I went to see Erin and bare my soul.  I tried to tell her everything I felt and that I loved her and wanted nothing more than to be with her, but the words wouldn't come out.  She was cold, distant, couldn't look me in the eyes.  She was figety and moved around the apartment alot as if she was doing anything she could to avoid me.  She has never been this way to me before.  It felt like she and I were never in a relationship at all, at least on her end.  It wasn't even like being with Erin.  It felt like being with a stranger.   Before I left, I cried and she said nothing but, "I think what I need right now is a bestest friend.  I need to focus on me right now." That's it. her.  Before I left, she looked in my eyes and said, "I love you, you know." 

The pictures of me were still up on her wall.  The necklace I had made at the jewelry store for her was still hanging up.  I left tonight feeling like I had no idea what she was feeling.  We have been apart for 16 days since this whole break up took place.  How could she just up and stop loving me just like that?  I still love her with every part of me.  I don't know where to go from here.  She is the person I want to spend my life loving, but I don't know how to find out where I stand with her.  What should I do now?

You need to give her space to breathe. If she loves you that does not just disappear but can be easily masked if she is afraid. If you love her as you say you do you will understand and give her what she asks for even if it hurts. There is an old saying that goes something like-'if you love someone let them go'. Think of it like gripping dry sand-the tighter you try to hold it the more of it gets away. Like the song goes-"Hold on loosely but dont let go". Do not put any pressure on her to see your side but let her know that you are and will continue to be there-no matter what. Let your feelings flow but don't force them on her. If she wants to be with you she will let you know and you will know-when she is ready. Remember, her feelings have been hurt and that can take a while to get over.

Randi

Quote from: kreepykaylee17 on July 08, 2011, 08:10:28 PM
  For the first time since I had been there, she looked in my eyes and said, "I love you, you know." 
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  She is the person I want to spend my life loving, but I don't know how to find out where I stand with her.  What should I do now?

It seems she does stil love you. But has a lot to sort out.

She says she needs a friends right now. That sounds pretty good. Especially if she really loves that friend.

I suggest, relax, pick things up from here and take her and you, as you both come.