing. I actually work construction, general contractor in a small very republican town where I  would lose a customer base due to  bigotry.....

I cannot express how greatly I appreciate you girls!!!!

I do not intend to slowly morph into a woman.  Initially, I thought so.  I strongly want to transition and cannot wait until I get to start HRT.  I still do not want surgery.  I will end up in the nonop category of ladies.

My hair has been one of my best features.  I've been growing it out for over two years, long before I even suspected I was trans.  It is thick and wavy.  I used to home with people that I have girl hair.  Turns out, I really do.  It has been receding a bit at the temples over the years making the peak far too prominent.  This caused me much consternation because no one in my family has any sort of hair loss.  It does limit what styles I can do.  Hopefully, E will rectify that.

As far as sexual relations with my wife they are very important to both of us.  The frequency is down over the years because stress and kids, but it is still something that brings us closer together.  Tasha you may find as time goes on the intensity and frequency might diminish.  Not a guarantee, but it could happen.  Keep your options open in the future.  If you girls are happy with you current situation and plans that is awesome.  If it shifts over time, that can be awesome too.

Sarah Elizabeth, you are so brave!  I think that is awesome and happy birthday too!  I too have been going to the group sessions and they have been very helpful. The closest I got to dressing to go there was to put my heels and hose on under my jeans. I had my bra on underneath but it might not have been apparent. I even went out after with the group to a restaurant but I couldn't wear the heels.  I chickened out on that part. Oh, I did have my nails done though... 😊  Best wishes to you. Hope to chat again soon.

Jenny

Tasha, I know this may sound like madness, but for my legs it is amasing! It is a little slice of hell the first time though, oh ->-bleeped-<- its bad :/
Oh thats great, I can understand how it wouldn't work ar work, I always find it so mad the types of jobs we have, I get this crazy mental picture of the work with us as our female selves! makes me laugh!
And Amber, hopefully HRT will help abit fkr the hair line, I'v the slightest temple area that could do with abit of extra hair, my hair is extremely thick though, I hope it doesnt change too much on hormones!
And thats a good point Amber, we think we have it all figured out, and in black and white but it slowly changes as we change!
Oh and Hello Jenny, how do you know its Sarahs birthday?
Ima say Happy Birthday to you too Sarah then!
I hope you have or have had a wonderful day!
Hugs, Christine.

First of all, happy b-day Sarah, second, Christina, are you referring to hrt being amazing on your legs? Or did I just get totally lost all of a sudden? I tried to look back but I can't seem to catch back up?!?! Lol....

Oh god, sorry Tasha, I must have got lost in my 6 o'clock get up for work!
I mean epilators! I use one, its really great I find! Painful but effective!

Oddly enough it was not Sarah's birthday recently.  If you scroll back to near the beginning of the thread you see she says it's the 25th of February.  So be sure to apologize for your tardiness ladies.

I have to admit I was incredibly confused by your comment as well Christine.  Thanks for clearing it up.  I too have gone the route of epilating.  I had purchase a relatively cheap one back in December to try it out.  It was good for my legs, but not super effective for anywhere else.  The hairs on my legs are much less coarse than on my torso.  I upgraded to a silk epil 9 and it was worth the money.  Far faster and more efficient.  It stings the first time you do an area.  I barely notice it on my legs now.  However, I found that areas with coarser hair are still annoyingly more uncomfortable to do.

As far as hair goes, I am looking forward to seeing what effect HRT will have on me.  I'm not drastically concerned about my hairline.  It's really not receded that badly. I just like to get upset about it because I am the only one it happened to.  I still have great hair and it works, just limited in the styles I can choose from.  Looking forward to hearing more updates. 

Amber

He he.... maybe should have checked that, was just following blindly to another wishing, but... happy late birthday!!! And thank you for clarifying, I haven't even thought about using an epilator...  and lol Christine, I should be getting up by 6 every day, but can't do it.... I sleep till I have 15 minutes or less till I have to leave the house.... if I was getting girly ready I'd be screwed!!! Have a great night girls!!!

(And thanks for pointing the birthday thing out Amber, at least you helped us catch it before she saw it)

Hi girls,
   I've been out of town for the last few days and haven't had a chance to post anything. First off welcome Josefa and jenny. interesting, i think, it was a post by a girl named jenny that brought me to susan's in the first place. Specifically  her post about Yeson's voice surgery. My birthday was back in February, i mentioned it in an earlier post, but thank you girls.

   I started the process to legally change my name. Sooo exciting!!! Sadly it's going to take, atleast, several months to get everything changed and done. but as the saying goes short term pain for long term gain. I realized something the other day. So, I was walking through the mall, all done up, and realized I hadn't looked at myself in a mirror. I mean from head to toe.  So I found a mirror and thought I looked pretty good and it occurred to me that I was never happy with my appearance as a man. i didn't think I was bad looking I just didn't like what I saw. A feeling I don't get as a women. I started to cry and looked at myself in the mirror again and thought all i needed was a little more feminization and I would be perfect.

hair came up briefly when I saw my psychologist the other day and according to her dysphoria about hair is common with trans people. which I think makes perfect sense. i hate to burst your bubble Amber but it's not likely HRT will help with your hair line. As it's mostly Testosterone that effects hair growth. hence men are harrier then women. hair line advancement is often done by trans women when their hairline is too far back. I don't think I have that problem but my hairline isn't that straight which i'm not crazy about. But it also doesn't bother me that much either. I figure if I have some extra money i might have a bit of hair transplanted to fix it up a bit but it's not at all a priority for me. For me trying to have a realistic expectation of things is important. So, i do a lot of research. HRT will help get rid of a lot of body hair. it can make new hair grow a little finer as well and, naturally, it doesn't do anything to hair that has already grown.

i know what you mean about thick hair christine, I also have thicker then average hair. I've been growing my hair out and the last time i got it trimmed to remove the split ends my stylist asked me if I wanted her to thin it out. Which I've been doing my whole life and I said no. She said ok but that eventually i would have to. I've never had long, even shoulder length hair, so I want to grow it all out and see what it looks like. easy to take some off if there is too much but it's a long process to grow out.

I've had several people tell me that I'm so brave but I don't feel like I'm brave. I'm just being myself, as much as possible. it's really great that people have been soo understanding and supportive while I transition though.

I'm so hard on my nails I keep growing them out and when they get to a length I like, I end up breaking a couple of them. So, I trim them all and start all over. i've thought about getting fake nails but there are much more important thing for me to spend money on at the moment.

amber I'm jealous you have naturally wavy hair. I love wavy, curly hair. i've always noticed women with it. My hair has a bit of a wave too it but not as much as i would like. tasha I feel your pain with tucking. I haven't had much luck with it myself. but, unlike you, I very much look forward to having it removed. if i go through healthcare it could take years though. Hopefully I can make enough money to just go get it done. Well I've probably blabbed on enough. talk you girls soon.

Sarah,

So happy to hear your progress, already starting towards the legal issues.  Unfortunately, bureaucracy does take time.  Luckily, it sounds like you are pretty good about dealing with the waiting.

I hated having wavy hair for so many years. It was more of a pain than anything else. I kept it short so it would stay manageable.  It is very thick and has a lot of volume.  I'm not worried about the hair past of things.  I wouldn't say you burst my bubble. From all the reading I've done it seems like it's possible if unlikely. There is always monoxidil.  Otherwise, I just save money for a someday fix.  It doesn't affect me passing.  Glad I will be stopping the retreat before it gets too bad.

I understand what you mean about feeling better about your appearance.  I wasn't a bad looking guy.  A lot of people had told me so over the years.  I just hated what I saw staring back at me, most days.  I like my appearance so much better en femme.  I still can point to areas where I need work, but now I'm more optimistic rather than pessimistic.  I look in the mirror now and I see how feminine my face is and wonder how I never noticed before. This is even when in guy mode and getting out of bed in the morning.  I can't imagine how it will be once I start on hormones.

The optimism is quite possibly the most noticeable change to everyone. Since I discovered I was trans and accepted it, I have been happier and just better overall.  I look forward to becoming a better more complete person.

Love you girls,
Amber

I'm lucky the hair on my legs is my only problem and its female patern anyway, like it stops apout half way up my thigh, I'v always thought I was so lucky with my lack of body hair, I wonder does it mean anything?, my gf has more hair than me :')
Sorry about the birthday thing, better late than never I supose!
And oh yea I have to get up this early to Set myself right gotta clock in for 7 :')
If Im not up an hour before it I am so tired!
Ha thats good news Sarah on the name change!
And i know that feeling when you see your reflection and think, "you on point tnight", I never got that really with myself, but I always do when Im in town back home and I have my car polished to a T and just go cruising past shop windows :L #don't forget your past
Ha they used to always thin me out too, :@ I hate hairdressers so bad, I cant wait to get my hair nicely styled!
I was looking at electrolysis nearby and I could start anytime, I'm real worried about work and my Parents mostly, they only see me through skype so maybe the wouldn't notice anyway! Or I could make up on a beard, lol
Nails are hard to grow when you work physical, mines are very strong bar one that has a line on it that keeps splitting, this line only apeared last year, it so annoying :/
Its nice that you get compliments like that Sarah, makes me somewhat hopeful for when I'm out!
And Amber I was the same, always complimented as a guy being good looking, though I'v had people mistake for "mam" from behind a few times, and that always made my week! :')
And yes our optimistic view on things now is the greatest change, I can't wait to see wher this goes!
Anyhow I'm off to work, have fun girls
Hugs, Christine

Congratulations on the forward progress!!! You seem to be moving on pretty quickly considering all the bureaucracy involved... keep up with the optimism and patience, you are a break person and deserve to be happy!!!

I haven't looked in a mirror and thought I look good for years, until I started dressing in feminine clothes. And I probably wouldn't even have gotten this far so quickly without you girls, so thank you!!!

You're pretty lucky for your hair Christine, I shave a forest all over my body every other day!!! Lol...

Sarah, you are brave, just because you are just being yourself. Sometimes it is brave to do so. You are going against the grain of society, when we are barely being accepted and you are not letting the possibility of bigotry and negative comments scare you off of your path. I truly find it inspirational reading about your progress.

Well, have a break night/day girls, talk to you all soon!!!

Tasha

Hi girls. I have a question. Do you ever get ingrown hairs when shaving?  I do sometimes on the upper parts of my legs and groin area. Any ideas?  Laser and electrolosys is too expensive for me right now. Thanks.

Jenny

Sorry to crash in but enjoyed your whole thread and wanted to say hi.

Hope you don't mind and Happy Birthday for February ofc ☺

Jenny - For shaving legs with a wet razor try using a cheap hair conditioner instead of shaving gel. Give it a good couple of minutes to work its magic and get legs smooth as glass.

Most times I just tough it out with a cheap electric ladyshave.  Not as close a shave but the hair not being so short prevents ingrowns better.

Laser taking the edge off but still feel like a wookie before a shave.

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Hi Jenny, funny thing, my wife actually does the electric on the upper parts of her legs, and only shaves from mid-thigh down.... I don't have much of a problem with ingrown hair so far so I haven't worried yet, but she gets them everytime she uses a razor on her upper thigh....

For making razors last longer, (and a nice close shave) the conditioner trick works well, I use herbal essences for dry damaged hair and it makes my hair waaay softer. Otherwise I go through like 50 bucks worth of blades a month.

Talk to you all soon!!!