Jerica's personal post about two detransitioners makes me aask:  who among us living now full time as the opposite to our birth sex could face detransitioning?

I just cannot imagine any situation whereby I would voluntarily or involuntarily detransition.

Offer me £XXXXX per year work if I go back to work as male and I'd say 'Keep your money.'

Hold a gun to my head and say 'Make a bonfire of every bit of female stuff you own and put these male clothes on or I'll kill you' and I'd say 'Pull the trigger.'

So who could detransition and on what grounds?

I couldn't pass for a guy when I was supposed to be one nearly 40 years ago. A few years ago, while dressed in totally male work clothes and giving NO hints as to gender (or so I thought) I was still ma'amed by a total stranger so I don't think 'detransition' is even possible.

I'll kill myself before I detransition.

Totally, 100% serious.

From the moment I realized transition was an option, it's, for me, a one way street, I either make it or I die along the way, but there is no going back.

Quote from: Dee_pntx on August 26, 2010, 03:22:19 AM
I was full time back in 1991 when I met a woman and she asked me to marry her.
She had two small children that I accepted as my own without reserve.
I decided that it was more important that the kids have a father figure so I slowly detransitioned over about a three year time frame.

I lived as a man so I could be their dad.

My kids are now 23 and 25 and my daughter has two sons of her own.
I'm a grandmother now.

I love my kids with all my heart. They are everything to me.
Yeah, I lost like 16 years of transition time but I got two wonderful kids in exchange and two beautiful grandsons. I wouldn't trade them for anything!

After they grew up and moved out I began to live my life for ME.
I resumed transition and now I'm about to wrap it all up.
And I have the full and total love and support of my kids.

You can't buy that with any amount of money.

THAT was my reason for detransitioning. I think that was a worthwhile reason.

(Pardon my typos, I'm on my iPhone in bed.)

A truly heartwarming story Dee... I am genuinely full of admiration even if I may personally slightly diverge from you over father figures on the basis that Alison and I have fostered and thus I have effectively been the father figure whilst living as a woman. But I guess I'm just weird.

The important point is that you did what you felt was the right thing in your circumstances and you had a good outcome. It is so important to follow our consciences, so even if I might have done things differently I do totally get why you made this noble sacrifice.

Personally I can not really imagine a reason why I would detransition. In nearly 30 years have not found anything that I could do as a man that I cannot do better as a woman and for me that includes being a father figure. 

I can certainly see why someone would de-transition, it is a lot of hard work this transition malarky. I couldnt go back though, the only thing harder than transitioning was not transitioning

Over my dead body would I ever detransition.  However, thinking about being a male, thinking about what I once had, makes me feel sick to the core and I would rather die than become a man.

Kind regards
Sarah B

To detransition I'd need a lobotomy...

And nope will never volunteer for that.....

hmmmm....
Sure I will wear the clothes if you pay me well enough...but don't even think I am gonna go back to pretending to be and acting like that >-bleeped-< of a man I ussed to be.

Nope, I would never de-transition.

Still, as time goes by and memory of dysphoria fades, one could become as glib as some cis-gender people.
"Well, I don't know what the big deal is, I could live as the other gender."

Fortunately my memories are still strong.

Pay me lots of money!
Then sure I would wear whatever you want me to from bunny costume to a burlap sack speaking in whatever voice you want me to if you put enough zeros on the end of that sum I might be persuaded to sell you my hair and give you a big cheesy smile about it as you do.

However once the time period deal is concluded I would transition anyway. And then I'd prolly have enough money for FFS after such a deal.

Like Dee, I also detransitioned back 20 plus years ago, but mine was not so noble.  I did to have food on the table and a roof over my head.

I lost my job, was living on my own, could not find work.  In order to live with my folks for a while I had to be male.  I also got a job at this time, well actually bought a job.   I went to work for Aero Mayflower Transit Company.  Drove 18 wheeler for the next year,  married my love and tried my best to be that guy.

But as you can see I am back, this time for good.

No. I could never go back to being male. It was torture to begin with. It would be even worse the second time.

Give me 5 Million Euro and I'll detransition for a year. But only for a year. 

I can detransition to some degree or other for up to maybe a few hours. Assuming the Masonic charges against me at my Lodge make it far enough that we go to trial (in a few months, I'm estimating), I'll take out the earrings, wipe off the makeup, and put on a suit for the trial.

But the current draft of my remarks closes with:

QuoteRegardless of the terms by which my affiliation with the Lodge is severed, I will live my life without shame. I have been coming to terms with the fact that I am a transgender individual, assigned male, feminine-identified....

It's a bit of a technicality, as they all know way too much about my personal life from the details read off when the charges were pressed in the last business meeting. (Somebody had even gone to the Circuit Clerk's office to pull my petition for legal name change.)

But to meaningfully detransition? That would take a lot.

I know that for me, detransition would probably be a death sentence.  I think the only reason my dysphoria (before HRT) wasn't more severe is that I did not have a very masculine body in the first place.  The thought of being any more masculine makes me sick... the thought of going off of hormones and potentially becoming more masculine makes me sick.  Nope, couldn't do it.

My situation was a bit like Dee's only it was my own kids. I stopped transitioning when they were in high school so that it wouldn't be a burden that my sons had to carry with school friends, teachers etc. One of my sons' principle's called me one day to talk to me about my son having problems in school and when I answered the phone I was asked 'May I speak to <Insert birth name here> And I said "Speaking" He hung up on me. I cleared my throat and called him back, making sure I used a less masculine voice, "Why did you hang up on me?" He said "I thought you were a boy messing with me" Well, from that moment on I decided it was easier for my boys' if there weren't situations like that anymore. But, now they are both grown, out of the house and NOTHING can stop me now.


And oops. I apologize if posting here is a naughty...didn't realize which forum I was in =/

Quote from: Ashley4214 on August 26, 2010, 04:44:55 AM
I'll kill myself before I detransition.

Totally, 100% serious.

From the moment I realized transition was an option, it's, for me, a one way street, I either make it or I die along the way, but there is no going back.

This is exactly how I feel. It is much too painful to try to be him again.

even though its nice to read so many i will die first comments, i would be the same ofc i think the OP was asking of those thinking or detransitioning

anyone out there wanting to comment rather then turn  it into im not detransitioing thread, there are a zillion of those already

No is the simple answer. I understand that some people might be able to find a balance for a variety of reasons that allows them to detransition, but not being dramatic I think that if i was forced to "for my own good" then it would kill me. Pandora's box is open and like the story it's impossible to put it back in a box now.

Wow, full spectrum of answers but for most part they are black or white. I have learned that in this life saying, I do this or, I wouldn't is as much as having a wonderful dream and hoping for such to become reality. Fluidity of circumstances in life it self make for much unforeseen outcomes, we, for most part feel in control but opposite is true. It would be with anguish, anger, and frustration if I was faced with such dilemma but for one I can not say it wouldn't happen. I didn't start transition until my forties which by any standard is really late, the reason was my family. Yes at times I felt like puling the trigger but didn't because of the same reason which kept me going as man, family. I can only speculate on how hard and painful it must be for someone to detransition against ones own will, I respect those individuals for their strength and devotion. I sure hope I will never have to face this dilemma.