Quote from: davina61 on January 18, 2025, 04:21:06 AMI wish you both well and hope she recovers quick .

Thank you, Davina. Recovery is slow right now, but I know it will progress erratically. She's uncomfortable, cranky, tired, and I feel unappreciated, but I'm tough enough to keep my sense of humor.

QuoteI got a HUGE hematoma ,that made a mess when it let go!

She said that she kept hearing "hematoma" while she was 98% "out", but it remained only a possibility.

QuoteMake sure that all the equipment you use at home is VERY sterile as I did get an infection.

Thank you for the reminder. We sure don't want the adventure of an infection!

Quote from: Lilis on January 18, 2025, 04:49:21 AMSO will be back in her room soon.

Even better, they began discharging her this morning. We're in a nearby hotel room tonight just in case...

QuoteWishing her a quick recovery.

THANK YOU! We both could use it.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 18, 2025, 07:15:06 AMI also have well wishes for her.  Be her guardian angel.

Chrissy

Thank you, Chrissy. I'm strengthening my wings.

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 18, 2025, 07:24:21 AMRest when you can.

I felt AWFUL being away from her each night. I intended to stay, but I was so tired and the staff was so impressive! I needed a good night's sleep after all the anticipation.

Thank you for all of your inspiration and support.

Quote from: Sephirah on January 18, 2025, 04:41:10 PMDoes she have Diabetes?

No. Never. Low blood sugar. They had her eating yucky glucose paste.

@Moonflower
Dear Grace: 
I am so very glad to read that your Beth is "back on the road" to recovery.  I am certain'
that the hospital staff knew exactly what to do with Beth's initial recovery issue.

Many times the hospital will permit a spouse to sleep in the patient's room at night, especially
if she has a private room.

Please continue to keep us all posted with updates....  our prayers and caring thoughts continue
to go out to you and to Beth from all of us here on the Forum.

HUGS, and HUGS, and more HUGS.....❤️❤️❤️
Danielle[Northern Star Girl]

Quote from: Moonflower on January 18, 2025, 09:06:49 PMEven better, they began discharging her this morning. We're in a nearby hotel room tonight just in case...

THANK YOU! We both could use it.

Thank you for the update, I'm glad to hear she's being discharged. 😊💕

@Moonflower
Dear Grace:
It is your special day on January 24th... your Birthday.
Hopefully you have fun plans for celebrating another milestone in your life.
                  H A P P Y  B I R T H D A Y
                           

                                   

Be certain to look at your profile on your Birthday to find a special gift.

Many HUGS, and best wishes...
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
         
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Happy birthday, Moonflower! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with love and light.

Happy Birthday!

Oooh, look! You got cake! 

Happy birthday XXX

Happy birthday Grace.

Chrissy

A dear friend told me the other day:

QuoteI'm disappointed that he's trans. I appreciated his different way of being a man. I valued that he was a man who was soft spoken, kind, gentle, and baked sweets. I don't see enough of that in men, except in gay men. I'm grieving that loss.

I'm glad that my wife is exactly who she is. I hope my friend finds sweet cis men.

Today, during a routine MRI, I swelled with the joy of being married to a trans woman. Nothing else would make me happier. I'm delighted to be spending every moment of every day being a trans advocate.

On our way there, we discussed the dangers of her presenting as a woman, as she was, and using any bathroom. We talked about recent events of cis women and immigrants being harrassed. She got the brilliant idea of sitting as close as possible to the receptionist so if anyone confronted her, she'd easily ask the receptionist whether the harrasser was a security guard. We understand that the employees at this medical center are thoroughly trained to welcome and support trans people.

My wife waited for me in the waiting room. Fortunately they had gender-neutral bathrooms. She said that no one paid any attention to her. Just what she was hoping for.

Quote from: Moonflower on April 17, 2025, 04:50:19 PMShe said that no one paid any attention to her. Just what she was hoping for.

90% of the things we worry about never happen. That doesn't stop us from worrying, though.

My experience has been that most people don't pay any attention. They are too busy in their own little bubble. But there are those whose life is so boring they feel a need to stick their nose in everyone else's business.

@Moonflower , glad to hear things are still going well. As Lori mentioned, most people really don't pay much attention to those around them. As long as you don't stand out from the crowd or do something which draws attention, there shouldn't be any drama. I wish you both continued success.

Love always -- Jess

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on April 17, 2025, 07:42:27 PMdon't stand out from the crowd or do something which draws attention, there shouldn't be any drama

This not only applies to us, but to those in our inner circles who think they are "helping."  Drama is trouble spelled with a capital "D".  I don't mind a little nudge of defensiveness or in defense, but drama is the bane of tolerance and peaceful coexistence.

My wife probably sent her final 2 coming-out letters. We were increasingly nervous about the apparent hostility toward trans people, as proven by court cases and decisions and legislation. We felt like sitting ducks in a very red and dangerous county. She decided to rustle the bushes to see what might attack us.

The letters were to our closest neighbors. One hasn't responded, but we understand that she would be progressive if she thought it was safe around here. The other left a shocking voice mail:

"Hi -- this is -- I just wanted to let -- know that we got her nice letter today and -- and I both appreciate her explaining what she's going through. I am very glad to know that and happy that she is happy. You're great neighbors and we just want to continue that and I would have called her directly but I dont have her phone number but please convey our thoughts and I'm glad things worked out for her and that she's happy with her decision and it doesnt change any reflection on us. We're just glad we have great neighbors.  So thank you. Let her know that we really appreciate the letter. Thank you and hope to see you around. Byebye"

Wow. We didn't dare hope for such a marvelous response.

So, now she's entirely out, except to cousins whom she has lost touch with. We're feeling euphoric freedom now. She is more beautiful than ever as she feels free to be her authentic self. We're sad about the people who haven't responded to her letter, and delighted to be more clear about how surprisingly wonderful some people are.

We're protesting with our local Indivisible group every week. We get many kind comments on our trans and non-trans signs. She's feeling more confident as she realizes that everyone is reading her as a woman, whether she's holding a trans sign or flag, or not.

We're amazed that we're faring so well during such a politically horrendous time. We wish the same for all of you who want it.