Yeah after a month I should be mobile enough to manage work but be 3-12 for 100%.

Hoping my freaky fast healing works long enough after surgery.

T is a killer can't wait to be fixed properly.

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a month in Thailand should be fun. is anyone going with you?

It seems peoples recovery times vary widely but months seems common. a girl I know here who had surgery in the beginning of October still hasn't gone back to work. I didn't ask but I'm presuming she's on long term disability.

Just me all on my lonesome apart from the net which will be my lifeline.

Will plan out what I can to enjoy whatever experiences I can before surgery and once I'm healed enough.

Recovery I'll take it as it comes but will likely gently push my limits when the time is right.

Hey all.

Finally got around to starting my SRS thread.

Jerrica's New Groove (Cosmetic SRS Chet 09-02-2017)

My FB will have the PG version of my trip but the 18+ (minus language) version will be on Susan's.
The ultra extreme hardcore version well that goes in my diary 

More than welcome to have a peek and throw any thoughts my way.
I'll be covering it all as best I can with the good, the bad and the very ugly in my usual spamfesty style.

Now I better go sleep or I'll be fit for nothing tomorrow

x

Haha fit forth nothing! Sounds so homely. Ima check out your thread Jerrica
Goodnight!

Well they say "Hope for the best and prepare for the worst" so here I am hoping and preparing.

Just in case anything goes wrong I wanted to tell yous I've enjoyed hanging out with you girls here so thank you and I love yous <3

Don't get your hopes up though I'll be back spamming the heck out of the net before you know it

Yea ,


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Oops.

Yea, you better come back to us girl!  Good luck and be safe!


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Nothing will go wrong Jerrica, now you go to bed and get some rest!
We will hear fromyou tomoro afternoon!,
Be safe, hugs Christine

Thank you both.

I know everything will be ok.

"What do we say to the God of Death?"
"Not today!"

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Hey Girls, so a little update on me,
I have had my third session at the laser clink, we have spaced the next appointment out about and I am to leave what facial hair I have left so she can see where it is at now.
Also my hair growth in the corner is fantastic, it just keeps coming in.
And on Saturday morning my mom told my dad that I am trans. He is absolutely devastated, I knew he would be bad, but not this bad, he has been crying the whole time, mum has never seen him like this.
I cried Saturday too thinking about it all. I wish I never had to do this.
It's so not fair for him, I was his first "son" I'm pretty much his favourite.
I hope he comes round.
I left him a message today. He replied nice enough, he said He didn't want to say anything to upset anyone for the moment so he has left it till he gets his head round in some more.
It has been a tough few days, on the brighter side I hit 7 months tomoro! :3
I hope ya'll are doing better than me anyway right now.
How are you all?

Love hearing about the hair thing though confess I still don't quite understand it.

Sorry to hear about your Dad's reaction but I'm glad it's done. No more hiding or secrets allowing you to have an open and loving relationship with everyone.


My own Mum had a unique view in so far as I was simply her first born and that gave us a special bond which I can feel too. She has been nothing short of amazing given I had basically died years ago then came back as me. Her immediate reaction was open arms and I'll never ever forget that day. Just to be a normal girl in my mum's arms with nothing but love was incredible.

My Dad is another story though and although he is supportive of me he's never really been the emotional type so I never managed to connect with him properly in the past and sadly I still can't find a way in as me either. I guess it's a guy thing that they think more than feel. I know he loves me I just wish I could feel it even once but in all honesty he is confused by me and I can forgive him that. I'll give him all the time he needs and hopefully some day I'll actually get to know him.

For now at least your news is out so no more hiding just be you. Your Dad is strong enough to deal with it in his own way and he'll come back when he's ready. I'd say his crying is a good start tbh.

Just chilling watching Vampire Diaries thinking I really should go to sleep. Probably will soon.

Oh and happy 7 months sweetie

Oh Christine, so sorry to hear about your dad. Give it time and he will remember how much he loves you and realize it doesn't matter. My dad has dementia so it is hard for him to understand. Mom still often calls me Russ/he/him but other times does remember to call me Jen. I think she is trying. She too will get better in time. It's hard for them because they say they have to mourn the loss of Russ. Of course, I keep telling them that I am right here and have never been happier in my life. I think they get it. It just takes time. Unfortunately, not sure how much time they actually have, especially Dad. He has Parkinson's on top of his dementia as well so it is a double whammy for him. He has a chair lift to take him up and down the stairs now so that is good for him.

Cool on the hair too. My thin area is getting better up there and my hair is getting longer so the longer hair covers the area well too. Not perfect yet but much better than wearing the wig. I have had many laser sessions as well but I am thinking I am about done since I think I have much more grey hair in my beard than dark. Might have to switch to electrolysis at some point. Can't really afford it yet. Trying to find a house too. Had one I really liked but it slipped away to another buyer. Now I am just waiting for new listings to come in so I can see them. Once in the house, I will be saving almost $1000 on mortgage compared to my current rent which is outrageously high. In fact, I have determined that at my current rate of spending (very little being discretionary), I will literally run out of money in July. My lease isn't up until August. My plan is to get out early and pay the early termination fee. The sooner I can get out of my apartment the better off I will be.  So I have been packing quite diligently recently trying to get everything ready so when I am ready to move, I will be packed and ready to get out. I am working from home 100% now so it really doesn't matter where the house is other than certain areas of town have better prices and I don't want to be too far from my son who I have with me every other weekend which I look forward to each time. He is a wonderful kid. He holds no judgement towards my new lifestyle at all. He actually enjoys doing the new girly stuff I do now with me.

Talk to you girls later. Love you all!

Jenny


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Well it keeps coming, X3 it is definitely weird, as Iv said before it grew in that kind of male pattern, I never lost hair, now it's simply filling in it's really quiet surreal.
And thanks, I hope he comes round, I feel terrible for him, and he is all on his own pretty much. I mean he can't hug anyone and take comfort that way. It was his harsh ways that caused the situation for himself, it's also thanks to his ways that I was so afraid to be me.
I guess this may be part of why he is taking it so bad.
Your family seem so cool Jerrica, seeing you all together in the family photos like that, I almost feel a little jealous? Maybe it's more just happy for you.
Yea it's out ther now, but still have to wait for him to calm before I make the big public announcement.
And thanks Jenny. Sorry to hear about your dad having that.
My grandad here in Switzerland had Alzheimer's
, it was not nice.
I always kept the fun going with him though, always included him. Made him feel so much better about it all.
That's great too that your hair is thickening too.
I hope the house hunting goes well.
Hopefully you get it sorted soon.
And your so lucky he is so accepting, so cute he actually goes along with your new girly ways.thats so nice.
I hope I can have my dad come round and accept me as his daughter.

He will. Give it time.


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Glad things are coming along well Jenny.

Nah Christine you are too nice to be jealous. I'll be first to admit though I have been unbelievably lucky since I got back especially with my family. And to be honest it's even more remarkable as the starting position was everyone hating/given up on a dead guy but fortunately they could see I wasn't him when I came back and kinda here we are.

Whilst your Dad has dug his own hole he does still possess a strength which he will hopefully use constructively to make things right. It is important that he knows just how big the choice is before him. He can accept you as his daughter or destroy his own world. Not a threat but from what I remember the 2 most realistic outcomes.

Any discussion has to be about him making his decision as yours is already set in stone and will not be changed. So the only one capable of changing anything is him.

He'll still have a bunch of pointless guy crap to deal to deal with in his head as I'm guessing he has zero experience or education on trans stuff. So for that side he can be helped but be careful that he understands your decision is not really a decision it is merely recognising a fact. You could no more choose to be tall, short etc.

From the outside many see a choice from the inside we know better. Would you be safe to approach him as you?

A bit direct but it can make it easier to separate you. I won't lie you know you look smashing and that for better or worse can make a massive impact (it may not be fair but it's the way it is).

Most guys think trans their brain short circuits to "guy in a dress" if he can see that's not the case maybe he'll be able to jump tracks.

I wish I was there so I could read him and deliver a hug to you ofc.

So many guesses and possibilities my head spins best I can do right now is just say I'm here if you need me.

Can hit me up through FB messenger if you need a friendly ear or pick a client I'll set it up.

I really hope things work out soon. You deserve so much and have been more patient than I can imagine.

Thanks Jerrica, you are spot on with your analysis.
Yes he still can fix things, that is up to him now, and yes I am a big obstacle right now, but it goes for the whole family. He needs to be nicer to everyone. He still has goodness inside, I know it, he has not been hateful to me in anyway so far. And he could well be, I know how he is.
And that is very true, it's up to him what he decides to do, my decision was made this time last year that I wanted to move forward proud of myself, and life.
I don't think I would be safe to approach him at all, it would be pointless. Plus I am abroad, and that is maybe for the best right now.
Maybe seing how I look would help, make it feel more real.
Yea that image they have in there heads does not help. Old ugly weirdo in a dress, has surely passed through his mind :/
The hug would be very much needed, and I'm sure you could read him, he ain't too hard to read.
Hopefully things come round.
Thanks for the words :3

Hey hon.

I know exactly what you mean and what he sees unfortunately. You know him best and more importantly you know you so make sure you are ok first. My offer stands though if I can be of any help just let me know sometimes just emptying your head can help.

I'm kinda thinking of having our paths cross in Ireland some day even if just for a moment to give you that long overdue hug.

You have so much trouble yet so much life and love within you I can't tell you enough in words how great you are so hopefully some day I will be able to tell you everything in a couple of seconds without saying a single word just a smile and a hug from a friend who has only ever seen you.

Take care  of yourself in the meantime honey.

As you say he has merely withdrawn which might be better than exploding but be warned if he's alone with only his own thoughts it could do him more harm than good.

I'd suggest the pic but I'm way too scared to do so as I don't know him but seeing his beautiful daughter happy smiling with her eyes sparkling might reach him in a way his own mind never could.

Thanks Jerrica! It helps a lot.
I will give him plenty of time, and hopefully keep things calm when we talk.
And if you are ever in Ireland you let me know, I will be home hopefully end of August!
Maybe him seeing how happy I am in a photo might help for sure, but that will be for when he calms done. Not dropping no more bombs for a while.
Thanks for all your help.