Thanks. I was thinking it would get denied this time around since policy changed.

Now all I have to do is figure out when to go pick it up.

Quote from: Robbyv213 on August 07, 2025, 03:56:58 PMNow all I have to do is figure out when to go pick it up.

GO NOW! 

Right I wish prob sometime next week

I took delivery of my new wig. Hopefully it is ok sitting in the hot car half the day.

Quote from: Robbyv213 on August 08, 2025, 04:17:57 PMI took delivery of my new wig. Hopefully it is ok sitting in the hot car half the day.

If it is synthetic, the heat can affect it. It won't damage it, just affect the styling. You can always reshape it with a hairdryer on low to medium heat. Just hold the hair in place until it cools, and it will keep that position. I do that to move unruly bangs to the side out of my eyes. I just pull it over, heat it, then let it cool.

You can add curls if you want, too! Curl the hair, add heat, then let it cool. Sometimes I will use a curler roll to get a lock of hair to fall a certain way. Have fun with it! 

Thanks. It's a pretty basic wig. Long in length but straight and slightly layered up front around the bangs/face.

I finally was able to inspect it when I got home, it seems ok. But not sure if it's the new wig I ordered or a wig that has been a show room model while they kept the new one that I tried a month ago.

They said they would put it on hold for me, but it doesn't feel the same as I remember, and it's not even adjusted to me anymore. The tag is not attached to it anymore either, and not even in the box.

They gave me a box with the correct wig info and label on it but the wig itself was just turned inside out and placed in the box, no hair net around it, no tag, or identifying marks on it.

It looks like it could be the same wig, but it def feels and looks a bit ragged. So I don't know.

When I tried it on a month ago, I watched the girl open the box, take it out of the hair net and it had the tag on it. I understand not putting it back in the hair net, but why remove the tag ...

I don't know. I could just be paranoid who knows.

Quote from: Robbyv213 on August 09, 2025, 08:43:20 AMThanks. It's a pretty basic wig. Long in length but straight and slightly layered up front around the bangs/face.

I finally was able to inspect it when I got home, it seems ok. But not sure if it's the new wig I ordered or a wig that has been a show room model while they kept the new one that I tried a month ago.

They said they would put it on hold for me, but it doesn't feel the same as I remember, and it's not even adjusted to me anymore. The tag is not attached to it anymore either, and not even in the box.

They gave me a box with the correct wig info and label on it but the wig itself was just turned inside out and placed in the box, no hair net around it, no tag, or identifying marks on it.

It looks like it could be the same wig, but it def feels and looks a bit ragged. So I don't know.

When I tried it on a month ago, I watched the girl open the box, take it out of the hair net and it had the tag on it. I understand not putting it back in the hair net, but why remove the tag ...

I don't know. I could just be paranoid who knows.

That does sound suspicious, but at least you have one, and for a great price. I doubt that we will be getting any more through the VA.

@Lori Dee yea, it did seem a bit off but I could be over thinking it. Going to call them and inquire about it.

But like you said at least I was able to get a decent brand wig for free and it will prob be our last wig though the VA for the foreseeable future unfortunately.

On a off topic, if I give my wife and any other people who want to l support me and need support themselves, if I give them this website and a resource is there anyway I can block them from viewing my blog?

I def don't mind them coming on here seeking support, advice and seeing how other spouses, family members are dealing with transition, but I think at first while they're still dealing with a lot of the harder difficult emotions that my blog could be damaging to them and the situation

Over the weekend I had to replace the water pump on our 16 wrangler. Which is was pretty straight forward, but like always when working on older vehicles the connection for the alternator broke on the Alternator side so we had to get a new alternator as well. I had to remove the alternator, alternator bracket and two idler pulleys to get access to the water pump. Oh well... It's good now. No leaks,  not over heating. Should be good for a while now I hope.

Sunday we got into another heated discussion or argument. She finally remembered I had an Endo appointment at the end of July and even tho I told her the day of about everything that had been discussed she apparently didn't remember so I had to go over with her everything again, and this time she was rather upset and emotional about it. She must have put it out of her mind like she has been. Which lead to her asking what my intentions are again and even tho I have told her before, I re stated it as clear as possible that I want to transition and experience life as a woman. And as expected that didn't go over well either. Which lead to even more passionate conversation (lol to put it nicely).

Even tho she knows all this I feel it still upsets her. I feel she thinks it will go away or that it's just a phase or something. And Everytime we have this same talk I have to remind her that I've tried ignoring it, I've tried to do anything I could to see if it was just a phase. The only thing I have t is allowed myself to go down this path and take this journey.

She really doesn't want to lose her husband. She is not good with change, and she's really having a hard time focusing on anything but all the potential negative outcomes, which is understandable.

I just don't know how much longer either of us can do this. I'm in no rush by any means, but I feel I need to start living in the experience I want to have, while she wants me to continue to not let anyone see or be exposed to it.

I feel she thinks that once more people find out it will mean the end of our marriage. That she will have to push me away in order to save herself and daughter from potential negative reactions from family and friends, again which I understand.

And again I'm in no rush to do this or end our marriage or put us in a place that forces any of this to happen, but at the same time how much longer can either of us take trying to maintain this illusion...

I know it's affecting me negatively, and even if she doesn't want to admit it I can see trying to maintain this illusion is affecting her negatively as well.

It's just heartbreaking bc again she said that our marriage will be coming to an end not due to a lack of Love but bc we can no longer be what the other needs and wants.

So how much longer do we leave the band aid on before removing it....

Quote from: Robbyv213 on Today at 06:05:18 AMif I give my wife and any other people who want to l support me and need support themselves, if I give them this website and a resource is there anyway I can block them from viewing my blog?

Sorry, Robby, but no.

As we remind all of our new members in our Welcome Message:

Please keep in mind when posting that this is an ALL-AGES PUBLIC Forum and the internet never forgets. Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.

It might not help because of her own struggles with acceptance, but remind your wife that you were diagnosed with gender dysphoria. The appointments with the Endo are a part of your treatment, as is your effort to transition. These are MEDICAL treatments, not just a phase we go through.