My ex used to snoop into what i was looking at.  Surprise most the cookies were where?...........Hum let me think..........Here. 

But porn is something else again.  It may point to an addiction.  And that he might not want face up to, even in his own mind.  If you can work it out and he is willing to find therapy, you two might make it.  But if you don't, remember you are with family now.  We are here for you, Tam

Janet