Dear Mandy
i truly hope you are feeling better today?
I would just like to add that you are no alone and even though there is little solace in my words, what you are going through is fairly normal for srs. We all suffer in different ways and to make what we once had into the thing of beauty it will eventually become was never gonig to be painless.
Just try to forget what has already happened and dwelling on that because it will just make things seem much worse and concentrate on your pain management, making sure you are inspected regular. Also ask the doctors / nursing staff what complications will look like so you know in your own mind what to look for. Also i asusme you are dilating now? make sure you never drop you guard and stop dilating just because it hurt, the next few months are the most important
This is all just part of you rights to passage, many of us have done this and i can tell you it does get better, much much better.
Form what you have say i suspect it is just the pain correct? the surgery went fine?
You will be fine you just need to try take deep breaths, get what rest you can and look to managing the discomforts, it is what we all had to do i can assure you and drive our loved ones to dispair with our complaining but life gets better.
We all had a few weeks of hell but out of that you are reborn, that is a small price to pay
Sending lots of happy thoughts