For me this question raises many issues of why I wear girls' clothes in the first place.  When I go out dressed up am I trying to only pass as a woman or is it about the excitement of possibly getting caught?  I know sometimes I have really gotten pleasure from passing as a woman but other times I have really enjoyed the humiliation/embarassment or being caught especially by women that I know and/or that I feel attracted to. I don't enjoy being caught by boys/men however. Sometimes I will partially crossdress (i.e pantyhose under my pants, light makeup while dressed as a man, etc.) just to see if people will notice.  However,  I often wear girl's pajama's ,slippers, robes, nighties, etc where I am just doing it for the sheer feeling and  don't really want to deal with other's reactions one way or the other.

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Quote from: Kelsey on January 02, 2009, 12:19:01 AM
and just the way people think of you, my friends who id loose alot of,

if you loose friends after coming out, are they really friends? they are friends to who you pretend to be and not who you are. no one want to be alone but anyone can make new friends any day.

family is another issue of course.

Well, there is a gay kid in our group, and theyd think I was trying to get attention like he gets. Thats why id loose them.

Quote from: yabby on January 04, 2009, 04:17:22 PM

Hi Barbie,

just for me curiosity, what country do you live in?

http://www.aroundseoul.com/article.php?id=9
http://hiteacher.com/korea/drinking-korea.htm

Barbie~~

i remember as a kid being caught by my mom and aunt that was living with us at the time. i had fallen asleep wearing my little sisters swimming suit and i think one of my little brothers who i shared a room with caught me and went and told my mom, anyway i was awakened by her pulling the blanket off me and yelling at me, i was made to strip it off right there in front of them, that made me feel realy dirty and ashamed, my parent wanted to put me in counseling but coudnt afford it. i never realy stopped cross dressing and now that i have been married for 9 years have finely found the courage to tell my wife last week. come to find out she is realy open to the idea and loves the thought of me playing the part of the wife some times. she is the first person i have ever told and now i feel like i can be the person i was born to be, the feeling is great, not having to hide it and not feeling guilty, she even took me shopping for my own outfits day-wear and night-wear. im in heaven i finely feel whole.

Oh, I didn't see this the first time around. Congratulations on coming out to your wife, Amber. That's wonderful!

I was caught several times when I was about 10 or 12. Both of my sisters caught me at one time or another, but somehow I dithered enough that they literally forgot about it. Phew.

My mother caught me and confronted me, and made me go to an awful therapist, whom I refused to speak to. Everything about it was terrible, although she wasn't angry. She was just obviously mortified, which made me want to immediately be struck dead. I didn't have any shame about my gender issues beforehand, though I sensed it wasn't something that I I should discuss. After that I deeply hated myself for years. I had a fantasy world where I could be a girl as long as nobody else was let in. She destroyed it.

Hi, I was never caught in full dress but i was questioned on several occasions about why I had eye shadow  on or make up that I did not take off properly. when I was about 10 my brother noticed that I was wearing my sister's panties . He never let me forget it to this day.

thank you Alyssa M. i know just how you feel. on a brighter note i just got my nails done for the first time and i love them. lol have to hide them from my dad as i work with him but there great.

thats awsome Alyssa.
Dominique

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By the way  how do you think you'r going to hide your nails from your father ,are you going to wear gloves or something.One time I applied nail hardener on my nails it makes them look shiny and people kept asking me if I had nail polish on,I told them no it was just from a good diet.they bought it .I think.
Dominique

once when i was about ten my brother saw me wearing panties and told my mam but not me. she told me to ''Please stop coz my bros (younger than me) were really confused''. she didnt get mad but she wasn't thrilled i was mortified  I came out as trans to her a year later but she thought it was just a phase 
Another time i put on clear nail varnish and coz it's shiny 2 girls at school asked bout it, I denied it of course but i ended up being good friends with one of them for years and she has since said she always thought i was gay lol

So if you wannabeclaire should I call you Claire which I think is a very pretty and sexy name.Anyway thanks for answering me.I'm glad you made one good friend from that experience.Have you used nail varnish since then?

Yea call me claire I wanted that as my username but i think it was taken

I've used it a few times but i didn't put as much on. That was the first time and i really went for it!

I just thought that i hav'nt seen that girl in years coz she moved away years ago and when your that young you don't stay in touch

Yes I know how you feel sort of.I think its hard to make friends when your young and a bit different from other kids.I have friends now  but I also have 2 lives . My cd life and my "other life" all I need to do is bring them together as one, and to do that I have to come out and that still scares the crap out of me.

yes i use gloves to hide them. im not ready to come out with my parents, they are so closed minded to that part of the world that i think if i told them it would kill my mom. but i am glad i can talk to my wife and bring my two lives together at least at home. it realy does help with that lonely feeling. i have used the nail hardener alot before and like it but wanted to go with a full nail. i loved it i cryed when i had to take them off ( cant realy hide them from the kids ).

I really empathise with you ,it's so hard to come out to family or any one for that matter.I still havn't but I am out as gay.
lol Dominique

had today the right to a lecture on how to dress and act like a man, it seems that man can only wear a few colors like black and dark blue and that it is not very manly to wear color that are light. of course any thing that has any decorations is not for men ect.......

well today i had my first outing as a woman with my wife, a girls day out so to speak, we went shopping at the mall and went to a wig shop so i could get my first wig. it was a lot of fun and felt great to get out of the house. i will have to post some pics some time. anyway just thought you might like to know, oh i came out to my sister-in-law and it realy has helped a lot. its great to have this site but there is nothing like having a support group of people that are close to you.

MY daughter was only 4 years old and she awoke late at night and caught daddy in a dress and cosmetics. She was only a little confused. She sawit several times afterward. She is 28 now and I think she still remembers because she asked one time if I was gay. A common misconception. My wife was OK with me crossdressing. She even bought me clothing on occasion. However one time she found lipstick stains on a male clothing item and accused of cheating. The  stains came from my lipstick. She didn't beleive it. But that's alright. That relationship was cascading downhill anyway.  My mother caught me once. But I had informed her before so she said if it made me happy I should do it.      ByBy, Genevieve

Hi Genevieve,when I was 10  yrs old my brother saw that I was wearing my sisters panties,it never came up until years later during a family argument when he had nothing else to say he threw that at me in front of alot of people.However it turned out that my mother and my sister knew all along but never said anything.It was embarrassing at the time but its ok now but also I think that because I am gay they accept it more.I don' t get that part though.
Dominique.

A friend of mine whom I had work with on a Navy contract referred to me as brother because we close friends. One evening I was at a local club and the friend came in and was going to approach the pretty redhead. After I spoke  he realized who it was. He no longer calls me brother. It's sister instead. OK, that's fair for me. Genevieve

Quote from: Tori Lynn on December 29, 2008, 10:34:02 PM
That's an awesome story.....maybe the fear of coming out and being yourself is far worse than keeping it all inside. after all if people can't except us for who we really are then really what's the point? I feel much happier and friendly being Tori because I don't feel so.......phony?

I have been found out several times and it is as if a burden is lifted off my back.  Billie