So I was going late to my endo appointment so I was going a little bit to fast down the highway, and, yes you guess, the police stop me.
Policeman: Do you know why I am stopping you ma'am
Me: I was going to fast
Policeman: Licence and registration ma'am
Me: "hands the documents"
Policeman: you gave me the wrong license!
Me: No, that is me
Policeman: Do you have another form of ID with a picture ?
Me: "gives him my employee ID"
Policeman: Well, I am going to give you a ticket for speeding, Wait in the car
Policeman: Please sign, and go slow ma'am
So, it is like I am so happy I pass and he called "ma'am." So I get to the endo, and in the parkinglot I look at the ticket, well what you know he marked me "F" under sex, and to topple the cake marked my eye color as hazel!
The bad news is that after all the speeding not to be late the endo was not there, they have cancelled my appointment and never notified me; add to that about $ 100 fine. But well I am still happy I am finally not misgender by my appearance
Hehe. Feels nice, doesn't it?
Sure it does, and I think only us undersand the magnitud of it
Thanks JenJen2011
I might be wrong, but I think if a cop makes a mistake on a ticket, you can challenge it in court and make it go away. Might be seen by some a low blow for transfolk to squeeze by on such things since the guy was being decent, but a hundred bux is a hundred bux.
Quote from: Kahlan Amnell on March 23, 2012, 09:55:27 PM
I might be wrong, but I think if a cop makes a mistake on a ticket, you can challenge it in court and make it go away. Might be seen by some a low blow for transfolk to squeeze by on such things since the guy was being decent, but a hundred bux is a hundred bux.
I totally wouldn't pursue that line of argument! You can't have it both ways: either the government treats us as F during transition - which is what we want - or they treat us as "guy in a dress," which we don't.
My totally pass moment was about 6 months ago I went in to get prescription filled and pharmacist asked me to sign this form to put in my file that I understood I shouldn't take this new med if I was pregnant or planned to get pregnant.
I didn't have something as direct as yours Stephe, but just this week someone at a pharmacy asked me if one of my HRT meds was for birth control. :D
Today has been an awesome day.
Let me preface this with I work at home and most days I see no one other than my wife and kids. So since I had an appointment with a potential new endo (my PCP had been monitoring my HRT after I came out to her) I dressed a bit nicer than normal. I had a ton of paperwork to fill out while I waited, but I got a double take from my nurse when she was double-checking by re-asking me questions on one of the forms when she got to female/male specific sections. Then when the Dr came in, he did a full stop double take and asked me to explain a second time when I told him I had come in for HRT monitoring.
Then I dropped off a new prescription and got the "are you pregnant/may become so" question. My PCP faxes everything in and we use the drive through so this was a first for me actually face to face.
I've been passing fine after FFS/BA and since I gave in and bought a hairpiece, but I really didn't expect to pass in those contexts so it really made my day.
My friend (who met me after transition) was trying to explain how tampons feel to a guy. She said she never really felt it once it was secure and then turned and asked me "Do you ever feel it?"
Another time, I was using my one friend's new DS, which has an interesting program that takes your picture and then lets you play a game involving shooting the pictures... Anyways, it identified my face as a "young female face" and she was like, "hey, they got it right"
Another time, with the same friend, we were talking about Modern Family and the gay couple on the show and I said something like "I love their baby" meaning I thought it was adorable. For some reason she took it differently and said "Well maybe you can be their surrogate"
yeah, I might have more, but I can't remember
haha. i would have done the same thing to you. you are so cute.
I was at Salleys buying some stuff for school, and the lady greeted me with "Hey hun". I was looking for stuff for an extra long time and then she said "Would you like some help, dear?" I asked for her help and went to check out. When I checked out, I had to give her my ID. My ID was taken about 10 days before I started HRT. Needless to say, I was easily ID'd as male on that picture. She looked at it extra hard, gave a look like *There's no way this is that person*, raised the ID to look at me, looked at my debit card to check to see the names matched, and got a smirk on her face like *weirdo*. Her demeanor totally changed from sweet and helpful to "Here you go, now leave".
Well, I had to go back in to get some more supplies. This time she dropped the "hun" "dear" "sweetie" nouns, and treated me like someone would normally treat a guy.
Coincidentally, that's the first time I've ever gotten that look, too! And I don't mind it at all in that particular instance!
PS.. I was wearing male clothing!
I sold my old car last week, and all of the documents were under my old name.
Rather than go down the " I am trans, now please buy this car" path I just told the fella I were selling it for my brother.
He was a priest and a nice enouh felllow, so we talked and somehow the conversation came to how he was trying to mentor and prevent kids going down "devious paths like drug addiction and homosexuality."
Wow when I heard that my head about exploded, as I am a transexual and recovering drug addict! As he continued I thought to myself "wow what a total moron, this bloke hasn't a clue what he just did!"
Oh I wanted to tear him apart, but nooo I was selling a car, so I bit my tongue and said "oh *forces smile* thats a topic I could speak about for ages, we'd best not go there!"
Haha he bought the car too muahhaha! Suckerrrrr!! ':icon_dance: :icon_dance:
Hmmm I haven't been thinking about passing for a while, but the department dealing with my housing suddenly started mailing out letters with "Ms" to me consistently without me ever telling them to change it. I have absolutely nooo idea what triggered the change...
So... where is the old you-know-you-pass-when thread anyway?
The best one I ever had was when I went to my new doctor. As she was asking those "getting to know you" questions, she asked about operations. So I told her about my iliac-arteriole bypass, carotid arteriole surgery and my orchiectomy . At which point she stops and asks me if I know what an orchiectomy is. And I said yes, then explained I was Trans. "Well I would never have guessed that". "I guess we can skip the 'when was your last period' question." (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
I love my doctor. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-5.gif&hash=cfc7a68438be4575d8493dfbe65d1b3586f10b81)
When your therapist tells you "Do you think you can get a job as a male?" "It's hard for me to see you as a male when you come in looking like you do" (in full femme)
I think the best one for me was when a restroom conversation with a coworker about clothes turned to bras and she was thankful that I was able to advise her of a store in the area (and near our workplace, too) that deals in the sizes department stores don't stock, mainly cup sizes far larger than DD.
Also, showering and changing in the women's locker room at my employer's gym after my workout and before going to my office (not something always available; this locker room has individual tiled shower stalls with privacy glass doors that have strong magnetic latches.)
I've certainly found some advantages to changing jobs from the one where I transitioned and being only known as who I am today (I'm not "stealth" as such, but I don't consider the topic germane.)
A few months back a cashier at Walmart's yelled "wrong bathroom" as I was entering the men's bathroom.
Well, today, an employee was sitting outside another walmart bathroom. She gave me a filthy look when I entered the men's room. Well, when I came out, the store manger was waiting for me, an he proceed to tell me that: "the Ladies rooms are perfectly clean, and I do not need to go in the men's room." I just nodded OK, and left. Then just outside the door I laughed so hard. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Quote from: peky on April 27, 2012, 01:30:50 PM
A few months back a cashier at Walmart's yelled "wrong bathroom" as I was entering the men's bathroom.
Well, today, an employee was sitting outside another walmart bathroom. She gave me a filthy look when I entered the men's room. Well, when I came out, the store manger was waiting for me, an he proceed to tell me that: "the Ladies rooms are perfectly clean, and I do not need to go in the men's room." I just nodded OK, and left. Then just outside the door I laughed so hard. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Lol that is AWESOOMME! I have been to walmart here in Florida maaany times and the womens' toilets are NOT "perfectly clean"! They let the rubbish bins overflow as if it were sport, and usually the general pong over everything has me running out as soon as possible. Its disgusting!
If I may ask...what on earth are ya doing even going into the men's toilets? If there were a ftm in the women's toilets who looked the exact male equivalent to your female self , well I'd be a bit freaked out and think he's a perv!!
Quote from: MiaOhMya! on April 27, 2012, 02:01:19 PM
If I may ask...what on earth are ya doing even going into the men's toilets?
I want to say: "old habits are hard to break," but I will lying. So, the truth is that I am afraid of going to the women's bathroom
Ha! The girls bathrooms at my school are filthy... I'd rather go in the mens, except I don't want to go in there when there's another guy in there. Talk about awkward!
Well if youre at the point where the manager tells you to use the womens, then you need not be afraid. I was too afraid to go in the Mens actually, that is why I started using womens. Really no one notices...ever. I say use the womens room and it will be alright...and yeah dirty.
Quote from: MiaOhMya! on April 27, 2012, 10:45:54 PM
and yeah dirty.
Well the mens room stinks to hell and back. I usually try to just hold it.
You catch a flight with Air France, and they all refer to you as Madame despite what your ticket says (I noticed that the French like to put you in one gender box or the other).
Currently on a work trip to Saudi Arabia (yes you read that right). After the experience of the transatlantic flight (where I thought I was flying as male), I decided when transferring at Paris to bind my chest, tie my hair back and butch it up. Made it through Saudi customs, but didn't half get weird looks and double takes (especially in the men's room) in the airport.
Ok, so one of our friends calls and is talking to me and needing to vent about all the "inspectors" that keep showing up for his new salon out of his house. And then he mentions that this woman who we've met before is finally starting to harass him enough for him to get a restraining order. She is like 20+ years older than him and decided that she needed some sex and was going to get it from him. Never mind that he has told her tons of stories about his ex-boyfriend that lives on the corner. She just keeps showing up out of the blue and trying to waltz in even if he is working with someone right then.
So anyway he also mentions that she said to him the other day "I thought you said they were married." So he said yes they are. And then she said "I know she is a woman too. They can't be married."
When you haven't shaved in a day or two, you walk into a place wearing male clothes and no makeup, and you still get maam'd.
....When you take a picture in any and all angles and all you see is a woman.
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 07, 2012, 03:23:00 PM
When you haven't shaved in a day or two, you walk into a place wearing male clothes and no makeup, and you still get maam'd.
+1 to this..
I've used the men's room once since I went full time and that was at the movie theater. And OMG did I feel awkward. I mean like I was in the wrong bathroom with the wrong sex. I about had a panic attack.
My first experience of passing was when my wife and I were shopping at the Home Depot and one of the asked "Can I help you ladies find something today?"
Another time there was a kid named Kyle who had just graduated from High School who came to work in my area.
The conversation went like this:
Me: I know you!
Kyle: You do?
Me: Yes. High School graduation. You are friends with my Daughters.
Kyle: Who are your Daughters?
Me: Tori and Lacy.
Kyle: You're Tori and lacy's Mom?
Me: Errr.....yea?
Meanwhile I was thinking "Crap! I was not expecting that kind of response. Awkward!"
Kyle: Tori will flip out when she hears I work with her Mom.
Me: She knows already! That's how I know you.
And there are the numerous times I've been called Ma'am on the phone. or at drive-thru's.
Quote from: Keaira on May 08, 2012, 12:34:13 AM
I've used the men's room once since I went full time and that was at the movie theater. And OMG did I feel awkward. I mean like I was in the wrong bathroom with the wrong sex. I about had a panic attack.
My first experience of passing was when my wife and I were shopping at the Home Depot and one of the asked "Can I help you ladies find something today?"
Another time there was a kid named Kyle who had just graduated from High School who came to work in my area.
The conversation went like this:
Me: I know you!
Kyle: You do?
Me: Yes. High School graduation. You are friends with my Daughters.
Kyle: Who are your Daughters?
Me: Tori and Lacy.
Kyle: You're Tori and lacy's Mom?
Me: Errr.....yea?
Meanwhile I was thinking "Crap! I was not expecting that kind of response. Awkward!"
Kyle: Tori will flip out when she hears I work with her Mom.
Me: She knows already! That's how I know you.
And there are the numerous times I've been called Ma'am on the phone. or at drive-thru's.
That is so funny, LOL
The closest I have gotten was going to a dermatologist about my skin not looking very good after electrolysis.
The doctor asked me what medications I was taking and mentioned spiranolactone and estradiol. She got a puzzled look on her face and asked, "Why are you taking those?" I replied, "Well, because I am transgendered." "Oh, are you a female to male?"
So being a M2F, I at least got confused as a F2M. Yay?
I would get mistaken for an FtM before I started HRT every time I told someone I was trans.
I was with some friends who don't know I'm trans yet (so obviously in boy mode). We were at a restaurant.
Waitress had been "maaming" me the entire time. She comes up to us with our tickets
Friend: "Me and her are together, and these 2 gentlemen are separate"
Waitress: "Wait... haha... that's funny. Why did you call her a gentleman?"
Friend looks at me with the strangest look in his face and laughs.
Friend: "Huh??"
Waitress: "That's a girl... why would you call her a guy?"
Friend is slightly confused... I'm just looking at the waitress with a smile
Friend: "That's a guy... his name is ..."
Waitress: *She looks at me really closely* "Oh my God... I'm sooo confused.."
Friend: "What do you mean, you can't see he's a guy?"
Waitress: "Uhh..." She looks at me "Say something!!"
I say something in a rather female tone
Waitress: *Pauses with an even more confused look on her face* "Wait... Ok I'm still confused... so you used to be a girl and now your a guy? Oh god I'm so embarrassed!!"
I'm just looking at her with a smile, enjoying every minute of her embarrassment and confusion.
Friend: "No... he's always been a guy..."
Waitress: "But I... I don't get it, you look like a girl!! I mean how did you?" as she is moving her hands around her face, indicating that my face looks feminine
Friend: "He has really pretty hair! You're looking at his hair! He's a cosmetologist, I mean you wouldn't eat from a skinny cook would you? It's his advertisement!"
Waitress: "Ummm... I am sooo embarrassed. I'm SO sorry!!"
Me: "That's okay! You can make it up to me by coming by my school and getting your hair done! I go to school at ..."
Waitress: "Oh God... I DEFINITELY will! I promise *my real name*! I'm so sorry!!"
It really made my day, lol!
That's awesome Alaina! I had an experience where my gf and I were buying jacket potatoes and when I payed she said: there you go girls, even though the only thing particularly femme I was wearing was nail polish! Made my day.
Oh and on the phone a taxi driver wouldn't believe that Stef wasn't short for Stephanie. I kept insisting it was just Stef not short for anything. In the end I just said "Yeah it's short for Stephanie" to get him off the phone. :)
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 11, 2012, 10:44:51 PM
I mean you wouldn't eat from a skinny cook would you? It's his advertisement!"
That's epic Alaina! :D
I've also always loved that, but I've always wondered, does that mean never trust a sober bartender...?
My favorite confusion moment was sometime last year. I rented a car from Enterprise to drive to my doctor's appointment in Indianapolis. And you know how they have someone pick you up from your house to take you to their office, do the paperwork, etc.?
Well the guy picking me up was an older gentleman. He pulled up outside my house and got out. I was standing outside waiting for him. He was looking at the house for a moment and I asked if I could help him.
He said he was here for John Finlay.
I said that was me.
And his eyes went wide for a moment and then he gave me a really weird stare like he didn't believe me.
"Funny, you don't look like a John..."
So I smile sweetly. I'm not in a skirt or dress or anything, just pants, blouse and coat.
So I went and got my wife and we got into the car. I turned to the Enterprise rep and asked him "So if I don't look like a John, who do I look like?"
He looks at me hard this time and I see the look of confusion again. My wife is in the back seat loving this moment. But the guy says, "Errr... must be the long hair."
The whole time he's driving I had a big smile on my face. I had finally confused the crap out of someone about my identity.
Quote from: Keaira on May 15, 2012, 12:22:10 PM
My favorite confusion moment was sometime last year. I rented a car from Enterprise to drive to my doctor's appointment in Indianapolis. And you know how they have someone pick you up from your house to take you to their office, do the paperwork, etc.?
Well the guy picking me up was an older gentleman. He pulled up outside my house and got out. I was standing outside waiting for him. He was looking at the house for a moment and I asked if I could help him.
He said he was here for John Finlay.
I said that was me.
And his eyes went wide for a moment and then he gave me a really weird stare like he didn't believe me.
"Funny, you don't look like a John..."
So I smile sweetly. I'm not in a skirt or dress or anything, just pants, blouse and coat.
So I went and got my wife and we got into the car. I turned to the Enterprise rep and asked him "So if I don't look like a John, who do I look like?"
He looks at me hard this time and I see the look of confusion again. My wife is in the back seat loving this moment. But the guy says, "Errr... must be the long hair."
The whole time he's driving I had a big smile on my face. I had finally confused the crap out of someone about my identity.
I can only imagiine the poor guy. Very funny story !!!!
JDRF walk was today. Trialnet had a tent and we wanted to get our daughter tested for their research and also because it could let us know if she is predisposed to get type 1 diabetes too. We stopped in front of the tent and were trying to convince her to let them draw blood. One of the nurses came out of the tent and asked if she could help us. We explained that our son had type 1 and we wanted her to participate in their study so we could at least have an early warning. She looked at the two of us and then hesitantly asked "Oh, are they siblings?" We could tell by the expression on her face that because we are a lesbian couple that she just assumed we had adopted two children at different times or something like that (different donors/different mothers).
When you show a picture ID of your old self, fill out paper work with your male name, and STILL get ma'amd without a thought by the person taking the paper work and checking the ID.
... someone call you sir (for MTF or vice versa), your natural reaction is to look at the person like they're crazy.
That was a new reaction for me. :D
So, after another "this is not you" by a policeman, I got the gender designator changed from M to F. One more milestone down.
as one of my friend invited me to some party with other friend one guy where explenation how his children had notice the diffrent in girls and boys.
him: "my son tells gender like this"
point at lady" you have a vegina"
point at my friend: "you have a penis"
point at his wife "you have a vegina"
point at me "AND YOU! HAVE A PENIS"
I was not packing and was wearing tight jean, and even so he said penis..
OwO.............
thank you all Ladies and Gents for sharing your stories, you made me a little less lonesome
Peky, If I were you I would have kept it saying M for male, and then ask the officer "What can I do to prove that that's me?" And then look suggestively at my crotch.
Quote from: MagicKitty on June 11, 2012, 11:11:26 PM
Peky, If I were you I would have kept it saying M for male, and then ask the officer "What can I do to prove that that's me?" And then look suggestively at my crotch.
That is so funny, LOL, but I tuck, so no bulge there, and with B size bosom, no wonder they get all.....
In any case, I am very serious with any officer or anybody in position of authority, you never know how they may respond to a joke, lough or beat you to pulp or jail you.
As I was leaving for work, a guy came up to me and asked, "Ma'am, Is this your apartment here?"
He came close and told me that he was putting flyers in peoples mail boxes for Aaron's rental store. A new one is opening up in town.
And this one is a daily for me: There's a collection agency or something that calls for my wife every day. I always get called Ma'am when I answer. Even with my voice being really off because of this cough.
We had a notary over to sign some legal papers. There was a question about children on the form and she said "You don't have any children, of course." Even funnier is that Shannon had yelled up to them when she came in, but in her mind lesbians don't have children. This was even better than my prior JDRF walk lesbian couple comments about our children being siblings.
It was a HUGE help since I'm under tons of work stress and then we're also fighting the insurance to pay for cabinets from our water damage in early April.
When men hit on you in front of their friends. Or in public in general.
An easiet cue telling me that strange women recognize me as woman is the physical distance between them and me. They no longer afraid of me, approaching me without hesitation. Their bodies easily touch me, sometimes while sitting beside me. In public place, they stand closely with me. Even some aged woman grasp my hands. Frankly speaking, I like it when a beautiful lady sits next to me in public bus, and her shoulders touch mine.
By the way, police in my country are too busy to stop any driver. They mostly depend on CCTV cameras. I have never been checked by police in this country. They are infamous for ignoring even emergency calls. http://view.koreaherald.com/kh/view.php?ud=20120409000979&cpv=0 (http://view.koreaherald.com/kh/view.php?ud=20120409000979&cpv=0)
Barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on June 15, 2012, 04:59:50 PM
An easiet cue telling me that strange women recognize me as woman is the physical distance between them and me. They no longer afraid of me, approaching me without hesitation. Their bodies easily touch me, sometimes while sitting beside me. In public place, they stand closely with me. Even some aged woman grasp my hands. Frankly speaking, I like it when a beautiful lady sits next to me in public bus, and her shoulders touch mine.
Women, the bunny rabbits of the world. :P
Is it weird that I find it vaguely insulting that people are so unafraid of me that they routinely violate my personal space? That and I'm not exactly the most graceful person. Stand three millimeters away from me, dude, and I'm totally going to accidentally hit you with my bag. And yes that WAS my foot. And do you really need all of your seat and 1/3 of mine as well? Couldn't you move your damn leg, jackass?
The joys of public transport. Not that I actually say any of those things. I just grin and bear it (without the grin).
Obviously I need more piercings and visible tattoos and maybe clothing with spikes. Grr!
I have a good one.
I was standing outside a bar in a pretty run down, dark part of downtown. A girl came out of nowhere behind me as I was walking and I look back at her startled.
This conversation took place:
"Oh I'm sorry, I'd be startled too."
"That's okay, you look a little startled yourself."
"Yeah well, I've been mugged and raped here a few times, and this strange guy under that bridge over there just started talking to me."
"Oh my God that is awful! Where are you going honey?"
"Home, it's just up the block"
"Well do you want company?"
"Yeah, omg I'm just really scared because of that guy under the bridge"
So I walked her home.
I figure a girl that was startled by a guy just before talking to me wouldn't let anybody who she saw as male walk her home :)
When 3 out of 4 people call you miss and you're in a dress shirt, slim guys pants, and have hair only a little bigger than a buzz cut. gahh.
Quote from: Sarah7 on June 15, 2012, 06:30:19 PM
The joys of public transport. Not that I actually say any of those things. I just grin and bear it (without the grin).
Obviously I need more piercings and visible tattoos and maybe clothing with spikes. Grr!
Yes. Invading someone's personal space is a ubiquitous problem, although the space is not clearly defined by law.
My country is a most croweded in the world, while I observed that North American people do not heavily rely on public transportation as European or East Asian countries. Touching somebody's shoulders is generally allowed here in the street, although it could be accepted as being rude in North America.
Because of this, I have observed that male passengers from N. American tend to stay in their seats, trying best not to touch me. Although their body size is generally bigger than males in my country, they fold their arms throught flight. I am always thankful for this. However, Korean men easily invade my space, although they are far shorter than me. Most of them spread their legs while sitting on seats of public transportation. Very bad habit. Some aged men sometimes intentionally touch my shoulders. One of them occupied a half of my seat. I once shouted and clearly warned him not to touch me any more.
Spkes would be nice, and a small device for electric shock can be developed for people like me, so that I can power it off when women sit next to me ;D.
Barbie~~
Yes, it's a general problem in Asian cities where public transport is generally very crowded. Where I am from, many men think they can touch women under the guise of the bus / train being crowded, but women generally know it... but it is difficult to actually speak up when it happens and most of the time, such men get away with it...
And besides public transport, there are many more instances of hidden cams than in Western countries. I'm paranoid about it even though I now live in a Western country... I'm scared if there seems to be some kind of hole, or even a funny-looking screw, in fitting rooms for example, and always look at such things very carefully before I dare to start trying stuff on. >:( Such incidents seem to be on the rise as well, and I can't help but think it's because of the influx of Asians...
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on June 15, 2012, 09:49:27 PM
I have a good one.
I was standing outside a bar in a pretty run down, dark part of downtown. A girl came out of nowhere behind me as I was walking and I look back at her startled.
This conversation took place:
"Oh I'm sorry, I'd be startled too."
"That's okay, you look a little startled yourself."
"Yeah well, I've been mugged and raped here a few times, and this strange guy under that bridge over there just started talking to me."
"Oh my God that is awful! Where are you going honey?"
"Home, it's just up the block"
"Well do you want company?"
"Yeah, omg I'm just really scared because of that guy under the bridge"
So I walked her home.
I figure a girl that was startled by a guy just before talking to me wouldn't let anybody who she saw as male walk her home :)
Can you pack concealed in Louisiana? I was thinking that both you an the stranger woman could have ended death.
I admire your courage and sense of altruism.
Quote from: peky on June 16, 2012, 08:16:49 AM
Can you pack concealed in Louisiana? I was thinking that both you an the stranger woman could have ended death.
Only with a permit, which I don't have. Yeah, it was dangerous for me but I do know a few self defense moves so it was safer for me to be alone than her.
Same here in VA. I got myself a permit, and I do carry, specially at night.
I want to... but it's like 200 dollars and they have a bill in the works that would make it so you wouldn't need a permit. I hope it passes! I'm all for gun rights (being a libertarian).
Quote from: peky on April 27, 2012, 01:30:50 PM
A few months back a cashier at Walmart's yelled "wrong bathroom" as I was entering the men's bathroom.
Well, today, an employee was sitting outside another walmart bathroom. She gave me a filthy look when I entered the men's room. Well, when I came out, the store manger was waiting for me, an he proceed to tell me that: "the Ladies rooms are perfectly clean, and I do not need to go in the men's room." I just nodded OK, and left. Then just outside the door I laughed so hard. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
lol. nice! i had a moment like that, but it was when i first started going fulltime, at work where i came out, and started the full time transition, waay before hormones, i worked at arby's btw. still used the mens room, up until one time i went in, and couple guys said, hey, your in the wrong bathroom. at that point i started using the womens room. havent been in a mens room since.
and to the OP, when women talk about menopause to you as if your really going to experience it, the good ol' wait until this comments, and when lil 5yr old girls look at you play with your hair and say "your soo pretty!" =D OOORRR, when customers at your work, ask you out, you turn them down, and it gets to the point where they are basically begging asking "Dont you just want to F***?!" >.>
...(idk about the usage of that word, but it is a direct quote, so im sry)
lol OORR, when guys walk by look at you, and you can hear the Daayuum comment from them as they pass. <.<
At work today:
Charley (Co-worker and friend) had some issues with his press so he called me over the radio about it and I told him I would be right over. When I get there I asked him what was wrong. he explained he was getting oil on some of the parts from the press. Then he added:
"Oh, BTW, great job with the voice!"
Me: Huh? *blank stare*
Charley:It sounded really feminine. took me a minute to realize it was you.
Me: Errr... that was my normal voice. I didn't do anything to change it.
Charley: .....Oh..well,... it was good...
Me: .....yea... Anyway....
o.O
Lol Keira I love your Valeo stories! I imagine you, this beautiful person heading to this hot, hellish place every day...just to put up with more rubbish. I greatly GREEEATLY admire your persistence cus I'd absolutely have said some really smart things to them by now. You must have the Buddha discipline or something of the sort to persist as you do. I really do admire you!
My story: well apparently both me and my boyfriend (FTM) pass. I was at the service station and sent my boyfriend to work the pump as he is a gentleman and I am lazy. There was a beggar there, so I gave him a dollar....he then hit on me, and I was not flattered and ignored him, then I went and sat in the car. My bf comes running up from paying for the petrol inside, and the friggin fella says to him "hey does your mom smoke cigarettes? I sure could use one."
Yea ya dirty vagrant, I am the mother of someone who is 8 months younger than myself. I suppose its passing, yea, so thank you and ->-bleeped-<- YOU TOO!!
I recently bought my first bathing suit -one piece- and looking at the mirror: Oh! Horror!!! I have some love handles. I wore it to the pool any way, LOL
So, because I have packed a few pounds I went around shopping for a Gym. I went to a popular local gym, and after talking to the service lady, she proceeded to show me the gym, including the "ladies changing room," which by the way have some private changing areas!! So, I sign in.
So, I guess, even with my raspy voice I am doing well at passing. I think my B cup girls help a lot LOL
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on June 15, 2012, 03:03:09 PM
When men hit on you in front of their friends. Or in public in general.
lol, I had this happen to me once a few months after going full time. I was meeting up with some friends at a local sports pub and this guy hanging out with his buddies hit on me. I thought he was mocking me so my reaction to his compliments were sour to say the least. He got very confused.
My best one yet was a few years ago after a failed attempt at a fakie roll out on my bicycle (don't ask). The bike fell over on it's side, I fell on top of it landing on my belly on the end of the handlebars pointing straight up. I crawled into the examination room at the ER in t-shirt, jeans, ponytail and no makeup. The doctor examining me asked if I was pregnant :laugh:
Quote from: MariaMx on June 22, 2012, 12:55:36 PM
lol, I had this happen to me once a few months after going full time. I was meeting up with some friends at a local sports pub and this guy hanging out with his buddies hit on me. I thought he was mocking me so my reaction to his compliments were sour to say the least. He got very confused.
My best one yet was a few years ago after a failed attempt at a fakie roll out on my bicycle (don't ask). The bike fell over on it's side, I fell on top of it landing on my belly on the end of the handlebars pointing straight up. I crawled into the examination room at the ER in t-shirt, jeans, ponytail and no makeup. The doctor examining me asked if I was pregnant :laugh:
Oh! Maria, that is so funny, LOL
So, what was your answer? No yet? :)
Quote from: peky on June 22, 2012, 01:04:30 PM
Oh! Maria, that is so funny, LOL
So, what was your answer? No yet? :)
I was in serious pain at the moment and was fearing for my life pretty much convinced I had damaged inner organs so my answer was just a quick no, but my sister who drove me to the ER was standing right behind the doctor and I remember her biting her lip not to start laughing :D
Having medical personell ask if I'm pregnant is always the ultimate confirmation that I pass. I can never really tell because nothing ever happens. It's like I'm completely invisible to the world in my day to day life. Never any real feedback of any kind, but when they ask if I'm pregnant I go "Yes!!!" in my mind and tell them "No" :) It happened again just last year while having my blood drawn at my doctors office. My doctor knows I'm trans but apparently the nurses don't.
Me and my roommate went to a bar. When he was there, he saw a friend and introduced me. Previously, he had told his friend that his roommate is transsexual. For whatever reason (maybe he thought she put 1 and 1 together), he told her I was trans. I wasn't around, but I overheard her saying "Oh my god!! That's your roommate? I thought she was one of your girl friends!!"
He went on to tell 2 other people (with my permission), both of them were completely shocked.
Later on that night, a girl and her 2 brothers were sitting with us talking for a while. One of the brothers seemed very interested in me in that he was asking me questions and striking up conversation. Well, the bar closed down and while I was sitting in the parking lot waiting for my friend while he was on the others side of the parking lot talking to them in their car. Next thing I know, she gets out of the car and walks all the way across the parking lot to talk to me.
"So... your friend tells me you're transsexual... is that true?!!"
"*Sigh* Why is he telling my business again?"
"OH MY GOD NO WAY! I would have NEVER guessed! You look 100% like the real deal!!"
We started talking about it and she must've spent 30 minutes complimenting me on my looks. She went so far as to say she had several transgendered friends in New Orleans and I look more passable than all of them, including the FtMs. She also iterated STRONGLY that looks are the least of my worries.
Later into our conversation, her brother comes up to my car and asks for my number. So I tell him "I'll give you my number but... I'm a pre-op transsexual, ok?" He seemed okay with it but he hasn't called me yet, so apparently that was a deal breaker for him.
A few moments later, her other brother walked up to me and said that my friend outed me. He went on to say "Wow... I would've never known. If we talked more before I knew, I would've probably asked for your number!"
Sometimes the best way to know you're passing well is to just tell people. If people had a clue they won't be that surprised. If they had no clue they will make the biggest deal ever out of it, lol!
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on June 29, 2012, 12:53:50 AM
Me and my roommate went to a bar. When he was there, he saw a friend and introduced me. Previously, he had told his friend that his roommate is transsexual. For whatever reason (maybe he thought she put 1 and 1 together), he told her I was trans. I wasn't around, but I overheard her saying "Oh my god!! That's your roommate? I thought she was one of your girl friends!!"
He went on to tell 2 other people (with my permission), both of them were completely shocked.
Later on that night, a girl and her 2 brothers were sitting with us talking for a while. One of the brothers seemed very interested in me in that he was asking me questions and striking up conversation. Well, the bar closed down and while I was sitting in the parking lot waiting for my friend while he was on the others side of the parking lot talking to them in their car. Next thing I know, she gets out of the car and walks all the way across the parking lot to talk to me.
"So... your friend tells me you're transsexual... is that true?!!"
"*Sigh* Why is he telling my business again?"
"OH MY GOD NO WAY! I would have NEVER guessed! You look 100% like the real deal!!"
We started talking about it and she must've spent 30 minutes complimenting me on my looks. She went so far as to say she had several transgendered friends in New Orleans and I look more passable than all of them, including the FtMs. She also iterated STRONGLY that looks are the least of my worries.
Later into our conversation, her brother comes up to my car and asks for my number. So I tell him "I'll give you my number but... I'm a pre-op transsexual, ok?" He seemed okay with it but he hasn't called me yet, so apparently that was a deal breaker for him.
A few moments later, her other brother walked up to me and said that my friend outed me. He went on to say "Wow... I would've never known. If we talked more before I knew, I would've probably asked for your number!"
Sometimes the best way to know you're passing well is to just tell people. If people had a clue they won't be that surprised. If they had no clue they will make the biggest deal ever out of it, lol!
Having grown up in the LGBT community, I can tell you that outing someone, especially a TG person is a HUGE NO NO!! I have a rule that I plan to live by, and that is: if someone asks you if I am TG / TS, refer them straight to me for them to ask me directly and do NOT answer them!
I want to know who is asking, why they're asking, what their intentions are, and I want to get a good read on them before I out myself to a curious person whether I know them or not. Anyone who outs me to someone else without asking me first is someone who will never see me or hear from me again.
This was a good one
I was talking with my therapist, and we got to talking about guys.
He asked me, "Have you been hit on?"
I said, "I have"
To which he replied "I'll bet!"
big smile there
Quote from: Alexis on July 06, 2012, 08:48:56 AM
This was a good one
I was talking with my therapist, and we got to talking about guys.
He asked me, "Have you been hit on?"
I said, "I have"
To which he replied "I'll bet!"
big smile there
Hey, how could you not? You are Hottie!!! :angel:
My girl friend, who was also "missgender" at birth (like me) went touring downtown for several hours during the day, we sat in outside cafe and had brunch, and you now what? We did not get a second look or glance at all.
Quote from: peky on July 06, 2012, 10:14:00 AM
My girl friend, who was also "missgender" at birth (like me) went touring downtown for several hours during the day, we sat in outside cafe and had brunch, and you now what? We did not get a second look or glance at all.
And it was fun!...not that I would know or anything :P
I was somewhere changing my name and after telling the person who was helping me said "Wow your mother must have really wanted a boy, naming her daughter that!"
I later told her why she named me that, and she had to pick her jaw off the floor. Should've seen her when I gave her my old ID.
Sitting on the side of the F3 with a broken down van, the tow truck operator pulls up after having been given the call by my mechanic to pick me up. (Well the van really. Not me ::) )
I jump out of the van and the tow truck fellow immediately says, "Are you here alone? Where's your husband?"
I now recognise him as he has done a lot work for us over the years recovering broken down trucks for us and knows our fleet and the old me very well.
Quickly thinking I said, "Yes. He had to get some urgent news footage off to Sydney"
Well didn't he abuse 'my husband' for leaving this petite damsel all alone on this busy and dangerous expressway. He's going to have words with 'my husband' next time he sees him. Thank god I'm full time. ;D
So I did the right thing and stayed well away from the vehicles as he put it on the tray. On the way back to the mechanic he recalled lots of our business including the times he recovered my son at various times when his van broke down.
He hadn't a clue it was me. :laugh: He even rang a cab for me so it would be ready when we got back to the mechanic. He wouldn't done that for the old me. Tough luck son, get yourself home. You're big enough and ugly enough to fend for yourself, would have been his attitude.
On arrival at the mechanics, I was expecting he'd have been gone. Not the case. So I told him I'd leave the keys under his door as 'my husband' needed some gear out of the van which he would get later. The mechanic had no idea it was the old me either. god I didn't know I've changed THAT much. Both these people have known me for at least 20 years.
Oh; and yes the Postmistress is still giving me strange looks as if to say, "Don't I know you?" She's been doing the company mail for the past 10 years. She hasn't even twigged to the name change on some of the incoming mail. Several parcels have even arrived with my old name crossed out and Catherine written over the top.
I'll try and see if I have an old photo of my alter-ego and let you be the judge.
Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine
When you get in the club for free on ladies night
... and get drunk for free too!!
I was with my daughter in the pharmacy, and after I spoke to the pharmacist, my duaghter siad to me: "you have been paracting your voice," I said: "no, why," she said: "you sounded like a woman" I was just like wow, so happy
Quote from: peky on July 20, 2012, 02:55:25 PM
I was with my daughter in the pharmacy, and after I spoke to the pharmacist, my duaghter siad to me: "you have been paracting your voice," I said: "no, why," she said: "you sounded like a woman" I was just like wow, so happy
So happy for you girl! :D
You know you pass when (today) you're out to lunch with a few friends and when the waiter comes to bring everyone's separate checks he tells you that yours is on him. Yea, I felt bad about that one, but not for too long ;)
Quote from: Alexis on July 20, 2012, 08:27:32 PM
You know you pass when (today) you're out to lunch with a few friends and when the waiter comes to bring everyone's separate checks he tells you that yours is on him. Yea, I felt bad about that one, but not for too long ;)
Tip your head, smile sweetly, say Thank You and put your name and number on a $10 tip. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-4.gif&hash=34a3e40b48ee901ac7f4a696a28192c1777cff6e)
Quote from: Ms. OBrien on July 20, 2012, 08:33:05 PM
Tip your head, smile sweetly, say Thank You and put your name and number on a $10 tip. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-4.gif&hash=34a3e40b48ee901ac7f4a696a28192c1777cff6e)
Indeed! My friends are never going to let me hear the end of it I think
This just happened...
I went to Rally's to get some Asian Kick chicken wings, (Yummy!^_^) and was chatting with the girl at the window, named Sabrina. with as much as I order the wings I'm pretty sure she knows me by voice. We got onto the subject of weight and how I had gained some. I told her I was ***lb and she said "Nuh uh! you can't weigh that much with as small as you are!"
I told her that it's true, but I think most of it has gone to my butt.
She shook her head and then added, "Well, it's not that bad, guys like a girl with a butt."
I just smiled and said, "very true."
My wife just smiled.
I honestly have this complex that I feel like I don't pass well because I still get called by male pronouns at work by some people who knew me pre-transition, and I spend so much time there. Because of that, Sabrina's reply kind of threw me off a little. But a new hire there told me when she saw me she said to herself " Damn that's a big woman." referring to my build. then someone told her I was trans. And another woman asked my friend Cheryl when she hired in, "So, have you seen the guy who looks like a woman yet?"
Cheryl said that this woman had to point me out to her because Cheryl couldn't see who she was talking about.
Quote from: peky on July 20, 2012, 02:55:25 PM
I was with my daughter in the pharmacy, and after I spoke to the pharmacist, my duaghter siad to me: "you have been paracting your voice," I said: "no, why," she said: "you sounded like a woman" I was just like wow, so happy
Based on my voice, everybody knows that I am a man, with a few exceptions.
Barbie~~
Quote from: Alexis on July 20, 2012, 08:27:32 PM
You know you pass when (today) you're out to lunch with a few friends and when the waiter comes to bring everyone's separate checks he tells you that yours is on him. Yea, I felt bad about that one, but not for too long ;)
Eh.... My problem is a little bit different. People in my country usually recognize me as a kind of foreigner or exotic species, always speaking to me in English. Thus I like traveling abroad, because anyway I am a foreigner there.
Barbie~~
Yeah you know you pass when you start to get phone numbers from guys and girls
I had a quiet funny one recently. My husband and I were on vacation in Thailand and our driver asked us if we have any kids. My husband said no and the driver suggested he should go to the doctor to have his sperm checked :D
call a new endo for an appointment and explained I am transgender.
She asked: "are you FTM or MTF? "I
asked: "do I sound like a boy or a girl?"
She said: "kind of both"
I said: "well honey for you I will be whichever you want"
we both laughed so hard!!
When you walk into a restaurant in jeans, t-shirt, no makeup and everyone calls you miss or ma'am.
I love it.
When the Policeman who has pulled you over for a random breath check asks you for your licence and then asks you again for YOUR licence, not your husbands. And this was in broad daylight.
It took some time for me to stop :laugh: :laugh: , after he'd gone of course.
I went into town this afternoon and there was a woman using her phone next to her parked motorcycle (hot looking CBR 600, she wasn't bad either :D) As soon as I took off my helmet and shook out my hair, she realised I was a woman and said hello. If I was a man she would have ignored me I am sure.
Also had a comment from a male rider Saturday, that he liked seeing more women on bikes. Flirting maybe?
Karen.
Sure sounds like he was flirting Karen.
Enjoy ;)
Quote from: Silvrnite on June 17, 2012, 02:27:16 PM
lol OORR, when guys walk by look at you, and you can hear the Daayuum comment from them as they pass. <.<
Amen!
Quote from: Alexis on July 06, 2012, 08:48:56 AM
This was a good one
I was talking with my therapist, and we got to talking about guys.
He asked me, "Have you been hit on?"
I said, "I have"
To which he replied "I'll bet!"
big smile there
OMG! I'm sure you blushed
When you're at a store and they remind you that their store is a christian store :P
Or when you're getting your oil changed and they open the door for you with a sincere smile as you leave.
When you use a creditcard with your old male name and after you sign with your male name they say thank you ma'am. ;D
I showed one of my friends a picture of Keaira, since we chat every night and she was curious, and she said: "She's very pretty! But are you sure she is accepting of your trans issues?"
;D
Quote from: edderkopp on August 18, 2012, 04:53:50 AM
I showed one of my friends a picture of Keaira, since we chat every night and she was curious, and she said: "She's very pretty! But are you sure she is accepting of your trans issues?"
;D
LOL!
Yes, I'm pretty sure I don't have a problem with trans people. I have plenty of Trans friends and then there's this one girl I see in the mirror every day....
Quote from: edderkopp on August 18, 2012, 04:53:50 AM
I showed one of my friends a picture of Keaira, since we chat every night and she was curious, and she said: "She's very pretty! But are you sure she is accepting of your trans issues?"
;D
:icon_evil_laugh: :D
I had my first "serious" one when an old friend that I went to highschool with, that I recently ran into again, didn't even realize who I was and thought I was a cis male. Granted she knows about me now because we were good friends but it really made my day.
I got a pretty funny one today. I was trailing at a new job, talking to the woman who was training me. She had been gendering me with female pronouns the whole time but I thought oh it's ok she knows and is being cool about it. We got on the subject of kids, she mentioned she had 2 daughters, I said I cool I'd love a daughter , I have a boy. Her response was oh you are so lucky to have a boy, they are always so good to their mothers.. I just smiled and said "really?"
when I came out to my Mom yesterday, I showed her some pictures I had taken of myself. she actually said who is that, I was wearing a wig, but she really didn't know it was me when she saw them. then she said she could pass me on the street and not know it was me.
that's great Mom, but would you think it was a guy in a wig
well it's obvious it is a wig
yeah, but would you think it was a guy?
no! she said
she laughed, i exhaled
Although passing is not a priority for me, I do wear androgynous/women's clothes and look pretty feminine despite my six foot height.... my favorite passing was a while back in a fairly rough new orleans bar late at night... long line in front of the tiny male bathroom (the female toilet was around the corner). I wander up and stand with the dudes out of habit; i ain't making waves in a bar like this! Immediately, a burly looking dude sizes me up, grins, takes my elbow and with the greatest politeness ushers me around to the female toilet around the corner. Which by the way was nearly empty. I guess they don't see many ladies in there! :)
I walked into my work place after going to the stylist to talk to a co-worker and my boss asked "can I help you sir?" before realizing it was me. I'm pretty sure that just about made my life.
...you're in the bathroom washing your hands and a girl at the next sink takes off her shirt to adjust her bra (or something, I wasn't looking closely).
Quote from: rachl on September 10, 2012, 03:13:27 PM
...you're in the bathroom washing your hands and a girl at the next sink takes off her shirt to adjust her bra (or something, I wasn't looking closely).
ah! those wandering eyes LOL. Cool Rachl!!
When I can wear my guy shirts I had left over and still be maamed.
For voice: when you are trying to get info under an account that's in your old name, and people have to ask if you're calling for somebody else... and you're not even trying to sound like a girl!
Quote from: rachl on September 10, 2012, 03:13:27 PM
...you're in the bathroom washing your hands and a girl at the next sink takes off her shirt to adjust her bra (or something, I wasn't looking closely).
Oh my god xD I am sorry if this happened I would probably feel very nervous. Like omg omg omg if she finds out... omg omg omg I am so going to jail omg omg omg -runs out of the bathroom- SORRRY I GOTTA... I GOTTA GO USE THE BATHROOM!..
wait did I just say bathroom.. dummy Rita xD
Yea I would freak out probably, already am typing it up.
Quote from: Rita on September 13, 2012, 09:54:57 AM
Oh my god xD I am sorry if this happened I would probably feel very nervous. Like omg omg omg if she finds out... omg omg omg I am so going to jail omg omg omg -runs out of the bathroom- SORRRY I GOTTA... I GOTTA GO USE THE BATHROOM!..
wait did I just say bathroom.. dummy Rita xD
Yea I would freak out probably, already am typing it up.
It didn't faze me at all. It just caught me a little off guard. As I walked out, it was more like "Huh, that was odd." There's no way I can be kicked out of a bathroom on campus, and I'm "out" even though not really as visibly trans as I used to be. If someone *ever* confronted me (and no one has), they'd get a big earful and a lesson from me, and then I'd possibly report them.
Quote from: rachl on September 13, 2012, 11:45:01 AM
It didn't faze me at all. It just caught me a little off guard. As I walked out, it was more like "Huh, that was odd." There's no way I can be kicked out of a bathroom on campus, and I'm "out" even though not really as visibly trans as I used to be. If someone *ever* confronted me (and no one has), they'd get a big earful and a lesson from me, and then I'd possibly report them.
I have coined the term Bathroom Dysphoria, some of us have it xD
you get out of speeding ticket or get oil change for free
Quote from: Tristan on September 13, 2012, 04:29:17 PM
you get out of speeding ticket or get oil change for free
oil change for free?? that's a good idea for a new challenge! ;D
Currently I'm still happy that allways some nice helpful guy appears out of nothing when I've to cope with a flat tyre ....
Quote from: Arike on September 13, 2012, 05:18:33 PM
oil change for free?? that's a good idea for a new challenge! ;D
Currently I'm still happy that allways some nice helpful guy appears out of nothing when I've to cope with a flat tyre ....
I have a cis friend that wishes guys would do that for her. One day she was in her yard changing a tire and a guy sat there and watched her try to loosen a nut for 20 minutes until he finally helped her.
thats awful. some people are just not nice
To be fair, I can imagine guys that might otherwise had been happy to help thinking they don't want to potentially offend women. "What this, you think I need help just because I'm a woman?"
Quote from: Keroppi on September 13, 2012, 06:00:14 PM
To be fair, I can imagine guys that might otherwise had been happy to help thinking they don't want to potentially offend women. "What this, you think I need help just because I'm a woman?"
My ideology is, don't abuse your power to get things but if someone kindly offers a hand of generosity never deny it. So if someone wants to change my oil for free, heyyy thanks very much ^.^ Adios.
Today I was at an Applebees with my roommate. The waitress sat us and I just got this irky feeling about her. She kept looking at me from afar and the way she talked to me just felt... off, can't put my finger on it. It felt like she was trying not to break a smile or even laugh / giggle when she looked my way to talk. I told my roommate and he was like "Maybe she is trying to figure you out." ... which made me worry I was being clocked. I told him "Either that or she's gay!" ... he was like "psh I don't think so honey... Women look at other women all the time. Maybe she doesn't like you because you have prettier hair than her or something".
Well anyways, the feeling I got from her made me a bit nervous to talk to her or look her in the eyes while talking to her.
When she brought our steak out she asked us if we would like some A-1 with it, and he responded for us with a no. I told him that I wanted some but I didn't want her to think I was a pig (he teases me about eating like a pig all the time). Well.. he told her anyways and I said "NO that's okay!" to her. She said "Oh I'm gonna get you some, no need to be embarrassed about it!" ... right then I thought "Okay, she either clocked me or she's lesbian".
When he asked for the check, she mentioned something about winning $1,000 if we went online and filled out a survey, and she joked that we should share with her if we won it. I jokingly said back "Well maybe we will!" No idea why I said that, just my nice nature. Sure enough her eyes lit up and she said "Really? I'm gonna give you my number! You should call me!" ... and walked off, looked over her shoulder and said "You want me to give you my number?" while looking right at me.
Tim looked at me with just a jaw dropping shocked face. I was a little stunned by it myself! I didn't want to be mean and say I wasn't into women so I just said sure. She gave me her number, asked me my name... and after a moment asked Tims' name as sort of an after thought to be polite and that was that.
I cannot believe a rather pretty waitress gave me her number! He walked out laughing his ass off. I was sort of embarrassed and kinda sad because now I can't go back to that Applebees. Obviously I'm not going to call her, but the fact that I thought I was as good as clocked and it was in fact because she was checking me out was pretty big to me.
Now if men would stop just staring and looking away when I look at them and grow a pair and talk to me with more than that cute n cuddly voice, I'd be happier rofl!
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on September 21, 2012, 11:03:44 PM
Today I was at an Applebees with my roommate. The waitress sat us and I just got this irky feeling about her. She kept looking at me from afar and the way she talked to me just felt... off, can't put my finger on it. It felt like she was trying not to break a smile or even laugh / giggle when she looked my way to talk. I told my roommate and he was like "Maybe she is trying to figure you out." ... which made me worry I was being clocked. I told him "Either that or she's gay!" ... he was like "psh I don't think so honey... Women look at other women all the time. Maybe she doesn't like you because you have prettier hair than her or something".
Well anyways, the feeling I got from her made me a bit nervous to talk to her or look her in the eyes while talking to her.
When she brought our steak out she asked us if we would like some A-1 with it, and he responded for us with a no. I told him that I wanted some but I didn't want her to think I was a pig (he teases me about eating like a pig all the time). Well.. he told her anyways and I said "NO that's okay!" to her. She said "Oh I'm gonna get you some, no need to be embarrassed about it!" ... right then I thought "Okay, she either clocked me or she's lesbian".
When he asked for the check, she mentioned something about winning $1,000 if we went online and filled out a survey, and she joked that we should share with her if we won it. I jokingly said back "Well maybe we will!" No idea why I said that, just my nice nature. Sure enough her eyes lit up and she said "Really? I'm gonna give you my number! You should call me!" ... and walked off, looked over her shoulder and said "You want me to give you my number?" while looking right at me.
Tim looked at me with just a jaw dropping shocked face. I was a little stunned by it myself! I didn't want to be mean and say I wasn't into women so I just said sure. She gave me her number, asked me my name... and after a moment asked Tims' name as sort of an after thought to be polite and that was that.
I cannot believe a rather pretty waitress gave me her number! He walked out laughing his ass off. I was sort of embarrassed and kinda sad because now I can't go back to that Applebees. Obviously I'm not going to call her, but the fact that I thought I was as good as clocked and it was in fact because she was checking me out was pretty big to me.
Now if men would stop just staring and looking away when I look at them and grow a pair and talk to me with more than that cute n cuddly voice, I'd be happier rofl!
I laughed in rl imagining the entire situation as I read it. I can imagine the way you two left the place haha.
Alania
Your story made me laugh, too funny. :laugh:
Thanks
Caleb sent me this last night, it was a chat that he had with his friend. He let me repost it.
Jordan says: (10:53:23 PM)
You'll figure it out. You just need to be yourself.
Caleb says: (10:53:30 PM)
why does everyone say that lately?
Caleb says: (10:53:36 PM)
am i not being myself?
Jordan says: (10:53:40 PM)
Nope.
Jordan says: (10:53:45 PM)
Who else has said it?
Caleb says: (10:54:02 PM)
that woman who you talked with briefly over text that one night. keaira.
Caleb says: (10:54:12 PM)
she's said it a few times lately, seemingly out of nowhere and it confuses me
Jordan says: (10:54:39 PM)
You are held back lately. In a way, more so than when you were pretending to be a woman.
Caleb says: (10:55:08 PM)
hiw?
Caleb says: (10:55:09 PM)
how
Jordan says: (10:55:23 PM)
You're scared of something.
Caleb says: (10:55:46 PM)
hm. but keaira doesn't have past caleb as a reference.
Jordan says: (10:55:59 PM)
Ask her. I'd love to know if she thinks the same as me.
Jordan says: (10:56:10 PM)
Until then you aren't getting a word.
Caleb says: (10:56:13 PM)
:P
Caleb says: (10:56:18 PM)
oh hey
Caleb says: (10:56:24 PM)
speaking of keaira, i have a question for you
Caleb says: (10:56:43 PM)
you know how you asked if she was ok with me being trans?
Jordan says: (10:56:49 PM)
Is she?
Jordan says: (10:57:06 PM)
I wouldn't want you to be friends with someone who does not accept you fully.
Caleb says: (10:57:10 PM)
lol
Caleb says: (10:57:20 PM)
so you really didn't know that she is also trans?
Jordan says: (10:57:45 PM)
What?
Caleb says: (10:58:07 PM)
she is trans
Jordan says: (10:58:26 PM)
Like a woman who was in a man's body?
Caleb says: (10:58:30 PM)
yes
Jordan says: (10:58:52 PM)
Are you messing with me?
Caleb says: (10:58:55 PM)
no! lol
Jordan says: (10:59:25 PM)
Has she had a lot of work done?
Jordan says: (10:59:33 PM)
She is very pretty
Caleb says: (10:59:49 PM)
nope. no work at all, except taking estrogen
Jordan says: (11:01:21 PM)
Wow! She has a beautiful face.
Caleb says: (11:01:37 PM)
lol. i am so showing her this. she will love it. :P
Jordan says: (11:01:47 PM)
So
Jordan says: (11:01:50 PM)
Do you like her?
Caleb says: (11:02:05 PM)
lol. yes, i do. but she is married.
Caleb says: (11:02:14 PM)
so that's that
Jordan says: (11:02:59 PM)
Ugh I am so jealous of her
Jordan says: (11:04:03 PM)
Not only do you like her, but she is very pretty too.
Jordan says: (11:04:10 PM)
Does her husband keep a watchful eye on you? :P
Caleb says: (11:04:24 PM)
LOL. wife. die heterosexist scum!
Jordan says: (11:04:53 PM)
Oh so she is a lesbian.
Jordan says: (11:04:59 PM)
That makes me feel better.
Caleb says: (11:05:14 PM)
sorry, she's bisexual. lol. but as i said, it doesn't matter one way or t'other :P
Jordan says: (11:05:24 PM)
F***. Do you know where she lives? :P
Caleb says: (11:06:06 PM)
i know the general area...like the city. lol. that's it. why?
Jordan says: (11:07:22 PM)
Because I hate her. :P
Caleb says: (11:08:42 PM)
aw, i'm sorry
Caleb says: (11:08:48 PM)
i don't want to make you feel bad
Jordan says: (11:09:09 PM)
I'd be jealous of her even if you did not like her, because she is super pretty.
Caleb says: (11:09:22 PM)
that's funny, because she might be jealous of you since you are cis
Jordan says: (11:09:32 PM)
That makes no sense to me!
Jordan says: (11:10:38 PM)
It doesn't matter what she looked like before, because she is being her true self now.
Caleb says: (11:11:00 PM)
haha
Caleb says: (11:11:04 PM)
aw
Caleb says: (11:11:07 PM)
that is true
Jordan says: (11:11:39 PM)
She looks like she is a strong woman too. Not many of us around.
Caleb says: (11:11:44 PM)
how can you tell?
Jordan says: (11:12:11 PM)
I can see it in her face! She looks really confident.
Caleb says: (11:12:20 PM)
lol she hates when people say that
Caleb says: (11:12:28 PM)
she doesn't feel confident
Caleb says: (11:13:20 PM)
she doesn't even understand how she passes a lot of the time. as female.
Jordan says: (11:13:49 PM)
I can understand that. Well you can send her a big hug from me! She is a woman like any other and no different from me. Except maybe prettier.
Caleb says: (11:14:10 PM)
lol
Caleb says: (11:14:27 PM)
i'm sure this will make her smile
Jordan says: (11:14:53 PM)
Ha ha. You don't have to be transgender to have envious feelings, see?
Caleb says: (11:15:15 PM)
nope
Caleb says: (11:15:51 PM)
so charlie. i'm just going to log off for a second so i can save this to my history. can i show keaira?
Jordan says: (11:16:43 PM)
You can definitely show her! I am not ashamed to tell another woman I am a bit jealous.
Caleb says: (11:16:52 PM)
thanks
Are you fine with your friend outing you? I'm out, and have published on being trans...it's easy to google me and find out that I' m trans, and even *I'm* upset when people inform others without my permission.
Quote from: rachl on September 26, 2012, 08:02:55 AM
Are you fine with your friend outing you? I'm out, and have published on being trans...it's easy to google me and find out that I' m trans, and even *I'm* upset when people inform others without my permission.
It frustrates me sometimes... depending on who he tells and why. When he gets wasted drunk he likes to out me to anyone he thinks he feels comfortable with, and that ticks me off.
Quote from: rachl on September 26, 2012, 08:02:55 AM
Are you fine with your friend outing you? I'm out, and have published on being trans...it's easy to google me and find out that I' m trans, and even *I'm* upset when people inform others without my permission.
Caleb had my permission.. I'm not fine with the people at work doing it because they just don't understand or get it. Jordan on the other hand, actually seems to be very uncanny in her understanding of being trans, even though she is Cis-gendered. So in this case, I'm not bothered at all. ^_^
Quote from: Abracadabra on September 22, 2012, 04:53:59 AM
You pass when when you simply keep forgetting to ask the question: "Do I pass...?"
Axélle
That was deep.
I for one only have one story. I haven't begun transition, but I have managed to go out and pass as a female. It took me and my sister hours to get me to look girly, so I probably won't be trying again until after my transition.
I don't like working out with other people, but to test my "disguise", I went to a gym.
I don't know whether to be offended or flattered by the events that followed. I was squatting and some guy walked by and said the most douchey, yet appreciated things I've ever heard. I think he must be from Texas, considering how he talked.
"Dang, girl, that's one of the most mighty-fine of all of the behinds!"
I couldn't help but blush to the point where I looked like a tomato. If I dated, I would've given him my number just because he had the balls to say something like that.
You know you pass when you're sitting outside at a cafe, enjoying lunch on your own, and a totally random and completely cute guy comes up and offers to join you so "you don't have to eat alone."
When other guys talk about there junk infront of you.
When you constantly get called "maam" on the phone. I've got this one down well!
I was at a trans conference and I was introduced to a girl who asked if I was there to support someone. I told her "Nope, I'm a big 'ol ->-bleeped-<-," and she was surprised. I admit, that felt real nice. :)
When I no longer care about passing :D
Barbie~~
When a stranger on Bourbon street offers you beads to go to the top balcony.
I love this!!! I cant wait for that to happen to me lol
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on September 21, 2012, 11:03:44 PM
Today I was at an Applebees with my roommate. The waitress sat us and I just got this irky feeling about her. She kept looking at me from afar and the way she talked to me just felt... off, can't put my finger on it. It felt like she was trying not to break a smile or even laugh / giggle when she looked my way to talk. I told my roommate and he was like "Maybe she is trying to figure you out." ... which made me worry I was being clocked. I told him "Either that or she's gay!" ... he was like "psh I don't think so honey... Women look at other women all the time. Maybe she doesn't like you because you have prettier hair than her or something".
Well anyways, the feeling I got from her made me a bit nervous to talk to her or look her in the eyes while talking to her.
When she brought our steak out she asked us if we would like some A-1 with it, and he responded for us with a no. I told him that I wanted some but I didn't want her to think I was a pig (he teases me about eating like a pig all the time). Well.. he told her anyways and I said "NO that's okay!" to her. She said "Oh I'm gonna get you some, no need to be embarrassed about it!" ... right then I thought "Okay, she either clocked me or she's lesbian".
When he asked for the check, she mentioned something about winning $1,000 if we went online and filled out a survey, and she joked that we should share with her if we won it. I jokingly said back "Well maybe we will!" No idea why I said that, just my nice nature. Sure enough her eyes lit up and she said "Really? I'm gonna give you my number! You should call me!" ... and walked off, looked over her shoulder and said "You want me to give you my number?" while looking right at me.
Tim looked at me with just a jaw dropping shocked face. I was a little stunned by it myself! I didn't want to be mean and say I wasn't into women so I just said sure. She gave me her number, asked me my name... and after a moment asked Tims' name as sort of an after thought to be polite and that was that.
I cannot believe a rather pretty waitress gave me her number! He walked out laughing his ass off. I was sort of embarrassed and kinda sad because now I can't go back to that Applebees. Obviously I'm not going to call her, but the fact that I thought I was as good as clocked and it was in fact because she was checking me out was pretty big to me.
Now if men would stop just staring and looking away when I look at them and grow a pair and talk to me with more than that cute n cuddly voice, I'd be happier rofl!
When guys check out your butt as you walk past... yeah my bf walking behind me can see you doing that, guys ::)
My sister told me a weird one. "You know people think you're a sexy woman when you walk into a bar and every girl glares at you thinking, 'B****'"
Quote from: DianaP on October 18, 2012, 07:23:55 PM
My sister told me a weird one. "You know people think you're a sexy woman when you walk into a bar and every girl glares at you thinking, 'B****'"
Girls that pass learn that women generally SUCK!
So, I recently moved into the commercial side of work (basically, I'm an auto parts delivery boy. I have a basket and everything, haha). So now it's a whole new set of customers I have to interact with, all male, all burly, sexy, mechanics. Hawt. Anyway, after my first day delivering, I became 'the new guy.' One guy had called and said "You know, that new guy is really feminine, but he's okay", another said "Hey, send the new guy again, he's funny". So this is how I know I pass. When I can walk into a mechanics shop and have them all 'bro' me and 'sir' me, even when I'm still wearing women's pants. I'm not even out at work, it's pretty entertaining. I got a bit bummed though when everyone I work with kept trying to correct the shop owners :( Most of the shop guys didn't believe my co-workers, though, hahaha, they thought they were screwing with them! >:-) WIN
Quote from: DianaP on October 18, 2012, 07:23:55 PM
My sister told me a weird one. "You know people think you're a sexy woman when you walk into a bar and every girl glares at you thinking, 'B****'"
Oh yeah. Girls check out each other just as much as guys check out girls, but in the way of "that's competition" rather than "she's hot".
I went to an office to conduct some public transaction, and the interaction went like this:
Clerk: name?
Me: Peky Jones
Clerk: address?
Me: 214 Elm St
"wating for computer..."
Clerk: we do not have any Peky Jones at that address
Me: so sorry, I gave you my new name, my old name is John Jones
Clerk: you are "John Jones?"
Me: yes, that is me
clerk: wait a minute Ma'am
"she goes behind a door.....comes back with a man"
Man: We need your husband in order to proceed with this transaction
Me: husband?
Man: yes, we can not do this transaction but with Mr. John Jones, is he your husband?
Me: no! I am John Jones!!!
Man: well, i will have to see your social security card and two forms of ID with a picture, MA'AM!
(since I did not have my ss card with me, I left with a big smile in my face. Several days letter I returned with my "name change court order," "gender change letter," ss card, and my passport.)
Clerk: you again
Me: can I talk to you supervisor?
Clerk: one moment Ma'am
Man: yes, Ma'am
Me: here a re the papers you ask for proving that I was john Jones
Man: (grabs papers) wait a minute, please
(goes behind door, comes like 10 minutes later)
Man: Here is the certificate of your transactions, and your papers, sorry for the delay and confusion Ma'am
Me: (smiling) bye!
Quote from: Keroppi on October 20, 2012, 06:40:32 AM
Oh yeah. Girls check out each other just as much as guys check out girls, but in the way of "that's competition" rather than "she's hot".
Unless she's a lesbian. :P
Peky, congratulations. Nuisances aside, that must have felt nice.
I'm pregnant.
Quote from: MeghanAndrews on October 20, 2012, 07:28:55 PM
I'm pregnant.
Another inmaculate conception, praise the Lord!!!!
I just wanted to see you all be like this ---------------------------------------> :laugh:
;D
:angel:
Quote from: MeghanAndrews on October 20, 2012, 08:18:57 PM
I just wanted to see you all be like this ---------------------------------------> :laugh:
;D
:angel:
Oh, you big trickster, you had me going!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
And here I thought you were the specimen of some marvelous scientific discovery. Darn it, woman, don't tease me like that!
Quote from: MiaOhMya! on April 23, 2012, 05:23:45 PM
I sold my old car last week, and all of the documents were under my old name.
Rather than go down the " I am trans, now please buy this car" path I just told the fella I were selling it for my brother.
He was a priest and a nice enouh felllow, so we talked and somehow the conversation came to how he was trying to mentor and prevent kids going down "devious paths like drug addiction and homosexuality."
Wow when I heard that my head about exploded, as I am a transexual and recovering drug addict! As he continued I thought to myself "wow what a total moron, this bloke hasn't a clue what he just did!"
Oh I wanted to tear him apart, but nooo I was selling a car, so I bit my tongue and said "oh *forces smile* thats a topic I could speak about for ages, we'd best not go there!"
Haha he bought the car too muahhaha! Suckerrrrr!! ':icon_dance: :icon_dance:
You know...CARMA is a bitch.... In fact , I betting CARMA if given a personality, would be an Super Hormonal T-Girl who dishes justice in her own special way.
D
Is this a Pass Picture?
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I get Maam'd all the time.
D
OK, this happened last week. My brother, my sister and I sit down with a notary to sign a document. He says "I am here with my sisters to get this document notarized." He then explains that "one of my sisters had their name changed from >obvious male name<" as he points to the name on the document, "but she has her court name change papers with her." The notary looks at me, then at my sister and asks "Which one of you used to be >obvious male name<?"
I think I pass.
Quote from: Stephe on October 21, 2012, 01:25:15 AM
OK, this happened last week. My brother, my sister and I sit down with a notary to sign a document. He says "I am here with my sisters to get this document notarized." He then explains that "one of my sisters had their name changed from >obvious male name<" as he points to the name on the document, "but she has her court name change papers with her." The notary looks at me, then at my sister and asks "Which one of you used to be >obvious male name<?"
I think I pass.
I think you do...
D
At a craft beer tasting, I asked about a heavily hopped ale, the old man serving smiled, shook his head and said "oh no darling, you wouldn't like that one, its not really one for the ladies" I thought ha! Whatever mate, and said "Try me" funny thing was he was totally right, he smiled and said "I warned you sweet heart"
It's hilarious when old men say stuff like that, it's taking forever for me to get used to being called "darling, hun, my love" etc :p
Quote from: Stephe on October 21, 2012, 01:25:15 AM
OK, this happened last week. My brother, my sister and I sit down with a notary to sign a document. He says "I am here with my sisters to get this document notarized." He then explains that "one of my sisters had their name changed from >obvious male name<" as he points to the name on the document, "but she has her court name change papers with her." The notary looks at me, then at my sister and asks "Which one of you used to be >obvious male name<?"
I think I pass.
OMFG :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Quote from: TessaM on October 21, 2012, 07:50:31 AM
I love being called darling, dear, etc! Its so wonderful, like its kind of solidifying my femininity.
I remember this one time I was at a bar with a bunch of friends who knew me from before. We were going to meet another of our friends, Matt, and he was finally going to meet Tessa. So were eventually in the parking lot and Matt comes around. Everyone says hi how are you etc. He then introduces himself to me, and I do the same to him. I thought it was so cute and polite that he really wanted to treat me like a different person. So we were outside for almost 10 minutes, some people were smoking their cigarettes, and then Matt goes to my friend Tom : "So when am I meeting *OMG MALE NAME*? I cant wait to see them, I wonder how they look."
Hey Matt, im right here!!!
OMG, awkward? So what the guy said? Do not keeps us hanging on Girl!
So, my younger daughter wants me to go to her high school football game, she is a cheer leader. I reluctantly agree as it means be with a bunch of teen boys of girls.
So, we (my daughter and I) are walking towards the the stadium when we hear a female voice call: "Jane, Jane, Jane." Jane is the name of my ex-wife. needless to say I did not turn my head, just in case.
Later on, I am sitting in the bleachers, when somebody taps my shoulder and said: "Jane?"
I had to turn my head and smile. The woman looks puzzled, an said: "I am sorry, I thought you were Mary's (my daughter) mother.
So, I said: "no, I am her father." You should have seen the expression on the woman's face, precious. She just said: "Oh" and left like she just had seen Satan himself.
I could not but giggle for the rest of the game. I wish somebody would tell the story to my ex, she will be so infuriated. >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-)
I know I pass when i'm washing my hands and a girl asks to bum a tampon. "Here you go" lol
Quote from: Annah on October 21, 2012, 03:22:00 PM
I know I pass when i'm washing my hands and a girl asks to bum a tampon. "Here you go" lol
I'm no expert but I'm pretty sure that's not where they go.
Bum as in borrow
Quote from: peky on October 21, 2012, 03:16:52 PM
So, my younger daughter wants me to go to her high school football game, she is a cheer leader. I reluctantly agree as it means be with a bunch of teen boys of girls.
...
I could not but giggle for the rest of the game. I wish somebody would tell the story to my ex, she will be so infuriated. >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-)
Aren't we just the worst? :PAnywho, you're ex may be pissed that she looks like a trans girl. Oh well, sucks to be her! :P >:-)
Like Annah;
I have had three women ask me in the Ladies loo:
1. I love that Lipstick - can I try it (I was out with a girlfriend who knew, but her male colleagues wife did not)
2. Do you have a hairbrush. No I replied - remembering that something to always keep in my handbag for future
3. Do you have a spare panty liner - No I replied - that another thing to keep in my handbag!
Hugs
JudithLynn
Quote from: judithlynn on October 21, 2012, 06:56:26 PM
1. I love that Lipstick - can I try it (I was out with a girlfriend who knew, but her male colleagues wife did not)
2. Do you have a hairbrush. No I replied - remembering that something to always keep in my handbag for future
3. Do you have a spare panty liner - No I replied - that another thing to keep in my handbag!
I now know why women have such huge purses. They have too much stuff in there! :laugh:
Oh, Tessa, you'd better watch out. You're starting to sound like an old lady. Keep up with the times, girl! :laugh:
I have to say..i never heard of anyone asking anyone else for a hairbrush to borrow lol
Quote from: Annah on October 21, 2012, 09:55:35 PM
I have to say..i never heard of anyone asking anyone else for a hairbrush to borrow lol
I carry a hair brush etc but I am not gonna let some stranger borrow it or my lipstick etc. Esp the lipstick, that is like letting someone borrow your tooth brush!
yeah i was thinking the same thing
You are absolutely tight about the Bobbi Brown Lip gloss (not lipstick). I told her she could have it as it was nearly al used up. You never know where those lips had been, even though she was a delightfull lady!. Neverthless that's she wanted!
Hugs
JudithLynn
Quote from: judithlynn on October 22, 2012, 02:21:01 AM
You are absolutely tight about the Bobbi Brown Lip gloss (not lipstick). I told her she could have it as it was nearly al used up. You never know where those lips had been, even though she was a delightfull lady!. Neverthless that's she wanted!
Hugs
JudithLynn
did you say: "Herpes?"
i just never heard of a woman asking for someone else's used lipgloss
Different strokes for different folks I guess
My friends ask for mine... they put it on their finger and rub their lip with it.
Quote from: Annah on October 22, 2012, 02:01:54 PM
i just never heard of a woman asking for someone else's used lipgloss
Different strokes for different folks I guess
That would have been funnier if you were talking about a used hairbrush. Puns! :P
Speaking of make-up, it took me and my sister 3 hours to get me to look passable with all sorts of make-up and devices. :laugh:
Quote from: Annah on October 21, 2012, 03:22:00 PM
I know I pass when i'm washing my hands and a girl asks to bum a tampon. "Here you go" lol
Another trans woman I know says she always carries a few in her purse for just that reason. :)
I suppose for me, its been that its been a while since I've even thought about the little things that tell you you pass with people, I just take it all pretty much for granted anymore.
Quote from: Jaime on October 22, 2012, 06:42:28 PM
I suppose for me, its been that its been a while since I've even thought about the little things that tell you you pass with people, I just take it all pretty much for granted anymore.
i know..i laff at the little people too and tell them to go ahead and eat their cake
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:)
Quote from: Annah on October 22, 2012, 06:44:44 PM
i know..i laff at the little people too and tell them to go ahead and eat their cake
I most certainly did not mean it in that way. I have no desire to belittle any one else's experiences, its just that I don't really think of those "moments" anymore, I'm just trying to get along in my life day to day.
I kind of thought the point of this thread was sharing the (sometimes) funny moments when people say stuff that makes you have a little chuckle to yourself :)
OOh! OOh! I have one of those moments! Pick me, Pick me! Hahaha.
The other day a transwoman came into work. Now, I pass pretty well at work, but this made my day, because usually trans people can identify each other pretty quickly (at least, most I've met). So she comes in and asks for a car part, and I, jokingly, say "well, we have those" as my manager starts getting her info. So she says, "Now be careful mister, or I'll take you home and spank you for being naughty!" TO ME!! My jaw hit the floor. So did my manager's. And she says, "Hah, now he's speechless. Cute. I like shocking people. You want another shock? I'm a transsexual dominatrix!" and she gives me this 'bow wow chika wow wow' look, like "Imma take you home'. I was stunned. First that she'd so openly say that to a stranger, and secondly because she fully believed I was a bio male. After she left me manager and I just had a quiet moment of shock. I guess she got what she wanted after all, hahahaha!
Quote from: Isabelle on October 21, 2012, 02:10:31 AM
At a craft beer tasting, I asked about a heavily hopped ale, the old man serving smiled, shook his head and said "oh no darling, you wouldn't like that one, its not really one for the ladies" I thought ha! Whatever mate, and said "Try me" funny thing was he was totally right, he smiled and said "I warned you sweet heart"
It's hilarious when old men say stuff like that, it's taking forever for me to get used to being called "darling, hun, my love" etc :p
It's ironic that the server said that a heavily hopped beer is not for the ladies, considering that hops are a huge source of phytoestrogens.
I danced at a LGBT bar one night on "->-bleeped-<- Tuesday". About a week later I walked in there with my roommate. He ended up ticking me off so I left angrily. The bartender that was there on the night I was dancing asked "Is your girlfriend mad that you're staying?", my roommate responded "Umm... she's not my girlfriend, she's trans!" "NO WAY!", said the bartender, to which Tim said "She was a dancer on Tuesday, you don't remember her?" "Oh my God... that's her??! That's insane!"
I think if you can pass in a bar that beautiful transsexuals dance in weekly on Bourbon Street, you've reached the point where you don't have to worry about passing at a dollar store.
I have been on HRT since 1971----only now that I am older, do I pass, without even trying---seems like longer, fuller, white hair and a bust just make people believe you are a female---I love it.
Add earrings and a purse, and you are a cinch.
I was at a regional conference this weekend (presenting), and it was in my hometown (which is across the country) and where I did my undergrad degree. I was out for dinner and drinks with some old friends and my girlfriend, who accompanied me, and someone from a nearby university and a prof I had from my undergrad days come in and join us. The prof and I were having a conversation, and he asked me if I had had a chance to see many of the other faculty since I was back. I said that I'd seen a few, but none of them recognized me, and I wasn't going to go and bother explaining things. And the other guy overheard that, and asked, "What, did you change your look or something?" The prof and I burst out laughing and said, "Yeah, just a little."
It was really funny. :)
Wow thats awesome! Go Alaina!
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 24, 2012, 02:25:44 PM
I danced at a LGBT bar one night on "->-bleeped-<- Tuesday". About a week later I walked in there with my roommate. He ended up ticking me off so I left angrily. The bartender that was there on the night I was dancing asked "Is your girlfriend mad that you're staying?", my roommate responded "Umm... she's not my girlfriend, she's trans!" "NO WAY!", said the bartender, to which Tim said "She was a dancer on Tuesday, you don't remember her?" "Oh my God... that's her??! That's insane!"
I think if you can pass in a bar that beautiful transsexuals dance in weekly on Bourbon Street, you've reached the point where you don't have to worry about passing at a dollar store.
The mother of one of my neighbors was visiting today and asked how I was doing and I replied...
"I'm okay" and she said... "You don't sound okay" to which I replied... "Well, I am kinda horsey" and she said...
"That's okay dear, don't worry about that, I've seen plenty of girls your height, but your voice sounds really rough, are you coming down with a cold?"
I kinda got a kick out of that one :laugh: She's a sweet gal and use to me having a kinda chirpy voice
I'm a bit concerned also but I'm sure it'll clear up after awhile
I visited the Pride Center looking for various community resources. They had recently renovated an old building to call home so there was still some lingering work being attended to by some construction workers. As soon as I arrived , the man at the front desk excused himself for a moment. During this time, one of the workers began talking to me, or should I say flirting, the goofy grins and nervous smile gave it away. I internalized the giant, mischievousness grin I felt coming on.
The admin returned and we began chatting. A leaflet was on the desk about an upcoming trans job fair so, perfect, I inquired. In a kindly and diplomatic way, told me that transgender people are a specific group. I replied, "not sure what you mean by that, but tell me about this job fair please". He explained to me that I won't find a job fair for transsexuals very helpful. "Why not" i said, "I am trans".
His eyes went wide and he started blubbering some apology. But this was the best part, the flirtatious blue collar gentleman had disappeared behind a 3ft partition at the far side of the room, during my chat with the admin. When the words,"I am trans" left my mouth that man shot up like a Jim Henson muppet, stiff and awkward, expressing utter disbelief.
That's when I knew ...and I mean knew I passed. The construction guy was a cutie too. Which made it all the sweeter. I still suffer the occasional dysphoric hiccup, but that was a seminal moment in my growth towards a new life.
"shot up like a Jim Henson muppet"
Spunkie the Junkie?
Yesterday at work, I had problems getting Press 52 to stay running. A woman I have never seen before came up to me and asked if the press was running yet. I told her, "No, its being stubborn and uncooperative." The woman sighed and said. "Must be a male of the species." I giggled and agreed. ^_^
Among the gradual changes that remain inexplicably unnoticed (or willfully ignored) by colleagues lie shifting vocal range and cadence; though I'm still presenting as male at work, the manner in which I speak has changed drastically over the last several months. This morning I greeted a client over the telephone for whom a coworker had left a message:
Her: "Somebody left a message for me this morning regarding a delivery, my name is ..."
Me: "Did they happen to leave a name? No? Any other identifying information?"
Her: "Well it wasn't *your* voice... it was definitely a man."
I've been radiant all day!
At Toys'R'Us My wife and I were asked twice, "Can I help you ladies?"
Friday night A cop was making small talk with me as I waited for my Brother-in-law to finish paying for gas and lotto tickets. I think I was passing anyway. we discussed the weather and he asked me if my shoes were warm. When Drew was done, we left and Drew asked why I didn't wear some more manlier pants, the ones I was wearing made my butt look big. -_- butthead!
I have been hit on 5 times this month at least? that's how I know I pass. weird though...
Quote from: Tristan on December 24, 2012, 07:14:34 PM
I have been hit on 5 times this month at least? that's how I know I pass. weird though...
Cool beans!!!
Quote from: Tristan on December 24, 2012, 07:14:34 PM
I have been hit on 5 times this month at least? that's how I know I pass. weird though...
I love watching guys struggle with talking to me sometimes. Then I say something back and they get a big smile on their face.... It's like, dude, I'm not that hot, grow some n.... lol.
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on December 25, 2012, 12:59:35 AM
I love watching guys struggle with talking to me sometimes. Then I say something back and they get a big smile on their face.... It's like, dude, I'm not that hot, grow some n.... lol.
haha I totally agree with you. that's how I feel too. ;D
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on December 25, 2012, 12:59:35 AM
I love watching guys struggle with talking to me sometimes. Then I say something back and they get a big smile on their face.... It's like, dude, I'm not that hot, grow some n.... lol.
Geez, just take the dang compliment. ::) :laugh:
Quote from: DianaP on December 25, 2012, 02:08:41 PM
Geez, just take the dang compliment. ::) :laugh:
I know, right! :P Some of you ladies are flippin'
gorgeous. Speaking of which, HOLY HECK KEAIRA! :o I love the new avatar! Don't get me wrong, I've always liked the kind of 'geeky gamer girl' thing you had going on, but wow, I love the new look.
when I consistently get called honey, sweetie, dear and babe by most men that come into the store.
Quote from: Biscuit_Stix on December 25, 2012, 08:51:22 PM
I know, right! :P Some of you ladies are flippin' gorgeous. Speaking of which, HOLY HECK KEAIRA! :o I love the new avatar! Don't get me wrong, I've always liked the kind of 'geeky gamer girl' thing you had going on, but wow, I love the new look.
I think you actually made me blush there. Thank you for the complement. I wasn't actually going to take a picture but I knew my parents and a lot of you hadn't seen anything new from me in a while. So I took a couple that turned out nicely. And I'm glad my geeky gamer girl attitude shows through ^_^
Quote from: Biscuit_Stix on December 25, 2012, 08:51:22 PM
I know, right! :P Some of you ladies are flippin' gorgeous. Speaking of which, HOLY HECK KEAIRA! :o I love the new avatar!
I agree! That's a great picture of you hon :)
Got another one - When you hand someone a bank card with your old name on it, it gets declined, he looks at it and types in all the info without a blink, not even looking back at me, and hands it back to you and still says "Sorry maam this one isn't working"
I dunno what it is bout living down South, but anyone who's lived down here surely noticed how much pride some fellas take in their "shout-out" swagger...its like a game, and its played all the time round here.
Christmas Eve I was at the service station smoking while my bf ran inside. A car pulls up and fella gets out, looks and smiles...so I laughingly smiled back. Not to be outdone, his cohort puts down his window and shouts "Whattupppp giiirrllll!?! Yeah you, you lookin fine girl how bout you let me come over and be yo' Santa Clause this Christmas?" Well, knowin how the game goes I told him "Ohhh, I'm so sorry love, but I need a man who wants me to be naughty, not nice.. and that man is just inside that door right there."
Omg the look on his face was priceless!! As he imitated biting his fist he then says "DAYUUMMMMMMMMM! Girl, you aight, holla at me if you change your mind, I be waitin'!!"
And so the game continues for countless girls down souf. :))
Quote from: MiaOhMya! on December 26, 2012, 11:31:08 AM
Omg the look on his face was priceless!! As he imitated biting his fist he then says "DAYUUMMMMMMMMM! Girl, you aight, holla at me if you change your mind, I be waitin'!!"
Um... ew. :-\
Quote from: peky on December 26, 2012, 04:09:19 PM
I do not know what to do, my ego is flatter. I like him, he is one of those quiet and gentle man. He is not bad looking either. oh dear...
Well, my philosophy for decision making has always been, "Unless you can think of a reason not to, do it." :P
I've still been presenting as male at work (but only until the new year!) and I get miss and ma'am all the time. I've even had a few people call me mate or dude from behind and when I turn around they go bright red and say I'm so sorry I thought you were a guy! Definitely a big boost to the ego :) (especially when I'm wearing a baggy old uniform, with a male name badge and no makeup etc).
I had one customer sent to find me from another department, who asked where they could find (old name). When I said that was me she said what? That can't be you?
Well I can only imagine however I am looking forward to that day. Not the ticket.
I went to go pick up my estrogen today and that is still prescribed under my old name, wearing a pretty androgynous jacket (not purposely). Gave her the info and she was "Ma'am, he has 1". So apparently whatever guy I was picking it up for is on estrogen :D
@Alainaluvsu: hehe, that's great! I had a fun one at the pharmacy too
I went to a different pharmacy the other day to pick up a new Rx. Went sans makeup or anything, I was feeling pretty terrible and I thought I was looking fairly androgynous, but I got a talking to about making sure that I'm not pregnant and that I don't intend to get pregnant while I'm on this new drug, even though I picked it up with my male name. Not sure how, but I'll take it :)
:D That's an awesome story
Hah! awesome :)
I was living in a flat at the time and I could see these people parking in my driveway where they weren't allowed to. This got me rather pissed off, so I screamed out the window at them and told them to park somewhere else. I really lost it! To my surprise they shouted up that I was a very nasty woman (and various other profanities), and then left. Not my proudest moment, but I got a certain satisfaction from that >:-)
I love that so many of these post are about passing when one is not deliberately trying to present as female in dress or (necessarily) mannerisms. I had a wonderfully validating experience at the grocery. I live in a village of about 2000 people and do all the shopping for my family, so I know the cashiers and other personnel by name. Recently, when a new cashier was checking me out, she turned to a colleague and said, "She wants to pay part with cash and part with her card; how do I do that?" I was shopping wearing a gray men's turtleneck and a brown canvas field jacket (which admittedly is, after I've been almost 5 month on hrt, starting to look rather large). And we had been talking the whole time about how to caramelize onions. And I wasn't using the voice I've been practicing. It's so nice when the gestalt tips female. Can't wait to start giving it a push.
This happened just after I started HRT and before I went full time. I was driving with my farther and I was wearing a Androgyny T shirt and jeans because I haven't come out to him yet. We were stopped for speeding and the police officer went to my farther and told him " your daughter is overspending Sir" and to my surprise my farther didn't try to correct him. Instead he just laughed and police officer let us go after asking me to drive carefully.
The second time, again I was stopped by a police officer and asked for my license and after seeing my picture he told me I looked like a guy the picture. I just smiled at him and told him I had short hair when I took the picture for my license. He smiled back and said I look much much better with long hair and gave back my licence.
Those two were my most memorable moments.
But after 6 months in to HRT I had to go full time because I was being confused for a girl even when I was in male cloths. Every one had the look of someone who is thinking "why on earth that girl dress like a guy" when they saw me. For couple of months I had the experience of being a F2M lol.
PS: I live in Sri Lanka and people are very friendly here. May be I would not have experienced the same if I lived somewhere else.
I was told the other day by a friend at work that she had overheard some new girls talking. They were shocked that there was a female technician and they said she was pretty. I told my friend that they must have meant Kathy or Wanda, 2 other female technicians on 1st and 3rd shifts. She said, nope, they were talking about me. I'm pretty sure I blushed because I really don't consider myself to be pretty.
My Daughter came home from being out with her Boyfriend (Who is FtM). A coworker at the Taco Bell where her boyfriend works at asked if he knew a woman named Keaira (She works at Valeo as a press operator in my area). He had a little trouble placing my name and then he remembered, exclaiming, "Oh, you mean Tori's Dad."
She didn't understand until Tori explained I was MtF. She had thought that I was just a Lesbian. lol. So tomorrow will be very interesting at work.
So I guess that counts as a total pass because at work, I dont even expect that much. :D
Quote from: Keaira on January 12, 2013, 04:49:49 AM
My Daughter came home from being out with her Boyfriend (Who is FtM). A coworker at the Taco Bell where her boyfriend works at asked if he knew a woman named Keaira (She works at Valeo as a press operator in my area). He had a little trouble placing my name and then he remembered, exclaiming, "Oh, you mean Tori's Dad."
She didn't understand until Tori explained I was MtF. She had thought that I was just a Lesbian. lol. So tomorrow will be very interesting at work.
So I guess that counts as a total pass because at work, I dont even expect that much. :D
First of all I think you are a very pretty girl, second do not keep us hanging ...tell us what happen next day
Quote from: peky on January 13, 2013, 05:12:55 AM
First of all I think you are a very pretty girl, second do not keep us hanging ...tell us what happen next day
thank you, you are so sweet. ^_^
Anyway, today I sat down at my co-worker's table before my shift started. she was with some other women who do know my past. I said to her with a grin, "So, did you have a nice chat with my Daughter?" she turned bright red and laughed. She said she was just curious which was why she asked all the questions she did last night. Like, were my boobs real? did Tori's mother accept me?, etc
I just smiled with pride and said, "Oh, and yes, these are real. " then left the break area. ^_^ we all laughed about it later. ^_^
She had just thought I was a lesbian.
When you have laryngitis and still get maamed over the phone.
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on January 21, 2013, 11:14:54 PM
When you have laryngitis and still get maamed over the phone.
You Go Girl. That's awesome
Huggs
Catherine
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on January 21, 2013, 11:14:54 PM
When you have laryngitis and still get maamed over the phone.
So true....!!!
I went to a casino bar near my house which I have not gone to in about 4 months. While I was there, the bartender (one I know pretty well, but only as a good bartender, not someone who knew anything personal really) was asked by the old guy next to me at the bar why he did not ID me, his reason "Her brother used to come in here alot, and I think I have seen her in here, but just like him, she looks young but im guessing is also in her mid 20's...[looks at me]...you do have a brother, right?" Me: "Yep."
Meeting a woman who's partner is MtF, and knows a fair few as well. I was assumed to be a Cis-woman starting FtM transition. Weird feeling but nice as well.
I was talking to this woman at the bar, just a friendly conversation. She asked if I am married and I told her I'm going through a divorce. She asked me what happened. I kind of light heartily said "well, it turns out she's not a lesbian". I figured I look obviously trans so she would get a laugh. She replied "was she just experimenting as a lesbian while you were married?". I then asked how much she had been drinking and she told me she is the DD and has not had anything to drink.
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 22, 2013, 11:27:04 AM
I was talking to this woman at the bar, just a friendly conversation. She asked if I am married and I told her I'm going through a divorce. She asked me what happened. I kind of light heartily said "well, it turns out she's not a lesbian". I figured I look obviously trans so she would get a laugh. She replied "was she just experimenting as a lesbian while you were married?". I then asked how much she had been drinking and she told me she is the DD and has not had anything to drink.
Haha that's awesome!
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 22, 2013, 11:27:04 AM
I was talking to this woman at the bar, just a friendly conversation. She asked if I am married and I told her I'm going through a divorce. She asked me what happened. I kind of light heartily said "well, it turns out she's not a lesbian". I figured I look obviously trans so she would get a laugh. She replied "was she just experimenting as a lesbian while you were married?". I then asked how much she had been drinking and she told me she is the DD and has not had anything to drink.
lol, thats great ^_^
Hey ladies, I'm new here so I hope this isn't too off topic because it's not really me passing in a situation but it's a event that I will never forget, as long a I live.
A itsy bit of background information: It's almost been two weeks since I came to terms with myself regarding my gender and what I need to do from now on, haven't came out to friends or family but I did so, sort of anonymously to the world through my blog and online activity.
Ok, so to the little story I wanted to tell you. It happened about 4 days after I've decided what I am and what I need to do. I was watching TV with my mom in the kitchen, discussing the various subjects on the news, smoking a cigarette and enjoying our post lunch siesta. Out of nowhere she turns around looks at me smiling, I say nothing but maintain eye contact with a sort of "whut?" look on my face and in a few seconds she said exactly this "you have the beautiful eyes a girl would be jealous of, you doll" Now you can deffinately immagine how I felt when that came from my mom, the person who I care about the most in this world. So top this with the fact that I just had my "revelation" moment a few days back, the fact that I don't think there's anything beautiful about me (lifelong low self esteem, guess where was that originating from?) and with the fact that it really was a honest compliment coming from her.
But wait, it gets better. I have brown eyes. Until the age of 10 months to a year I had blue eyes that then turned brown. (hearing this from her a few years back drove me into a full depression because as I thought I didn't like anything about myself and if only I could've kept the blue eyes there would've been atleast one thing I'd like about myself) So I remembered she told me this while I was writing a blog post about what my mom said and I thought to myself "hey, during transition I'll most likely hit the surgery room at least once so isn't there some sort of surgical intervention or something that could make me have blue eyes again?" I googled and there it was, waiting for me. It turns out that there is a doctor in the U.S. that can make brown eyes turn blue with a 20 second, 100% safe laser intervention. And the reason why this is possible: ALL brown eyed people have in fact blue eyes, the brown color is just a thin layer of pigment on top of the natural blue. The downside is that it's pricey, around 5000$ so that's going to take a while to put together that money but to be honest I'd even pay 50.000$ in a heartbeat. I'll "flirt" with contacts until then.
The next day, I snapped a few photos of my eyes, did a pretty hasty modification in photoshop to turn my eyes blue and there it was, the first, small glimpse of my true female self. I was overcome by all sorts of emotions, I didn't cry (until later) but I had "the butterflies" in my stomach going wild. This is what I saw:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fmynameisandrea89.files.wordpress.com%2F2013%2F01%2F20130114145317394-copy.jpg&hash=ab5847124d4a507d928dc1a5846ec38b94f4e398)
This does not quite qualify as a pass, but it certainly was an interesting experience. I've been on hormones a little over five months. Today, my wife of ten years and I had Indian buffet. I was dressed as male. When we were finished, the server asked us if we wanted separate checks. That's the first time in over thirteen years of our being together that a server has every asked that question. Perhaps it's a policy at the restaurant or just a chance occurrence. But it's probably because we no longer look much like a conventional heterosexual couple.
I had some distant family over (who don't know I am trans) and when I called from the laundry room, they thought I was my youngest brother. I don't think my mom was too excited about that.
When you go to open the door to a gas station and 3 men reach to open it for you... lol!
When you have your picture posted on a dating website, and you get messaged by one of the other lesbians asking when you gave birth to your son. I did not actually think I passed in that picture!
I was sitting at my roommates work and the manager knows I'm trans because my roommate told her in passing conversation. She came up and asked if I was his roommate and she said "I have to tell you that your plastic surgeon did a FANTASTIC job on you.. you can't even tell"... I haven't had FFS and when I told her she was stunned.
Some scamming tech support guy called me up to tell me my windoze 8 laptop was infected with a virus and that he was from Microsoft. Im half asleep but quickly caught on. I sent this guy packing. Thoughout it I was ma'amed.and I wasn't even trying.
Ive also been called a dyke by some kid who lived next door.
Quote from: peky on March 23, 2012, 08:56:49 AM
So I was going late to my endo appointment so I was going a little bit to fast down the highway, and, yes you guess, the police stop me.
Policeman: Do you know why I am stopping you ma'am
Me: I was going to fast
Policeman: Licence and registration ma'am
Me: "hands the documents"
Policeman: you gave me the wrong license!
Me: No, that is me
Policeman: Do you have another form of ID with a picture ?
Me: "gives him my employee ID"
Policeman: Well, I am going to give you a ticket for speeding! Wait in the car!
Policeman: Please sign, and go slow ma'am
So, it is like I am so happy I pass and he called "ma'am." So, I get to the endo, and in the parking lot I look at the ticket, well what you know: he marked me "F" under sex, and to topple the cake marked my eye color as hazel!
The bad news is that after all the speeding not to be late, the endo was not there! They have cancelled my appointment and never notified me; add to that about $ 100 fine. But well I am still happy I am finally not misgender by my appearance
So, almost a year has passed and much changes in my life...all my papers including my "birth certificate" bear F instead of M. My name has legally changed. I have not been misgendered in a long time...so life is good.
Now, let me share a funny story that happened to me last week. So, I am going to a meeting in another building, and the entrance there is huge (tall and wide) corridor that leads to a glass double door. So, I am walking towards the doors when I see this gorgeous girls coming the other way, so I am like "turning my radar on," when...LOL....I realize that gorgeous girls is my own reflection...
So, I guess the moral of the story is "you know you pass when you pass to yourself" LOL
Quote from: peky on February 28, 2013, 02:55:48 PM
So, almost a year has passed and much changes in my life...all my papers including my "birth certificate" bear F instead of M. My name has legally changed. I have not been misgendered in a long time...so life is good.
Now, let me share a funny story that happened to me last week. So, I am going to a meeting in another building, and the entrance there is huge (tall and wide) corridor that leads to a glass double door. So, I am walking towards the doors when I see this gorgeous girls coming the other way, so I am like "turning my radar on," when...LOL....I realize that gorgeous girls is my own reflection...
So, I guess the moral of the story is "you know you pass when you pass to yourself" LOL
That was great!!! It made me smile. ;D ;D ;D
OMG, ROFL! :D :D
I was just telling this story to one of my friends today, forgot all about it, so I thought I'd share it here. When I was about 16 I used to take a cab back and forth to the school program I was in because it was specialized and far away. I shared it with one of my guy friends who was also in the program because he lived pretty close to me. The school payed for it all. This was around the time I wasn't out as trans, but I passed everywhere pretty much at all times. So we get a cab driver who just starts going on and on about women drivers and all other kinds of misogyny. On and on for about a half hour, the whole time I'm just sitting right next to him in the passenger seat and I'm just pretty much saying nothing trying to not psychorage on this guy, and my friends in the back just laughing, not because he bought into any of the BS just because of the hilarity of this driver bashing women relentlessly with a "girl" sitting right next to him. I was just trying not to strangle him in anger >:(
Also, same friend. Meeting his mom for the first time. We talked for about 10 minutes before I left with him and my other friend to go hang out at like a park or something and he tells me later, "So, my mom and I were talking after I got back, and she was like "Umm, I don't mean to be rude, but your friend, does it hurt him to wear pants that tight?" (I was wearing skinny jeans with a way oversized sweater and jacket overtop) I'm still amazed I passed in skinny jeans. Ahh the advantages of youth, no way that would happen now ::)
Ever since I started growing my hair out...about 7? years ago?? people have mam'd me. I'm not sure why. Just started the pills last month, still dress in guy clothes (except for my pants), and my voice is very deep. The kind of deep that women find it soothing, so I've been told. At the time it was embarrassing (especially in the accompaniment of my mom or dad, though of course then "mam" wouldn't be used, some other pronoun). Now I'm used to it. I'll turn my head and look if someone calls out a feminine caller and I think they want to talk to me or something.
I've stopped going to public bathrooms as much as possible. Getting weird looks is something I haven't quite gotten over yet. In university, I've had many a boy leave the bathroom as I was washing my hands and come back in. So I started using the few family bathrooms in the schol at the time. Still happens now when there's not another guy in there with me. Unfortunately Korea has no such thing as family bathrooms, so I've been holding it when I can.
2 years ago when I was attending language school, another foreigner (someone from south asia, I think) asked me bluntly "are you a girl? I can't tell." ..Now, my thinking is, why wouldn't you just ask something like, "Where are you from? How are you? or something simple to figure it out for yourself by using ears? 1 classmate at the time (first day of class) from Cambodia saw me, thought I was girl, said hi, and when I replied....very surprised. Said it was because long haired guys don't exist where she's from.
Speaking of baths...a friend of mine kept me out late at night 1 time so we were forced to sleep in a sort of bath house, which if you don't know are segregated (hated it, not my cup of tea). When we checked in, the staff there double checked to make sure I was really a guy (I had to say something as evidence) and all the guys at some point stared for more than 3 seconds at me. If not 3, I could feel it/saw it for a long time. Some looked more than 5 times. 1 of the male staffers finally said something to me when I checked out saying something like "you look like a girl, I was so confused." --I totally disagree with his comment, but thank you anyway. :D
Said friend also has me meet his friends. Many of his female friends say "oh, I thought you were a girl" upon meeting me (what a nice greeting...). Too bad my voice and bone structure disagrees.
Moments when I realized I passed
1. When at graduation the usher looked at me and said "You can't be 'guy name' you must be Mallory." Graduation being an important detail; as I was wearing an agendered black gown. Therefore, he could only guess at my gender from my face and determined that "I couldn't" be male.
2. At a friend's baby shower later that same day her aunt said something about "she-males. My friend looks at her and says "please do not to talk like that." She replies "I don't see any she-males here." A bitter sweet moment.
3. When a guy followed me around one day like a lost puppy.
4. When my former best friend made a move on me. :(
Whenever the guy sitting next starts to flirt. ;)
Got really lucky myself had an awesome experience first time i went out. I think i said in a post before but the first time i went out i was accosted by a man trying to chat me up in the street. Ok the guy was a total creep but none the less it felt awsome to think that he saw me as an attractive female. Its also a massive confidence boost. If i had been seen as male, and someone had said something it could have had the opposite effect. Strangely though now even though it was confidence boosting i dont care if i do get a look now and again if someone recognises that im trans, as long as nobody say anything. :angel:
Quote from: anya on March 05, 2013, 04:19:20 AM
Whenever the guy sitting next starts to flirt. ;)
LOL... This is something that took some getting use to :)
Quote from: V M on March 05, 2013, 06:44:15 AM
LOL... This is something that took some getting use to :)
But once you get used to, it will be one of the best things coz you can flirt back LoL
Yesterday I had a Deportment session with someone I had been told about and she homes schools her 11 year old daughter. -Tallelulah. She said the nicest thing to me, by saying when we first met, that she would never have known had her Mum not told her about me as she commented that I had no Adams apple. very small hands and feet and well manicured nails with little makeup on.
I was wearing a nice summer dress too.
Its nice when even an 11 year old reckons one passes.
Hugs
JudithLynn
I had to go to the hospital for some test a few months ago...
Nurse: Ms. Clements, when was your last period?
Me: ummm in high school I think. It was social studies if I remember right.
Nurse: you haven't had a period since high school?
Me: Nope.
Nurse looking confused: you've not had a period since high school?
Me: I don't have periods.
Nurse: did have a tubal ligation?
Me: I'm a transsexual.
Nurse: ....OH! Ummm... I had no idea!
It made my day. :D
Closest I've gotten was in Detroit. Full male mode, 3 days out from a shave (albeit shortly after laser), got called "ma'am" and "she" by two different hotel workers. Once in my car in near-darkness; the other on foot in full daylight.
I did not bother correcting them. :)
Still got a ways to go, though.
Me and my roommate were meeting his friend who lives on Bourbon street. We hung out at a couple of bars for a few minutes and then went back to his place to hang out. Then me and my roommate came back home. When we got home, my roommate said on the way back to our car his friend said "I thought you said your roommate was trans." "She is trans" said my roommate. The friend said "Oh wow... I mean I was looking for things and I found a couple that made me say "well maybe. But if you never would have told me I wouldn't have known." Then my roommate quoted him to say "She could've fooled me."
I could have fooled him huh???? Lol I'll take it as a compliment :)
I had to go to the store last Saturday night and a car full of students were driving a large SUV rather wildly in the store's parking lot and nearly hit me so I flipped them the bird
So as I'm locking up my bike an older woman walks by and quips "That wasn't very lady like, but they deserved it... Good for you hon" :laugh:
I bumped into a former Valeo Sylvania HR manager whom I had had a lot of contact with pre transition. We chatted for a bit but he did not recognize me at all. It was really amusing. :D
Then when my Wife and I went to Home Depot to buy an appliance dolly, the guy who helped us find them said to his buddy when I approached them, "See if you can move that pallet while I help these two lovely ladies."
On the phone several times now people have asked to speak to Mr. J. F***** and they have been people I haven't notified yet about my transition or I'm still working with them. But when I have said, "Speaking", there is always this pause like they don't quite believe me. Some of them have continued to call me ma'am.
The real kicker is that I haven't changed my voice. lol
One of my friend's son turned one so my son and I went to his birthday party. While the kids (this includes the men ;)) were playing the women were talking. The other mothers were talking about their pregnancies, and I was just listening in. One of the mothers turned towards me and asked if I had an easy pregnancy with my son. That was great!
Quote from: Brooke777 on March 31, 2013, 09:46:48 AM
One of my friend's son turned one so my son and I went to his birthday party. While the kids (this includes the men ;)) were playing the women were talking. The other mothers were talking about their pregnancies, and I was just listening in. One of the mothers turned towards me and asked if I had an easy pregnancy with my son. That was great!
OMG, that is wonderful! So...how was your "pregnancy"? ;) (Seriously, how did you respond?)
Quote from: Brooke777 on March 31, 2013, 09:46:48 AM
One of my friend's son turned one so my son and I went to his birthday party. While the kids (this includes the men ;)) were playing the women were talking. The other mothers were talking about their pregnancies, and I was just listening in. One of the mothers turned towards me and asked if I had an easy pregnancy with my son. That was great!
Ha ha ha. Yes. It's great!
Barbie~~
Quote from: Beth Andrea on March 31, 2013, 12:06:49 PM
OMG, that is wonderful! So...how was your "pregnancy"? ;) (Seriously, how did you respond?)
I told her it was really difficult because my ex wife was such a pain. ;D
She then asked if we went to a sperm bank. I told her that I made that contribution. She turned really red!! :laugh:
Quote from: Brooke777 on March 31, 2013, 02:37:44 PM
I told her it was really difficult because my ex wife was such a pain. ;D
She then asked if we went to a sperm bank. I told her that I made that contribution. She turned really red!! :laugh:
LOL!
Reminds me of a funny...
A woman enters an elevator, and there's a man in there. She says, "I'm going to the blood bank on the 5th floor, they pay $20 for a quart of blood!"
The man says, "I'm going to the sperm bank on the third floor, they pay $100 per donation."
A few weeks later, the man gets on the elevator and sees the woman again. He says, "Are you going to the blood bank again?" The woman shakes her head, points to her mouth, and says, "Mmmph mmph mmmph!"
That is too hilarious! Thank you bwhahha!! :laugh:
Quote from: Beth Andrea on March 31, 2013, 03:16:39 PM
LOL!
Reminds me of a funny...
A woman enters an elevator, and there's a man in there. She says, "I'm going to the blood bank on the 5th floor, they pay $20 for a quart of blood!"
The man says, "I'm going to the sperm bank on the third floor, they pay $100 per donation."
A few weeks later, the man gets on the elevator and sees the woman again. He says, "Are you going to the blood bank again?" The woman shakes her head, points to her mouth, and says, "Mmmph mmph mmmph!"
I wish I timed how long it took me to get that :-/
Hilarious, LOL!
Haha. Well Tessa that's a good indicator that you pass very well
I went to a job interview today. It is for a management position where I will have to travel around the country and speak at conventions, and seminars. Well, the hiring manager said that this can be a tough business for a woman to gain respect in, and asked me in the 12 years I have been in this business, how have I handled not being respected because I am a woman? I think that means there is no thought in his mind that I am trans.
A fairly well known meme group (which I will not say for reasons to be said later in this post) organized a weekend long event here in town. Me and 3 trans friends went to see what it was about. When we first got there an older man with thinning hair walked up to us and greeted us. I noticed he was talking mainly to me. I shrugged him off as probably just another old guy or even a ->-bleeped-<- (I mean, I'm with 3 other trans women). But later on my friend pointed out "You know that guy that was hitting on you earlier? Well he's the owner of the website!" My jaw dropped, because the guy is a millionaire with LOTS to lose in popularity, if you get my drift.
A millionaire was interested in me in front of quite a few of his fans... imagine that!
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on April 06, 2013, 04:12:10 AM
A fairly well known meme group (which I will not say for reasons to be said later in this post) organized a weekend long event here in town. Me and 3 trans friends went to see what it was about. When we first got there an older man with thinning hair walked up to us and greeted us. I noticed he was talking mainly to me. I shrugged him off as probably just another old guy or even a ->-bleeped-<- (I mean, I'm with 3 other trans women). But later on my friend pointed out "You know that guy that was hitting on you earlier? Well he's the owner of the website!" My jaw dropped, because the guy is a millionaire with LOTS to lose in popularity, if you get my drift.
A millionaire was interested in me in front of quite a few of his fans... imagine that!
wow that is amazing? you should go on one date with him just to see what its like to be with a rich guy haha
I'd be too scared of him clocking me and then he worry about if I'm going to blackmail him or something. I'm not like that, but I could see a famous guy thinking like that.
i never thought about that but your very much right about that logic.
Thank you dear,
I had just gotten back from the unemployment office when it was taken a couple of weeks ago. If it hadn't been for my drivers licence not matching my social security card, it would have been a really peachy day. Still, I know I am seen as female there, I got called "Miss" by the receptionist when I was there yesterday. Lol.
Here's a subtle one... but I think it's pretty meaningful because it's the subtle body language / actions that make you know you pass.
Me and my roommate were talking on the phone, he was trying to get me to give him a ride somewhere when the call dropped. One of the last things he said was "We're going to a bar and they don't like girls there, especially girls like you because everybody else thinks you're a real girl." Well I went out and there was a guy standing there who my roommate was going to this bar with. After talking to him for a minute, he started to walk away. I was barefoot and I wasn't done talking to him, so I said "I'll follow you barefoot I don't care!!" His friend jumped in and said "Oh come on, don't make that girl walk like that barefoot!!"... I thanked him and shook his hand and he shook my hand very lightly like a man would shake any other girls hand.
He may or may not have caught that I'm trans by the phone calls, but usually my roommate mentions that he lives with a transsexual (well, two) when meeting somebody and bringing them over (which I kinda want him to do because I'm not so sure I pass 100% myself sometimes). However, I think his natural instinct when seeing me caused him to treat me like any other lady.
Subtle cues ;)
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on April 12, 2013, 11:46:27 PM
because everybody else thinks you're a real girl
WTF? :o
Quote from: Keroppi on April 13, 2013, 01:24:29 AM
WTF? :o
Don't get hypersensitive for me. I know what he means.
Two events in two days.
I was trying on a dress and the change room curtain was suddenly opened as I was standing in bra and knickers, and the lady said Oh I'm so sorry dear I've lost an ear ring in here a few minutes ago. So we had a look for it together. Me in my undies and all.
Booked in for a make over and the girl asked if I was a previous customer, I decided to say no, even though I had been there as a guy to be waxed. So she logged me onto the system and then said; 'Oh we had a guy from that address who used to be a customer, he must have moved.'
Heee Hee
On my last ship the third engineer who I was working with said his on-board girlfriend had just left.... and suggested how good "friends with benefits" was while giving me a cheeky and hopeful look!! God I wish I was post op at that moment, he was pretty hot, lol! Although he had also been asking me out for drinks aswell, and bless him, he was even a little awkward. Oh how I love my new life :)
One female passenger asking me if there was many other female engineers, and then saying good for me for flying the female flag! Then her husband saying that he normally doesn't kiss engineers goodbye, and gives me a hug and peck on the cheek!
I was at my new job, and talking with a woman I had just met. We started talking about kids, and she asked me if I was planning on having any more. I told her I would probably adopt. She then said "that is a good plan. Pregnancy is so hard on the body, and with how thin you are you would probably get huge stretch marks." The fact that she thought I could get pregnant was an awesome feeling.
Nice passes there. ^_^
Yesterday, my Son was outside playing with a bunch of neighborhood kids. As I came downstairs, 2 little boys and their Father came walking up the sidewalk. The Father did not look happy. "Excuse me, Are you their Mom?" he said as he pointed to the group of kids playing. I was silent for a moment then he continued, "One of those kids was throwing rocks at my boy and hit him in the head." I was worried because as a child that has happened to me. Then a couple of the kids came over and explained what had really happened. Apparently one of the 2 boys had been picking on my Son. And my neighbor's Daughter had thrown gravel at them to protect my Son.
The Father yelled at his boys about lying and being a bully then turned to me and said, "I'm sorry Ma'am, this was all just a big misunderstanding and took his kids with him.
what worries me is I am beginning to see far too much of myself in my Son when I was his age. And I had a crappy childhood from all the bullying. I don't want that life from my son. :(
Quote from: Keaira on April 22, 2013, 10:16:56 PM
what worries me is I am beginning to see far too much of myself in my Son when I was his age. And I had a crappy childhood from all the bullying. I don't want that life from my son. :(
History is not destiny, Keaira.
Your son has the benefit of a parent who knows what it was like and understands what he's going through.
He's a lucky boy.
Quote from: suzifrommd on April 23, 2013, 07:31:23 AM
History is not destiny, Keaira.
Your son has the benefit of a parent who knows what it was like and understands what he's going through.
He's a lucky boy.
Perhaps. ^_^
Ive been told he wants to be just like me when he grows up. I tell him that I dont want him to be just like me. In time, he will be his own person. And one I will still be proud of.
I have a couple that happened this week. I started a new job a couple of weeks ago, and I am not out as trans. I'm totally out as lesbian though.
OK, so I was talking with a woman at work and the subject of my pending divorce from my ex-wife came up. She asked me which one of us was the biological mother. I told her that my ex carried our son, but he has my genes. She then told me how great she thinks it is that modern science can transplant an egg of one woman into another woman.
The next one was again at work, I was talking with a woman and some of my military history came up and I mentioned how I broke my back in the Army. She looked kind of confused and said that she did not think women were allowed in combat situations.
The third, and most interesting one was a really good looking guy at work started talking to me. He was standing with a group of male coworkers/friends. So I went over to him and chatted a bit. Then, right in front of everyone he asked me out on a date. So, I told him he was sweet, but I didn't think my girlfriend would like that too much. All the other guys got a huge laugh out of the fact that he just asked out a lesbian.
When I have to keep arguing with doctors and nurses, some of whom are poking around in my crotch at that very moment, that I don't want a Pap smear. :)
(It's somewhere between hilarious and frustrating!)
I went to the dentist a week ago and the nurse asked me the usual are you pregnant have you been pregnant, etc.
I went to an LGBT Equality march today, and afterwards went to lunch with some of the other people that were there. At lunch, someone said they had trouble telling my gender. :) In my opinion, I am nowhere near passing yet and so don't present as female yet because I am doing my transition in a way that makes sense to me and allows me to be confident about my looks first. I had no make-up on, and the only thing different about me is that my hair is longer than it was last spring, and is styled differently.
Guess this is a milestone for me and it feels good!
Caleb told me this today:
I was talking a little about our upcoming visit and Grandma said "so does she still live at home?" i said "no, she's been on her own for a while, she is married and has kids." and she said "does her husband know you are going?" (lmao) I said "her wife does, I've spoken to her too."
and Grandma was like ":o" lol and then she said "are you sure it's safe? i mean...two women...you have to admit that's pretty different." (she thought we might be a target for homophobia/ transphobia.)
Caleb: I said "they haven't had too many problems" lolol
she doesn't know that you are trans, even after she saw you on cam that one time I didn't tell her, figure there's not much point.
Hey Keaira, you know you pass when...you have made 4 posts in the "you know you pass when" thread in two weeks. ;)
You know you pass when a new member at church asks how long you've been there, and you say "Well, 25 years total but 2 years since starting transition," and they ask, "What transition? Religious transition?" and then you explain it's gender transition and you realize they had no idea you were trans until you told them.
Yeah. That was my Sunday after worship!
I went in for a laser consultation today... meaning no makeup whatsoever. They had a spot where I had to list the medication so I put E and Spiro. At first, they asked if I took it every day or as needed, and I told them everyday. When the doctor came in she looked really closely at my face with squinty eyes, then asked about the Spiro, saying "That's a LOT of Spiro, do you have bad acne?" ... so I told her, no, I'm transgender. She got wide eyed for a second and just said "Oh..." then after a second said "Well because we get a lot of patients in here with acne". Pretty big confidence boost to pass like that with no makeup, needing laser!
Considering you're pretty much one of the board poster children for "Perfect transition results," Alaina, I am not surprised in the least. :D
Edit for, this just happened.
I was in mixed clothing - male top, female jeans, heavy green male-sweater. Not trying to pass.
So, I walk up to the pharmacy counter, say I'm here to pick up a prescription. She asks me what my name is, I say M--, Christopher.
She asks me, literal wording, if his birthday is in April.
Oh, and earlier, I got a fraud prevention call. They have my zip wrong, so I'm transferred to an operator - who, even after hearing my SSN and birthdate, refuses to count it as authentication - asking if I can visit a physical branch. My best guess is that she did not believe I am Chris.
It's a good day, folks. :D
Thanks for the compliment :)
And when they don't believe me, I just tell them I'm transgender. Saves the hassle. Nothing bad has ever happened to me. Usually there's a big "OMG HOW NEAT!!" factor to it lol
In February of this year I had a scary yet affirming moment with a bicyclist. I had been on HRT for 4 months. I was driving to see my therapist and it was snowing fairly heavily. Just as I pulled into a parking spot a guy on a bike came up and started yelling at me, telling me to use my mirrors. He called me a b***h, hit and spit on my window then rode off. Obviously he felt I almost hit him, but I didn't see him until he was on my left (which he shouldn't be) just before the incident. Also my side mirrors were covered by snow. My rear window was obscured too. I was visibly shaken for a bit in the waiting area of my therapists office.
Here's an easy one. I was getting off the elevators today, and I asked a guy where the bathrooms were. He told me to follow him as he needed to go to one too. I followed him to the restroom and as he went in the mens room he just kinda pointed to the womens room door right besides the mens room door. Told him thanks and walked on in the womens room!
Quote from: SarahLJP on May 15, 2013, 09:59:18 PM
In February of this year I had a scary yet affirming moment with a bicyclist. I had been on HRT for 4 months. I was driving to see my therapist and it was snowing fairly heavily. Just as I pulled into a parking spot a guy on a bike came up and started yelling at me, telling me to use my mirrors. He called me a b***h, hit and spit on my window then rode off. Obviously he felt I almost hit him, but I didn't see him until he was on my left (which he shouldn't be) just before the incident. Also my side mirrors were covered by snow. My rear window was obscured too. I was visibly shaken for a bit in the waiting area of my therapists office.
Cyclist can get a bit feisty sometimes, possibly they feel that motorist should be a bit more aware and responsible because they don't have the benefit of a steel cage to protect them from machines that weigh a ton or more
He probably had to swerve to avoid getting pinched in and that's how he ended up on the left side, by avoiding an accident with you
Remember, the cyclist is even more exposed to the weather conditions than you are, consideration = respect, Share the road
Quote from: V M on May 15, 2013, 10:51:51 PM
Cyclist can get a bit feisty sometimes, possibly they feel that motorist should be a bit more aware and responsible because they don't have the benefit of a steel cage to protect them from machines that weigh a ton or more
He probably had to swerve to avoid getting pinched in and that's how he ended up on the left side, by avoiding an accident with you
Remember, the cyclist is even more exposed to the weather conditions than you are, consideration = respect, Share the road
Because of the heavy snow the conditions weren't very good. I did worry about what if I had actually hurt him though. Cyclists make me a little nervous. Here in Chicago and I'm sure other places they often act like they're pedestrians and go through four way stops without looking. They're not quite motorists, but they're not quite pedestrians. That was the only incident I've had with a cyclist in the 4 years I've been living here. I'm usually vigilant with cyclists.
Possibly Chicago is a bit unique, but everywhere I've lived, the laws are just as strict and enforced for cyclists as they are for for motorists, particularly in the major cities where there is a congestion of the populous
Anyway, I'm not interested in arguing over it, be safe, be happy - Let's get back on topic
Hugs
I guess I must pass ok since when I went to the dressing rooms at Belk(they are in the middle of remodeling) yesterday, other women customers would point out which makeshift curtained "room" was available for me to try some jeans on.
I just remembered something that happened a few weeks ago. We had a little Friday night excitement when a building across from our house caught fire. Of course the whole neighborhood had to come out and watch the firefighters work, my mom and I watched from our front porch. Well, there is a woman that owns a 3 flat apartment building across the alley from us. She had seen me before I started transitioning when we first moved in, but we haven't seen much of each other in the intervening years. That night she was standing near by on the sidewalk while the fire was being put out. She came over to our house and the three of us started talking about the building. It had been unoccupied for a while. At one point the woman asked something like "so this is your daughter?" to my mom. We had just recently switched to using my female name openly. It caught my mom by surprise. Eventually my mom said "yes, this is Sarah". The woman obviously didn't remember me when I presented as male. ;D
When guys you work with ask for your phone number.
Or another more subtle way. A basketball game on TV was playing at work. I asked one of the guys who he was goingfor. He said San Francisco. The teams playing? Indiana and Miami lol. Boy I ain't stupid...
Even when men know that I'm trans they've never been creepy with me (except 2 times). But it's still a little intimidating when you say hi to a tall thug looking guy, trying to be nice because you're walking by, and he says "Hey beyyyybeh what's yo name."
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 27, 2013, 12:09:46 AM
Even when men know that I'm trans they've never been creepy with me (except 2 times). But it's still a little intimidating when you say hi to a tall thug looking guy, trying to be nice because you're walking by, and he says "Hey beyyyybeh what's yo name."
Groups of men bother me. They're usually taller than me. I'm a hair under 5' 7". They make me a little nervous. I guess it's the intimidation factor.
I know... I'm 5'3". It's pretty nerve wracking having somebody twice your size hitting on you. But at the same time it's reaffirming so... it's mixed.
I actually wish I was shorter. I know I'm not all that tall. I'm in between the average height of white men and women in the US. I identify more with shorter women. I would prefer to date men taller than me. So on the bright side at least I'm not 6'3" or something.
I love being tall. I have guys tell at me ," hey baby! What's yo name?"
Cat calls can be so much fun. Even more so when your a tall baby giraffe. And of course I'm always super nice to them all :)
Quote from: Tristan on May 27, 2013, 10:16:56 AM
I love being tall. I have guys tell at me ," hey baby! What's yo name?"
Cat calls can be so much fun. Even more so when your a tall baby giraffe. And of course I'm always super nice to them all :)
Omg xD Tristan, you're too fun.
When you get called "ma'am" and "lady" while dressed in sweats and without a padded bra.
Quote from: Tristan on May 27, 2013, 10:16:56 AM
I love being tall. I have guys tell at me ," hey baby! What's yo name?"
Cat calls can be so much fun. Even more so when your a tall baby giraffe. And of course I'm always super nice to them all :)
This just made my day. XD
Quote from: Tristan on May 27, 2013, 10:16:56 AM
I love being tall. I have guys tell at me ," hey baby! What's yo name?"
Cat calls can be so much fun. Even more so when your a tall baby giraffe. And of course I'm always super nice to them all :)
Hells yea, I was sporting my platforms in Seattle and got a few cat calls. Over 6 feet? F-yea, that's modelling time.
Quote from: Catherine.O on May 27, 2013, 11:01:32 AM
Hells yea, I was sporting my platforms in Seattle and got a few cat calls. Over 6 feet? F-yea, that's modelling time.
You better werk!
I'm sorry if I offended any of you taller ladies. I never meant there was anything wrong with being tall.
Quote from: SarahLJP on May 27, 2013, 11:22:32 AM
I'm sorry if I offended any of you taller ladies. I never meant there was anything wrong with being tall.
Girl your fine you didn't offend anyone. I love that you speak your mind and voice your concerns. You don't need to apologize for anything. Everyone has some good stories about passing. I just love it!
I just love being tall. It's cool being tall. I'm actually going to try and do that modeling thing. Someone talked me into trying it this fall
Well thank you :)
Oh Mia, I can just imagine your boyfriend laughing. That sounds hilarious and yet really kinda unsettling at the same time. I can understand why that would be kinda gross.
When a cop hands you your license back and says "I had no idea you were a man... I was about to flirt with you..."
and still gives you his phone number ....
and a guy witnessing you getting your ass beat after having a 3 hours scream fit with your roommate sticks around on your porch to holla at ya. Saying "You too pretty to be getting beat up". And when telling him you're trans, he just doesn't believe it.
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 28, 2013, 03:49:55 AM
When a cop hands you your license back and says "I had no idea you were a man... I was about to flirt with you..."
and still gives you his phone number ....
LOL
Means you not only pass, but are perceived as quite beautiful too. Nice! ^_^
About 10 years ago, at the rink. I am a figure skater and was changing from my street clothes to my skating clothes, which means down to bra and panties. The room was full of young girls (and their mothers), teenage girls talking over me, girls and women coming and going, all in various stages of undress, and nobody paying any attention to me or even noticing me. I remembered a "passing" thread on a TS forum and started to chuckle. I guess I have been on this side of the fence that I don't even notice.
When you are sunbathing in the park wearing your new bikini, and you get hit on 5 times in the span of an hour. That is a really good indication that you pass.
When you have to convince a bartender that you are who you are in your ID rather than some chump who got one in a back alley.
Some creepy guy gets angry with you and starts calling you every nasty name in the book regarding females and their bits... Geez, all I did was tell him to pay better attention because he almost hit me with his car while I was riding to the store last night
*Sigh* Road rage ::)
Quote from: rachl on March 24, 2012, 05:17:17 PM
I totally wouldn't pursue that line of argument! You can't have it both ways: either the government treats us as F during transition - which is what we want - or they treat us as "guy in a dress," which we don't.
:) :) :)Yes, I agree...and memorialize the receipt! ;D
Quote from: Brooke777 on June 02, 2013, 10:33:46 AM
When you are sunbathing in the park wearing your new bikini, and you get hit on 5 times in the span of an hour. That is a really good indication that you pass.
I've seen a few posts about getting "hit on" in this thread. That's not just an indication of passing. It also indicates that you're an attractive woman too. I think I pass as a woman fairly well. I just don't think I pass as an attractive woman, nor ever will. I doubt I'll be "hit on" very frequently if ever. Maybe I'm just being hard on myself. It could just be that I have a poor body image.
Why your at the gym and a guy from china who speaks bad English comes over and trying so hard start a conversation with you and ask you out
Quote from: SarahLJP on June 03, 2013, 10:12:01 AM
I've seen a few posts about getting "hit on" in this thread. That's not just an indication of passing. It also indicates that you're an attractive woman too. I think I pass as a woman fairly well. I just don't think I pass as an attractive woman, nor ever will. I doubt I'll be "hit on" very frequently if ever. Maybe I'm just being hard on myself. It could just be that I have a poor body image.
I think confidence is a very big part of it. I doubt that I am very attractive, but I walk around like I am the most beautiful woman out there.
I went swimming in a bathing suit and didn't get any odd looks from the 3 older gentlemen who were there. I was happy. the last time I was in a bathing suit was when I went swimming at Doshia's house, right when I started hrt. ^_^
I do event management and timing for endurance races, and I often have to travel with the guy who contracts me. We usually take one box truck with all our equipment. Well yesterday at an event, he was chatting with this British triathlete sharing with her how his wife studied at Oxford and they were married in England. After the conversation ends, she sees me and excitedly says, "So your husband said you studied in Oxford?!?! How exciting!!!" To me, he is like a big brother and so my immediate response was in an eww tone, "No, no...no I'm not his wife! He's my boss!" She was so embarrassed, "Oh I feel like a moron, I'm so sorry! I saw you guys in the truck together and doing everything together!"
When you get asked how far along your pregnancy is. :D
When you walk down the street on bin day and one bin man say to the other Hang on let the lady through first. :angel:
Quote from: JulieR on June 06, 2013, 09:59:36 PM
Just getting in the thread, it's gonna be a hell of a long time until I have anything to add!
It's easier to pass than you think! :) your facial expressions, mannerisms and voice can push you over the edge of passing if you don't pass appearance wise.
Quote from: kyh on June 16, 2013, 12:51:07 PM
It's easier to pass than you think! :) your facial expressions, mannerisms and voice can push you over the edge of passing if you don't pass appearance wise.
No truer words spoken. just to add confidence as the key. dont try to hide yourself in plain sight. have confidence in yourself. That way you dont draw attention and even if you are noticed people are much more reluctant to stare or say anything to someone who appears confident in themselves.
Sorry for breaking your combo here, ladies!
You know you pass when these older girls at the amusement park are trying to set you up with a girl, saying that she's "a real babe", while constantly referring to you among themselves with male pronouns.
And also when the guy behind the counter in Starbucks calls you "buddy".
When I no longer worry about passing.
It's great!
When people look at you funny because you stood up in church when the pastor asked that all fathers stand to be honored for Father's Day!
I NEVER thought I'd get to post something here.
I swipe my credit card at the local Sears store. Cashier notices the (male) name on the card and has a very puzzled look. Asks whether that's my husband's name. I sheepishly say that "that's another name I'm known by". He still won't believe me until I show him my ID.
LOL... Rather cute and flattering pick up lines that I get from older guys at the store from time to time :icon_chuckel:
Today's number was: "Say, I gotta tell ya, you look like a cute college girl" :icon_eyebrow:
1 tip I've got for passing is so simple.
Carry around a few spare tampons in your handbag, you just never know when you'll get asked for one.
Quote from: V M on June 19, 2013, 07:07:55 PM
Today's number was: "Say, I got tell ya, you look like a cute college girl" :icon_eyebrow:
Hey, I've seen the pictures. You do.
Quote from: suzifrommd on June 19, 2013, 07:31:11 PM
Hey, I've seen the pictures. You do.
Hugs, Thank you Suzi :)
When people call me the girl guitarist of the band and/or send drinks my way labled the same.
When you get pulled over and the cop doesn't believe what your ID says.
Quote from: kyh on June 16, 2013, 12:49:43 PM
So cute hahaha xD you should give him a chance if he's not too weird/creepy haha
Well, my passing anecdote is I made an account as a girl on a dating site and then messaged a straight guy who I really liked on it. And then 2 days later we met and we really liked each other and now we're dating. So I guess I pass ;D Mwahaha
That's so awesome! Congratulations! I have been seeing this guy but I wouldn't call him my BF but it is more then friends too lol so i guess it's complicated. It's a great feeling isn't it? I get so giddy when I see him!
When you get 100% pass in DC with politicians. And no one comments about pictures you post in the looking Ab Fab thread.
Well two things today.
First I was in the car stopped at a red light and quickly fixing my hair. When I looked next to me a guy was staring at me and then suddenly looked startled. Then he gave me a thumbs up and took off. ??? That made me lol.
Then I was depositing a paycheck at the bank (it's a good day today!!) and the bank manager came over to the teller (who I had shown my passport to so she knew) and said oh okay well you're not on the account right? He didn't get it. This was after 3-4min interacting with him. So my voice must be passing in public, too :)
Going to be a while until I can comment here...
Most I got was kids asking if inwas girl/boy...
As I'm in boy mode.....
xchristine, you'll get there. ^_^
You know you pass when you can make a guy hot and bothered without having to strip nekid. >:-)
OK. Two of these in two weeks. I'm on a roll:
I'm at a happy hour at a table of people from my divorced and separated group. I strike up a conversation with this nice lady sitting next to me. She asks me about my husband. I explain that this is a same-sex divorce. She wants to know how we could be married if the same-sex marriage law is only a few months old. I manage to deflect the question.
Next she wants to know where the kids came from. I mentioned that my partner is a biological mother. She asks where the sperm came from. I answer with "it's complicated."
She's genuinely perplexed about all this. The truth clearly doesn't occur to her.
You know you pass when your straight cis friends that have witnessed your entire transition start to show interest in you romantically :-*
Wow, I was not expecting that one!
..and wait a sec... I guess I am more attracted to guys than girls now? That is new!
You know you pass when you walk into the toilets at college with some friends to wash your hands and they casually take a pee in the urinals mid conversation.
You know you pass when you go to a local restaurant dressed male androgynously with your wife and the young waitress says "Hi ladies what would you like to drink?" and again later when she says, "Can I get you ladies anything else?" She got a fat tip that day!
My partner and I were out to dinner and I used my debit card to pay for the meal. It had my pre-transition name on the card and after the waitress ran the card she set it down in front of my partner calling him by the name on the card for signature. I just grinned and turned the receipt around and signed. It was the true dessert.
These are good stories :-).
Shan; I like that too. Funny, I have had it happen that, even if someone is off with me and gender me female, I find it a really positive experience. Must be odd tho! They are thinking "I just insulted her and she started beaming with glee... What?!" :-)
I'd say spending a weekend full time in Chicago counts. :D
One of Anna's friends' friends seemed genuinely surprised when I told her - after spending most of a day moving stuff together.
Also the museum admissions lady commented on my sensible-for-Windy-City pants, and I think a bum made a pass at me. :D
Then I came back and got in my frumpy clothes (no time for laundry)... Totally male mode... And the cafeteria waiter called me 'Ma'am'!
At this point, I think I'm definitely ready. :)
Wearing a binder is, apparently enough for me to pass. Even if I do look like I belong in high school.
I spent all day yesterday at Pride Parade, and used male restrooms the entire time. I had only used the men's bathroom once prior to yesterday, too. Talk about a confidence boost!
I think it was, in part, the help of my friends. I don't know if I'd have the cajones to use the men's restroom with my partner around. ??? :-\
I got stopped by the police and they threatened to call a female officer to search me and then thought I was lying to them when I said I am MAAB lol big misunderstanding lol also I now get directed to the womens room. So I went full time as I was living andro b4. Now I'm totally femme and look awesome! What a difference four and a half months of hrt makes...
Quote from: Joanna Dark on July 08, 2013, 03:23:37 PM
I got stopped by the police and they threatened to call a female officer to search me and then thought I was lying to them when I said I am MAAB lol big misunderstanding lol also I now get directed to the womens room. So I went full time as I was living andro b4. Now I'm totally femme and look awesome! What a difference four and a half months of hrt makes...
There you go Joanna! :)
The woman that cut my hair recently asked if I wanted her to shave my sideburns (I'm not on T) and then asked if me and my gf had any kids. Ah, the little things ;D
Quote from: Lance on July 08, 2013, 03:51:56 PM
The woman that cut my hair recently asked if I wanted her to shave my sideburns (I'm not on T) and then asked if me and my gf had any kids. Ah, the little things ;D
That is amazing. :D 'Grats!
Quote from: Jennygirl on June 25, 2013, 09:12:44 PM
Well two things today.
First I was in the car stopped at a red light and quickly fixing my hair. When I looked next to me a guy was staring at me and then suddenly looked startled. Then he gave me a thumbs up and took off. ??? That made me lol.
Then I was depositing a paycheck at the bank (it's a good day today!!) and the bank manager came over to the teller (who I had shown my passport to so she knew) and said oh okay well you're not on the account right? He didn't get it. This was after 3-4min interacting with him. So my voice must be passing in public, too :)
Past time to get all that name-change paperwork done, sweetie!!
Quote from: Jamie D on July 09, 2013, 12:56:11 AM
Past time to get all that name-change paperwork done, sweetie!!
You are soooo right about that Jamie!
Is it weird to find enjoyment in seeing the "double take" when they look up from the ID, though? For some reason their confusion brings me a lot of joy >:-) :angel:
When the almost exclusively female name on your ID card and mother's misgenderings aren't enough to make people use female pronouns.
Also I met up with some friends to whom I'm stealth, and we were hanging out with a bunch of guys (and one girl) they know. I was on a roll with my comedic streak, and one of the kids goes, "This dude right here is the guy," followed by my friend saying "No, he wants to be the guy" (in reference to the game I Wanna Be the Guy, not having to do with being trans). So I went "Yeah, I wanna be the guy" and he says "But you already are the guy!" and the others overhear and think I said I want to be a guy and go "Wait, you're not a guy?!?! No, bull****, you're a guy. Stop screwing with us man!". I explained the game reference to them and they were relieved, because apparently the concept of me being a girl was utterly mind-boggling and terrifying to them ;D
So my boyfriend (FtM) just started transitioning... like 4 days ago... and we were going to meet up with a FtM from our local GLBT center who was going to give him some advice, etc. on what's ahead. Well, we were at Epcot and my boyfriend went off for a cigarette. He arrived and thought I was him! After about 5 minutes of talking, my boyfriend returning and some very, very confused looks he realized I wasn't him. He thought I was totally cis-Female :) The look on his face was absolutely priceless!!!
Quote from: Michelle S. on July 09, 2013, 02:05:10 PM
So my boyfriend (FtM) just started transitioning... like 4 days ago... and we were going to meet up with a FtM from our local GLBT center who was going to give him some advice, etc. on what's ahead. Well, we were at Epcot and my boyfriend went off for a cigarette. He arrived and thought I was him! After about 5 minutes of talking, my boyfriend returning and some very, very confused looks he realized I wasn't him. He thought I was totally cis-Female :) The look on his face was absolutely priceless!!!
Actually that's pretty understandable!
Okay heres my first 'pass' story.... kinda... but its cute.
I was 12, in hospital with a broken thigh. I refused to let anyone cut my hair since I arrived. The doctors had set my leg wrong and so where going to break it again and have another crack at it.
As I was going under, this big jolly nurse said to me with the warnest smile 'oh, what a delightfuly pretty girl.'
Before I could point out the mistake, I was under.
I never forgot it, and the memory always made me stupidly happy. I told it as a joke for years.
I cannot wait to start passing again.
I went to lab to get my blood tested. Dressed in shirt and jeans. Went in fill the form, mark M in the gender field, show my id that has my old picture (also marked M).
Two days latter got the result, showing my testosterone is marked as high although the number is low, turns out they marked me as F in the system.
Not sure that I necessarily passed; but when my roommate and I went out for lunch today our server took my order first and gave her the check afterwards. I don't think my roommate was as amused as I was. :)
I wouldn't call this passing but a recent interaction has kind of confirmed that I may be physically ready to start presenting in public (I've been mostly mentally ready for about a month now.)
On Thursday I was at the airport heading down to Dallas for an electro appointment at E3K. I'm still presenting male and have male identification so I was in full boy-mode at the airport. I had my baggy cargo shorts, dark shirt that was at least a size too big to hide my boobs and to top it all off I had 4 days of facial hair growth in preparation for my electro.
So I get to security and get in line for the body scanners. The TSA guy motions me to the machine, looks at me for a second, and presses a button on a screen. I then hear him say to his co-worker "man, we really need an in-between button." I didn't know what he was talking about but I suspected it had something to do with my appearance, so I looked behind me at what he was doing. Apparently the guy has to signal to the operator which gender each person is that enters the scanner. There was a touch screen with a big pink button for female and a big blue button for male.
The fact that I looked feminine enough to confuse him when I was in full boy mode made me feel great until I got to my gate and found out that my flights were cancelled and I wasn't able to get to Dallas that night.
But anyway yeah I'm going full-time as soon as I get back from voice surgery at Yeson in about a month - I am so ready to stop with this male charade.
Quote from: abbyt89 on July 20, 2013, 11:44:42 PM
But anyway yeah I'm going full-time as soon as I get back from voice surgery at Yeson in about a month - I am so ready to stop with this male charade.
Good for you Abby, you look good so you'll pull it off really quite successfully Miss!
Quote from: abbyt89 on July 20, 2013, 11:44:42 PM
I wouldn't call this passing but a recent interaction has kind of confirmed that I may be physically ready to start presenting in public (I've been mostly mentally ready for about a month now.)
On Thursday I was at the airport heading down to Dallas for an electro appointment at E3K. I'm still presenting male and have male identification so I was in full boy-mode at the airport. I had my baggy cargo shorts, dark shirt that was at least a size too big to hide my boobs and to top it all off I had 4 days of facial hair growth in preparation for my electro.
So I get to security and get in line for the body scanners. The TSA guy motions me to the machine, looks at me for a second, and presses a button on a screen. I then hear him say to his co-worker "man, we really need an in-between button." I didn't know what he was talking about but I suspected it had something to do with my appearance, so I looked behind me at what he was doing. Apparently the guy has to signal to the operator which gender each person is that enters the scanner. There was a touch screen with a big pink button for female and a big blue button for male.
The fact that I looked feminine enough to confuse him when I was in full boy mode made me feel great until I got to my gate and found out that my flights were cancelled and I wasn't able to get to Dallas that night.
But anyway yeah I'm going full-time as soon as I get back from voice surgery at Yeson in about a month - I am so ready to stop with this male charade.
That's a pretty affirming story Abby!
I would be tickled pink :)
Sometimes I found being in the androgynous land incredibly exciting, and in the right situation seeing the confusion on peoples' faces made me feel wonderful for some reason.
I was at a transgender support group, and several of the people thought I was either an SO, or an allie. That is a sure sign that I pass.
Quote from: Brooke777 on July 22, 2013, 09:45:39 AM
I was at a transgender support group, and several of the people thought I was either an SO, or an allie. That is a sure sign that I pass.
Having met you in person I can clearly understand that!
Quote from: Shantel on July 22, 2013, 09:55:34 AM
Having met you in person I can clearly understand that!
I look quite a bit different than when you met me.
Quote from: Brooke777 on July 22, 2013, 11:11:38 AM
I look quite a bit different than when you met me.
I can imagine you do, you were pretty darned good looking back then though, I think I as much as told you so too.
You know you pass when one of your pre-transition straight cis friends starts showing signs of attraction towards you
Quote from: Jennygirl on July 25, 2013, 03:57:35 AM
You know you pass when one of your pre-transition straight cis friends starts showing signs of attraction towards you
Can't hardly blame him Sweet Pea! ;D
You know you pass when every single doctor does a double-take at the F marked on your chart, and asks if the patient is you or your mother when you're the one sitting on the exam table. And also when the receptionist calls you a he even after seeing your birth name while scheduling an appointment for you.
When the X-ray tech asks "When was your last period?" and, when you say you don't have periods, asks "When did you go through menopause?" and when you say you NEVER had periods she just stands and stares at you not knowing what to do/say next! LOL!
When, during an abdominal ultrasound, the tech says "I can't find your uterus....." and you say "I don't have one." and she proceeds to scold you for not putting "hysterectomy" on your questionnaire under "previous surgeries". ;D
When you go to court to change your name and the clerk doesn't believe your birth certificate is actually YOURS! ::)
Quote from: Northern Jane on July 25, 2013, 04:23:45 PM
When the X-ray tech asks "When was your last period?" and, when you say you don't have periods, asks "When did you go through menopause?" and when you say you NEVER had periods she just stands and stares at you not knowing what to do/say next! LOL!
When, during an abdominal ultrasound, the tech says "I can't find your uterus....." and you say "I don't have one." and she proceeds to scold you for not putting "hysterectomy" on your questionnaire under "previous surgeries". ;D
When you go to court to change your name and the clerk doesn't believe your birth certificate is actually YOURS! ::)
POW! You nailed it for the best passes of all Jane! There should be a prize lady! :icon_bunch:
Quote from: Shantel on July 25, 2013, 04:29:48 PM
POW! You nailed it for the best passes of all Jane! There should be a prize lady! :icon_bunch:
Wooo I agree! Some good ones :)
Guy's driving alongside me, honking. I figure something visible's wrong with my car. I roll my window down but he just wants to ask my name and chat me up.
The one that stands out is when the whole company was travelling by tube to go to a group event. A passenger had a newspaper open on a page where it was discussing IVF treatment. One of the CEOs of our company glanced at the page and then turned to me and said "It's not too late!" Funny thing is that I've know him for over 10 years and he was actually told 10 years ago I was trans, but inexplicably he forgot soon afterwards.
I guess my face passes for the most part on chatroulette which makes me feel pretty good haha and makes me more comfortable with going full-time. I don't even do anything to my hair or put any makeup on. A couple of guys have had to ask me if I was M or F but once I said F they didn't question anything.
Quote from: suzifrommd on July 26, 2013, 03:17:05 PM
Guy's driving alongside me, honking. I figure something visible's wrong with my car. I roll my window down but he just wants to ask my name and chat me up.
Nice! I had that happen once to me it was such a foreign feeling lol.
This is passing of a different kind. I've been full-time since late May. My eight-year old daughter is lucky enough to have her best friend living next door. Today, we, along with my 5 year old son, went to a movie together. After it was finished, my son had to use the restroom, so we all went into family bathroom, which has a single, open toilet. After my son was finished taking care of business, my daughter' friend without hesitation went about answering the call of nature herself. I think it's safe to say that she feels pretty comfortable around me. Perhaps "acceptance" fits better than "passing," but isn't that the goal of passing?
This is not exactly passing - since I don't think myself of being there quite yet. But on numerous occasions in the past few weeks, people have been referring me with female pronouns, even though all the time I dressed as the way I usually dressed in my male clothes and I'm not out to friends that was with me yet. So here's some of them
- I was talking to this girl that I meet at a meetup event, she heard me talking with my regular voice (which is even normally are pretty high pitched). So she was referring me as "she" which I gladly accepted, but my friend who was there immediately corrected her, since he didn't know about me transitioning. I felt bad for her.. but a the same time was pretty happy about that. (bonus: I won a mini fridge at that pub that night.. double happiness)
- I fell down and fainted at a restaurant due to food poisoning I think, in and out of consciousness I heard someone said, let's pull her near the wall so that she can rest there and one of my friend who doesn't know immediately corrected her for using that pronoun... (arggghh). Was taken to the hospital and I have to disclose the medication that I'm taking and showing my medical insurance card with "M" on it. I kind of overheard one of the nurse saying something about ".. this young lady".. felt better hearing that.. (thank you kind nurse).
- Was at starbucks yesterday, trying to get the frappucino. The barista charged me more that what he should and he ask his supervisor on how to reverse the charge for her (me) :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: The supervisor was also keep on referring me with the female pronouns. (and I'm not complaining)....
This was all happen without me even dressed in any female attire.....I only had a shoulder length hair. Not too confident in showing my pic yet.
Quote from: jfong on August 07, 2013, 03:58:18 PM
This is not exactly passing - since I don't think myself of being there quite yet. But on numerous occasions in the past few weeks, people have been referring me with female pronouns, even though all the time I dressed as the way I usually dressed in my male clothes and I'm not out to friends that was with me yet. So here's some of them
- I was talking to this girl that I meet at a meetup event, she heard me talking with my regular voice (which is even normally are pretty high pitched). So she was referring me as "she" which I gladly accepted, but my friend who was there immediately corrected her, since he didn't know about me transitioning. I felt bad for her.. but a the same time was pretty happy about that. (bonus: I won a mini fridge at that pub that night.. double happiness)
- I fell down and fainted at a restaurant due to food poisoning I think, in and out of consciousness I heard someone said, let's pull her near the wall so that she can rest there and one of my friend who doesn't know immediately corrected her for using that pronoun... (arggghh). Was taken to the hospital and I have to disclose the medication that I'm taking and showing my medical insurance card with "M" on it. I kind of overheard one of the nurse saying something about ".. this young lady".. felt better hearing that.. (thank you kind nurse).
- Was at starbucks yesterday, trying to get the frappucino. The barista charged me more that what he should and he ask his supervisor on how to reverse the charge for her (me) :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: The supervisor was also keep on referring me with the female pronouns. (and I'm not complaining)....
This was all happen without me even dressed in any female attire.....I only had a shoulder length hair. Not too confident in showing my pic yet.
Sounds like your passing to me :)
Quote from: Bardoux on August 07, 2013, 06:14:50 PM
Sounds like your passing to me :)
Thank you. Those were just a few instances over the course of a few weeks, so I don't think I'm quite where I want to be in term of passing yet.
My mother was trying to get a form so that we can view my medical records online the last time when we were going for yet another MRI. The receptionist searches the system for me by name, and scrunches her face up after several attempts. She asks if I've ever been there, which I have many times, and then searches by less letters, coming up with a different chart. She finally finds mine with first name, last name, and birthdate, and goes, "Oh! That's because they have him listed as female in the system. You have to fix that."
Made my day XD
I have probably told this story before .... but at my age, repaeting stories is allowed ::)
About 10 years ago (30 years post-everything) I was working in the shop welding some piece of broken equipment (something you have to do when you live in farm country). I was dressed in safety boots, bib coveralls, a man's plaid shirt, no makeup, had my hair in a pony tail tucked up under a backwards baseball cap, a welding helmet on top of that and big bulky welding gloves and I am sure my face was smeared with dirt.
I heard someone pull into the yard so I stepped out to see who it was. It was a stranger who was looking down at a map and he said, "Excuse me sir but do you know ..." but when he glanced up, he quickly corrected himself "Excuse me ma'am but do you know here I can find ...." I gave him directions and he was on his way.
I walked back into the shop shaking my head and wondering what the heck gave away my gender. He should have gendered me as male, based on the clothing and obvious activity and I hadn't spoken at that point.
I guess I had lost the ability to "pass" as male LOL! ;D
Quote from: Liminal Stranger on August 07, 2013, 08:06:06 PM
My mother was trying to get a form so that we can view my medical records online the last time when we were going for yet another MRI. The receptionist searches the system for me by name, and scrunches her face up after several attempts. She asks if I've ever been there, which I have many times, and then searches by less letters, coming up with a different chart. She finally finds mine with first name, last name, and birthdate, and goes, "Oh! That's because they have him listed as female in the system. You have to fix that."
Made my day XD
LOL! I bet your mother just loved that. :P
Nice one Jane!
My car battery died, I called the emergency road service I'm a member of. Nice, mature, mechanic arrives, very helpful and in the end says you should keep this car battery on a charger when you are not using it. Do you have a charger? I take out one that I have used since Moses charged the covenant. Yes that's what we need, I'll just show you how to use it correctly in case hubby isn't around.
Oh so cute!!
Oh the red one goes on positive and the black on negative, geek what will they think of next? Your bra holds the boobs and knickers hold the bum?
Hee hee
Cindy
Cindy
When dropping off my son at school today, I was reffered to as his Mom, by 3 teachers and the school principal. My son still calls me Dad, but the principal knows that when my son ralks about Dad, he is talking about me. And my son took it all in stride. Lol.
So I'm at this thing with my guy friend at lotte wolrd in Seoul (indoor/outdooramusement park thing in the city)..it's a dance competition thing. I'm sitting there, and the director thinks I'm my friend's gf...and so did everyone else in the room before I had to say I was a boy.. (Voice isn't passing yet, but apparently everything else is!)
Quote from: caleb. on August 08, 2013, 05:29:13 AM
LOL! I bet your mother just loved that. :P
Haha, you bet she did! It was especially great considering she had just been using the "no one even sees you as a boy" line on me. Well, there goes that "fact".
I went to a sliding scale clinic that uses a church to meet in and signed in using my female name. I had my appointment with the doctor and we covered a few issues and then I asked about some itching that I had and I hesitated a bit and said down there, and then the doc said "your vagina" and I said well sort of. So I guess if I could pass sitting a foot away from an MD I must not be doing to bad. Lol
While at work, a lady asked me to put air in her tires and change out her windshield wipers. I had to finish doing something else so she was waiting by her car. My coworker, who sometimes forgets the pronouns, goes up to her and says 'did she already help you ma'am?'. He didn't point to me or anything. The lady goes 'no he is going to help me when he's done' and pointed to me. ;D made my day.
Quote from: TheLance on August 12, 2013, 12:37:23 AM
While at work, a lady asked me to put air in her tires and change out her windshield wipers. I had to finish doing something else so she was waiting by her car. My coworker, who sometimes forgets the pronouns, goes up to her and says 'did she already help you ma'am?'. He didn't point to me or anything. The lady goes 'no he is going to help me when he's done' and pointed to me. ;D made my day.
Yup, sometimes folks need a bit of a reminder but sounds like it went well 8) Totally rockin' dude
Quote from: TheLance on August 12, 2013, 12:37:23 AM
While at work, a lady asked me to put air in her tires and change out her windshield wipers. I had to finish doing something else so she was waiting by her car. My coworker, who sometimes forgets the pronouns, goes up to her and says 'did she already help you ma'am?'. He didn't point to me or anything. The lady goes 'no he is going to help me when he's done' and pointed to me. ;D made my day.
I would have responded the same way, you look very male to me Lance and had me going for quite some time until I started reading some of your FtM posts. Been at this a long time and usually read people in an instant.
Most recently: I had a makeover at Macy's. The lady doing it only figured it out when, an hour later, I supplied my photo ID to pay for things.
Plus she was complimenting my skin and eyes and lashes all the way through. Very nice lady. :)
That's great Zoe! Total pass! :D
Yeah he's doing a lot better V M. He's a real good friend, just forgetful lol. Thank you Shan, I just inflated with pride. That makes me feel awesome. I do my best to pass. I normally do, with the occasional idiot. T will fix that, hopefully within the next few months.
Awesome pass zoe!
When at the bar at a very upscale resturant the man sitting next to me and chatting with me while we both eat our dinner ...picks up my bill. And then walks me to my car and gives me ahug goodnight. Then emails me the next day inviting me to play golf with him.
Quote from: VickyMI on August 21, 2013, 08:37:17 PM
When at the bar at a very upscale resturant the man sitting next to me and chatting with me while we both eat our dinner ...picks up my bill. And then walks me to my car and gives me ahug goodnight. Then emails me the next day inviting me to play golf with him.
Nice :)
Okay well this was about a month ago:
I was riding my bike down the street when about 5 teenagers said really loud:
"IS THAT A MAN OR A CHICK!?"
I was just wearing my usual unisex shorts & tee-shirt.
At that time I haven't even seen a therapist yet.
That really made me happy :)
REALLY happy... :icon_boogy: :icon_boogy:
The best passing thing I get is merely vocally and socially; if people don't actually look at me I get ma'am'd all the time... and every time that happens I smile a little bit. I've been told plenty of times I would be a pretty girl but only confused for a female by someone looking at me once. He simply looked at me at work and left my lane saying "Thank you ma'am" and left I about cried and I haven't even started hrt. I hope to share my hrt first passing experience sometime within the next year though <3
When you are out with an exGF and she casually drops in to the conversation that you used to be her BF and no one believes her..
Quote from: VickyMI on August 21, 2013, 08:37:17 PM
When at the bar at a very upscale resturant the man sitting next to me and chatting with me while we both eat our dinner ...picks up my bill. And then walks me to my car and gives me ahug goodnight. Then emails me the next day inviting me to play golf with him.
One could hardly blame him!
When a group of teenage girls ma'am you ;-)
Quote from: Cyndigurl45 on August 22, 2013, 09:49:43 AM
When a group of teenage girls ma'am you ;-)
They would be the most discerning and worst critics ever, sounds as if you scored a big win!
I was stood at the hospital reception with my dad and he said 'excuse me, my daughter needs to be seen by somebody please' to which the receptionist looked at my dad, looked at me, looked behind us and then with a confused look on his face said 'well, where is she then?' I couldn't stop smiling.
Quote from: Joey. on August 22, 2013, 10:39:00 AM
I was stood at the hospital reception with my dad and he said 'excuse me, my daughter needs to be seen by somebody please' to which the receptionist looked at my dad, looked at me, looked behind us and then with a confused look on his face said 'well, where is she then?' I couldn't stop smiling.
That's a big win for you Joey, sounds like your dad needs one of those son to father conversations where you go, "Look dad, love you but it's time to get a clue!" ;D
To be fair to him, this was shortly after I'd come out, and I wasn't even intending to pass at all, which is why it was so brilliant haha. My dad is all up for addressing me as male once I come out to everyone :D
Quote from: Joey. on August 22, 2013, 12:38:02 PM
To be fair to him, this was shortly after I'd come out, and I wasn't even intending to pass at all, which is why it was so brilliant haha. My dad is all up for addressing me as male once I come out to everyone :D
He's a keeper! :)
I was at Pizza Hut waiting for my large hand-tossed pepperoni pizza and one of the guys behind the counter picked up a pizza box with a pizza inside and asked if I was Linda. I just shook my head as I smiled and said, no, wrong gal.
Quote from: Keaira on August 29, 2013, 03:26:10 PM
I was at Pizza Hut waiting for my large hand-tossed pepperoni pizza and one of the guys behind the counter picked up a pizza box with a pizza inside and asked if I was Linda. I just shook my head as I smiled and said, no, wrong gal.
Lol, I love how you had to specify that it's a large hand-tossed pepperoni pizza.
That's a great pass. ;D
Quote from: caleb. on August 29, 2013, 03:39:08 PM
Lol, I love how you had to specify that it's a large hand-tossed pepperoni pizza.
That's a great pass. ;D
well, I love pizza!
Not sure if this is REALLY a pass or not. Might just be a very, very, tolerant ally, but today a mother holding the door for her four year old daughter to enter the ladies' room, also held the door for me and ushered me in ahead of her.
Quote from: suzifrommd on August 29, 2013, 05:54:31 PM
Not sure if this is REALLY a pass or not. Might just be a very, very, tolerant ally, but today a mother holding the door for her four year old daughter to enter the ladies' room, also held the door for me and ushered me in ahead of her.
A total pass Suz! If she had thought otherwise you can bet you wouldn't have been allowed in the restroom with her and her 4 yo daughter.
Quote from: Joules on August 29, 2013, 06:12:00 PM
^THIS^ +1
That is so true, a protective mother is the most fearsome creature on the planet.
I totally agree. Except since I've started living as a woman, the mothers of all my children's friends see me as available for child care in a way they did not when they knew me as a man. Confirming, yes. But time consuming. ;D
I was on a call (firefighter) and I was told to get the report information and got ma'am the whole time (and I wasn't even presenting femm lol) so I'm not sure if this counts or not but it made my day. Then the next day one of the guys at the station looked at me and said if you put some makeup on you would make a really pretty girl (I'm not out to them) so that also made my day :P
Jane,
Yes very confirming but watch out that they don't take advantage of you now that you have received their confirming stamp of validation, you aren't running a day care center hon!
Blastradius,
Total confirmation all around, looks like the other firefighters are very accepting as obviously you aren't fooling anyone by this time anyway, so how cool is that girlfriend? Time to unveil the real you once and for all!
on one occasion when i just started to go full time i ran into the bathroom situation.
I was at a mall with my boyfriend(FTM) and had to go BAD so when we got to the restroom area it was a large hole in the wall where the women went right and the men went left. I kinda stood there a minute not sure what to do. My boyfriend is pushing me towards the women's side, but i just couldn't do it so i ran to the men's side, only to be greeted by a cleaning person who started yelling at me that i was in the wrong side. He then grabs my arm a walks me past the urinals where three men are looking at me like i was a criminal going to court. He then gives me a little push into the woman's side. Was an awesome feeling. And ever since then i use the ladies room without even thinking about it..
Quote from: Alexis Hennen on September 01, 2013, 10:17:47 PM
on one occasion when i just started to go full time i ran into the bathroom situation.
I was at a mall with my boyfriend(FTM) and had to go BAD so when we got to the restroom area it was a large hole in the wall where the women went right and the men went left. I kinda stood there a minute not sure what to do. My boyfriend is pushing me towards the women's side, but i just couldn't do it so i ran to the men's side, only to be greeted by a cleaning person who started yelling at me that i was in the wrong side. He then grabs my arm a walks me past the urinals where three men are looking at me like i was a criminal going to court. He then gives me a little push into the woman's side. Was an awesome feeling. And ever since then i use the ladies room without even thinking about it..
That made me smile :)
When you see your whole family for the first time since transition, and they keep asking your mother who that gorgeous woman is. Even your aunts and uncles who helped raise you. That's when you know you pass.
Quote from: Brooke777 on September 03, 2013, 06:00:23 PM
When you see your whole family for the first time since transition, and they keep asking your mother who that gorgeous woman is. Even your aunts and uncles who helped raise you. That's when you know you pass.
Congratulations Brooke, looks like you have really arrived! :eusa_clap:
When you somehow catch a random person's eye on facebook and they leave you a message you didnt even notice until you realized that Facebook essentially shoved the message into the couch for you to stumble upon while looking for loose change.
Anyway, this guy wrote:
can i say hi? I was just passing on facebook and i saw you, I just wanted to let you know that you are a very beautiful woman and it would be my pleasure if i can get to know more about a very beautiful woman like you and i hope you do not mind about that.. Are you single ?
Jerry
Quote from: Keaira on September 03, 2013, 08:30:18 PM
When you somehow catch a random person's eye on facebook and they leave you a message you didnt even notice until you realized that Facebook essentially shoved the message into the couch for you to stumble upon while looking for loose change.
Anyway, this guy wrote:
can i say hi? I was just passing on facebook and i saw you, I just wanted to let you know that you are a very beautiful woman and it would be my pleasure if i can get to know more about a very beautiful woman like you and i hope you do not mind about that.. Are you single ?
Jerry
There you go Keaira! :eusa_clap: :icon_bunch:
See reference here (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,145154.msg1220440.html#msg1220440) ...LOL
Quote from: Shantel on September 03, 2013, 08:34:36 PM
There you go Keaira! :eusa_clap: :icon_bunch:
boy would he be in for a letdown. :P
Quote from: Keaira on September 03, 2013, 08:54:55 PM
boy would he be in for a letdown. :P
Haha, that's what you think :P
I went swimming at my building's pool on Labor Day, wore a small cotton shirt and swim trunks. Ended up talking to some parents and lifeguards about school and science and all, and they told me that I'm a smart young man and the world needs more guys like me. Now let's just hope those guys are born
without the problems I have :laugh:
Okay, well, there's another guy who also seemed interested. He lives in Pakistan and enjoys modelling.
I wouldn't say pass... but getting there.. :)
So I was at this pub/restaurant with my 2 guy friends.. and I was dressed in regular tshirt and one of those knee length shorts. Totally in guy mode.
The waitress asked for our ID.. and she was surprised to see my real age (let's just say she was off by 10yrs, so do other people usually). She must've saw my ID with my birth gender written on it, and yet when she was back at our table, she was reffering me as "she".. which I was gladly accept. My poor friends who doesn't know about my transition was clueless....
I told one of the girls at college I have a 20m old baby. She said 'Wow you look great!' ... I just said 'thanks!'
She didn't know it, but I was thankful for that comment in more than one way :-)
Well, you have to take your compliments where you can get them right? :-)
Quote from: Akira21 ♡♡♡ on September 13, 2013, 10:44:04 AM
I told one of the girls at college I have a 20m old baby. She said 'Wow you look great!' ... I just said 'thanks!'
She didn't know it, but I was thankful for that comment in more than one way :-)
Well, you have to take your compliments where you can get them right? :-)
LOL, a total win!
How about when I went to the local Baptist Ladies Christmas Dinner - we were asked to introduce ourselves with our name and some strange fact about ourselves. I left most of them wondering how I could possibly have such a good figure after having 12 children. (No typo there.)
Quote from: MaryXYX on September 16, 2013, 08:27:13 AM
How about when I went to the local Baptist Ladies Christmas Dinner - we were asked to introduce ourselves with our name and some strange fact about ourselves. I left most of them wondering how I could possibly have such a good figure after having 12 children. (No typo there.)
Lol, good one! :icon_bunch:
Quote from: MaryXYX on September 16, 2013, 08:27:13 AM
How about when I went to the local Baptist Ladies Christmas Dinner - we were asked to introduce ourselves with our name and some strange fact about ourselves. I left most of them wondering how I could possibly have such a good figure after having 12 children. (No typo there.)
I want to know how you can afford to go out to dinner after having 12 children! lol
Quote from: Akira21 ♡♡♡ on September 16, 2013, 10:48:29 AM
I want to know how you can afford to go out to dinner after having 12 children! lol
Baptist Ladies Christmas Dinner? Knowing how churches go it was no doubt a potluck!
sitting in the doctors office and having nurse's confuse me with someone named Andrew... :D
Quote from: Akira21 ♡♡♡ on September 16, 2013, 10:48:29 AM
I want to know how you can afford to go out to dinner after having 12 children! lol
And then being divorced and losing my home etc. I don't go out often!
Quote from: Shantel on September 16, 2013, 11:24:52 AM
Baptist Ladies Christmas Dinner? Knowing how churches go it was no doubt a potluck!
Not this one - it was a restaurant. Not an expensive one but still a restaurant.
Quote from: MaryXYX on September 16, 2013, 01:50:57 PM
Not this one - it was a restaurant. Not an expensive one but still a restaurant.
A touch of class then, good going Mary!
Last year I had a consultation for a breast reduction, the woman who took my paper work assured me that my referral letter had an error because what I needed was gynecomastia surgery. Even after giving her my ID (I'm guessing she didnt even look at the gender marker), she insisted that breast reduction was the wrong terminology. On top of that, the doctor referred to it the same way until I actually took my shirt off and he realized I was born female!
Being mistaken in a doctors office is always kind of surreal.
Quote from: ttim0324 on September 21, 2013, 12:26:27 AMBeing mistaken in a doctors office is always kind of surreal.
Isn't it LOL!!!
My family doctor has known me for 30 years and my medical history is all in her file. I am 64 (SRS at 24) and a couple of years ago she asked "When did you go through menopause?" and started rummaging through my file. I said "I didn't." and she looked at me puzzled until the light bulb came on. :o ;D
Your slightly womanizing boss gives you the flirty eye every time he sees you and you've been working stealth for 2 months. Or when you work in a room full of 45+ year old women and you join in a conversation hot flashes and they say "You're too young to have hot flashes!"
You know you pass when a lunchtime aide in the cafeteria (more like gestapo, they're utterly ridiculous) stops you for exiting out the "wrong door" and not getting a pass when there is a huge line of students in the way of you and the other side of the lunchroom, and actually calls up the dean to tell him that this young man over here isn't being compliant. Seriously, I've only gotten misgendered a handful of times by:
a) really tired students who assume everyone is female (they apologized in a split-second, though)
b) teachers who know me but don't "know" me (really annoying because I don't have the time right now to explain it to them)
School life is wonderful being pretty much stealth. Now if only my voice could stop cracking and I could will real facial hair to grow instead of my pathetic version of it that's longer and thicker than peach fuzz but still not awesome sideburns or anything, it's really annoying. Seriously, I sarcastically told some girl that I was 12 and she believed me. Awkward.
Two recent ones.
1.I went to dinner with BF and his Mum (who has never met me and does not know my past). Mum told me, confidentially, 'He needs a good woman to settle down with".
Goddess is she in for a shock on several levels!
2. At the hairdresser; (they have known me since pre-progression and created my hair styles colouring and everything) the stylist comes to me and says, the woman who just left after you arrived wanted to check your name as said she recognized you as being the Manageress of the Grand Hotel who she used to work with. I told her that I didn't think you had worked in the hotel industry but she was insistent that she would recognise you anywhere, she even knows your children's names.
Mmm sadly my wife and I have never given birth to anything more than bad jokes. And I called them Jamie and Devlyn.
<exit stage right>
Quote from: Cindy on September 26, 2013, 06:06:18 AM
Mmm sadly my wife and I have never given birth to anything more than bad jokes. And I called them Jamie and Devlyn.
<exit stage right>
HAHA! ;D
Heh... I love this thread
:laugh:
Quote from: Cindy on September 26, 2013, 06:06:18 AM
Two recent ones.
1.I went to dinner with BF and his Mum (who has never met me and does not know my past). Mum told me, confidentially, 'He needs a good woman to settle down with".
Goddess is she in for a shock on several levels!
2. At the hairdresser; (they have known me since pre-progression and created my hair styles colouring and everything) the stylist comes to me and says, the woman who just left after you arrived wanted to check your name as said she recognized you as being the Manageress of the Grand Hotel who she used to work with. I told her that I didn't think you had worked in the hotel industry but she was insistent that she would recognise you anywhere, she even knows your children's names.
Terrific pass, can't beat that Cindy!
Quote from: Cindy on September 26, 2013, 06:06:18 AM
Mmm sadly my wife and I have never given birth to anything more than bad jokes. And I called them Jamie and Devlyn.
<exit stage right>
LMAO!! :D ;D :laugh:
You know you pass when you pop into Marks & Spencer to buy a new bra for your teenage daughter... and the sales assistant 'womansplains' to you how to get your daughter to adjust the straps, hooks & eyes to make sure the bra will fit her correctly.
I just thanked her for her well-intentioned, helpful advice. I wouldn't dream of telling her that I already know exactly how to fit a bra! ;D
Quote from: FTMDiaries on September 26, 2013, 10:42:45 AM
You know you pass when you pop into Marks & Spencer to buy a new bra for your teenage daughter... and the sales assistant 'womansplains' to you how to get your daughter to adjust the straps, hooks & eyes to make sure the bra will fit her correctly.
I just thanked her for her well-intentioned, helpful advice. I wouldn't dream of telling her that I already know exactly how to fit a bra! ;D
Well yeah, even single parent dads need to know these things...lol!
I think the best way to tell if you pass is kids. A lot of adults will be polite and not stare but kids don't know better. If they see something unusual, particularly about a person, they'll stare. They are completely honest. When I'm out shopping sometimes I'll watch to see if kids are staring at me. They never do. They Just ignore me like adults do. I get smiles sometimes from little girls. Not sure why. Maybe they like the lipstick I have on.
Quote from: Tatyana on September 27, 2013, 09:36:13 AM
I think the best way to tell if you pass is kids. A lot of adults will be polite and not stare but kids don't know better. If they see something unusual, particularly about a person, they'll stare. They are completely honest. When I'm out shopping sometimes I'll watch to see if kids are staring at me. They never do. They Just ignore me like adults do. I get smiles sometimes from little girls. Not sure why. Maybe they like the lipstick I have on.
You're so right, small children are always brutally honest so that is indeed a pass!
Talking about children, there is one local guy that will still misgender me a lot cause he's pretty much an a-hole that will rob you blind if you gave him a chance, but his little boy always refers to me as her or that lady from the store.
Oddly enough, even some of the most conservative type people that know I'm trans will still respect me enough to refer to me as I present myself.
Quote from: Jaime something or other... on September 27, 2013, 03:05:02 PM
Talking about children, there is one local guy that will still misgender me a lot cause he's pretty much an a-hole that will rob you blind if you gave him a chance, but his little boy always refers to me as her or that lady from the store.
Oddly enough, even some of the most conservative type people that know I'm trans will still respect me enough to refer to me as I present myself.
And why shouldn't they, just look at yourself doll face! That guy is no doubt irredeemably beyond A-hole stage, his little boy sounds a lot brighter!
When it gets harder and harder and harder to use your old ID, to the point where you are almost turned away trying to pick up a package from the post office :D
Come on California, HURRY UP! (http://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/billNavClient.xhtml?bill_id=201320140AB1121)
When most girls dont give you that look anymore :o.
Oh children!
My close friend has a 3-4 year old, she is the light of my life and I love her to bits. She loves to sit in my car and play.
Last week her Mum asked if she would like to call in and see me on her way to child care.
In child language. ''Oh yes she is a special lady" Mum asked why (intrigued if she had picked up my gender diversity) to which child said, 'she drives a sports car.'
I'm so special!!
Quote from: Cindy on September 28, 2013, 04:39:11 AM
Oh children!
My close friend has a 3-4 year old, she is the light of my life and I love her to bits. She loves to sit in my car and play.
Last week her Mum asked if she would like to call in and see me on her way to child care.
In child language. ''Oh yes she is a special lady" Mum asked why (intrigued if she had picked up my gender diversity) to which child said, 'she drives a sports car.'
I'm so special!!
This kid thinks so too! :icon_bunch:
I was entering a 7-11 for coffee when 3 young guys in front of me and stepped back to allow the lady through first. It was very sweet how they all at once stepped away from the door :)
You know you pass when one of the girls you work with asks who your OB/GYN is, Who delivered your son and asks if your hubby works. So yea.. that's been my week. Oh and for bonus points I managed to answer all questions truthfully.
Who is my OB/GYN? I don't have one right now but a specialist I have to see is an OB/GYN.
Who delivered your son? Dr. Rudasol
Does your husband work? No he doesn't (Because I don't have a hubby)
Quote from: sarahann123 on September 29, 2013, 03:11:35 PM
I was entering a 7-11 for coffee when 3 young guys in front of me and stepped back to allow the lady through first. It was very sweet how they all at once stepped away from the door :)
I do like it when a scruffy young man steps back to let me get on the bus first. Particularly when it's someone who doesn't look likely to be considerate. Yes it is often someone who doesn't look likely.
Quote from: Keaira Raine on September 29, 2013, 06:44:21 PM
You know you pass when one of the girls you work with asks who your OB/GYN is, Who delivered your son and asks if your hubby works. So yea.. that's been my week. Oh and for bonus points I managed to answer all questions truthfully.
Who is my OB/GYN? I don't have one right now but a specialist I have to see is an OB/GYN.
Who delivered your son? Dr. Rudasol
Does your husband work? No he doesn't (Because I don't have a hubby)
I could answer the third honestly enough by saying I'm divorced. I'm not likely to get the first at my age.
The nearest approximation is women wondering how I could possibly have such a good figure after having so many children. I tend to smile knowingly and not explain.
Quote from: MaryXYX on September 30, 2013, 09:38:51 AM
I could answer the third honestly enough by saying I'm divorced. I'm not likely to get the first at my age.
The nearest approximation is women wondering how I could possibly have such a good figure after having so many children. I tend to smile knowingly and not explain.
Good thinking Mary, "Loose lips sink ships!"
This one was a while back. I forget the context of the situation, but this girl was talking to me about political correctness and goes, "But you're a cishet guy, you don't understand".
Made my day :P
When you inform your new doctor that you're transgender and they arent sure if you're transitioning from female to male, or male to female. What an ego boost! Never been happier ;D
Quote from: ttim0324 on October 09, 2013, 04:38:39 PM
When you inform your new doctor that you're transgender and they arent sure if you're transitioning from female to male, or male to female. What an ego boost! Never been happier ;D
Oh that would be good! I don't think I could get away with it but I might try sometime.
I was at a popular gay bar on Bourbon Street that does really good drag shows regularly. A lesbian sat down next to me and struck up some conversation. She then asked if I was gay. I told her no, and she replied "Well then why are you here?" in a frustrated manner. At first I thought she had clocked me, but when I sobered up the next morning and realized she was talking to nearly every girl in the bar, I realized she wanted to get to know me better!
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 13, 2013, 08:43:25 PM
I was at a popular gay bar on Bourbon Street that does really good drag shows regularly. A lesbian sat down next to me and struck up some conversation. She then asked if I was gay. I told her no, and she replied "Well then why are you here?" in a frustrated manner. At first I thought she had clocked me, but when I sobered up the next morning and realized she was talking to nearly every girl in the bar, I realized she wanted to get to know me better!
She wanted to give you a "treat" that would have shocked you and her even more! :D ;D
Quote from: Shantel on October 13, 2013, 08:46:08 PM
She wanted to give you a "treat" that would have shocked you and her even more! :D ;D
lol... I get hit on by lesbians regularly, while men just give me the nervous look like they want to say something but are too chicken.
I've said it enough to be true: women have more balls than men do :P
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 13, 2013, 08:52:54 PM
lol... I get hit on by lesbians regularly, while men just give me the nervous look like they want to say something but are too chicken.
I've said it enough to be true: women have more balls than men do :P
It's all about fear of rejection by a hot looking chick! When I was a high school kid there was this most beautiful girl.....Years later she and I was talking and I confessed about my fears of even talking to her in high school, she said that it was a shame that I hadn't because she would have welcomed it as all she had to go out with was the same jock who had always considered her nothing more than his personal mattress. You're right, men are awfully backwards around attractive women.
When you swing dance with and end up talking intimately to a guy for an hour before telling him you're trans, then he offers you the slow smile of disbelief and eventually a long hug along with his number.
I would have never thought my dance style passes being that I am so used to feeling uncomfortable on the dance floor!! Twas such a good night :)
Hooray!!! for Jennygirl.
Quote from: Jennygirl on October 20, 2013, 07:10:30 AM
When you swing dance with and end up talking intimately to a guy for an hour before telling him you're trans, then he offers you the slow smile of disbelief and eventually a long hug along with his number.
I would have never thought my dance style passes being that I am so used to feeling uncomfortable on the dance floor!! Twas such a good night :)
Sounds like Jennygirl has truly arrived!
My first "male fail" happened a few weeks ago.
My spouse and I went to lunch at this tiny Italian place. I was wearing a compression shirt that is beginning to fail at the task assigned to it, a very loose t-shirt, a pair of women's jeans, my favorite feminine black cap, and of course earrings that aren't too loudly female. I've taken to shaving with a new razor lately, a three bladed razor instead of the old dual and it really has been giving me a nice close shave so the beard is less visible plus I think the higher estrogen dosage my endo prescribed last month is having a small effect on the facial hair too. (E3000 appointment in 2 more months!)
Anyway, there we are in the Italian restaurant. I admit it was a wee bit dark and after the waiter takes my spouse's order, I get "And you, ma'am?" I place my order and I've been working on using my voice with male resonance minimized, which raises the pitch a bit, though not sufficiently for my taste, due to that darned paralyzed vocal cord, and he doesn't bat an eye. He walks off and I grin. My spouse looks at me funny, and I say, "I think I just mis-heard the waiter." She says, "No you didn't. He said ma'am when talking to you." He comes back, brings our iced teas, and says, "Your orders will be out shortly, ladies."
Then, less than a week later, we're at another place for lunch (a Chili's), almost the same androgynous clothing, and we get "What can I get for you ladies today?"
Now as I've said before, raising pitch is very difficult for me due to a paralyzed vocal cord, so my focus has been on eliminating male resonance. I've measured pitch and it just doesn't want to go much beyond about 165 Hz right now with that specific implant in the bad cord. But two days ago I answer the phone and someone asks for me by my male name. I say, "What can I do for you?" And I get a "Well, I need to talk to him, ma'am."
And my final story isn't about passing, but about acceptance.
A couple who I know and am dear friends with have a 5 year old son who has witnessed me working my way through this. A few weeks back, his mother mentioned that we were going to all go to dinner together. That produced the following conversation (I'm paraphrasing from memory) with her boy.
Her son: "I remember Liz! Sometimes Liz is <MaleName> and sometimes <MaleName> is Liz!"
My friend: "Does this bother you?"
Her son looks at her totally confused like should it? He then says: "No! Liz is Liz! I like Liz!"
We had a great dinner and the little one enjoyed getting and keeping my attention.
:)
So cool Liz! The first time my spouse and I were out to dinner and we both got ma'am-ed and you ladies my spouse pointed at me and snickered as if she had just witnessed a real riotous faux pas!
The first time I passed in any way was maybe 6 months before I'd even started considering transitioning and I was in line at the customer service desk at the local supermarket. When one desk became available the girl behind the counter turned to the guy standing closest to her desk, and he pointed at me and said "I think this lady was ahead of me". :)
Now when I'm going through RLE I was on my way out of the hospital after a voice therapy session one day when a guy handing out flyers followed me for a bit, repeating "Lady! Hey, Lady! Excuse me! M'am!" Nice and annoying at the same time :)
WHen guys come up and start dancing with you, and asking if you want a drink.......... That is a sign of passing, yes?? Or when im standing by the bathroom, and ladies begin to line up behind me when the bathroom is empty. :) Also, when I walk in the men's bathroom out of habit and the guard in he bathroom goes whoa, wrong one. Or guys come asking where I am from, like one asking if Im Scandinavian because I am tall for a woman. :) This was last night........
Would those be some???
Quote from: Ксениа on November 01, 2013, 07:46:20 PM
WHen guys come up and start dancing with you, and asking if you want a drink.......... That is a sign of passing, yes?? Or when im standing by the bathroom, and ladies begin to line up behind me when the bathroom is empty. :) Also, when I walk in the men's bathroom out of habit and the guard in he bathroom goes whoa, wrong one. Or guys come asking where I am from, like one asking if Im Scandinavian because I am tall for a woman. :) This was last night........
Would those be some???
Absolutely, and without a doubt!
Well I think I must have really passed this time. Last weekend I went to an all gay women's club in Melbourne for the first time. Alone as my straight girlfriend cried off at the last moment. Well I summed up courage and went arriving 2 hours after it opened
I was probably a bit over dressed as most women were either dressed very boyish or manly, with only four women in feminine dresses (me included). But I am a lipstrick femme, so my makeup and nails/toenails were all in matching pink and I had on one of my prettiest dresses and with matching shoes and handbag and felt a million dollars.
Anyway a really friendly soft butch women approached me and she asked me to join a group of women at a table. As the evening wore two of them wanted to dance with me and then one bought me drinks and then kissed me pretty passionately telling me that I was very pretty and that I looked gorgeous. The club had a drag act and a great DJ.
It was a great atmosphere and there was some great women there.
Well I went onto have a great night...getting home in the early hours.............
my sexuality was never questioned, Of course I have very small hands and feet, no Adams apple and my make up was flawless (mind you I did have a full leg and bikini wax, a full facial and eyelash and eyebrow tint that afternoon) so with my skin really glistening and of course incredibly soft now from nearly 12 months on HRT, I seem to pass completely.
Judith
Judith,
I can picture that perfectly, you have good descriptive skills and left me feeling as I was there watching you. Sounds like you have truly arrived lady, kudos! Oh btw, thanks for a lovely evening I so enjoyed it albeit vicariously. :)
Well done Judith! Jealous - of course I am. I might not get that far but I'm working on it.
More male fail, coming at me pretty regularly now.
The weekend of Nov. 2-3, I went to the Texas Ren Fest near Magnolia, Texas. I went with several friends, many from out of state, and one, a cisgender female who is one of my best friends who saw me Friday night and insisted that I've slid further across the gender continuum than I believed myself. I told her I wasn't planning to deliberately present female, just be my androgynous self. She said fine and that she would be sticking with me the entire weekend to count the number of times I was gendered female and gendered male.
Now what I wore were women's sneakers, which is what I usually wear, women's jeans, a gender neutral t-shirt Saturday, a feminine purple blouse Sunday, my hair down, my silver stud earrings Saturday and my favorite hoops Sunday, and my favorite feminine cap to cover the male pattern baldness on top. I admit to carrying a purse, just because I find them so darned handy. Oh, and I wore a white woman's sweater since it was cool both days, enough that short sleeves weren't quite comfortable. Now I've not done facial hair removal yet nor was I wearing any makeup. The facial hair removal starts in December at E3000. And while I've got the male resonance pretty much suppressed, I don't have much higher pitch because of the paralyzed vocal cords. And that was me going to the Ren Fest.
By the end of the day Sunday, when I was preparing to drive my friend back to the airport, she was having the last laugh. Over the course of two days, I'd been directly gendered female 17 times (Ms., Miss, Ma'am) and indirectly numerous others ("you ladies") and I'd been gendered male exactly 0 times. As we left the Fest walking back to the car, her only words, aside from a giant grin, were "Told ya!"
Then to ram the point home, twice this week when I was out and about not trying to present female at all, I was again gendered female.
I guess it must be getting obvious. For personal reasons, I'm sticking to my longer term plan to come out at work in late February or maybe early March (after annual evaluations are complete). I'll be doing the legal name and gender change in the second half of 2014, again for personal reasons, but given that I'll nearly be done with E3000 by late summer next year, I'm starting to feel really good about when I go full time.
Under other circumstances, I'd probably just move ahead now but things aren't that simple so I'll stick to my current timetable. But it's good to know that I'm starting to fit in and be accepted.
Last month I had a few shopping errands to run and, since the days were getting warmer, I wore a simple black tee and khaki cargo pants with sandals and baseball cap. The thing to keep in mind with wearing a tee is that they are increasingly unable to hide my developing chest area, that is, my boobs! With a loose tee it's generally not that noticeable and it's not like my breasts were even at A, or if they were it was only only just... this tee wasn't particularly loose though. The short sleeves of a tee also show off my skinny hairless arms; plus wearing a cap hides my thin hairline and, as a result, makes my face appear more feminine. Or so I like to believe. However, the main point is that I was in no way attempting to pass as female. Male clothes and no adornment to the contrary - no jewellery or makeup or anything of that nature.
So where I'm getting to with this is that I decided to get my lottery tickets checked at a random news agency. Six of them had accrued in my wallet over the last couple of months and I was none the wiser as to whether I'd struck it rich or not. Not, as it turned out. But as the guy behind the counter delivered the bad news he said "Sorry, man". Or was it "Sorry, m'am"?(!) I only wonder because I don't think I've ever been called "man" by a shop assistant before; and it just seems a bit overly casual especially for an Indian as they usually call me "sir". So maybe, just maybe this guy took me for a woman. A big maybe but I'll take what I can get! ;D
A guy I dated messaged me on Facebook today. He said he was working with a charity group that was making fun of "transies", and how you can tell they're guys. He told me that he said he has a friend that's trans and they'd never know... talking about me.
...sounds like a "great" charity... :P
Quote from: LizMarie on November 09, 2013, 10:15:51 PM
More male fail, coming at me pretty regularly now.
I don't understand why this is a fail - I thought you wanted to be seen as female?
Quote from: LizMarie on November 09, 2013, 10:15:51 PM
But it's good to know that I'm starting to fit in and be accepted.
Oh yes it is good! Congratulations LizMarie!
Quote from: MaryXYX on November 11, 2013, 05:24:07 AM
I don't understand why this is a fail - I thought you wanted to be seen as female?
Oh yes it is good! Congratulations LizMarie!
I was thinking the same lol, but it's brilliant that you had a lovely weekend :)
Quote from: judithlynn on November 05, 2013, 07:35:25 AM
Well I think I must have really passed this time. Last weekend I went to an all gay women's club in Melbourne for the first time. Alone as my straight girlfriend cried off at the last moment. Well I summed up courage and went arriving 2 hours after it opened
I was probably a bit over dressed as most women were either dressed very boyish or manly, with only four women in feminine dresses (me included). But I am a lipstrick femme, so my makeup and nails/toenails were all in matching pink and I had on one of my prettiest dresses and with matching shoes and handbag and felt a million dollars.
Anyway a really friendly soft butch women approached me and she asked me to join a group of women at a table. As the evening wore two of them wanted to dance with me and then one bought me drinks and then kissed me pretty passionately telling me that I was very pretty and that I looked gorgeous. The club had a drag act and a great DJ.
It was a great atmosphere and there was some great women there.
Well I went onto have a great night...getting home in the early hours.............
my sexuality was never questioned, Of course I have very small hands and feet, no Adams apple and my make up was flawless (mind you I did have a full leg and bikini wax, a full facial and eyelash and eyebrow tint that afternoon) so with my skin really glistening and of course incredibly soft now from nearly 12 months on HRT, I seem to pass completely.
Judith
Mmm getting frisky Sis!!
Congrats.
I was hoping you are OK but then you certainly seem to be!!
Cindy
Oh! Some of you may not be familiar with that phrase. It's called male fail because you're failing at presenting male even when you didn't actively try to present female. :)
"Male fail" is that moment when you begin to realize that continuing the male charade just isn't working too well anymore if at all. It's a wonderful thing to realize, that suddenly, even without trying, people are seeing you as female, even when not primarily dressed female.
Well for me it was when I enter a store and men smile at me and women shoot me dirty looks. ;D
Quote from: Heather on November 11, 2013, 01:48:58 PM
Well for me it was when I enter a store and men smile at me and women shoot me dirty looks. ;D
That's normal ask my wife, she is a hot looking chickster has the flattest tummy, terrific figure and is a stylish dresser, she gets that from other women all the time and gives them the "Eat your hearts out ladies" look in return.
The evil women are usually close to menopause. They're the worst =/
Not really sure. I was at the pharmacy using my Avodart prescription, and the clerk started getting all weird after reading what was he supposed to give me. Then he semmed to snap and finally realize things "No, nothing", and he went to get it. When inquired he said something about the prescription type, and whatever, but it totally felt as trying ro change the subject.
When you are buying something that in the box says "Only for men, women and children should not touch this", and the clerk has doubts about selling you that, it can't be a bad sing, can it?
A girl in her early 20's came up to me and asked me how "Lila" was doing. She said it was nice to see me again and asked how I was.
I was like, ooooh, I'm fine, thanks.
She was like, you remember me dont you? I used to babysit your daughter, Lila. Julie, don't you remember me?
I was like....uhm, I'm Hailey actually.
She was shocked! She totally thought I was this Julie mom who has a daughter names Lila.
Apparently I have a twin out there lol.
I guess that means I pass?
Quote from: Heather on November 11, 2013, 01:48:58 PM
Well for me it was when I enter a store and men smile at me and women shoot me dirty looks. ;D
Like when the "Baptist Ladies Group" learned that I have 12 children. They were just so envious of my good figure!
Quote from: HelloKitty on November 12, 2013, 08:22:00 AM
A girl in her early 20's came up to me and asked me how "Lila" was doing. She said it was nice to see me again and asked how I was.
I was like, ooooh, I'm fine, thanks.
She was like, you remember me dont you? I used to babysit your daughter, Lila. Julie, don't you remember me?
I was like....uhm, I'm Hailey actually.
She was shocked! She totally thought I was this Rachel mom who has a daughter names Lila.
Apparently I have a twin out there lol.
I guess that means I pass?
I would definitely say so. That's funny...and awesome.
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on November 11, 2013, 10:27:41 PM
The evil women are usually close to menopause. They're the worst =/
You're so right about that, one menopausal woman yelled at me and said, "You have no idea what hot flashes and night sweats are like!" I thought (oh really bitch? When your gonads are gone and you go without hormones for awhile hot flashes and night sweats are part of the program) Not worth going there with her though.
Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me :eusa_doh:
Quote from: MariaMx on November 15, 2013, 11:34:32 AM
Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me :eusa_doh:
This makes my day.
Quote from: MariaMx on November 15, 2013, 11:34:32 AM
Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me :eusa_doh:
Hahaha!
Quote from: MariaMx on November 15, 2013, 11:34:32 AM
Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me :eusa_doh:
Yeah! You go girl!
Quote from: MariaMx on November 15, 2013, 11:34:32 AM
Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me :eusa_doh:
Haha, I love it!
Quote from: MariaMx on November 15, 2013, 11:34:32 AM
Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me :eusa_doh:
Oh, gosh! That's great!
I had a funny one today, I was in sunday school sitting near the front of the room, and my best friend for like eight or nine years came in late and sat in the back. At the end when we all got up to leave he walked up and was like Oh, its you I was trying to figure out who the new girl was that I had never seen before. That made my day :D (and I dont present female and im not out to anyone so it kinda sucked having to hide how happy that made me lol)
You know you pass when a girl playfully punches you in the chest (not violently so, it's kinda hard to explain) and get told you're being silly when you say it's weird to do that because you're a guy and you don't have boobs.
I wasn't binding , either ;D
Today I had to get some x-rays done and the radiologist asked me if I was pregnant. I said I wasn't and she then asked when my last period was to be sure. I told her I never had one and she looked at me funny so I just told her I was trans and she seemed kind of surprised. So I guess that's a good sign :)
I went to see a PA since my endo is out on sick leave. He wanted to know how they knew what dose of T to give me since there was no record of having it checked. I then had to explain why I have no gonads.
Good passes Abby and LordKAT! Anyway, who's going to argue with a lion? ;D
While wearing a wig, someone in the ladie's room asked me if my hair was naturally curly.
Quote from: abbyt89 on November 21, 2013, 12:50:48 PM
Today I had to get some x-rays done and the radiologist asked me if I was pregnant. I said I wasn't and she then asked when my last period was to be sure. I told her I never had one and she looked at me funny so I just told her I was trans and she seemed kind of surprised. So I guess that's a good sign :)
If that really is you in the photo I don't see any room for doubt. You're obviously a pretty woman - no argument.
Quote from: abbyt89 on November 21, 2013, 12:50:48 PM
Today I had to get some x-rays done and the radiologist asked me if I was pregnant. I said I wasn't and she then asked when my last period was to be sure. I told her I never had one and she looked at me funny so I just told her I was trans and she seemed kind of surprised. So I guess that's a good sign :)
Same thing happened to me. Exact same thing in the ER. Then when they admitted me to ICU the lady asked why I was on Spiro because she was on it too for hormonal imbalances, but she wanted to know why my dose was so high. I told her I'm trans and she was like "What? Explain this to me.." .. I had to tell her I was MtF before she even got past her confusion. She then went on to say how she treated another MtF individual saying something like "I really admire him", however she never messed up on the pronoun with me, she didn't even come close to slipping on them. The other nurse that was in the room had her eyebrows raised saying "You look good boo! You look really good. You look better than me!"
This was in the ICU at 3:30 am with no makeup, a medical gown on, with my heart racing at 188 BPM in a very trans aware city. It kinda gave me a little more confidence lol.
You know you pass when you pass, even to other trans women.
I had a trans woman at the TDOR event I took part in tell me that she had no idea I was trans.
I had my own ER story just the other day. I went in early in the morning due to excruciating abdominal pain (turned out to be a kidney stone).
The nurse was reviewing my medication and asked "Estrace, that's an estrogen isn't it?"
Me: "Yes"
Her: "Do you have a uterus?"
Me: "No, I'm a male to female transexual"
Her (angrily): "When we asked if you have any related medical conditions you should have mentioned that!"
Later on when I went for a CT scan I was asked if there was any chance that I was pregnant followed by when my last period was.
I posted about this in a different thread, but I guessed it could do well in here as well.
A couple of days ago I needed to go to the bank right after an electrolysis session. So I walk up to the cashier with a half bearded (and half red) face and hand her a check with my old male name on it. I tell her that I've recently changed my name and ask if I can still cash the check. She looks at me. Looks at the name on the check. And turns to her colleague to say "She's received a check with the wrong name on it, do you know what to do about it?"
When you give a talk on representation of transgender topics in popular media at a diversity conference and the audience think you're cis. :)
I already posted this in the "What made you happy today?", but I think it fits here as well.
For the record, I used to play bass for this guy back in college ;D
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Quote from: Keaira Raine on November 23, 2013, 10:09:30 PM
You know you pass when you pass, even to other trans women.
I had a trans woman at the TDOR event I took part in tell me that she had no idea I was trans.
A bit of the opposite at one TV/TG group I went to. A friend was asked if she was full time. As I said later, the correct answer would have been "Yes - from birth".
T-women can make assumptions too.
I'm Ftm and this actually happens to me often lol: my favorite kind of you know you just passed moment is when I introduce myself to someone as being trans, and they respond with 'Why do you want to be a girl?!'
Quote from: Chakra6 on November 25, 2013, 03:45:35 AM
I'm Ftm and this actually happens to me often lol: my favorite kind of you know you just passed moment is when I introduce myself to someone as being trans, and they respond with 'Why do you want to be a girl?!'
Nice! After outing yourself as trans they still can't see it! The only excuse they have is the assumption that "trans" always means "MtF".
A pretty good one happened last night...it was SO STRANGE having the tables turned!
Last night it was my best friends birthday party and she had a blast as a best friend should. Well, standing around in the back garden I wound up playing a random guy one-on-one at beer pong (really liquor pong). I was completely was annihilating him at first, and we quickly attracted an audience. One guy prodded the player telling him that he can't lose to a girl and it's a battle of the sexes!
My first thought was holy crap I remember what it was like being told not to lose to a girl! My second thought was just how badly I HAD to beat this guy. >:-)
Officially it ended in a stalemate; we just became too drunk, and we were throwing the ball everywhere but in the cup (and falling over chasing the balls). I had one cup left, and he had two, so I guess technically I lost...but who cares!
Ok that's my story. So question: Did/Does anyone here ever play down to girls/guys in competition? Did you let a girl/guy win? The only people I EVER let win are children and, occasionally, my boyfriend. ;D
Quote from: MiaOhMya! on November 25, 2013, 11:16:16 AM
Ok that's my story. So question: Did/Does anyone here ever play down to girls/guys in competition? Did you let a girl/guy win? The only people I EVER let win are children and, occasionally, my boyfriend. ;D
I dunno if this counts, but I love to out-nerd cocky guys who think they know everything about audio engineering. The whole ego-maniac thing does not impress me.
I just had a good pass at the supermarket. The guy at the register immediately gave me the twinkle eye and started chatting me up. When he asked to see my ID for the bottle of wine I was purchasing, he said I must have the wrong ID. When I said it was from a year and a half ago and that I hadn't changed my name yet he said "whhaaaaaaattt??" and looked back and forth from me to the ID and back. He then said "wow okay". We both laughed and he continued to chat me up, so it was a rather positive and affirming experience overall.
I'm waiting for California to pass AB 1121 that simplifies the process of changing one's name and gender... making it a quarter as expensive. Honestly, I think I can wait it out. Flashing the old ID is hilarious and fun for some reason.
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Quote from: Jennygirl on November 27, 2013, 08:43:56 PM
Honestly, I think I can wait it out. Flashing the old ID is hilarious and fun for some reason.
I'm glad you can have fun with your ID Jenny I hate flashing my ID even though strangely enough last week I had to show my ID to trade in some games and the lady still called me ma'am and said I looked good in my drivers license photo. :o
Quote from: Heather on November 28, 2013, 12:54:30 AM
I'm glad you can have fun with your ID Jenny I hate flashing my ID even though strangely enough last week I had to show my ID to trade in some games and the lady still called me ma'am and said I looked good in my drivers license photo. :o
Lol... nice one Heather!! Just goes to show how an ID is just a piece of paper and says nothing about who you really are & how people reflect that back to you :)
I walked past the Lancashire chapter of Outlaws outside a bar.A prospect was cleaning his bike and burned his fingers on the exhaust and swore,one of them clipped him round the ear and told him to mind his language in front of ladies and told him to say sorry for swearing in front of me.I think they were playing around but it was nice.
Quote from: Jennygirl on November 27, 2013, 08:43:56 PM
I'm waiting for California to pass AB 1121 that simplifies the process of changing one's name and gender... making it a quarter as expensive. Honestly, I think I can wait it out. Flashing the old ID is hilarious and fun for some reason.
Isn't that law already passed Jenny? I was researching to see what is in that bill and I found this: http://www.advocate.com/politics/transgender/2013/10/09/calif-gov-signs-trans-birth-certificate-bill-amid-republican
so i havnt even had an appointment at the gic but im living as a female 90 to 95% of the time female and i went out shopping last week i walked passed a homeless guy and says any change madam and i look around and im the only person within 30 feet of him, i nervously turn and look at him and say sorry not at the moment and carry on walking at this time what he just said to me was going round my head and im gobsmacked i look down at my self and then just start laughing i then meet up with my sister and tell her whats happened and she looks at me funny and goes surly thats a good thing. i replied well yes it i just did not expect it at this point of my "journey". well after i thought about it was a great compliment what he said to me so i went and brought him a sandwich, sausage roll and a cup of coffee.
this was so unexpected i think its funny.
Quote from: wardyjnr on November 28, 2013, 05:53:31 AM
so i havnt even had an appointment at the gic but im living as a female 90 to 95% of the time female and i went out shopping last week i walked passed a homeless guy and says any change madam and i look around and im the only person within 30 feet of him, i nervously turn and look at him and say sorry not at the moment and carry on walking at this time what he just said to me was going round my head and im gobsmacked i look down at my self and then just start laughing i then meet up with my sister and tell her whats happened and she looks at me funny and goes surly thats a good thing. i replied well yes it i just did not expect it at this point of my "journey". well after i thought about it was a great compliment what he said to me so i went and brought him a sandwich, sausage roll and a cup of coffee.
this was so unexpected i think its funny.
Good for you honey! :eusa_clap:
You know you pass when... you volunteered to be the figure model for your art group if the original model can't make it.
She calls in sick while everyone is waiting to begin drawing.
So I disrobe slowly, folding my clothes up as I take each item off, and stacking them next to my art supplies. When I take off my panties, no bad faces (this is a queer-friendly and trans-positive feminist artists group), just surprise.
Queer artists not realizing you are trans* until they see you 100% in the all natural = priceless!
Follow up: After 90 minutes of poses (so many compliments on my face, smile, but also my poise as a model), I am getting tired from holding some challenging poses, so for the last half hour I do the cadaverine pose. I make myself extra comfortable by taking my hair off, and again, no bad faces, just complete surprise. Hee hee.
A new friend, of a couple weeks, that doesn't know my passed, invited me to go with here to the restroom. :)
Quote from: Jillieann Rose on December 01, 2013, 04:11:07 PM
A new friend, of a couple weeks, that doesn't know my passed, invited me to go with here to the restroom. :)
It's not "passing" but I was at an Asperger group in a pub with three other women. As we were leaving two of us went to the washroom. The other woman is quite a chatterbox - she went on talking as we went into the washroom and sat down in adjacent cubicles. Why not "passing"? Because she knows I'm trans.
I asked my travel agent about prices to fly to Montreal, she asked, when? I gave her a few different months and I said, 'it depends upon when the clinic is available. And I'll be travelling with a friend.'How long will you be there? 'About a month.' I say. Well try and get the timing right because they won't let babies leave the hospital to travel if it is too cold.
Hmmm so I'm going to Montreal to deliver my Canadian BF baby in his home country. Pity I'm 60, transgender and don't have a Canadian BF :laugh: :laugh:
I think that is a pass on a few different grounds!!!
Quote from: Cindy on December 02, 2013, 02:56:32 AM
Hmmm so I'm going to Montreal to deliver my Canadian BF baby in his home country. Pity I'm 60, transgender and don't have a Canadian BF :laugh: :laugh:
I was trying to work out why she presumed you were preggers (or planning on being so). But then I saw you mentioned clinic so I guess she just figured a lovely lady like you was planning a bun in the oven! ::)
Quote from: Ms Grace on December 02, 2013, 02:59:57 AM
I was trying to work out why she presumed you were preggers (or planning on being so). But then I saw you mentioned clinic so I guess she just figured a lovely lady like you was planning a bun in the oven! ::)
She then went into detail of her recent C section!!
Love the pic honey!
Quote from: Cindy on December 02, 2013, 03:01:51 AM
She then went into detail of her recent C section!!
Ouch. Our indigenous sisters would refer to that as Secret Women's Business. :)
Quote from: Cindy on December 02, 2013, 03:01:51 AM
Love the pic honey!
Thanks! New dress called for new pic! :D
I was in the lingerie department dressed androgynously as usual when one of the ladies asked me if she could help me. I unzipped my hoodie and showed her how my nipples protrude through my Victoria's Secret T that I had on and make quite a statement even with a soft bra. She said, "Oh I have the perfect fix for that!" And she showed me these little stick on nipple covers called pedals and said, "You can always count on some male ogling and making stupid comments about our breasts as if they've never seen a woman before." It just made my day! :laugh:
Quote from: Shantel on December 02, 2013, 10:54:37 AM
I was in the lingerie department dressed androgynously as usual when one of the ladies asked me if she could help me. I unzipped my hoodie and showed her how my nipples protrude through my Victoria's Secret T that I had on and make quite a statement even with a soft bra. She said, "Oh I have the perfect fix for that!" And she showed me these little stick on nipple covers called pedals and said, "You can always count on some male ogling and making stupid comments about our breasts as if they've never seen a woman before." It just made my day! :laugh:
Love this! Wooo way to go Shan, sounds like a total pass!
Also, thanks for telling about those pedal things, I might want to go pick some up :D Can they be worn with no bra?
Quote from: Jennygirl on December 02, 2013, 04:39:46 PM
Love this! Wooo way to go Shan, sounds like a total pass!
Also, thanks for telling about those pedal things, I might want to go pick some up :D Can they be worn with no bra?
Absolutely!
Funny story, i went into the gas station behind my house about a week ago. I'm in there at least once a day, and in a town with less than 100 people, they are pretty used to seeing me as a guy. Well that particular day, a guy i dont see working there very often(hes there sometimes, but usually its a russian girl or the owner). Well i went up to the counter, and got a pack of cigs with my usual diet mtn dew and he said, How are you doing today young lady. He was probably in his early 50s, no way he was senile. The russian girl who usually works the register was behind the counter unpacking cartons of cigs, i just looked at her and smiled, she giggled, didnt bother me though since i was on cloud9 at the time after what he said to me.
I keep calling her russian girl, on a side note, because shes worked there for a year, and i still dont know her name. She's my downstairs neighbor even haha. Maybe next time i go in there ill ask her.
Quote from: Chakra6 on November 25, 2013, 03:45:35 AM
'Why do you want to be a girl?!'
Please tell me your go-to answer is "eh, I tried it for X years and didn't like it." ;D
Oh, oh, oh,...I got one ( As she raises hand ) ... I ran into a friend from work (the only person I'm actually out to at work) at the local Wart-Mart the other day while leaving and she introduced me to her brother as her gf from work Maddie . We talked for a minute or two then went our separate ways. The next day at work she was telling me her brother was asking a bunch of questions about me. Like what job I did and all. And then said he was shocked that a women like me would do that kind of work. We work in a factory that makes rubber for other factories that make tires. My job is one they usually don't put women on, there are a few but not many. Any way she asked him what he meant by " woman like me". He said he just figured that a nice looking, well kept woman like me probably worked in the office like HR or something. I was floored to say the least because the day I met him I had on NO makeup, jeans, and just an ol t-shirt.
Well done Kountrygurl. It wasn't the clothes or the makeup - you just are a nice looking woman. That's the obvious conclusion.
when I went to the local trans support group meeting for the first time and folks asked me why I was there. yessss
Quote from: xsmittyx on December 03, 2013, 10:17:18 AM
when I went to the local trans support group meeting for the first time and folks asked me why I was there. yessss
I get that Smitty! :)
I was leaving the movie-theatre earlier today, and when I held the door for a woman and her five-year-old daughter, the woman said "Say 'thank you' to the kind young gentleman." My only thought was Yes!
Quote from: Az56 on December 08, 2013, 03:53:39 PM
I was leaving the movie-theatre earlier today, and when I held the door for a woman and her five-year-old daughter, the woman said "Say 'thank you' to the kind young gentleman." My only thought was Yes!
Scored! :eusa_clap:
Despite feeling totally sick and gross, I made my way to Trader Joes this evening. I was waiting in the back of a line, and holding my carrying basket which was admittedly stacked to the top. I was only mildly struggling to hold it up.
A guy bagging at the register spotted me and winked at me signaling to come over to the end lane, and I got to basically skip to the front of the line as he opened another register. He said to me "I saw you holding that and didn't want to make you wait!!". I told him that was very nice of him, and he kept batting his eyes at me.
Then, I had a craving for a taste of fast food because I hadn't eaten anything today and I didn't feel like cooking tonight... so I stopped at Wendy's for a 4pc nugget and some fries. The guy at the window said to me "Any sauces, miss??" I said "yes a honey mustard please", then he winked at me and threw in 2 more nuggets along with the honey mustard! Then... "here you go" followed by another wink!! What the heck!!
I laughed out loud at this point. How I am getting winks looking like crap and coughing up a storm is beyond me. But it sure did cheer me up :) Just had to share!
Quote from: Jennygirl on December 12, 2013, 09:58:52 PM
I laughed out loud at this point. How I am getting winks looking like crap and coughing up a storm is beyond me. But it sure did cheer me up :) Just had to share!
Well at least you weren't coughing up 'nuggets'... or wait, were you? :P
Smitty: I definitely woulda said the same!
AZ56: The same goes for you, you kind door-holderer person.
more yessss!
Jennygirl: Yeah you go girl, get that mustard Honey! :P
It's weird, but I've noticed the same thing, guys give me extra attention when I feel like crap and think I look like crap (Damsel in distress syndrome?) I don't know, but I do appreciate the extra consideration at times especially when I'm not feeling well
Yeah weird huh... I wonder if it's the slight bit of whateverness to our attitude when we don't feel so hot. Like, we REALLY don't care in that moment- and it ends up actually making a better pass?
So interesting, I feel like I've totally witnessed it before too.
Men in the register tend to smile at me, but look being upset after hearing my voice :( I
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on December 13, 2013, 01:13:44 AM
Men in the register tend to smile at me, but look being upset after hearing my voice :( I
barbie~~
I often have a similar problem when im out. Most of the time its an instant give away for me.
I stopped to try a sample of sushi while I was at the grocery store (I always check out the samples) :) I was trying to explain to the nice little Japanese woman that I thought her sushi was great but I couldn't afford to buy a whole sushi role
So then a random (somewhat attractive) guy bought one for me and said "A tall beautiful woman should always have sushi when she wants it" and then he just walked away
I was dumb founded, I thought I looked like crap
The cute lil' Japanese woman said "He like you" and that I should go after him, so I looked all over the store but couldn't find him anywhere
It was strange, now I'll be thinking about it for quite awhile
so some co-workers/friends from a past job started a (2 piece) band and invited me to their first gig. one of them had been to my house and met my girlfriend a week before, the other didn't know her.
as we walk into the bar, the one who doesn't know my girlfriend, and his girlfriend were walking by, i said "hi!", and waved. i was right in front of them, they saw me, but did the "i don't know you so i'm gonna pretend like you were waving to someone else." then they walked right by. i was a little upset at first, then i thought "oh, wait, they didn't even recognize me, lol!"
so that was pretty cool... we ordered drinks and headed to where they were setting up in the music room. it took about 30 mins for the one who knew my girlfriend to figure out who i was.
Wow sampling sushi... what a great idea!!
Also a great stories, both you and jojoglowe!!!
I'm still trying to figure out why he just walked off after showing so much bravado... Maybe he's actually kinda shy? Has a busy scheduled? Did he suddenly clock me?
It was a really good sushi roll though, a 'New York crispy crab roll' and I'd been wishing I could afford to have one, but it's so expensive like $9.00
Since their expansion a few years ago the store has added a lot of cool stuff, what use to be your average produce, butcher, bakery and deli area now also has these little specialty islands
You can get fresh made tortillas, sushi, pizza, a whole rotisserie chicken, Hot wings and a whole bunch of other stuff
I usually make my rounds of all the various samples as I'm picking up the stuff I need 8) Makes shopping a bit more enjoyable and sometimes I get to try something new and interesting ;D
Not so much a pass per se, but, a guy I used to work with at Valeo said I looked more like a woman than ever. He hadn't seen me in over 6 months. Huston Huddleston also said, "It's interesting, I wouldn't have guessed u were transgender just from looking."
Earlier today on Facebook:
Keaira
Sorry for the late response. I had to go to Home Depot for a new toilet fill valve
Gregg
lol its cool lol
u dont haven nobody to fix that for you
Keaira
No. I do my own work. Compared to fixing jet engines this is a piece of cake.
we talked for a bit more and then he said:
Gregg
u look good in a kamono
Keaira
Thank you. It was a gift from my sister
Gregg
its you lol u look like you belong in one
Keaira
Oh? How so?
Gregg
its just you the way your skin looks you look good in it
i dont want to sound like im coming on to you
Keaira
Lol
Thank you
Gregg
your welcome plus i dont need a jelous hubby hunting me down for a pretty girl in a camono
teehee
Keaira
Well you dont have to worry about a jealous husband
Gregg
well good then im free to hit on you then lol teehee
lmfao lol
Keaira
Not quite. I was the husband.
Gregg
wow
Didn't change how he thought of me. :)
Keaira,
I love those goofy conversations, you get a pass lady!
Quote from: Shantel on December 15, 2013, 11:19:37 PM
Keaira,
I love those goofy conversations, you get a pass lady!
Thank you kindly. ^_^
I went to my first local gathering of "Mums-Net" today and met three other somewhat younger Mums. I pushed the boundaries by talking about my church GLBT group and saying I knew some trans-people. I don't think they realised.
The lady at the airline gate was trying to find me a reconnect because Chicago had been pretty much shut down. When she found it and was going to print the boarding pass, she started screaming "WAIT WAIT OH GOD OH GOD I've got the wrong identification pulled up OH GOD"
I was like no its okay no wait don't delete it for the love of god!! It's me it's me! I handed her my passport and she looked at it, confused. With a full line of people behind me, I said "I haven't changed my name yet..."
She winked at me and said "OHHHH okay I get it!!! Oh my god this should be on a Saturday night live skit!!" She continued laughing hysterically.
Cheered me up a bit even though my departure is delayed 24 hours :)
Jenny your stories are always too awesome :)
btw about me , I still dont know if can pass or not,,,hhhm when I get out on streets I feel that nobody is minding me , still I dont know what they re thinking...
Quote from: Jennygirl on December 30, 2013, 01:35:29 AM
I was like no its okay no wait don't delete it for the love of god!! It's me it's me! I handed her my passport and she looked at it, confused. With a full line of people behind me, I said "I haven't changed my name yet..."
Jenny,
I guess you have a lot of old things to clear away. It will take time.
barbie~~
I love those moment when people confused seeing my id pictures doesn't match. I will keep the old picture if I can but unfortunately they will take new pic when the id expired
When you have to pass through the women's locker room for work and no one stares, looks at you or gives you they hey, what ya doing here look.
On a date with my wife, I walked into a public restroom. Two young boys stopped dead in their tracks, then ran out. I heard them telling their parents that they must have gone into the wrong room, because a girl just walked in. That kind of made my day given that I hadn't bothered with makeup, femme clothes or really anything in particular. ^_^
Quote from: Jaelithe on January 11, 2014, 07:21:49 AM
On a date with my wife, I walked into a public restroom. Two young boys stopped dead in their tracks, then ran out. I heard them telling their parents that they must have gone into the wrong room, because a girl just walked in. That kind of made my day given that I hadn't bothered with makeup, femme clothes or really anything in particular. ^_^
You rock, girl!
Quote from: Jennygirl on December 30, 2013, 01:35:29 AM
The lady at the airline gate was trying to find me a reconnect because Chicago had been pretty much shut down. When she found it and was going to print the boarding pass, she started screaming "WAIT WAIT OH GOD OH GOD I've got the wrong identification pulled up OH GOD"
I was like no its okay no wait don't delete it for the love of god!! It's me it's me! I handed her my passport and she looked at it, confused. With a full line of people behind me, I said "I haven't changed my name yet..."
She winked at me and said "OHHHH okay I get it!!! Oh my god this should be on a Saturday night live skit!!" She continued laughing hysterically.
Cheered me up a bit even though my departure is delayed 24 hours :)
That is pretty funny. I will be traveling to Serbia in a few months. I wonder if I will have problems like that. My passport photo is from 2006.
All last night!
In guy mode: I"m greeted by the pay less worker who asks what size I'm looking for as she's visually sizing me up/checking me out. I say 11, and she takes me right to the women's 11s. :D
At the corner store I always go to, NOT (:D) in guy mode: It's a small family of 3 who runs it and are always working there. The youngest son is working and when he sees me he smiles and was like "HeeeeEEy!" I thought he would be standoffish.
At the bar that night: my 1st time using lady's public restroom, it was small and as I was leaving another girl was heading in, she simply held the door open and said "after you!"
And that same night, with my girlfriend, playing pool: A girl walks up and asks "Are you lady's expecting anyone else tonight?"
Great night :D
Quote from: jojoglowe on January 12, 2014, 08:42:48 AM
All last night!
In guy mode: I"m greeted by the pay less worker who asks what size I'm looking for as she's visually sizing me up/checking me out. I say 11, and she takes me right to the women's 11s. :D
At the corner store I always go to, NOT (:D) in guy mode: It's a small family of 3 who runs it and are always working there. The youngest son is working and when he sees me he smiles and was like "HeeeeEEy!" I thought he would be standoffish.
At the bar that night: my 1st time using lady's public restroom, it was small and as I was leaving another girl was heading in, she simply held the door open and said "after you!"
And that same night, with my girlfriend, playing pool: A girl walks up and asks "Are you lady's expecting anyone else tonight?"
Great night :D
Well yeah, look at your face? :eusa_clap:
Earlier this month, went to a friend's bday party (boy/andro mode). Chatted with a couple that sit across from me, the girl keeps on referring me with female pronoun but some other guy who've known me b4 tried to correct her and it made her even more confused..
A week after, I went to another event, again in (failed) boy mode, this girl that chatted with me also refer me using female pronoun. Which made everyone else new to refer me the same way. Can't blame those who knew me b4 since i didn't come out to them yet
A few days ago, went to costco to return some stuff. The cust rep looked at my costco photo card and asked me "where is he?" And i grinned trying to explain it to her.
Yesterday, went all day in girl mode for beer festival, nobody that i know before recognized me. I had to approach one of them and introduce myself and she was so surprised but very accepting. Every other people treated me like the girl I am.. So happy
Quote from: jfong on January 26, 2014, 10:56:56 AM
Earlier this month, went to a friend's bday party (boy/andro mode). Chatted with a couple that sit across from me, the girl keeps on referring me with female pronoun but some other guy who've known me b4 tried to correct her and it made her even more confused..
A week after, I went to another event, again in (failed) boy mode, this girl that chatted with me also refer me using female pronoun. Which made everyone else new to refer me the same way. Can't blame those who knew me b4 since i didn't come out to them yet
A few days ago, went to costco to return some stuff. The cust rep looked at my costco photo card and asked me "where is he?" And i grinned trying to explain it to her.
Yesterday, went all day in girl mode for beer festival, nobody that i know before recognized me. I had to approach one of them and introduce myself and she was so surprised but very accepting. Every other people treated me like the girl I am.. So happy
Great, this is all confirming evidence that it's time to go full female and waive goodbye to the former boy!
when walking through dollar general today with my girlfriend and our baby and a lady whispers to her husband (a little too loud) F***king lesbians.....it's against god, they should have the right to raise a child.
she was like, really upset.....it was pretty funny
Quote from: Oriah on January 26, 2014, 02:19:41 PM
when walking through dollar general today with my girlfriend and our baby and a lady whispers to her husband (a little too loud) F***king lesbians.....it's against god, they should have the right to raise a child.
Hilarious! When we go shopping though no one better call me your Grandmother though! *giggle* :)
Quote from: Oriah on January 26, 2014, 02:19:41 PM
when walking through dollar general today with my girlfriend and our baby and a lady whispers to her husband (a little too loud) F***king lesbians.....it's against god, they should have the right to raise a child.
she was like, really upset.....it was pretty funny
Haha, that is awesome. Little did she know that her comment had quite the opposite effect on you by brightening your day ;)
You know you pass when you enter a sexiest tummy contest for women, and win!
I got a $100 bar tab for that one.
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 26, 2014, 02:47:49 PM
You know you pass when you enter a sexiest tummy contest for women, and win!
I got a $100 bar tab for that one.
Woo Hoo big score girlfriend! :eusa_clap:
Quote from: Oriah on January 26, 2014, 02:19:41 PM
when walking through dollar general today with my girlfriend and our baby and a lady whispers to her husband (a little too loud) F***king lesbians.....it's against god, they should have the right to raise a child.
she was like, really upset.....it was pretty funny
Wow, lol, I'm feeling a mixture of happiness for you and disappointment in society. -_-
I should add my own...recently, a few of my brother's friends (who found out from other people that he had a FTM brother) don't seem to realize that...I am that FTM brother when they meet me.
I think I started passing when I stopped worrying about passing.
I've been living full time for four months and been on HRT for a week. I haven't had anyone "sir" me in almost three months. If they have clocked me, they've been polite enough to still use female pronouns. I live in Northern California, which is one of the most LGBT friendly cities in the United States, so that may have something to do with it.
Quote from: birkin on January 26, 2014, 04:56:52 PM
Wow, lol, I'm feeling a mixture of happiness for you and disappointment in society. -_-
I should add my own...recently, a few of my brother's friends (who found out from other people that he had a FTM brother) don't seem to realize that...I am that FTM brother when they meet me.
:eusa_clap:
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on January 26, 2014, 02:27:59 PM
Hilarious! When we go shopping though no one better call me your Grandmother though! *giggle* :)
I don't think that'll happen...they might think you're my mom though :P
When the guy sitting across from you at work gives you his jacket because it's a little chilly in the office :)
And even though the jacket smells like boy, you don't care because it comes pre-WARMed!
When the 5'8" guy at the store says to my wife and I, "Why do you girls have to be so tall?"
When you get invited to join a women's Roller Derby team by the coach. ^_^
Heh, I'm a pre anything MtF and I work in tech support on the phone all day. One day a customer said I sounded like his niece. It made me smile especially since I was just using my normal phone voice. I made sure not to correct his mistake. :)
When your boss jokes to a coworker about her friend who "chopped off her penis" :/
Yeah not exactly a positive story, sorry. Luckily I am a freelancer and so is she, so I will be making sure I never cross her path again.
I almost said something but didn't want to out myself in front of everyone. Oh the look on her face would have been priceless, though
Quote from: Jennygirl on February 01, 2014, 05:13:57 AM
When your boss jokes to a coworker about her friend who "chopped off her penis" :/
Yeah not exactly a positive story, sorry. Luckily I am a freelancer and so is she, so I will be making sure I never cross her path again.
I almost said something but didn't want to out myself in front of everyone. Oh the look on her face would have been priceless, though
I haven't met that one, but I know it does happen. I fancy the TMI response of describing exactly what the op involves. Ought to make grown men feel queasy.
I'd avoid such a person too, Jenny. Wow.
My you know you pass moment was one night I was bringing a streacher back to the ER after taking a patient to there room. A couple Med students steped on the elivator and one told the other "we should let her go first. Since she has the big streacher" I was truely amazed at how. Good it made me feel to hear that.
Quote from: Sheala on February 02, 2014, 04:17:19 PM
My you know you pass moment was one night I was bringing a streacher back to the ER after taking a patient to there room. A couple Med students steped on the elivator and one told the other "we should let her go first. Since she has the big streacher" I was truely amazed at how. Good it made me feel to hear that.
Total pass!
I visit some shut in people on a monthly basis. Most of them are mentally sharp as a tack but have some kind of physical issue that requires assistance. I find it rewarding to make these visits and I really enjoy meeting the people.
I saw one lady a month ago, and when I saw her this time she immediately said "You got your hair cut!". Well, not exactly. I have two wigs that are the exact same color, one of them is shoulder length and the other one is long enough to make a pony tail. I had on the shorter one that day and I had had on the longer one on the previous visit.
I sheepishly had to explain that I have to wear wigs because my hair isn't long, and the longer one was at home in a drawer.
She seemed perplexed by that. I'm still not quite sure that she's figured out my story :laugh:
Quote from: Eva Marie on February 10, 2014, 08:31:38 AM
She seemed perplexed by that. I'm still not quite sure that she's figured out my story :laugh:
Probably not Eva Marie, judging from your avatar photo you probably pass just fine anyway.
I'm waiting out by the bus stop of my two sisters, in the nippy cold, start talking with the babysitter about the kids she's watching, my sisters, etc. That's...like yeah, a good sign. So at one point she asks me, "Are they siblings, or yours?" That was super awesome, needed a boost like that. Though dang if I was their mother at my age (they're both around 10); I'm 21!
Quote from: GorJess on February 10, 2014, 03:07:03 PM
I'm waiting out by the bus stop of my two sisters, in the nippy cold, start talking with the babysitter about the kids she's watching, my sisters, etc. That's...like yeah, a good sign. So at one point she asks me, "Are they siblings, or yours?" That was super awesome, needed a boost like that. Though dang if I was their mother at my age (they're both around 10); I'm 21!
You could be offended about being thought to be older than you are, but just go with being really pleased about passing so well.
Quote from: Jennygirl on February 01, 2014, 05:13:57 AM
When your boss jokes to a coworker about her friend who "chopped off her penis" :/
Yeah not exactly a positive story, sorry. Luckily I am a freelancer and so is she, so I will be making sure I never cross her path again.
I almost said something but didn't want to out myself in front of everyone. Oh the look on her face would have been priceless, though
Yeah, that was nasty but you are smart, wait for as another day to even the score...remember "revenge is s dish best serve cold" (Old Klingon sayin)
PS You looking beautiful girl!
I rang up a dutch friend today and I spoke to his kids for a bit on the phone. One of them is four and after a little bit she asked if it was her mum on the phone. :-) I guess my voice passes then! lol. I was a bit afraid that it wouldn't do so well in dutch. Its quite glottal and so glottal resonances are more evident.
Going to a very rough hetero bar and men
Walking up to me saying things like
#### your the tallest woman I ever saw!!!
You are the most beutifull Indian woman I ever seen.
The icing of the cake. I was accepted to live in a woman's
Only residence. No men allowed. Door security and staff
Running around. I even have a roomate hehe.
Quote from: IamNotxChristine on February 22, 2014, 02:11:50 PM
Going to a very rough hetero bar and men
Walking up to me saying things like
#### your the tallest woman I ever saw!!!
You are the most beutifull Indian woman I ever seen.
The icing of the cake. I was accepted to live in a woman's
Only residence. No men allowed. Door security and staff
Running around. I even have a roomate hehe.
Big pass! :eusa_clap:
Quote from: IamNotxChristine on February 22, 2014, 02:11:50 PM
Going to a very rough hetero bar and men
Walking up to me saying things like
#### your the tallest woman I ever saw!!!
You are the most beutifull Indian woman I ever seen.
The icing of the cake. I was accepted to live in a woman's
Only residence. No men allowed. Door security and staff
Running around. I even have a roomate hehe.
the absolute best win i have heard so far
:eusa_clap:
Guy at grocery store asked if my wife and I are sisters.
Quote from: Jill F on February 22, 2014, 07:54:40 PM
Guy at grocery store asked if my wife and I are sisters.
:eusa_dance:
You are at a transgender support meeting and one of the SOs asks your friend if you are her (she is trans as well) wife who is staying with her during the process. I have to say, being seen as cis in an environment that is almost all trans people is great!
Quote from: Brooke777 on February 23, 2014, 12:18:30 AM
You are at a transgender support meeting and one of the SOs asks your friend if you are her (she is trans as well) wife who is staying with her during the process. I have to say, being seen as cis in an environment that is almost all trans people is great!
Yes Brooke, from what I've seen of you that is easily understandable!
Interesting topic I like the responses so far. Recently I was out with my brother for dinner and drinks, he drank I could not. People thought I was his female partner which was interesting and a unique moment to laugh about for the both of us.
On the more pedestrian side of things when I am out with my kids 8 and 10 be it anywhere I am always referred to as Mom by the other people which always makes me feel good if not a little awkward as I do not replace CIS mom in anyway.
I did have one event that was real funny in that I was out for dinner with a girl friend at an indian place that was really packed. At no time did I feel I was read by the others or staff especially our waiter who was pretty cool by the way. When it came time to pay all I had was my Guy CC and I handed it to him as I thought he figured it out earlier and the gig was up. He turned white as a sheet , started sputtering and kind of froze for like 20 s. He then asked me to pronounce my name which I just started to do then it clicked. He was so out of sorts that he left the silver pay tray behind after the bill was paid. It was hilarious. The next day I ordered a CC for Erica to help in the future and it has been great.
I still get read and there are times of enlightenment that are great to have.
I managed to be stealth at a homeless shelter. I was walking with some girls to the store and they started talking about cute men and when I just said nothing they were like 'oh come on, you men do it about us girls all the time!'
Passing is a magical, mind-calming thing, even when I'm indirectly being called a pig ;)
My chemistry & RE teacher was also a part time minister,when I met him at after the service I told him I was one of his old pupils.He asked what my maiden name was.
"Brown"
" I remember Kate & Maureen,which one were you?"
"Jimmy"
Outed myself good and proper!He was OK about it and understood why I was such a brat at school
Quote from: big kim on February 23, 2014, 01:20:06 PM
My chemistry & RE teacher was also a part time minister,when I met him at after the service I told him I was one of his old pupils.He asked what my maiden name was.
"Brown"
" I remember Kate & Maureen,which one were you?"
"Jimmy"
Outed myself good and proper!He was OK about it and understood why I was such a brat at school
:D Good one!
... when a female coworker comes to you desk and whispers "Do you have a tampon or pad you could spare?"
I learned early on to keep something in my desk and my bathroom at home for just such emergencies - easier than explaining why you don't LOL!
I was at an LGBT group and someone referred to Stonewall as an LGBT support organisation. Stonewall in England take LGBT funding but they are a pressure group for gay men, so I said they don't do anything for trans-people. Later we were talking about being brave and I said trans-people who don't pass have to be brave every time they go outside. I'm sure I said "we" a couple of times. The social worker sitting next to me still didn't realise.
At the seniors singing group this morning I told the guy I sit next to that I had sent off my application for a Gender Recognition Certificate. That was when I realised he didn't know I was trans. I've been sitting next to him and singing Bass for months.
Quote from: MaryXYX on February 27, 2014, 11:08:30 AM
I was at an LGBT group and someone referred to Stonewall as an LGBT support organisation. Stonewall in England take LGBT funding but they are a pressure group for gay men, so I said they don't do anything for trans-people. Later we were talking about being brave and I said trans-people who don't pass have to be brave every time they go outside. I'm sure I said "we" a couple of times. The social worker sitting next to me still didn't realise.
At the seniors singing group this morning I told the guy I sit next to that I had sent off my application for a Gender Recognition Certificate. That was when I realised he didn't know I was trans. I've been sitting next to him and singing Bass for months.
That is suck a pass way to go.
When the guy you are getting hot & heavy with asks "Are you protected?"
Quote from: Northern Jane on March 03, 2014, 06:49:26 PM
When the guy you are getting hot & heavy with asks "Are you protected?"
*Bowes to the compleat pass there*
When you are on a date with a woman, and she is shocked to find out you are trans. She didn't care, but she was still shocked.
Went to donate blood at the local blood clinic. They still have my old info (marker), which can't be changed until I have the surgery (or I was told) in the donation form.
Went in to the private room with the intake nurse for interview. She asked me what kind of medication that I took, showed her the list. She then asked me why I took those hormone replacement meds, is it because I was having my menopause? :o :o
Can't stop grinning while telling her the reason why I took those meds :P
In the end, they don't allow me to donate because they have no idea on how to process trans people which is kind of sucked. But that little thing just made my day.
ps. I am full time, so that was such a reassuring experience :)
Last Friday, I went out with some friends for my friends birthday, and all the bouncers look at my ID, and tell me that isn't me, or I have someone else's ID because I still have my male ID. I have to firmly tell them that IT IS ME and that i have CHANGED A LOT! LOL. I easily navigate in the ladies room no problem, and I get all my cover paid for by some guy who i don't know who is friends with the birthday girl, and I get free drinks by some guys who come up to me and start talking to me, and one of them i sit down with as he isn't a dancer type and talk to him for like 2 hours. He had no idea, nor did his friends who came over, he even tried to kiss me, and get me to go home with him. The next day he texted me to see how I was doing and if I wanted to meet up again. I ended it there over the phone and told him I was trans as I have never told a stranger that who was interested in me and wanted to know what someone really thought. His message was that he is strictly into heterosexual relationships and he said it wasn't a knock against me because i was very beautiful, and then said that this wouldn't work. We haven't talked since.
Quote from: jfong on March 24, 2014, 11:04:26 PM
Went to donate blood at the local blood clinic. They still have my old info (marker), which can't be changed until I have the surgery (or I was told) in the donation form.
Went in to the private room with the intake nurse for interview. She asked me what kind of medication that I took, showed her the list. She then asked me why I took those hormone replacement meds, is it because I was having my menopause? :o :o
Can't stop grinning while telling her the reason why I took those meds :P
In the end, they don't allow me to donate because they have no idea on how to process trans people which is kind of sucked. But that little thing just made my day.
ps. I am full time, so that was such a reassuring experience :)
I went on donating after I went on hormones. They had to consult a senior doctor and the verdict was it's like a woman on HRT - it doesn't matter.
There was a brief moment of confusion deciding which test-tube to use for the anemia test. It seems men have more haemoglobin because of the testosterone, so I'm a woman, so they changed the gender marker and said I didn't need to mention it again.
Then I started taking Finasteride, and that's a big no-no.
Love to read stories here
lately it seems that im gendered female more ( dont get me wrong i still get called young man etc sometimes)
I was at the drug store and the lady there told me
"how can I help you young lady"
and I was like wat , after leaving the store I looked around to see if there were other young ladies she could be reffering to...but they werent ,,,lol
Walking with my friend and she was ahead of me. A guy randomly runs forward and opens the door for her, then gives me a light smack in the back. "Open the door for the lady, what's wrong with you?!" And I could only laugh.
Quote from: greypeacock on March 27, 2014, 04:30:36 PM
Walking with my friend and she was ahead of me. A guy randomly runs forward and opens the door for her, then gives me a light smack in the back. "Open the door for the lady, what's wrong with you?!" And I could only laugh.
Good one ;D
Quote from: greypeacock on March 27, 2014, 04:30:36 PM
Walking with my friend and she was ahead of me. A guy randomly runs forward and opens the door for her, then gives me a light smack in the back. "Open the door for the lady, what's wrong with you?!" And I could only laugh.
I agree, good one!
I must look totally different.
Guy who has taken my lunch order at the local cafe for well over five years didn't even recognise me the other day. Didn't blink or look at me strangely while I gave him my order.
Standing in front of my current boss and a former boss I had to say "A, would you please introduce me to G, he doesn't seem to know who I am" the penny dropped when he heard my last name. The look on his face was hilarious!
I usually work with my male colleagues. I frequently have dinner and drink together with them at restaurants.
A problem is when I meet just one man. In this case, later a few of them complain that other people who saw us think they got a new girl friend.
A few weeks ago, I drank at a bar in Seoul together with a man who is 8 years older than me. The bar owner was a woman, and he was a frequenter. Yesterday, he said that he had a hard time explaining to her that I am not a woman, but a crossdresser, but anyway she was jealous of me, always denoting me as 'she'.
Fortunately, sometimes they got praises from other men like "I didn't know that you are such a real man to have a young woman as your friend at your age" They seem to be proud of me when people in the street watch not only me but them, too, as men at their 50s get no attention at all in the street.
Nowadays I realized that being with just one man can cause problems or gossips to both the man and me. Even sometimes people at my work place mention homosexual relationship. These are a new challenge to my male colleagues and to myself.
barbie~~
Quote from: Ms Grace on March 28, 2014, 06:02:01 PM
Standing in front of my current boss and a former boss I had to say "A, would you please introduce me to G, he doesn't seem to know who I am" the penny dropped when he heard my last name. The look on his face was hilarious!
Haha yes! I love that look!
And, well, if you somehow looked like a male before (I just can't see it), you definitely do not now... Of course you must look different. AND now you are beautiful! :)
Quote from: barbie on April 04, 2014, 05:26:47 PM
I usually work with my male colleagues. I frequently have dinner and drink together with them at restaurants.
A problem is when I meet just one man. In this case, later a few of them complain that other people who saw us think they got a new girl friend.
A few weeks ago, I drank at a bar in Seoul together with a man who is 8 years older than me. The bar owner was a woman, and he was a frequenter. Yesterday, he said that he had a hard time explaining to her that I am not a woman, but a crossdresser, but anyway she was jealous of me, always denoting me as 'she'.
Fortunately, sometimes they got praises from other men like "I didn't know that you are such a real man to have a young woman as your friend at your age" They seem to be proud of me when people in the street watch not only me but them, too, as men at their 50s get no attention at all in the street.
Nowadays I realized that being with just one man can cause problems or gossips to both the man and me. Even sometimes people at my work place mention homosexual relationship. These are a new challenge to my male colleagues and to myself.
barbie~~
Sounds like a pass to me! Just maybe be careful? I would hate to hear if something was too challenging for one of these people and it interfered with your work, but it sounds like more of a positive affirmation to you... and with that I am happy for you barbie!
As I've been working a ton recently saving up for SRS, I spend a lot of time hanging around people I have either never met or people that haven't seen me in a long time. It makes for an interesting mish mash of experiences.
A few weeks back, a coworker from a long time ago surprised me one day sitting across from me at my current desk. The last time I saw him was right as I was coming out to myself as trans and deciding to begin transition ("totally dude-ing it up" is what I like to call it). Anyway, I introduced myself and said that he looked very familiar. To this he said with a tone of blasphemy "What? Really?". As if he was shocked I would say that to him! Hah! At the time, I couldn't quite remember when I had seen him last. I wanted to see if he could place my old name with the girl he saw standing in front of him, and I let him know that I used to present as male- to which he said "Seriously? What?". A huge look of surprise on his face. Just awesome! And then he was determined to find out who I used to be ;) We started rattling off the places we had recently worked, and finally it clicked where and when we met. Then he finally said... "Wait, your last name wouldn't happen to be ____, would it?". I said "Yep". He couldn't believe it! He just kept saying this is so cool, this is so cool. I ended up having a great time hanging out at work with him once again... Only this time presenting as a girl. But honestly, not much had changed in terms of our demeanor together. I guess no major surprise there- I am still very much the same person!
The other great passing story I have from work happened just today when I was eating lunch with a few coworkers. One of which who I've worked with in the past year- so he knew me before I had FFS and VFS (obviously aware of my transness though). The other guy at the table, however, I have only had infrequent day to day interactions with over the past month or so. A few times he has commented on my outfits, and has been happy to make small talk to me randomly. Anyway at the lunch table, he starts talking/joking about his kids, and then he looks at me nonchalantly and says "You probably know what I mean, you probably have kids- right?" I shake my head and say "nononono" followed by a giggle... 1/3 because I realize that I am completely stealth with this guy, 1/3 because I am looking at the guy that knows of my past, and 1/3 because heck no I don't want kids right now! Then a couple of minutes later (to top it off), guy I don't know asks me if I have a boyfriend. The look on the other guy's face was priceless. What a smirk that was. I thoroughly enjoyed that one.
And my favorite one was from yesterday, when I had to show my passport to get into a bar. The guy took one look at the ID and literally laughed out loud, he thought it was a joke and that we were trying to play him for a fool. I decided to make things quick and explained to him that I am transgender, and that I will be changing my name in July (that one always seems to go over with no hassle). He then gave the ID back to me with a huge grin on his face and held up his hand to give me a high five. When I returned the fiver he just shook his head and said "good job". My friend was hysterical the whole time. Then we successfully ate the best dang burger in LA (if you are in LA you must try a burger from Father's Office - unless you are vegetarian of course!)
Okay that is way too long of a post, I'm sorry. Life has been good though and I thought I'd share :)
Quote from: Jennygirl on April 05, 2014, 05:40:53 AM
Then we successfully ate the best dang burger in LA (if you are in LA you must try a burger from Father's Office - unless you are vegetarian of course!)
That's pretty close to my therapist who I will be seeing today so I will try to swing by there afterward to try a burger :P
Quote from: Jennygirl on April 05, 2014, 05:40:53 AM
Anyway at the lunch table, he starts talking/joking about his kids, and then he looks at me nonchalantly and says "You probably know what I mean, you probably have kids- right?" I shake my head and say "nononono" followed by a giggle... 1/3 because I realize that I am completely stealth with this guy, 1/3 because I am looking at the guy that knows of my past, and 1/3 because heck no I don't want kids right now! Then a couple of minutes later (to top it off), guy I don't know asks me if I have a boyfriend. The look on the other guy's face was priceless. What a smirk that was. I thoroughly enjoyed that one.
Yes. Jenny. It surely can happen. How about putting a tag of your old name on your chest? But, I am not quite sure it will work well.
barbie~~
So, I am at the Temple the other Sunday -at the time preschool moms meet with other moms and kids to socialize and eat bagels- fixing the wheel of "pop corn" stand when the following exchange took place:
little girl: what you doing?
me: fixing the wheel ( I am in sweat pants, old t-shirt, no make up, hair in a pony tail)
little girl: can I help?
me: sure (hands her a wrench, makes her put the wrench in one bolt)
(little boy approaches, looks at me)
Little boy: You look like a girl
me: I am a girl
little girl (as she looks as the boy very intensely): just because we are girls does not mean we can not fix stuff
me: (gave her a hi five and smile)
little boy: can I help?
me: sure (handles a wrench, makes him hold another bolt)
little girl's mother approaches and calls the little girl
Little girl and little boy (at the same time): we are helping her fix the wheel
me: (flashes my biggest smile to all)
After that, I made pop corn and chit-chatted with the other Mom's while the kids, 3 to 6 YO, run around playing and eating pop corn
Life is good !
Quote from: peky on April 05, 2014, 08:17:15 AM
( I am in sweat pants, old t-shirt, no make up, hair in a pony tail)
But you know you are a woman and it shows.
Quote from: peky on April 05, 2014, 08:17:15 AM
little girl (as she looks as the boy very intensely): just because we are girls does not mean we can not fix stuff
High five from me too! A budding militant feminist!
Quote from: peky on April 05, 2014, 08:17:15 AM
me: (gave her a hi five and smile)
Hi Five!
barbie~~
I got stopped by a Police officer this past Thursday because my stupid GPS routed me the wrong way down a one way street. My licence is still in my old name because the DMV wont change it without me getting a new birth certificate, even if in the UK a Deed Poll is all I need.
Anyway, it was almost 6 in the morning, dark and I just stuffed the warning ticket into my coat pocket and didn't look at it until lunchtime. Then, my jaw kind of dropped.
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This has to be my favourite long term thread. :-)
I met someone I recognised at an event with my Cis girlfriends who don't know I am trans. I remembered her from class and went to say hello but she didn't recognise me, no hint of recognition in her face and she clearly thought I was odd for going up to her and saying hello in the way I did and asked her how she was. I was a bit put out til I remembered that she knew me before. The. I was glad she hadnt recognised me as it would have outed me in front of all my friends. Lol.
Quote from: Rainbow Brite on April 05, 2014, 02:39:35 PM
I got stopped by a Police officer this past Thursday because my stupid GPS routed me the wrong way down a one way street. My licence is still in my old name because the DMV wont change it without me getting a new birth certificate, even if in the UK a Deed Poll is all I need.
Anyway, it was almost 6 in the morning, dark and I just stuffed the warning ticket into my coat pocket and didn't look at it until lunchtime. Then, my jaw kind of dropped.
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Ha ha.
Probably he knew something about trans people?
barbie~~
I didn't tell him I was trans, I was wearing my gender neutral Celadon Trucking black coat with reflective stripes. So, I guess I really am that feminine looking and sounding, lol.
Quote from: Rainbow Brite on April 06, 2014, 02:22:02 PM
I didn't tell him I was trans, I was wearing my gender neutral Celadon Trucking black coat with reflective stripes. So, I guess I really am that feminine looking and sounding, lol.
Great pass, a winner! Police are never very sensitive to trans types, so that speaks volumes!
my driver licence still says male too. So, I really wonder what caused him to write "F" in the sex box. Especially with a first name of "John."
Quote from: Rainbow Brite on April 06, 2014, 06:36:43 PM
my driver licence still says male too. So, I really wonder what caused him to write "F" in the sex box. Especially with a first name of "John."
hehe well John, you probably must be darned pretty and feminine looking, got to give him credit he was looking at the visual evidence and ruled accordingly. :icon_bunch:
I used to frequent a certain liquor store on Ventura Bl. before transition. And by frequent, I mean frequent. Everyone knew me from my expertise in wine and we had many conversations and joked around all the time. I needed some sake today for a black cod marinade and realized I hadn't been in there for well over a year.
There were three people in there that knew me pretty well from before, and all of them treated me like a complete stranger today.
Quote from: Rainbow Brite on April 06, 2014, 06:36:43 PM
my driver licence still says male too. So, I really wonder what caused him to write "F" in the sex box. Especially with a first name of "John."
Different regions seem to have quite different procedures about driver licences. I sent mine off with a copy of the name change document and a letter saying "by the way I'm a 'Ms' now" and they sent me a new one with the female marker - no problems.
I remember another one that had me chuckling!
I was welding a piece of farm machinery in the shop. I was wearing work boots, coveralls, no makeup, my hair pulled back, and undoubtedly had grease/dirt on my face. I had a baseball cap on backwards and the welding helmet on my head, welding rods sticking out of my pocket, and was wearing welding gloves when I heard a car pull in. I tipped the hood up and stepped out of the shop to see a gentleman walking toward the door looking down at a map. Without looking up, he started to speak, "Excuse me sir but do you know ...." Then he looked up, saw me, and stammered "Oh, excuse me ma'am but could you direct me to ......"
I gave him directions and walked back to the shop chuckling. He SHOULD have mis-gendered me under the circumstances - every indication was "male" - but with one glance he changed. I still do not know to this day WHAT was the giveaway! LOL!
I spent this evening at a ladies pampering evening run by a group for Learning Disabled and Autistic Spectrum people. (I'm AS - not LD.) I had my nails painted and chatted with various other women. I think I must have been passing.
I spent most of today running errands - I went to the doctor and to my insurance company and to a couple of pharmacies all in girl mode - no one noticed, or said anything if they did notice.
There is a girl that works in the pharmacy at my local Walmart; she has helped me previously work through a lengthy issue with one of my prescriptions so she knows me by sight now and never goes through the name and birthdate "who are you" rigamarole when I walk up to the counter - in guy mode. I had some new prescriptions to drop off today so I stopped by that Walmart. I saw that she was working, and I decided to have a little bit of fun.
I said "hi" as i walked by her up to the counter and I got no recognition whatsoever, just a friendly smile. I later finished my business at the counter and saw her restocking some shelves so I walked up to her, said "hi" again, and she asked me if i needed help finding anything.
I said "You don't recognize me, do you?" and after a few seconds a look of shock came across her face LOL...... she had no clue until I said something.
I think that's a pass.
Quote from: Eva Marie on April 08, 2014, 06:07:00 PM
I spent most of today running errands - I went to the doctor and to my insurance company and to a couple of pharmacies all in girl mode - no one noticed, or said anything if they did notice.
There is a girl that works in the pharmacy at my local Walmart; she has helped me previously work through a lengthy issue with one of my prescriptions so she knows me by sight now and never goes through the name and birthdate "who are you" rigamarole when I walk up to the counter - in guy mode. I had some new prescriptions to drop off today so I stopped by that Walmart. I saw that she was working, and I decided to have a little bit of fun.
I said "hi" as i walked by her up to the counter and I got no recognition whatsoever, just a friendly smile. I later finished my business at the counter and saw her restocking some shelves so I walked up to her, said "hi" again, and she asked me if i needed help finding anything.
I said "You don't recognize me, do you?" and after a few seconds a look of shock came across her face LOL...... she had no clue until I said something.
I think that's a pass.
Totally, especially if it's a natal female that didn't recognize you.
YAY! I finally have one to add here! :)
You know you pass when... your first cousin once removed has no idea who you are, even after numerous hints.
Yesterday, in the middle of a day of shopping for job-interview clothes, my mom and my uncle decided to stop and say hello to their cousin, who I had indeed seen before at a family reunion when I was like 8 years old.
Mom introduced me as her daughter. Her cousin gave a perplexed look as he was shaking hands with me, saying "yeah, I've... heard a lot about you." The look on his face was so obviously a "wait a minute, who is this person? I didn't know she had a daughter" look. As we chat, he tells me "I don't think I've ever met you before." I tell him that I think I met him at a family reunion when I was like 8 years old. He knows exactly what family reunion I'm talking about. "The one on Long Island?" "Yeah, that's the one." "No, I still don't think I remember you."
He never figures it out during the entirety of our conversation. As we're getting ready to say goodbye and leave, he gives Mom and Uncle Joe a hug, asks me if he can have a hug from me too, and gives me a kiss on the cheek, and says it was nice to meet me.
As we're walking out, he asks us what we've got planned for the rest of the day. And that's when Mom slips up on the pronouns, and says "oh, we're shopping to get him interview clothes. He's got a job interview on Friday," referring to me. Joe also accidentally genders me male without thinking about it. And finally, the cousin gets it. "Okay, I do remember him," he laughs, looking at me.
I just grin ear to ear, and joke "should I even bother correcting you two on the pronouns?" And we all have a good laugh about it.
Still... despite being fully aware that Mom had only ever told him about having a son, despite me speaking to him about the exact family reunion that I met him at, despite 10 minutes of conversation, and even after giving me a kiss on the cheek, he never figured out who I was until Mom and Joe accidentally outed me with the pronouns.
I'll take that as a pretty damned big compliment. :)
It must have been a long time since that reunion, but even so - very well done Carrie!
I finally have a story to add!
I had to go to the post office the other day to pick up two pieces of registered mail - one a notification of my divorce and the other a notification that the office of vital statistics had received my request to change my name. Anyhow, I had to give the lady at the post office my identification card (which sadly still bares a picture of me pre-HRT, my old name and my birth gender). She looked at the card closely then told me that she was sorry but that ID wasn't mine and that I would have to ask him to come in person to pick up the letters. I had sort of a dear-in-headlights look, so she called her colleague to come over. She told her "this woman doesn't speak Czech, can you explain to her that her friend will need to come in person to pick up his mail." At this point, I tried quietly to explain my story. Though it actually took some convincing and several other pieces of photo ID before either of them believed me. One even said, "but you're not a man". It was nice even if it was also horribly embarrassing.
Quote from: Mary81 on April 12, 2014, 09:36:28 AM
I finally have a story to add!
I had to go to the post office the other day to pick up two pieces of registered mail - one a notification of my divorce and the other a notification that the office of vital statistics had received my request to change my name. Anyhow, I had to give the lady at the post office my identification card (which sadly still bares a picture of me pre-HRT, my old name and my birth gender). She looked at the card closely then told me that she was sorry but that ID wasn't mine and that I would have to ask him to come in person to pick up the letters. I had sort of a dear-in-headlights look, so she called her colleague to come over. She told her "this woman doesn't speak Czech, can you explain to her that her friend will need to come in person to pick up his mail." At this point, I tried quietly to explain my story. Though it actually took some convincing and several other pieces of photo ID before either of them believed me. One even said, "but you're not a man". It was nice even if it was also horribly embarrassing.
Good one Mary! Judging from your avatar photo I can clearly understand how the woman was confused, you look like any born woman to me dear.
This happened about 10 days ago, I was getting an EEG and the technician noticed on my medications list spironolactone and asked what I was on it for and I said I am transgendered and his responce was "Oh okay, male to female or female to male?"
I was smiling a bit from that as I was just wearing jeans, t-shirt and a hoody. Two ways I could have taken it, either I looked female enough for him to think I might be FTM or I still looked male enough for him to think I was MTF and he couldn't tell. I chose to take it as him thinking I looked female enough to be mistaken for FTM.
He then proceeded to talk about GCS after asking if I was going to have it(hope to)and list various options for where and who I can go to for it. Eased my nerves alot.
I recently spent a week living full time with friends in Memphis, Tennessee. While there on multiple occasions, men I'd met asked a friend if she thought I needed an escort back to the hotel where I was staying alone. As my friend noted, that's not a question that gets put forth about men, but about women. In her words, I had passed yet another milestone along the journey and wasn't even aware of it until she told me. :)
Last Sunday a female friend and I went out to chat and have some dessert at Panera bread. I saw a guy in there checking us out but I thought nothing of it. We left and walked down the sidewalk and after a bit we hear someone coming up behind us. My friend looked back to see who it was but didn't say anything.
It was the guy from the restaurant, and he was trying to catch up to us to give *me* a compliment, and then he hit on me lol.... My friend is from a foreign country and has exotic dark looks and I'm the one he hit on - go figure. Later my friend said that she saw him checking out my butt when he was walking behind us.
I never expected anything like that to happen and I was flabbergasted by it. I think that's a pass :)
Quote from: Eva Marie on April 15, 2014, 03:19:23 PM
Last Sunday a female friend and I went out to chat and have some dessert at Panera bread. I saw a guy in there checking us out but I thought nothing of it. We left and walked down the sidewalk and after a bit we hear someone coming up behind us. My friend looked back to see who it was but didn't say anything.
It was the guy from the restaurant, and he was trying to catch up to us to give *me* a compliment, and then he hit on me lol.... My friend is from a foreign country and has exotic dark looks and I'm the one he hit on - go figure. Later my friend said that she saw him checking out my butt when he was walking behind us.
I never expected anything like that to happen and I was flabbergasted by it. I think that's a pass :)
Way to go girlfriend, that's always an encouraging pat on your feminine ego! (Men are so visual, bet he was thinking of patting somewhere else) ;D :D
My doctor thought I was transitioning to male because the chart said transgender on it. She even asked me when the last date of my cycle was. She was pretty embarrassed when I told her I was going the other way. Her exact words were "Let me look at your chart more so I don't continue to look like an idiot".
When you're at work and (this has happened twice) and your customer accidentally calls you ma'am and then corrects themselves instantaneously and looks super awkward and embarrassed and says something about how they are more used to having women serve them and saying ma'am rather then sir.
While I still don't like even an accidental ma'am, its a good change from a purposeful ma'am.
Quote from: Elijah on April 19, 2014, 01:48:12 AM
When you're at work and (this has happened twice) and your customer accidentally calls you ma'am and then corrects themselves instantaneously and looks super awkward and embarrassed and says something about how they are more used to having women serve them and saying ma'am rather then sir.
While I still don't like even an accidental ma'am, its a good change from a purposeful ma'am.
Yes, and judging from your photo there would be no way it could be purposeful. :)
Ever since going full-time, I have had more and more trouble on the phone whenever anyone calls asking for my birth name.
Just a few days ago, I was calling the New Jersey unemployment office, not attempting to do my female voice whatsoever. And after giving them my social security number and my date of birth, the operator, in a confused tone, asked me where I had worked. She said "It can't be the Golden Nugget, can it?" "Yes, that's right." "Really? This record on file says that your name is Charles. That can't be right." And I basically had to say, "Yes, that is me. I have a high voice. I know." And I had to drop down into my (increasingly harder to do) male voice to convince her that I really was me.
This is like the third time that this has happened now.
Hell, there was even one time where I was calling a local PODS storage facility, and the operator called me "ma'am," then he asked me for my name and I had to say "Charles," and yet even after saying that, he still called me "ma'am" like three times after that.
Methinks my voice is passing. :)
And my May 22 name-change hearing can't come soon enough, so that I can finally start legally changing my name in all of these places and quit having people question my identity. :P
Quote from: Carrie Liz on April 19, 2014, 11:09:28 AM
Me thinks my voice is passing. :)
Me thinks so too, you have all the evidence! :eusa_clap:
Quote from: Carrie Liz on April 19, 2014, 11:09:28 AM
And my May 22 name-change hearing can't come soon enough, so that I can finally start legally changing my name in all of these places and quit having people question my identity. :P
That will make a world of difference when you no longer have to out yourself to everyone. You're doing so well Carrie that it's hard to believe you are the same person from six months ago! :icon_bunch:
I was out in a social situation and I was chatting to a lot of people and I thought, why not ask a few people if they knew that I was trans. I asked about four separate people after chatting with them for a while. 2 of them didn't believe me and the others acted shocked and said they couldn't tell. Win. :-)
Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on April 21, 2014, 11:26:34 AM
I was out in a social situation and I was chatting to a lot of people and I thought, why not ask a few people if they knew that I was trans. I asked about four separate people after chatting with them for a while. 2 of them didn't believe me and the others acted shocked and said they couldn't tell. Win. :-)
That's a win alright, congrats!
You know that you pass when you are out at an LGBT bar, you start talking to another trans woman about trans issues, and she has no clue that you are trans.
I went shopping today at the mall for like 7 hours and not one person thought I was a guy and everyone called me by the correct gender. Oh how the employees go out of their way to help me now and they are sooo nice. :)
Paaaaaaaassssssss!
The one thing I am not looking forward to when I pass is those annoying cosmetic sales people in the mall targeting me. Dead sea scrub my a$$.
Funny story here I thought I'd share- My wife and I went out to dinner the other day. She was dressed pretty andro and was driving the car. The valet called me ma'am and sir'd my wife, who is cis.
Even cisgirls get misgendered sometimes. She laughed it off.
I started a bar job yesterday and I was told to let the guys lift anything that was heavy. They did too, they came up and said they would carry this or that for me. ^_^ It was lovely.
such a pass.....
no such stories from me lattly...... I keep getting little kids asking if im a boy or girl.... it kinda hurts but it also tells me in headed in the right direction.... if they feel the need to ask i fall some where that they dont know... hehe
Normally I work from home but my laptop was at the north office the last two days while I mostly twiddled my thumbs. But it finally got fixed, and today I was able to go in and pick it up. Fridays are "casual Fridays" at my workplace so jeans are allowed. I went in, women's jeans, a guy's belt, women's sneakers, a guy's polo shirt over a compression shirt over a sports bra to flatten things out. Hair pulled back into a ponytail. Favorite cap on. In my opinion, I look like a geeky guy, right?
At least I assumed I looked like a geeky guy. And of course everyone I interacted with at the office treated me as a guy because that's the preconceived notion, they know me as male, and I'm presenting like a guy, right? At least I think I'm presenting male...
So I pick up the laptop, talk to my boss (who gives me a few odd looks which baffled me until a few minutes later), then head home. Headed to the door some guy from the second floor who I do not know at all is headed there ahead of me. He stops, opens the door and holds it, saying, "Let me get this for you, ma'am."
I am floored but just smile, drop my head slightly and continue on out the door. Wait a minute! Wasn't I supposed to be presenting male? How'd that happen? :P
I guess it's a good thing the legal name and gender change paperwork is planned for later this year. :)
Nowadays I experience a kind of opposite to passing.
Yesterday I visited two banks to arrange my financial debts while wearing a miniskirt, as it is getting warmer. I showed my ID together with my 2013 tax report and a certificate on my working position. The staffs just treated me so naturally, and were just busy processing the forms. They were all so much kind, as usual. No unusual reaction. No surprise.
I stopped at a shopping market, but no so many people studied me. Just a few aged women in the corridor seemed to be awed by my height, although I were wearing flat sandals.
In the evening, I had dinner with my friend in a restaurant. The owner and workers there greeted me, and I chatted with them. Some of the guests there also know about me a little bit, and we exchanged hello each other.
No thrill any more.
A photo of me yesterday.
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barbie~~
Quote from: Jill F on April 24, 2014, 01:59:12 PM
Funny story here I thought I'd share- My wife and I went out to dinner the other day. She was dressed pretty andro and was driving the car. The valet called me ma'am and sir'd my wife, who is cis.
Even cisgirls get misgendered sometimes. She laughed it off.
haha made me laugh
A waitress asked if my sister and me where twins. We giggled to each-other.
Quote from: kate on May 03, 2014, 08:56:01 AM
That spread in front of you looks delicious Babrie! :) x
Looking delicious, but it will assault your tongue and even esophagus by surprise. I once served it to some fellows from other countries. One guy from the U.S. bravely tried it, with only regret. Other guys from Europe even did not try it, after listening my introduction to the fermented food. The Norwegian gentleman knew something about it, as some Norwegians eat fermented sharks, but he did not try it. Only one fellow from China tried it, commenting that it is very delicious. Even most Koreans have never tried it, but my kids became addicted to it. It is a special recipe in a southern province here, and good at preventing dementia:
Fermented skate.
Very expensive, but those exported from South America are relatively inexpensive.
barbie~~
Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day. We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year. She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married. She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude. Then her jaw about hit the floor.
Pass.
Quote from: Jill F on May 03, 2014, 03:40:28 PM
Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day. We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year. She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married. She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude. Then her jaw about hit the floor.
Pass.
Pass and :icon_birthday:
Quote from: Jill F on May 03, 2014, 03:40:28 PM
Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day. We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year. She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married. She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude. Then her jaw about hit the floor.
Pass.
I will have the 20th anniversary next year. My wife is nowadays busy taking photos for me using the smartphone. I frequently have lunch together with her at restaurant, and in most cases, people there know we are a couple, but sometimes do not recognize me.
I am anyway still a dude ;D
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on May 03, 2014, 03:07:20 PM
Fermented skate.
Very expensive, but those exported from South America are relatively inexpensive.
barbie~~
삼합? I tried the fermented skate (홍어) all by itself before and I do agree it is the most foul aside from the Icelandic hakarl (fermented shark). I still do want to try it with bossam together though.
I do love the 막걸리 though
Ps. Excuse my Korean spelling, still learning
I like to go to really rough bars
Like rough where dealers hang out people get LOL get
Shanked the door men are old ex gangsters
And girls beat each other up cops always walkjng by
Often you see people outside late with broken noses
Cut foreheads lol
And me so clean prissy snd proper
And 5 guys walk in together all checking me out
Saying to each other comments about my legs butt ans face
Well they got told after LOL but 5 guys all wanted to do nasty
Things to me until they were told the reality lolol
Quote from: Jill F on May 03, 2014, 03:40:28 PM
Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day. We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year. She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married. She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude. Then her jaw about hit the floor.
Pass.
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You know you pass when...
I was checking out at Walgreen's yesterday, and the cashier asked me if I had a rewards card. I couldn't remember whether I did or not because I hadn't been there in a long time. So they told me to type in my phone number and they'd look me up in the system. With a perplexed look, the cashier asked me "is there a 'Charles' in your household?" I smiled and laughed, saying "Uh, yes, there is." She looked really confused. I then said "And actually..." and pulled out my credit card, showing her that the name "Charles" is on it as well. And yet the cashier still didn't figure it out. She asked if he was my brother, and if I wanted her to put me in the system as well. :)
Quote from: Carrie Liz on May 04, 2014, 10:53:42 AM
You know you pass when...
I was checking out at Walgreen's yesterday, and the cashier asked me if I had a rewards card. I couldn't remember whether I did or not because I hadn't been there in a long time. So they told me to type in my phone number and they'd look me up in the system. With a perplexed look, the cashier asked me "is there a 'Charles' in your household?" I smiled and laughed, saying "Uh, yes, there is." She looked really confused. I then said "And actually..." and pulled out my credit card, showing her that the name "Charles" is on it as well. And yet the cashier still didn't figure it out. She asked me if he was my brother. :)
Great pass Carrie, because if a cis female can't read you then you are all good to go!
Quote from: jfong on May 04, 2014, 02:09:12 AM
삼합? I tried the fermented skate (홍어) all by itself before and I do agree it is the most foul aside from the Icelandic hakarl (fermented shark). I still do want to try it with bossam together though.
I do love the 막걸리 though
Ps. Excuse my Korean spelling, still learning
Yes. You know so much about Korean food and culture/language. All Korean words were spelled correctly.
All of my family members can eat the skate.
barbie~~
Quote from: Carrie Liz on May 04, 2014, 10:53:42 AM
You know you pass when...
I was checking out at Walgreen's yesterday, and the cashier asked me if I had a rewards card. I couldn't remember whether I did or not because I hadn't been there in a long time. So they told me to type in my phone number and they'd look me up in the system. With a perplexed look, the cashier asked me "is there a 'Charles' in your household?" I smiled and laughed, saying "Uh, yes, there is." She looked really confused. I then said "And actually..." and pulled out my credit card, showing her that the name "Charles" is on it as well. And yet the cashier still didn't figure it out. She asked if he was my brother, and if I wanted her to put me in the system as well. :)
Yes. One advantageous thing while traveling in a foreign country is that people there can not figure out my gender from my first name.
barbie~~
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on May 03, 2014, 04:51:39 PM
A couple of weeks ago I took a taxi cab for me and kiddo (2y 10m). Me and lady-driver were chit-chatting about random subjects and when we arrived, kiddo paid for us with quite generous tips :D and lady said to her: "Hold on, and let me find some change for Your mommy". I was like - OMG...and just mumbled smth like "It's OK, please keep that change", and she went on: "Tnx! Then, girls, let me help to get out of your seats". And I was dressed quite andro and using my normal voice...
Yes, Emily. HRT is changing your environment, too. Have you noticed any change in your voice?
barbie~~
You know you pass when...
Yesterday my wife took this picture of me and posted it on Facebook (I didn't think it was that great of a picture as I was squinting)
(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7362/13920881590_e1921f994b_c.jpg)
One of her friends (who had been off Facebook for the last 8 months and just logged back on) messaged my wife and said that she didn't know her husband had a twin sister. My wife then explained to her about me transitioning and she was in shock. After the shock her first question to my wife is, how is she handling being married to a woman now.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on May 04, 2014, 04:10:20 PM
You know you pass when...
Yesterday my wife took this picture of me and posted it on Facebook (I didn't think it was that great of a picture as I was squinting)
...
One of her friends (who had been off Facebook for the last 8 months and just logged back on) messaged my wife and said that she didn't know her husband had a twin sister. My wife then explained to her about me transitioning and she was in shock. After the shock her first question to my wife is, how is she handling being married to a woman now.
Awesome!!! :) Great pass!
Following the comments about voice:
I volunteer on an LGBT helpline. Some callers will only talk to men and some will only talk to women. It does rather matter to me that I'm clearly identified as a woman from the first "Good evening".
I woke up this morning with a UTI ( :( :( :( I mean, if I'm going to get UTI's, shouldn't I at least have a vagina???)
Went to the walk-in in clinic in my new neighborhood. Never been there before.
After asking whether I still had regular menstrual periods (Answer: "I never had periods"), she gives me instructions on collecting urine: "Before you start, wipe back to front. Be sure you wipe back to front."
Then went to see the doctor. Doctor asks if I had an vaginal bleeding. I say "I don't have one of those." He looks puzzled for a moment, and than catches on. "Are you a transsexual?"
Then proceeds to tell me he's writing a play and one of the characters is transgender. I offered to help him with the character (he might as well get it right...)
Wow Suzi, lol, that's pretty awesome! Not the UTI part, but sounds like you're doing just fine in the passing dept.
An old friend of my wife came to our party yesterday whom I haven't seen in a couple of years. She tried to introduce herself to me, when I fired back, "Hi[name], it's me, Jill." The look on her face was priceless.
i knew i passed first time when i was 1-2 years on HRT (i was around 20 years old) and went out with my gay friends, and one guy asked my friend for my phone no. and refered me as "she & her" (my hair was still very short) ;D
I knew I passed when my wife and I were crossing the road one day, and someone got mad at me for taking too long in the crosswalk. I was walking a little slow because I was just getting the hang of heels, so someone leaned out of his window and shouted:
"Hurry the f*** up, you slow-@$$ b***es!"
Best insult ever.
Quote from: Ev on May 04, 2014, 10:04:32 PM
I knew I passed when my wife and I were crossing the road one day, and someone got mad at me for taking too long in the crosswalk. I was walking a little slow because I was just getting the hang of heels, so someone he out of his window and shouted:
"Hurry the f*** up, you slow-@$$ b***es!"
Best insult ever.
haha priceless
btw I still semi pass ( sometimes I get gendered male some female) but let me post a passing moment
Its pretty simple , I was with a friend in a bar ... the waitress there saw me well and also heard my voice well
but she still said "what would you like girls?" that actually happened a couple of times now that I remember
Another nice one , I was sitting on a random bench with a friend and a random grandma passed by saying
" I wish I had your youth girls " XD
but yeah as I said I still get the young man , sir sometimes too...and it sucks XD
Today I stopped by a large retailer to shop for some new summer tops. I was looking at a display up on a wall when I noticed an older lady coming toward me pushing a shopping cart. The aisles were kind of narrow so I moved over to the side to give her room to get by me and I kept shopping without giving it another thought. Suddenly I felt a hand on my shoulder and the lady was going on and on about how I wasn't in her way but she appreciated me moving, and how narrow the aisles were, and then she wished me a happy mother's day with a kind smile on her face. I was totally speechless LOL..... but I managed to gather myself and smile and I told her thank you.
I think that's a pass.
Its a pass :-)
Quote from: Eva Marie on May 04, 2014, 10:44:34 PM
Today I stopped by a large retailer to shop for some new summer tops. I was looking at a display up on a wall when I noticed an older lady coming toward me pushing a shopping cart. The aisles were kind of narrow so I moved over to the side to give her room to get by me and I kept shopping without giving it another thought. Suddenly I felt a hand on my shoulder and the lady was going on and on about how I wasn't in her way but she appreciated me moving, and how narrow the aisles were, and then she wished me a happy mother's day with a kind smile on her face. I was totally speechless LOL..... but I managed to gather myself and smile and I told her thank you.
I think that's a pass.
Here in my country, unintended body touch is very common as the population density is so high.
Yes. Some aged women in the street touch or grasp my hands or shoulders. When I am in male mode, this never happens.
barbie~~
I was at work today and I had one of my coworkers who knew me prior to transitioning and is into women mouth the words "Oh Damn! when looking at me. He was giving me one of those this girl is hot looks. Needless to say that was a confidence booster. ;D
Quote from: Heather on May 06, 2014, 12:06:42 AM
I was at work today and I had one of my coworkers who knew me prior to transitioning and is into women mouth the words "Oh Damn! when looking at me. He was giving me one of those this girl is hot looks. Needless to say that was a confidence booster. ;D
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Was playing ultimate frisbee and being divided into teams. My team captain yells out 'wtf! give us another dude, we have 3 chicks on our team! and you have one!"
... The three chicks were me and my 2 friends hahaha
Alternatively: When i was male, i would sing high pitched female or power metal songs at karaoke and people would stare in amazement at the fact that a man could sing like a girl.
... but last time I went to karaoke... I was no more impressive than any other talented singing female that was there. Sucks lol but it proves that I pass better than i lead myself to believe. Now i'm just "a girl who can sing like a girl.... boring." LOL
Quote from: LittleEmily24 on May 07, 2014, 12:43:29 PM
Was playing ultimate frisbee and being divided into teams. My team captain yells out 'wtf! give us another dude, we have 3 chicks on our team! and you have one!"
... The three chicks were me and my 2 friends hahaha
Alternatively: When i was male, i would sing high pitched female or power metal songs at karaoke and people would stare in amazement at the fact that a man could sing like a girl.
... but last time I went to karaoke... I was no more impressive than any other talented singing female that was there. Sucks lol but it proves that I pass better than i lead myself to believe. Now i'm just "a girl who can sing like a girl.... boring." LOL
Great pass all around!
My wife has been sick with breathing problems for the last 5 weeks. (At first they thought it was allergies, but they did some blood work and X-Rays today.) The good news is that there is no congestion and her oxygen level was fine. Unfortunately if might be asthma.
Anyway our normal doctor wasn't in and a new nurse practitioner came in and I was introduced as her spouse. My wife mentioned that she was late on her period by 2 weeks and the doctor asked if she could be pregnant. Them she looked at me with a "oops" look, and said never mind, that's not going to happen, I lost my head there for a second.
Quote from: LittleEmily24 on May 07, 2014, 12:43:29 PM
Was playing ultimate frisbee and being divided into teams. My team captain yells out 'wtf! give us another dude, we have 3 chicks on our team! and you have one!"
... The three chicks were me and my 2 friends hahaha
Haha similar thing happened to me with my dodgeball league that requires at least 3 females to be on the field for each team. EVERY single time I was on the field with only two other legal females the other team would tell us we needed another one. I'd raise my hand and point to myself, and I would receive the confused squinty eye of "wth are you pointing at yourself, dude."
My current favorite passing moment was while I was walking to a conference a few weeks ago with several classmates (all women). I was wearing business casual, and got catcalled by a bunch of highschool girls as we were walking by.
I got asked by a beautician the other day, before a treatment if I could be pregnant. Unfortunately not. Bitter sweet.
It wasn't a matter of passing, but when I went to church on Mothers Day morning - which was two months ago because I'm not in the USA - there were flowers for all the mothers. Our minister made a point of making sure I got mine. It's not passing because I joined this church before I transitioned. Could I describe myself as my children's "other mother" now?
I went to Callen-Lorde health center (where I get my HRT) to get the second shot for my Hepatitis A/B vaccination. (I had never been vaccinated for either.) Anyway, I was directed to a different floor where the nurses didn't know me and the nurse asked what was their for and hadn't look at my chart closely. She handed my a form and ask if it was possible if I was pregnant. I told her that due to chromosome disorder in the form of a Y chromosome, that it wasn't possible. She laughed and sad that was the best one she's heard.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on May 13, 2014, 12:48:16 AM
I went to Callen-Lorde health center (where I get my HRT) to get the second shot for my Hepatitis A/B vaccination. (I had never been vaccinated for either.) Anyway, I was directed to a different floor where the nurses didn't know me and the nurse asked what was their for and hadn't look at my chart closely. She handed my a form and ask if it was possible if I was pregnant. I told her that due to chromosome disorder in the form of a Y chromosome, that it wasn't possible. She laughed and sad that was the best one she's heard.
I must remember that one! Although I wouldn't be asked that particular question at my age.
I was going on my laser appointment today and on my way outside a bakery there was a young lady treating cookies
she asked me if Id like one and I said yes then she said
"should I give you one without sugar? nah you re young I ll give you a normal one"
anyway the hint here is that im from greece and we use different pronouns in adjectives for male and females
and she used the female one when she called me young :)
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on May 14, 2014, 04:40:07 AM
I was going on my laser appointment today and on my way outside a bakery there was a young lady treating cookies
she asked me if Id like one and I said yes then she said
"should I give you one without sugar? nah you re young I ll give you a normal one"
anyway the hint here is that im from greece and we use different pronouns in adjectives for male and females
and she used the female one when she called me young :)
Well that's sweet! Hope the cookie was tasty! :)
Quote from: Ms Grace on May 14, 2014, 04:46:49 AM
Well that's sweet! Hope the cookie was tasty! :)
probably the best cookie I ever had :)
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on May 14, 2014, 04:51:49 AM
probably the best cookie I ever had :)
With an intro like that the cookie could have tasted like cardboard and it would still be the best you ever had.
About two days ago on campus while in boy mode (I'm still at least partially closeted so boy mode is currently my only mode :embarrassed:), I was washing my hands in the restroom, and as I was preparing to leave a guy walked in, JERKED BACK OUT really quickly with a mortified look on his face and checked the bathroom sign, then proceeded to come back in :laugh: was a confidence boost to be sure
There was one other instance which really stood out in my mind: My SO muffinpants was driving when she got pulled over (me in the passenger seat, and long before coming out about being trans), I said something to the officer when he bent down and looked in, his response, "Who are you? A girlfriend?" "Uh.. no" "Her sister?" "No.. I'm her boyfriend", I'm blessed in that puberty hit me with the combined force of a handful of feathers. Naturally things were decidedly awkward after that and I suspect it's why we didn't get a ticket XD
I take a jog every other day and wear guy styled shorts and shirt, after a long run I had to stop as my side started cramping, i untucked my shirt to get some air and while i was crossing the street a car turned by me and I heard someone call out the window, "Stop wearing boy clothes!" and for a moment i was offended, confused and then realized what had happened all at once. Reverse gender insults are so weird!
Mine isn't as great as everyone else's but it's something. A couple of days ago, I went to the movie theater with my mom and as we were sitting, my tuck was stinging really bad and my mom urged me to go to the bathroom. I no longer can go into men's rooms but am so afraid of women's rooms but I rushed in the ladies' room and handled my business. I waited int he stall until everyone was gone and went to the front mirror and washed my hands. My makeup and hair were a mess so I was fixing myself up and suddenly a woman walks in. She walks to the little machine that you buy tampons and stuff from and then comes up to me and asks "do you happen to have an extra tampon on you?" to which I told her "no, I'm so sorry. I don't have them with me" and smiled. She said it was okay, smiled, and bought her a new one from the machine and I walked out really happy haha
Quote from: faye on May 16, 2014, 11:02:04 PM
I take a jog every other day and wear guy styled shorts and shirt, after a long run I had to stop as my side started cramping, i untucked my shirt to get some air and while i was crossing the street a car turned by me and I heard someone call out the window, "Stop wearing boy clothes!" and for a moment i was offended, confused and then realized what had happened all at once. Reverse gender insults are so weird!
I have noticed that people tend to speak to runners more easily. In my case, they usually ask directions. In summer, some men stop their car to offer me a ride. I nearly replied like "Are you a fool? Isn't it obvious to you that I am running for exercise?"
barbie~~
Quote from: llerret on May 17, 2014, 03:15:42 AM
Mine isn't as great as everyone else's but it's something. A couple of days ago, I went to the movie theater with my mom and as we were sitting, my tuck was stinging really bad and my mom urged me to go to the bathroom. I no longer can go into men's rooms but am so afraid of women's rooms but I rushed in the ladies' room and handled my business. I waited int he stall until everyone was gone and went to the front mirror and washed my hands. My makeup and hair were a mess so I was fixing myself up and suddenly a woman walks in. She walks to the little machine that you buy tampons and stuff from and then comes up to me and asks "do you happen to have an extra tampon on you?" to which I told her "no, I'm so sorry. I don't have them with me" and smiled. She said it was okay, smiled, and bought her a new one from the machine and I walked out really happy haha
Yes. Women tend to feel more comradeship in women's restroom.
barbie~~
Quote from: faye on May 16, 2014, 11:02:04 PM
I take a jog every other day and wear guy styled shorts and shirt, after a long run I had to stop as my side started cramping, i untucked my shirt to get some air and while i was crossing the street a car turned by me and I heard someone call out the window, "Stop wearing boy clothes!" and for a moment i was offended, confused and then realized what had happened all at once. Reverse gender insults are so weird!
Haha, it is weird, isn't it? I'd consider that a definite pass.
Quote from: barbie on May 17, 2014, 03:11:34 PM
I have noticed that people tend to speak to runners more easily. In my case, they usually ask directions. In summer, some men stop their car to offer me a ride. I nearly replied like "Are you a fool? Isn't it obvious to you that I am running for exercise?"
barbie~~
I've noticed that too. I don't know why they would talk to runners, though. Here usually it seems that they either heckle them in some form (making fun, or hitting on them), or they want to offer encouragement (like saying "good for you!" or something). It's part of the reason I'm kind of scared to start running, because I've observed these interactions many times.
In retrospect, I once nearly passed. When I was 13 or 14 years old, I was at the house of my friend. A little girl at her age 8 or 9 whispered to the elder sister of my friend, and she suddenly laughed out loudly. She said the little girl seriously asked whether I am a boy or a girl. At that time, my hair was very short, but my physical features tended to be androgynous, probably coming with puberty.
Nowadays I get that kind of question nearly everyday when I am introduced to people for the first time. Some of my colleagues recommend me to write down my biological sex in my name cards.
barbie~~
Quote from: llerret on May 17, 2014, 03:15:42 AM
Mine isn't as great as everyone else's but it's something. A couple of days ago, I went to the movie theater with my mom and as we were sitting, my tuck was stinging really bad and my mom urged me to go to the bathroom. I no longer can go into men's rooms but am so afraid of women's rooms but I rushed in the ladies' room and handled my business. I waited int he stall until everyone was gone and went to the front mirror and washed my hands. My makeup and hair were a mess so I was fixing myself up and suddenly a woman walks in. She walks to the little machine that you buy tampons and stuff from and then comes up to me and asks "do you happen to have an extra tampon on you?" to which I told her "no, I'm so sorry. I don't have them with me" and smiled. She said it was okay, smiled, and bought her a new one from the machine and I walked out really happy haha
Erm, how is the not as good? I thought it was awesome :-)
For my last fulltime period, which is about a month maybe, I didn't get any strange looks and haven't been "sirred", but neither being "ma'amed" - people just behave completely normal to me... Don't know if it passing or not...
Quote from: Aquarelle on May 18, 2014, 08:20:22 AM
For my last fulltime period, which is about a month maybe, I didn't get any strange looks and haven't been "sirred", but neither being "ma'amed" - people just behave completely normal to me... Don't know if it passing or not...
normal is good, its probably passing.
Ironically, I think for most us really don't start "passing" until it stops mattering whether we do or not. I think what most of us want the most is to simply be treated with respect. The best way to do that is to have complete inner confidence in yourself and enjoy life without being particularly concerned with what others are thinking. I don't think confidence comes from passing, but instead, it's the other way around.
Quote from: Lyric on May 18, 2014, 01:57:52 PM
Ironically, I think for most us really don't start "passing" until it stops mattering whether we do or not. I think what most of us want the most is to simply be treated with respect. The best way to do that is to have complete inner confidence in yourself and enjoy life without being particularly concerned with what others are thinking. I don't think confidence comes from passing, but instead, it's the other way around.
So true! Knowing I don't pass ever and coming to terms with it makes it unimportant enough that I'm confident in my own skin just being me and it seems that I pass without really passing because of it. Kind of convoluted, but it does work.
My best (and kind of cutest incident) also happened in a Wal-Mart mens room. I had walked in by mistake not thinking then felt a tug on my blouse. I turned to see a little boy who I'd saw standing outside as I walked in who said: "Ms., this isn't the girls room. It's the boys. The girls room is across from this one" then he took me by the hand and led me out of the mens over to the girls then said: "My mommy's in there. Could you tell her to hurry?" I thanked him, asked his mommy's name, and had him describe her. Then went in. I found her at the mirror. After striking up a conversation and telling her what her son did we talked for about 5 minutes. She waited on me outside, and as we were both leaving we talked on the way out. Because of that cute little boy and my mistake I'd made a new friend. Never once did she question, or doubt my gender. Upon reaching my truck (I've a handicapped license plate due to my disabilities so I was parked in front) I did tell her I was transgendered because I didn't wish to start off a new friendship without being truthful. She replied:"I never would have known if you hadn't told me." and we chatted for a while more then exchanged phone numbers and said our goodbyes. We're still good friends to this day.
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on May 18, 2014, 03:14:14 PM
My best (and kind of cutest incident) also happened in a Wal-Mart mens room. I had walked in by mistake not thinking then felt a tug on my blouse. I turned to see a little boy who I'd saw standing outside as I walked in who said: "Ms., this isn't the girls room. It's the boys. The girls room is across from this one" then he took me by the hand and led me out of the mens over to the girls then said: "My mommy's in there. Could you tell her to hurry?" I thanked him, asked his mommy's name, and had him describe her. Then went in. I found her at the mirror. After striking up a conversation and telling her what her son did we talked for about 5 minutes. She waited on me outside, and as we were both leaving we talked on the way out. Because of that cute little boy and my mistake I'd made a new friend. Never once did she question, or doubt my gender. Upon reaching my truck (I've a handicapped license plate due to my disabilities so I was parked in front) I did tell her I was transgendered because I didn't wish to start off a new friendship without being truthful. She replied:"I never would have known if you hadn't told me." and we chatted for a while more then exchanged phone numbers and said our goodbyes. We're still good friends to this day.
Ally :icon_flower:
Wow, good one Ally!
Quote from: Allyda on May 18, 2014, 03:14:14 PM
My best (and kind of cutest incident) also happened in a Wal-Mart mens room. I had walked in by mistake not thinking then felt a tug on my blouse. I turned to see a little boy who I'd saw standing outside as I walked in who said: "Ms., this isn't the girls room. It's the boys. The girls room is across from this one" then he took me by the hand and led me out of the mens over to the girls then said: "My mommy's in there. Could you tell her to hurry?" I thanked him, asked his mommy's name, and had him describe her. Then went in. I found her at the mirror. After striking up a conversation and telling her what her son did we talked for about 5 minutes. She waited on me outside, and as we were both leaving we talked on the way out. Because of that cute little boy and my mistake I'd made a new friend. Never once did she question, or doubt my gender. Upon reaching my truck (I've a handicapped license plate due to my disabilities so I was parked in front) I did tell her I was transgendered because I didn't wish to start off a new friendship without being truthful. She replied:"I never would have known if you hadn't told me." and we chatted for a while more then exchanged phone numbers and said our goodbyes. We're still good friends to this day.
Ally :icon_flower:
Absolute best pass i have heard.
Quote from: Sheala on May 19, 2014, 05:29:15 AM
Absolute best pass i have heard.
Thanks. I've been using ladies rooms exclusively since I went full time 5 years ago. I had to go kind of bad that day cause there was a long checkout line so I just quickly pushed my full cart over and headed for the closest rest room not checking whether it was the mens or the womans. My new friends little boy saved me some embarrassment.Quote from: kate on May 19, 2014, 04:31:01 AM
That's so adorable! That little boy has impeccable manners, will grow to be a real gentleman :)
Yes he did have great manners come to think of it. His name is David and he's 9 years old now. I don't get to see him or his Mom as much as I'd like to anymore because they moved farther away from me than they were originally. He's still a very well mannered little Boy.
Ally :icon_flower:
I went for an electrolysis consultation and the electrolysist looked at my face and asked me several questions. One of them was, 'have you always had this or has it developed recently. Not a question you would ask a trans person.
Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 22, 2014, 04:40:57 AM
I went for an electrolysis consultation and the electrolysist looked at my face and asked me several questions. One of them was, 'have you always had this or has it developed recently. Not a question you would ask a trans person.
That is a good one. The electrolysist must have been looking at you carefully.
Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 22, 2014, 04:40:57 AM
I went for an electrolysis consultation and the electrolysist looked at my face and asked me several questions. One of them was, 'have you always had this or has it developed recently. Not a question you would ask a trans person.
Kira your just super gorgeous girl. Cool pass though.
Ally
Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on May 22, 2014, 04:40:57 AM
I went for an electrolysis consultation and the electrolysist looked at my face and asked me several questions. One of them was, 'have you always had this or has it developed recently. Not a question you would ask a trans person.
Wow, yeah, especially from someone who probably works with trans patients too! That's an awesome pass.
^__^ Thank you!
Went to the gym in my usual outfit (without makeup because who goes to the gym in makeup? lol) and my shadow was barely visible but still visible. Got out and was waiting for my wife to pick me up and one of the employees who I became acquainted with recently (and doesn't know that I'm trans as far as I know) walked out and said "why you all alone? Waiting for someone?" and i said "yeah I'm waiting for my wife :)" and she responds in the most unexpected way:
"aww you guys are married! That's so beautiful! Where did you guys get married? *look of confusion*", Same-sex marriage is completely "banned" in Florida even as "civil union" so that question pretty much says it all ^_____^
When I said "right here :)" she has this look on her face that said "but how?" mixed with "thats so cute *aww face*"
Also; just this morning when I got to work, the phone rang and I answered ~ don't know if this counts as passing but the customer who was calling confused me with another female coworker of mine; total confidence boost xD
Quote from: MaryXYX on May 12, 2014, 05:08:53 AM
It wasn't a matter of passing, but when I went to church on Mothers Day morning - which was two months ago because I'm not in the USA - there were flowers for all the mothers. Our minister made a point of making sure I got mine. It's not passing because I joined this church before I transitioned. Could I describe myself as my children's "other mother" now?
In some ways acceptence can be passing. Most my familly say to each other "cant you tell shes supposed to be a girl" like a social pass as aposed to a visual one?
Quote from: ButterflyVickster on May 23, 2014, 02:33:01 PM
In some ways acceptence can be passing. Most my familly say to each other "cant you tell shes supposed to be a girl" like a social pass as aposed to a visual one?
I agree. I was a steward on the Reclaim The Night march this year. That's a woman only event and the other stewards know my background. I count that as real acceptance.
You know you pass when someone you've just met gives you creepy attraction vibes and then starts openly bashing trans people in a conversation with you and your friend.
Then you wait for the right moment to tell them and "pop" goes their head.
Popping skulls since 2012
Quote from: Jennygirl on May 24, 2014, 02:00:52 PM
You know you pass when someone you've just met gives you creepy attraction vibes and then starts openly bashing trans people in a conversation with you and your friend.
Then you wait for the right moment to tell them and "pop" goes their head.
Popping skulls since 2012
You are indeed a skull popper! ;D Eventually you'll have to call it quits and enjoy your female life like any cis woman.
Trans* life 4ever ;) ;D
Out and proud
Quote from: Jennygirl on May 24, 2014, 02:00:52 PM
You know you pass when someone you've just met gives you creepy attraction vibes and then starts openly bashing trans people in a conversation with you and your friend.
Then you wait for the right moment to tell them and "pop" goes their head.
Popping skulls since 2012
Priceless.
My voice is low and my speech has very strong local accent, making everybody know that I am a man. On Friday, I stopped at a hair salon before going to the airport. I chatted a lot with the two young ladies there while they cared my hair for about 2 hours. One lady, the owner of the salon, always called me 'eonni'. Eonni is a word used by korean females to address another female older than them who they are close to. http://ko.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=eonni
At first I thought she intentionally called me 'eonni' to just please me even though she knew I am a kind of trans. Then her hands inadvertently touched my chest and bras while she combed my hair. I know that this kind of close body contact from an adult female means that she is recognizing me as a woman.
In any case, I was glad that she treated me as a woman, even though I did not expect or ask it. And the charge was exceptionally expensive, but I could not complain at all.
My hair she finally dressed.
(https://farm3.staticflickr.com/2902/14260512335_7cb1882ab8_z.jpg)
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on May 24, 2014, 03:18:49 PM
My voice is low and my speech has very strong local accent, making everybody know that I am a man. On Friday, I stopped at a hair salon before going to the airport. I chatted a lot with the two young ladies there while they cared my hair for about 2 hours. One lady, the owner of the salon, always called me 'eonni'. Eonni is a word used by korean females to address another female older than them who they are close to. http://ko.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=eonni
At first I thought she intentionally called me 'eonni' to just please me even though she knew I am a kind of trans. Then her hands inadvertently touched my chest and bras while she combed my hair. I know that this kind of close body contact from an adult female means that she is recognizing me as a woman.
In any case, I was glad that she treated me as a woman, even though I did not expect or ask it. And the charge was exceptionally expensive, but I could not complain at all.
My hair she finally dressed.
(https://farm3.staticflickr.com/2902/14260512335_7cb1882ab8_z.jpg)
barbie~~
That's a pass for sure if I know Asian women!
Quote from: barbie on May 24, 2014, 03:18:49 PM
(https://farm3.staticflickr.com/2902/14260512335_7cb1882ab8_z.jpg)
barbie~~
예쁜 언니 :)
Quote from: Shantel on May 24, 2014, 08:14:55 PM
That must mean she's hot! :)
Pretty older sister ;p
Quote from: jfong on May 24, 2014, 08:16:43 PM
Pretty older sister ;p
We need to downplay the old part, she's not that old even if she feels that way from her recent birthday.
Well in the Korean culture, one must know who's older to address someone properly. That's why sometimes they do ask for your age to be able to address someone. It is by no means a disrespectful thing, it is the other way around.
Quote from: jfong on May 24, 2014, 08:23:46 PM
Well in the Korean culture, one must know who's older to address someone properly. That's why sometimes they do ask for your age to be able to address someone. It is by no means a disrespectful thing, it is the other way around.
I understand, my young Korean friend here is very respectful to me I'll be 71 in August. Caucasian kids are not as respectful.
So I was at a trans support group meeting and about 2/3 of the way through it I notice one of the new people to the group staring at me. They continue to stare for the rest of the meeting. When the meeting wraps up, they come over to me and say "for most of the meeting I thought you were a _real_ woman. I kept wondering why you were here". I just said back "Thanks, but I _am_ a real woman!" :D Someone needs to learn the term cis.
Quote from: Shantel on May 24, 2014, 04:33:59 PM
That's a pass for sure if I know Asian women!
Quote from: jfong on May 24, 2014, 08:23:46 PM
Well in the Korean culture, one must know who's older to address someone properly. That's why sometimes they do ask for your age to be able to address someone. It is by no means a disrespectful thing, it is the other way around.
Thanks, Shan and jfong.
Nowadays the term 'eonni' is used broadly for denoting both young and aged women. About 20 years ago, ajumma was used for addressing married women. Now ajumma specifically denotes aged women, and calling any young or even middle-aged woman ajumma can cause offense: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ajumma
Because of this reason, people began to use 'eonni' although she is not actually your relative. Even men call a woman as eonni. Eonni can comprise both married and unmarried women, and it is more friendly. Even in restaurant, I call any female worker 'eonni' instead of ajumma.
Certainly, eonni should have a slim body figure, and are far more fashion-sensible than ajumma, regardless of age.
barbie~~
Yesterday, handing information on what's going on with the Fairness for all Marylanders Act. Also trying to get people away from this booth of opponents (anti-trans people). Eventually I had a few of them come ask me what I was doing. They all were nice and some gave me compliments. One of the older volunteers asked me how I would feel about a guy walking into the rest room if I was in there. My first thought was "well it's been happening for years". I told him that it isn't a fear of mine and that I'm not worried. That made those 2 and a half hours of baking in the sun, passing out flyers and talking to strangers amazing.
Quote from: jfong on May 24, 2014, 05:09:18 PM
예쁜 언니 :)
Yes. A perfect Korean sentence. Help of any internet translator?
barbie~~
Quote from: apriljo on May 24, 2014, 11:58:15 PM
So I was at a trans support group meeting and about 2/3 of the way through it I notice one of the new people to the group staring at me. They continue to stare for the rest of the meeting. When the meeting wraps up, they come over to me and say "for most of the meeting I thought you were a _real_ woman. I kept wondering why you were here". I just said back "Thanks, but I _am_ a real woman!" :D Someone needs to learn the term cis.
Yes. You did a good job!
That reminds me of the catch-phrase used for advertising an m2f transsexual (Ha Ri Su) in cosmetic market.
It's difficult to translate, but like "Prettier than women.... is she!".
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on May 25, 2014, 06:53:07 AM
Yes. A perfect Korean sentence. Help of any internet translator?
barbie~~
Busted lol... I know ippo/yippo means pretty but wasn't sure about 한글 spelling.
Quote from: Hayley on May 25, 2014, 06:37:13 AM
Yesterday, handing information on what's going on with the Fairness for all Marylanders Act. Also trying to get people away from this booth of opponents (anti-trans people). Eventually I had a few of them come ask me what I was doing. They all were nice and some gave me compliments. One of the older volunteers asked me how I would feel about a guy walking into the rest room if I was in there. My first thought was "well it's been happening for years". I told him that it isn't a fear of mine and that I'm not worried. That made those 2 and a half hours of baking in the sun, passing out flyers and talking to strangers amazing.
Good pass for sure there Hayley, good job hon! :eusa_clap:
Quote from: apriljo on May 24, 2014, 11:58:15 PM
So I was at a trans support group meeting and about 2/3 of the way through it I notice one of the new people to the group staring at me. They continue to stare for the rest of the meeting. When the meeting wraps up, they come over to me and say "for most of the meeting I thought you were a _real_ woman. I kept wondering why you were here". I just said back "Thanks, but I _am_ a real woman!" :D Someone needs to learn the term cis.
That's a definite pass April!!! 8)
Barbie, you'll always be my 예쁜 언니 (pretty sister).
Quote from: Hayley on May 25, 2014, 06:37:13 AM
... Also trying to get people away from this booth of opponents (anti-trans people)...
I find it pretty much impossible to understand such people. Why do people try to stop others from doing things that have no effect on them?
Quote from: apriljo on May 24, 2014, 11:58:15 PM:D Someone needs to learn the term cis.
I'm doubting that "cis" will ever become a part of the common language.
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on May 25, 2014, 02:59:43 PM
Yesterday we (kiddo and me) went to children birthday party - so to avoid any "issues" with unfamiliar people I decided to dress in my previous "guy mode" - straight-cut light blue jeans, Hilfiger longsleeve light blue-white-ish shirt (L size, Madras/tartan pattern of course, lol). Leather belt and canvas shoulderbag were the only andro hints - I supposed fixed hair and rolled up sleeves dont count lol. We took a taxi-cab, chatted with a driver about random things and... of course... We are almost there, I am combing little princess' hair, she gets a bit capricious, our driver checks us out in her front mirror, turns around, smiles and says "Hey, lookie, Your mommy is fixing Your hair, pretty one!".
I went inside like "Dammit, and I was really making an effort...".
Great pass Emily. I love the ones where kids are involved. It makes the experience that much sweeter. Especially when your dressed down as you were. :icon_chick:
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on May 25, 2014, 02:59:43 PM
Yesterday we (kiddo and me) went to children birthday party - so to avoid any "issues" with unfamiliar people I decided to dress in my previous "guy mode" - straight-cut light blue jeans, Hilfiger longsleeve light blue-white-ish shirt (L size, Madras/tartan pattern of course, lol). Leather belt and canvas shoulderbag were the only andro hints - I supposed fixed hair and rolled up sleeves dont count lol. We took a taxi-cab, chatted with a driver about random things and... of course... We are almost there, I am combing little princess' hair, she gets a bit capricious, our driver checks us out in her front mirror, turns around, smiles and says "Hey, lookie, Your mommy is fixing Your hair, pretty one!".
I went inside like "Dammit, and I was really making an effort...".
Total man fail sorry bout that!
when you go to the hospital and they ask you when was the last time you got your period, or when they do an XRay and they ask you is there any chance you might be pregnant.
Quote from: Lyric on May 25, 2014, 02:05:34 PM
I'm doubting that "cis" will ever become a part of the common language.
"cis-gender" is in the Oxford English Dictionary. As of about now - or perhaps this is a sneak preview. Courtesy of a t-girl friend of mine who works there.
Quote from: Jennygirl on May 24, 2014, 02:00:52 PM
You know you pass when someone you've just met gives you creepy attraction vibes and then starts openly bashing trans people in a conversation with you and your friend.
Then you wait for the right moment to tell them add "pop" goes their head.
Popping skulls since 2012
LOL that made my afternoon, if only that could be made into a bumper sticker...
My old hairdresser asked me how long I'd had long hair. My new hairdresser asked if I'd ever had short hair.
You know you pass when you're going to get your name and gender marker updated with the Social Security administration, and when you present the clerk with your therapist's letter to change your gender on file, as well as the court order for your name change, he smiles and says "I never would have known." (plus uses correct name and pronouns the whole time, and speaks to you in that endearing "talking to a pretty girl" tone that guys use, despite knowing that you're trans and even knowing your old name.)
That made me feel pretty darn good! :)
I was taking a course and the teacher put me with the guys (we had to be sex segregated). Later on she makes an off handed comment about people "pretending to be the opposite sex" and how "everyone can always tell what they really are." Lol well evidently not.
Quote from: birkin on June 07, 2014, 05:56:42 PM
I was taking a course and the teacher put me with the guys (we had to be sex segregated). Later on she makes an off handed comment about people "pretending to be the opposite sex" and how "everyone can always tell what they really are." Lol well evidently not.
That was a great pass, you should have given the teacher a www.full body smack-down just to celebrate! :D ;D :laugh:
Best one yet, Mr. Hamster.
Quote from: Shantel on June 07, 2014, 06:03:09 PM
That was a great pass, you should have given the teacher a www.full body smack-down just to celebrate! :D ;D :laugh:
Haha, yeah. I got a little nervous because I introduced myself to one girl and she thought my name was Karen. :| But everyone else didn't seem to think of me as female in any way, even the guys that ended up copping a feel (not on purpose lol) during exercises. She was foreign so she may have thought I was male all along and just not heard the name properly.
Quote from: birkin on June 07, 2014, 06:07:37 PM
Haha, yeah. I got a little nervous because I introduced myself to one girl and she thought my name was Karen. :| But everyone else didn't seem to think of me as female in any way, even the guys that ended up copping a feel (not on purpose lol) during exercises. She was foreign so she may have thought I was male all along and just not heard the name properly.
Hahaha you've been groped by dopes that didn't get it, it can't get any better than that under the circumstances.
Either that or the guys were just being polite and didn't say anything. They had to feel my extremely hairy legs for the wound wrapping work though...
Quote from: birkin on June 07, 2014, 05:56:42 PM
I was taking a course and the teacher put me with the guys (we had to be sex segregated). Later on she makes an off handed comment about people "pretending to be the opposite sex" and how "everyone can always tell what they really are." Lol well evidently not.
Oh, this would have driven me crazy - That irresistible urge to out myself and educate the teacher.
This one is fun
I was kissing with my girlfriend in a dark park
a bunch of dudes were passing by and a guy was shouting
"I thought Ive seen everything, I though Ive seen everything!" looking back at us
(fyi it was really awesome cause there were two benches and in the one across there was another lesbian couple :D Id talk to them but I didnt want to because of my voice..."
later we were standing outside a taxi and a girl said to us
"are you gonna enter girls?"
even later we were buying candies and the lady there reffered to me as "her"
I guess tonight was a successful night :angel:
Quote from: Carrie Liz on May 30, 2014, 01:58:52 PMYou know you pass when you're going to get your name and gender marker updated ....
When I transitioned (1974) I never bothered with a court-ordered name change - didn't need it - and it wasn't until 20 years later that I needed the name change for a new passport so I filled out the papers and went to the court office. The clerk took the form and said something about having it published (- up here change of name is published in the court's official paper.) I said "I would really rather not." At that point, she finally read the application and her eyes went wide! She kept looking at me, at the application, then at me again! Finally she led me to a quiet corner, away from anyone elses ear shot, pointed at the previous name on the form, and said "Is that YOU? Can't be!" I had no way to prove that it was my former name but finally she took my word for it. (The name change was done in judges chamber and the records sealed - no publication.)
Quote from: Carrie Liz on May 30, 2014, 01:58:52 PM
You know you pass when you're going to get your name and gender marker updated with the Social Security administration, and when you present the clerk with your therapist's letter to change your gender on file, as well as the court order for your name change, he smiles and says "I never would have known." (plus uses correct name and pronouns the whole time, and speaks to you in that endearing "talking to a pretty girl" tone that guys use, despite knowing that you're trans and even knowing your old name.)
That made me feel pretty darn good! :)
I just had my gender marker changed at the Florida DMV on my Driver's License this past Wednesday. My name, luckily for me is gender neutral and was given to me at birth by my deceased biological Mom so I intend to keep my name in honor of her. I am however going to switch my middle name, Allyda, around with my first name, Phoenix, so that Allyda is my first name and Phoenix my second since I go by my middle name and my friends call me Ally for short. I and my friends agree Allyda with Ally for short sounds more feminine than Phoenix with Phoe for short does.
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on June 08, 2014, 10:45:42 AM
I just had my gender marker changed at the Florida DMV on my Driver's License this past Wednesday. My name, luckily for me is gender neutral and was given to me at birth by my deceased biological Mom so I intend to keep my name in honor of her. I am however going to switch my middle name, Allyda, around with my first name, Phoenix, so that Allyda is my first name and Phoenix my second since I go by my middle name and my friends call me Ally for short. I and my friends agree Allyda with Ally for short sounds more feminine than Phoenix with Phoe for short does.
Ally :icon_flower:
Congrats Allyda, good choices juggling the names like that I agree.
Quote from: Shantel on June 08, 2014, 11:23:30 AM
Congrats Allyda, good choices juggling the names like that I agree.
Thanks Auntie Shan. Sad part is I'll probably need a Judge to do even that. I'll have to call and see. This week I gotta get back to finding an ENT specialist. So more phone tag. Tampa has an LGBT support group though, and I plan to contact them first and see if they can point me in the right direction.
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: suzifrommd on June 07, 2014, 07:08:17 PM
Oh, this would have driven me crazy - That irresistible urge to out myself and educate the teacher.
There was a part of me that considered calling her out on it, but a part of me wondered if she assumed I was trans and was saying it as an underhanded b* comment lol. Today she said things that made me think she hadn't assumed I was trans, so I suppose if I wanted to I could have. But it was also in such passing that it would have been extra awkward (like more so than usual haha).
You know you pass when...
You're going in to get your name changed on your bank account, and when you tell the banker you're there to change it, he says "okay, well I'll need a copy of your marriage certificate." :)
(and even after I gave him the paper with the court order for my name change, very clearly showing that I was changing my name from a male name to a female name, it still didn't occur to him that I'm trans, and he actually asked me "so if you don't mind me asking, why are you changing your name?" and after basically just saying outright "I'm transgender," he gives me a shocked look and says "wow, I never would have known.")
Considering that I'm 6'2" tall, have a large build, and very seriously thought that I was just kidding myself to think that I'd ever pass for the entire first 11 months of transition, I am pretty damned floored right now.
As of today I will no longer worry about passing. Not after the following conversation:
Her: Any other medications?
Me: Estrogen.
Her: What? Aren't you too young for menopause?
Me: I, uhm, it's, I was born with the wrong bits, so I'm not producing estrogen.
*silence*
Her: Like a sex change kinda thing?
Me: Yeah.
*confused look*
Her: You wish to be male?
Me: Uhm. No, I was born male.
*long silence*
Her: But your voice! You're a woman now!
Me: Thanks *awkward smile*
Quote from: Incarlina on June 10, 2014, 06:45:10 AM
As of today I will no longer worry about passing. Not after the following conversation:
Her: Any other medications?
Me: Estrogen.
Her: What? Aren't you too young for menopause?
Me: I, uhm, it's, I was born with the wrong bits, so I'm not producing estrogen.
*silence*
Her: Like a sex change kinda thing?
Me: Yeah.
*confused look*
Her: You wish to be male?
Me: Uhm. No, I was born male.
*long silence*
Her: But your voice! You're a woman now!
Me: Thanks *awkward smile*
Total pass! Especially when it comes from a cis female because they usually pick up on anything that might be a little bit off.
Quote from: Incarlina on June 10, 2014, 06:45:10 AM
As of today I will no longer worry about passing. Not after the following conversation:
Her: Any other medications?
Me: Estrogen.
Her: What? Aren't you too young for menopause?
Me: I, uhm, it's, I was born with the wrong bits, so I'm not producing estrogen.
*silence*
Her: Like a sex change kinda thing?
Me: Yeah.
*confused look*
Her: You wish to be male?
Me: Uhm. No, I was born male.
*long silence*
Her: But your voice! You're a woman now!
Me: Thanks *awkward smile*
Best pass I've heard so far. Good for you girl!
Ally :icon_flower:
When a total stranger, whom You just met in the stairwell, looks at Your for a couple of secs and suddenly offers to carry Your bike upstairs...
Every month or two, my wife and I attend a womens' group where we descend upon LA's tackiest, kitchiest and oldest dive bars. I was a bit late to the party, but I just found out that two of the women were blown away when they were recently told I was trans. I guess when you do the math after we have been married for 20 years and same-sex marriage in California is just a recent thing, you have to ask WTF...
I mean, seriously, you didn't know already and had just assumed we were run-of-the-mill lesbians this whole time?
Quote from: Jill F on June 10, 2014, 04:18:38 PM
Every month or two, my wife and I attend a womens' group where we descend upon LA's tackiest, kitchiest and oldest dive bars. I was a bit late to the party, but I just found out that two of the women were blown away when they were recently told I was trans. I guess when you do the math after we have been married for 20 years and same-sex marriage in California is just a recent thing, you have to ask WTF...
I mean, seriously, you didn't know already and had just assumed we were run-of-the-mill lesbians this whole time?
Haha good one Jill! I get that with my spouse too. I must come across as the assertive dyke, but oh well!
Basically, when people ask if there are two persons living at the place or if I am "his boyfriend". And again when despite being in old guy clothes at home, they ask me where is "he".
My dad's (male) friend came over for dinner and we were watching some show with, you know, overly-feminized stereotyped women and he said:
"we'll never understand women will we?" and then later said to me "you're the man". I feel giddy just thinking about it.
Three days ago I went out to a bar for the first time as a woman... So far I was only walking out with friends, going to shops or visiting someone's place, but never at cafes or bars...
Well, I was dressed... let's say "brave" :D - Short jeans skirt, black thights, black and white grunge-styled tank top... not much makeup - just black eyeliner and few shades, lip gloss...
I was seeing friends of mine, but there were few people in the company, I didn't know, so I introduced my self to them. We talked a lot and all the time, noone was looking strange, they were using female pronouns and behaved perfectly normal. Even one of the guys showed a little bit more than ordinary interests to me ::)
Then I went to another bar to see another friend and we sat there for hours... the bar gradually filled up with people, but noone stared at me in "that way" - the clocking one. I was obviously seen as a woman - not a single strange look... but several passionate ones... and guys leading conversations as well ::) Aparently, that's what it is to be a tall, slim blonde in a short skirt, in a bar - you just draw attention :D
I suppose this story means I pass ;)
Things got a bit awkward with my old hair dresser when I went full time (Long story)...so I was searching for a new salon.
One of my friend's wife happens to run a top class salon in the city "You should totally go see her" he said "She will give you an amazing do!"
So I went, and got the works done. Dying, Highlights, Trim, Styling, Advice everythign.
In the end I was there for over 2 hours, with such highlights including, having my hair wet and slicked back, exposing my abysmal "M" shaped hairline and Neanderthalic brow bone, horrid extended periods of "Hold your head back please darlin" when I was convinced my adams apple must have looked like a xenomorph trying to burst out of my throat, and partaking in so much chatting and laughing, that I was convinced my voice must have messed up several times, sounding like a barrel of gravel being thrown down a wet cliff edge...
But still, I stayed confident and came away from it all happy, I had spent a few hours surrounded by awesome pretty women who were dedicated to making me look the best I could...and with a rocking new hairdo to boot!
The shock came later, when I was talking to my friend about the experience, and said "I'm really surprised by how well it went...people normally don't treat me that nice and normal, especially those in high fashion type establishments. Being trans does not normally go down well with those types of looks obsessed people..."
I've never seen him look so smug before in his life...
"Oh...I didn't tell them you were trans" He proclaimed proudly "In fact I told my wife afterwards, I asked what was happening behind the scenes etc...and not a single one of the girls in the salon clocked you! They didn't have a clue! They all just through you were a funny and confident woman who needed some fashion advice So you must be doing something right!"
Well...after picking my jaw up off the floor from this monumental discovery...I had the best...day...ever xD
^_^ yay :-)
On father's day, I went to the drug store with my little girl for some first aid supplies. Waiting in line, the cosmetics worker walked over looked at me and said "I can help you over in cosmetics, maam." Since I'm not really used to being gendered anymore (much less a proper gendering... not to mention male clothes, hair up, AND hadn't shaved in almost 2 days... ick...) I kinda looked around and realized with glee, oh yeah, of course that's me! As I walked over I realized, ok, that was nice BUT of course she is going to correct as once Im closer shes going to realize... beardshadow... hairline.. clothes... looked around when called maam... As she was ringing it up, she asked if Id like to buy one of the razors that where on sale. I just KNEW shed figured it out, and started to say I don't really need one, and she interjected "No honey, a gift for your husband for fathers day" looking down at my little one. I really don't know if I usually pass at all, but that was a fairly blatant male fail to me, blatant enough that I decided to go out after and get some nice makeup as a gift for fathers day.
Quote from: ashrock on June 20, 2014, 10:56:30 AM
On father's day, I went to the drug store with my little girl for some first aid supplies. Waiting in line, the cosmetics worker walked over looked at me and said "I can help you over in cosmetics, maam." Since I'm not really used to being gendered anymore (much less a proper gendering... not to mention male clothes, hair up, AND hadn't shaved in almost 2 days... ick...) I kinda looked around and realized with glee, oh yeah, of course that's me! As I walked over I realized, ok, that was nice BUT of course she is going to correct as once Im closer shes going to realize... beardshadow... hairline.. clothes... looked around when called maam... As she was ringing it up, she asked if Id like to buy one of the razors that where on sale. I just KNEW shed figured it out, and started to say I don't really need one, and she interjected "No honey, a gift for your husband for fathers day" looking down at my little one. I really don't know if I usually pass at all, but that was a fairly blatant male fail to me, blatant enough that I decided to go out after and get some nice makeup as a gift for fathers day.
Hahaha good one!
Quote from: Danniella on June 20, 2014, 07:01:55 AM
Things got a bit awkward with my old hair dresser when I went full time (Long story)...so I was searching for a new salon.
One of my friend's wife happens to run a top class salon in the city "You should totally go see her" he said "She will give you an amazing do!"
.
.
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Is that the new one in your profile, pic? You look wonderful!
Quote from: Aquarelle on June 20, 2014, 06:04:00 AM
Three days ago I went out to a bar for the first time as a woman... So far I was only walking out with friends, going to shops or visiting someone's place, but never at cafes or bars...
Well, I was dressed... let's say "brave" :D - Short jeans skirt, black thights, black and white grunge-styled tank top... not much makeup - just black eyeliner and few shades, lip gloss...
I was seeing friends of mine, but there were few people in the company, I didn't know, so I introduced my self to them. We talked a lot and all the time, noone was looking strange, they were using female pronouns and behaved perfectly normal. Even one of the guys showed a little bit more than ordinary interests to me ::)
Then I went to another bar to see another friend and we sat there for hours... the bar gradually filled up with people, but noone stared at me in "that way" - the clocking one. I was obviously seen as a woman - not a single strange look... but several passionate ones... and guys leading conversations as well ::) Aparently, that's what it is to be a tall, slim blonde in a short skirt, in a bar - you just draw attention :D
I suppose this story means I pass ;)
Nice pass Aquarelle, with those legs of yours in a short skirt your definitely going to attract attention. I've actually been avoiding bars like the plague for this very reason. Though I may not be blonde, I'm already getting more attention from guys than I ever wanted. :icon_blah:
You're hot Aquarelle so get used to it girl!! It's only going to get better!
Ally :icon_flower:
my best passing moments have been when me and my mom were out and I was wearing boys clothes and no makeup and we got called "ladies". Or when I went into the guys bathroom dressed as a guy in guy mode and an employee tells me this is the mens room not the ladies room, then takes a second looks me up and down and blushes and apologizes
Quote from: Annabolton on June 20, 2014, 12:59:15 PM
my best passing moments have been when me and my mom were out and I was wearing boys clothes and no makeup and we got called "ladies". Or when I went into the guys bathroom dressed as a guy in guy mode and an employee tells me this is the mens room not the ladies room, then takes a second looks me up and down and blushes and apologizes
;D
Quote from: Danniella on June 20, 2014, 07:01:55 AM
Things got a bit awkward with my old hair dresser when I went full time (Long story)...so I was searching for a new salon.
One of my friend's wife happens to run a top class salon in the city "You should totally go see her" he said "She will give you an amazing do!"
So I went, and got the works done. Dying, Highlights, Trim, Styling, Advice everythign.
In the end I was there for over 2 hours, with such highlights including, having my hair wet and slicked back, exposing my abysmal "M" shaped hairline and Neanderthalic brow bone, horrid extended periods of "Hold your head back please darlin" when I was convinced my adams apple must have looked like a xenomorph trying to burst out of my throat, and partaking in so much chatting and laughing, that I was convinced my voice must have messed up several times, sounding like a barrel of gravel being thrown down a wet cliff edge...
But still, I stayed confident and came away from it all happy, I had spent a few hours surrounded by awesome pretty women who were dedicated to making me look the best I could...and with a rocking new hairdo to boot!
The shock came later, when I was talking to my friend about the experience, and said "I'm really surprised by how well it went...people normally don't treat me that nice and normal, especially those in high fashion type establishments. Being trans does not normally go down well with those types of looks obsessed people..."
I've never seen him look so smug before in his life...
"Oh...I didn't tell them you were trans" He proclaimed proudly "In fact I told my wife afterwards, I asked what was happening behind the scenes etc...and not a single one of the girls in the salon clocked you! They didn't have a clue! They all just through you were a funny and confident woman who needed some fashion advice So you must be doing something right!"
Well...after picking my jaw up off the floor from this monumental discovery...I had the best...day...ever xD
That made me get all kindsa happy just reading it. What an amazing experience that must have been for you :D That's how I feel when I'm speaking with customers and they tell me stuff like "Ugh, women" or "We men...". It's incredible. I'm glad you got to be surrounded by people that treated you as you should be treated.
Quote from: Annabolton on June 20, 2014, 12:59:15 PMMy best passing moments have been when me and my mom were out and I was wearing boys clothes and no makeup and we got called "ladies".
That's very easy to believe based on your avatar pic, Anna. I think it may be time for you to give up mensrooms.
Quote from: Allyda on June 20, 2014, 12:51:49 PM
Nice pass Aquarelle, with those legs of yours in a short skirt your definitely going to attract attention. I've actually been avoiding bars like the plague for this very reason. Though I may not be blonde, I'm already getting more attention from guys than I ever wanted. :icon_blah:
You're hot Aquarelle so get used to it girl!! It's only going to get better!
Ally :icon_flower:
Thank you :) I already see, that things are getting better, so I am much more confident now and hence feel happier :)
Quote from: Dee Walker on June 20, 2014, 12:42:39 PM
Is that the new one in your profile, pic? You look wonderful!
Thanks ^^ but that was pre-salon. Not really got any great pics of the new hair yet, this is the only one I have taken so far:
(https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xfp1/t31.0-8/10452873_791086810925499_6408763045007723765_o.jpg)
The photo doesn't really pick up all the highlights etc though (got some lovely vivid red and copper parts throughout) but you get the idea.
(EDIT: Also despite what it looks like...I do actually own more than one top xD)
Quote from: TheLance on June 20, 2014, 04:52:30 PM
That made me get all kindsa happy just reading it. What an amazing experience that must have been for you :D That's how I feel when I'm speaking with customers and they tell me stuff like "Ugh, women" or "We men...". It's incredible. I'm glad you got to be surrounded by people that treated you as you should be treated.
Glad to spread the joy :D
I got stopped by the police while driving (I was a naughty girl). He checked my licence on the computer and said, why does it say you are male?
Damn I thought I'd had that changed was my reply.
Yes you need to, it is a criminal offence to have false details on your licence record. Then he let me go with a warning and a smile.
He was cute too ::)
Quote from: Cindy on June 22, 2014, 03:06:00 AM
I got stopped by the police while driving (I was a naughty girl). He checked my licence on the computer and said, why does it say you are male?
Damn I thought I'd had that changed was my reply.
Yes you need to, it is a criminal offence to have false details on your licence record. Then he let me go with a warning and a smile.
He was cute too ::)
I am genuinely concerned about that right now xD Still going through all the change of name/gender on documentation stuff. My drivers licence has the wrong, name, gender, photo and home address...might have difficulty explaining that one away x'D
Quote from: Danniella on June 22, 2014, 02:56:41 AM
Thanks ^^ but that was pre-salon. Not really got any great pics of the new hair yet, this is the only one I have taken so far:
(https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xfp1/t31.0-8/10452873_791086810925499_6408763045007723765_o.jpg)
The photo doesn't really pick up all the highlights etc though (got some lovely vivid red and copper parts throughout) but you get the idea.
(EDIT: Also despite what it looks like...I do actually own more than one top xD)
Glad to spread the joy :D
You look really nice Danniella. The new hairstyle fits you. No, I always knew you had more tops. You just probably have a favorite one like me, lol!!
I love your necklaces too.
Ally :icon_flower:
This week I had a fun one.
The usual real estate agents that make their rounds in my neighborhood came to my door when I was outside. They asked me if I was the owner of the house, to which I replied, "Yes."
One of them told me how much I looked like my husband.
Hell, I'll take it. ;D
Quote from: Jill F on June 22, 2014, 03:36:24 PM
This week I had a fun one.
The usual real estate agents that make their rounds in my neighborhood came to my door when I was outside. They asked me if I was the owner of the house, to which I replied, "Yes."
One of them told me how much I looked like my husband.
Hell, I'll take it. ;D
Lol! That's pretty funny and kind of messed up.
Quote from: Jill F on June 22, 2014, 03:36:24 PM
This week I had a fun one.
The usual real estate agents that make their rounds in my neighborhood came to my door when I was outside. They asked me if I was the owner of the house, to which I replied, "Yes."
One of them told me how much I looked like my husband.
Hell, I'll take it. ;D
Cool pass Jill. Were you surprised at all, or did you just roll with it?
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on June 22, 2014, 06:35:36 PM
Cool pass Jill. Were you surprised at all, or did you just roll with it?
Ally :icon_flower:
I just rolled (my eyes) with it. We'll see if they figure it out one day.
Quote from: Jill F on June 22, 2014, 03:36:24 PM
One of them told me how much I looked like my husband.
That a pretty good pass. He could see the similarity but still didn't realise why.
It's a very simple moment but it made my day :)
The delivery man of a courrier company rang at my door because he had a parcel for my brother (he said his name).
My bro wasn't at home so I answered: "Yes, ok!" and opened the door.
He said: "Hi, XXXX (my brother's name). Here's your parcel, you should sign here" and then he handed me the sheet to sign.
He thought I was him and didn't question, yay! ;D
Quote from: Kiwi on June 23, 2014, 07:43:25 AM
It's a very simple moment but it made my day :)
The delivery man of a courrier company rang at my door because he had a parcel for my brother (he said his name).
My bro wasn't at home so I answered: "Yes, ok!" and opened the door.
He said: "Hi, XXXX (my brother's name). Here's your parcel, you should sign here" and then he handed me the sheet to sign.
He thought I was him and didn't question, yay! ;D
You passed, good one!
I've been noticing it a lot recently. I can go out in public all alone and even as self conscious as I am about people looking at me I don't see or have those feelings anymore. It could be that I just gained a TON of confidence from getting my ID changed but I feel like I just blend in now.
Quote from: Megumi on June 23, 2014, 10:20:05 PM
I've been noticing it a lot recently. I can go out in public all alone and even as self conscious as I am about people looking at me I don't see or have those feelings anymore. It could be that I just gained a TON of confidence from getting my ID changed but I feel like I just blend in now.
It really feels great to just be treated as a normal woman doesn't it! I'm very happy for you Megumi! :icon_bunch:
Ally :icon_flower:
I had an interesting moment recently that left me both amused and horrified at the same time.
I had the Comcast service techs out Saturday morning to look at my cable modem issues and they ran a new cable to the house from the box (which is what I think fixed everything) but they again replaced the cable modem, this time with a combination modem/router. Thus far it's been rock solid but one cable did turn out to be flakey so I resolved to go to Fry's to get another. I left the house in my "usual" mode - female clothing, a bra, a nice blouse, my purse, no wig but letting my own hair down and wearing a cap to cover the MPB issue on top, and only very light makeup.
While at Fry's I was walking the aisles because they moved the ethernet cables and totally failed to relabel the aisles, and two middle aged guys are looking at me as I walk by. I'm not quite sure what they were thinking but I keep walking then stopped when I finally found the ethernet cables. Now this second hearing aid that I wear that transmits over to the good ear's hearing aid does help me hear a bit better in certain situations and I guess this was one of those. Without turning, I hear a "Nice ass on that one."
I'm not sure if I was supposed to hear this or not but I didn't acknowledge it, picked up the cable I came for, exited the aisle moving away from those two guys, and moved on to the printer ink aisle without looking back.
Thus my amusement and horror at the same time. :P
Very sexist and "bad lad"-ish but it certainly sounds like a pass.
I love this thread. I read it whenever I'm having a bad day. Thought perhaps I should add to it.
Before I was trying to pass, I went on vacation. I got called a guy three times, once in a wetsuit! I'll admit I did have hockey hair and my clothes were never very feminine, but I was really shocked.
Now I'm trying to pass and having mixed results. However, a girl flirted with me the other day. When she was walking away, her friend said, 'you do realize you were talking to a girl'. She seemed surprised. So I'll take that as a half pass. Still made me feel amazing.
Scene: Voter Registration Office. I'm there to change my name and gender in the official record.
Worker: How can I help you Miss?
Me: I'm here to change my name in the voter records.
Worker: Fill out this form, please.
(He hands me the form, I fill it out. I return. He cursorily glances quickly over the form but clearly doesn't read it.)
Worker: OK, everything looks in order. Thank you.
Me: That's it? So do you need to see the name change order?
Worker. Nope, we're all good. Congratulations, Mrs. [My Last Name].
When someone tells you how messed up they think transgender people are, and then when they find out you are transgender, think you are going in the opposite direction. lol.
Quote from: birkin on June 28, 2014, 02:30:14 PM
When someone tells you how messed up they think transgender people are, and then when they find out you are transgender, think you are going in the opposite direction. lol.
Mega Huge Pass!
From the years I had quite a few memorable moments.
1) I was only about 2 years into self medding using just a combined contraceptive at the time (and had barely any breast growth) and getting my driving test. After passing the test without issues, I got my drivers license all printed up. Before leaving I checked to make sure everything was correct and found they put "Sex: F" on the license. At the time I was still very much in hiding (but slowly raising voice marginally so it wasn't noticeable to family) and never came out to anyone but it made me explode with joy inside. However, due to legalities and fear of being outed by that in some regard I had to let them know that they technically 'got it wrong' to avoid any issues down the line. I still regret telling them that till this day really but not a big deal - will happen with name change and all.
2) A few years past my GF at the time and I stopped at a restaurant in Ybor, FL [a restaurant that makes their own beer.. but I cannot stand the stuff]. Since the women's room was full we went into the mens room, washed up, etc since nobody was in there. A guy walks in, sees us, and doubletakes saying "OH! I'm sorry ladies" and goes to the women's room. We come out and he had this awfully confused expression on his face. I still wasn't trying to pass either and was wearing male clothing but a female hoodie and still trying to work my voice pitch.
3) Went to see my Gender Therapist (who has been working the field for over 20 years) for the first time and I was more out and confident but still nervous about the visit. I went in and she was a bit confused at first and didn't know I was the person she was seeing. After sitting in her office she proclaimed how confused she was as she was expecting a 'male' who hasn't necessarily started HRT (I was self-medding for 5.5 years on and off due to funds). Needless to say she thought after telling her I was the person she was expecting that I was a female looking to transition to a male instead and claiming male for that reason. I tend to be hard on myself and still debate to myself if she was being nice or honest as it's hard to believe compliments for me.
When your straight dude friend that you haven't seen in years (and suddenly reintroduced) gets a twinkle in his eye and starts asking you weird details leading to "so, are you seeing anyone at the moment?"
Okay, maybe doesn't mean a pass- but that twinkle in his eye sure as hell meant something to me since he #1 used to be my best dude friend and #2 is straight as an arrow! Wow, was not expecting that. Sometimes you can just tell when someone wants to make out with you. And it was there, right there. I almost just went for it out of principle, but I like kissing too much for it to mean nothing.
But then again, he is kind of hot to me now... This is confusing.
Just sent him a fb message demanding that he take me on a date. I'll hold him to it as well.
LOL...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gwZC5s2IU0
Quote from: Jennygirl on July 03, 2014, 07:13:25 AM
When your straight dude friend that you haven't seen in years (and suddenly reintroduced) gets a twinkle in his eye and starts asking you weird details leading to "so, are you seeing anyone at the moment?"
Okay, maybe doesn't mean a pass- but that twinkle in his eye sure as hell meant something to me since he #1 used to be my best dude friend and #2 is straight as an arrow! Wow, was not expecting that. Sometimes you can just tell when someone wants to make out with you. And it was there, right there. I almost just went for it out of principle, but I like kissing too much for it to mean nothing.
But then again, he is kind of hot to me now... This is confusing.
Just sent him a fb message demanding that he take me on a date. I'll hold him to it as well.
If he didn't recognize you as his former buddy, he's straight as an arrow and now he's crushing heavily on you then it is a total pass and another chapter in an amazing princess story. We need to do a lifetime film on you Jenny.
Today I went to Costco to change my name and picture on my membership card. I went to the counter showing my old card with male name and my new license and had a copy of the court order just in case it was needed. I told her that I had a legal name change and need to update my name and picture. She pulls up the account by the membership number on the card. She has this confused look and looks at the computer, me and my driver's license. She looks up and says: "Your not <my wife's name> and who is <my old male name>." I told her that that is my wife and I used to be <my old male name> and showed her the court order. Still confused she says, "but your not <wife's name> or <old male name>, what is you relation to him since you have the same last name." I told her no, I had my name legally changed, I used to be <old male name> and now I'm Sydney and here is the court order." Then it finally hit her and she says, "Ohh I see now." She updated the computer, had me take a new picture and handed me my new card. Then she says, "You look good. Have a great 4th of July Weekend!"
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on July 03, 2014, 03:10:01 PM
Today I went to Costco to change my name and picture on my membership card. I went to the counter showing my old card with male name and my new license and had a copy of the court order just in case it was needed. I told her that I had a legal name change and need to update my name and picture. She pulls up the account by the membership number on the card. She has this confused look and looks at the computer, me and my driver's license. She looks up and says: "Your not <my wife's name> and who is <my old male name>." I told her that that is my wife and I used to be <my old male name> and showed her the court order. Still confused she says, "but your not <wife's name> or <old male name>, what is you relation to him since you have the same last name." I told her no, I had my name legally changed, I used to be <old male name> and now I'm Sydney and here is the court order." Then it finally hit her and she says, "Ohh I see now." She updated the computer, had me take a new picture and handed me my new card. Then she says, "You look good. Have a great 4th of July Weekend!"
:eusa_clap: :icon_bunch:
Quote from: Jennygirl on July 03, 2014, 07:13:25 AM
When your straight dude friend that you haven't seen in years (and suddenly reintroduced) gets a twinkle in his eye and starts asking you weird details leading to "so, are you seeing anyone at the moment?"
Okay, maybe doesn't mean a pass- but that twinkle in his eye sure as hell meant something to me since he #1 used to be my best dude friend and #2 is straight as an arrow! Wow, was not expecting that. Sometimes you can just tell when someone wants to make out with you. And it was there, right there. I almost just went for it out of principle, but I like kissing too much for it to mean nothing.
But then again, he is kind of hot to me now... This is confusing.
Just sent him a fb message demanding that he take me on a date. I'll hold him to it as well.
Lol... oh, the complications of being gorgeous. ;)
Talking to an older woman and then letting slip in an sentence "... but my girlfriend ......." and getting that look, I figured I'd quit while I was ahead.
I wore absolutely no makeup today and while walking to places I needed to be, I was still catcalled. Then I went to Walgreens and the cashier was asking another person to help me with my items and she kept referring to me as "she". Then the guy who took me was flirting it up wit me <3
Then I went to Marshalls and tried on clothes in the dressing room with no problem. And I went to Coldstone and got ice cream and the guys were just eyeballing me.
All without makeup <3333 It felt great
Quote from: llerret on July 03, 2014, 08:26:55 PM
I wore absolutely no makeup today and while walking to places I needed to be, I was still catcalled. Then I went to Walgreens and the cashier was asking another person to help me with my items and she kept referring to me as "she". Then the guy who took me was flirting it up wit me <3
Then I went to Marshalls and tried on clothes in the dressing room with no problem. And I went to Coldstone and got ice cream and the guys were just eyeballing me.
All without makeup <3333 It felt great
Congratulations! You are absolutely gorgeous, so I can see why the guys were checking you out. I'd be one of them.
Quote from: Jennygirl on July 03, 2014, 07:13:25 AM
When your straight dude friend that you haven't seen in years (and suddenly reintroduced) gets a twinkle in his eye and starts asking you weird details leading to "so, are you seeing anyone at the moment?"
Okay, maybe doesn't mean a pass- but that twinkle in his eye sure as hell meant something to me since he #1 used to be my best dude friend and #2 is straight as an arrow! Wow, was not expecting that. Sometimes you can just tell when someone wants to make out with you. And it was there, right there. I almost just went for it out of principle, but I like kissing too much for it to mean nothing.
But then again, he is kind of hot to me now... This is confusing.
Just sent him a fb message demanding that he take me on a date. I'll hold him to it as well.
Does he know who you are yet Jenny? I mean, I'm just curious if you plan to go out with him if your going to let him know?
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on July 03, 2014, 11:24:57 PM
Does he know who you are yet Jenny? I mean, I'm just curious if you plan to go out with him if your going to let him know?
Ally :icon_flower:
He actually heard from a mutual friend and sent me a fb friend request. The night we finally got together to catch up and for him to meet the new me is one in the same visit. So I was very surprised to see him react in such a way. We even shared all of our old jokes as dudes just hangin out, only this time it was different (still funny though).
Quote from: antonia on July 03, 2014, 08:16:22 PM
Talking to an older woman and then letting slip in an sentence "... but my girlfriend ......." and getting that look, I figured I'd quit while I was ahead.
My observations about this is that genetic females often refer to another female friend as "my girlfriend" but if a guy were to refer to a male friend as "my boyfriend" there would be a lot of raised eyebrows and snickers.
When talking to an older patient the other week, i let slip "my wife". The poor old girl didnt know what to say so she just said "i never meet one of you before" with a big smile on her face.
Quote from: birkin on July 03, 2014, 08:44:22 PM
Congratulations! You are absolutely gorgeous, so I can see why the guys were checking you out. I'd be one of them.
Haha *blushes*
you know you pass when customers try to make my pretty feminine name sound masculine lol "is that European?" I really need to get my name tag changed lol
New people seem to think that I gave birth to my children. Sometimes, when she dresses really young, they even think my wife is one of my children. HAH!
Quote from: Jennygirl on July 04, 2014, 03:21:12 AM
He actually heard from a mutual friend and sent me a fb friend request. The night we finally got together to catch up and for him to meet the new me is one in the same visit. So I was very surprised to see him react in such a way. We even shared all of our old jokes as dudes just hangin out, only this time it was different (still funny though).
Sounds like you had a great time. I'm very happy for you.
There are kind of two people (dudes) that I'm hoping I don't run into around here. While they will recognize my vehicle as long as I'm not in it I doubt they'd recognize me for my face has changed considerably. They're the type that would try and cause problems for me so I'm hoping I'll see them before they see me if it in one of the Wal-Marts or something. I doubt they'll recognize me but only time will tell.
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on July 04, 2014, 11:50:15 AM
New people seem to think that I gave birth to my children. Sometimes, when she dresses really young, they even think my wife is one of my children. HAH!
Yes. When I have lunch with my wife in restaurant, many strangers think we are sisters.
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on July 05, 2014, 03:45:18 AM
Yes. When I have lunch with my wife in restaurant, many strangers think we are sisters.
barbie~~
That's awesome Barbie. I wonder if it would be the same if my wife and I were the same race? People get so confused by us. Sometimes they think that some the kids are kids that I gave birth to and some are kids that she gave birth to.
So I haven't been doing HRT long (about 2 months) and no surgery and I was talking with my friends and some guy walks up to us and asks for my number (and I'm also wearing skater top and skater skirt with converse) and I look at my friend Ally and I give her this look like Ally your the only one here who he could actually wants number and she laughed at me leaned in and said "Christie, he meant you." And I start to blush and I'm like "I'm taken." (Which is true) and he's like "well if that ever changes."
Anyone else get little pass moments at 2 months?
Quote from: ThePersona on July 05, 2014, 12:18:05 PM
So I haven't been doing HRT long (about 2 months) and no surgery and I was talking with my friends and some guy walks up to us and asks for my number (and I'm also wearing skater top and skater skirt with converse) and I look at my friend Ally and I give her this look like Ally your the only one here who he could actually wants number and she laughed at me leaned in and said "Christie, he meant you." And I start to blush and I'm like "I'm taken." (Which is true) and he's like "well if that ever changes."
Anyone else get little pass moments at 2 months?
WoW! great pass Persona! I would get oogey eyes at the boat ramp from guys at around 2 months but I know that was just my legs they were looking at. My face hadn't changed that much yet so, I doubt it was the whole me at that time they were interested in.
Another Ally? I thought there was only one of me, lol! xD
Ally :icon_flower:
Having to make sure the guys at the bars at the casino can see your wedding rings. Definitely some interest from drunken (I just assume...) guys.
I don't know when I turned that corner, but I clearly have.
Quote from: Allyda on July 05, 2014, 08:38:37 PM
WoW! great pass Persona! I would get oogey eyes at the boat ramp from guys at around 2 months but I know that was just my legs they were looking at. My face hadn't changed that much yet so, I doubt it was the whole me at that time they were interested in.
Another Ally? I thought there was only one of me, lol! xD
Ally :icon_flower:
Well I've always had a rather androgynous face... Used to be embarrassed by it, now I find myself loving it cause it helps me pass even if I'm not giving a crap about how I look (which really only happens when I'm sick and don't feel like doing anything.)
Quote from: Jill F on July 05, 2014, 09:49:17 PM
Having to make sure the guys at the bars at the casino can see your wedding rings. Definitely some interest from drunken (I just assume...) guys.
I don't know when I turned that corner, but I clearly have.
Lol, hey you never know who wants to creep on you until they creep on you!
The first and most obvious sign of a creep being a guy that tells you he's not a creep.
Quote from: ThePersona on July 05, 2014, 10:11:36 PM
Lol, hey you never know who wants to creep on you until they creep on you!
Quote from: antonia on July 05, 2014, 10:22:00 PM
The first and most obvious sign of a creep being a guy that tells you he's not a creep.
#true that.
Quote from: ThePersona on July 05, 2014, 10:09:30 PM
Well I've always had a rather androgynous face... Used to be embarrassed by it, now I find myself loving it cause it helps me pass even if I'm not giving a crap about how I look (which really only happens when I'm sick and don't feel like doing anything.)
My face was that way, Andro but favoring femininity, before two months ago. I hated the way I looked soooo much in the face I refused to post a photo on here until recently. It seems though that in the last two months my face has gotten a literal makeover. My nose actually shrank to two thirds of what it once was, and my brows have flattened some which is still continuing to this day. Hrt is giving me my youth back too. So now I'm much happier with how I look and the best part is people I know aren't recognizing me. I can't wait to compare photos from now, to those I take six months from now.
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on July 05, 2014, 11:09:14 PM
My face was that way, Andro but favoring femininity, before two months ago. I hated the way I looked soooo much in the face I refused to post a photo on here until recently. It seems though that in the last two months my face has gotten a literal makeover. My nose actually shrank to two thirds of what it once was, and my brows have flattened some which is still continuing to this day. Hrt is giving me my youth back too. So now I'm much happier with how I look and the best part is people I know aren't recognizing me. I can't wait to compare photos from now, to those I take six months from now.
Ally :icon_flower:
I took my first before picture a month before starting HRT and I'm going to take my first after picture a year or two on HRT (depending on progress and surgeries)
Quote from: ThePersona on July 05, 2014, 11:11:58 PM
I took my first before picture a month before starting HRT and I'm going to take my first after picture a year or two on HRT (depending on progress and surgeries)
That's the best way for you yourself to notice the changes. When you see yourself in the mirror every day you don't notice them. However if you take a photo of yourself every 3 months and compare it with the 3 month ago photo you see the changes easily.
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on July 05, 2014, 11:17:53 PM
That's the best way for you yourself to notice the changes. When you see yourself in the mirror every day you don't notice them. However if you take a photo of yourself every 3 months and compare it with the 3 month ago photo you see the changes easily.
Ally :icon_flower:
oh trust me I'm noticing changes (mostly breast development and fat distribution) alright!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on July 05, 2014, 11:36:09 AM
That's awesome Barbie. I wonder if it would be the same if my wife and I were the same race? People get so confused by us. Sometimes they think that some the kids are kids that I gave birth to and some are kids that she gave birth to.
Yes. It is funny.
My little daughter sometimes playfully calls me as mom and my wife as dad.
barbie~~
^^ I like this ^_^
Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on July 06, 2014, 01:44:36 PM
^^ I like this ^_^
^^I love it too! ^^
Ally :icon_flower:
A girl found out about me and I thought "what the hell, I will show her a video from before." And she goes "that isn't you. You are lying to me and I don't think that's funny at all." Then I said "watch the mannerisms in the video." She looked closer and this look of horror slowly spread across her face.
Quote from: birkin on July 06, 2014, 03:47:23 PM
A girl found out about me and I thought "what the hell, I will show her a video from before." And she goes "that isn't you. You are lying to me and I don't think that's funny at all." Then I said "watch the mannerisms in the video." She looked closer and this look of horror slowly spread across her face.
that is such a great pass.
I had to take my wife for cataract surgery repair. The previous time 2 yrs ago I was presenting as male so I had to change my details.
I registered as the legal guardian, and I just watched as they typed in 'daughter is the legal guardian'
Sad but nice
Quote from: Cindy on July 08, 2014, 05:02:30 AM
I had to take my wife for cataract surgery repair. The previous time 2 yrs ago I was presenting as male so I had to change my details.
I registered as the legal guardian, and I just watched as they typed in 'daughter is the legal guardian'
Sad but nice
HRT has turned on the time-back machine for You? :)
I was with my mum and daughter in the entertainment park (my mum is in kinda big denial - she accepts me, but refuses to switch pronouns). We (kiddo) chose those large inflatable children trampolines and a female stuff member approached us and said that the kid might be too small to venture inside alone. So she looked at us and asked "Which one of You, ladies, will come inside to accompany her?"
My mum did not even flinch, but at least she had the kind of dignity not to start correcting her like "No, no - this one is a dude" :D
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on July 08, 2014, 07:40:20 AM
HRT has turned on the time-back machine for You? :)
I was with my mum and daughter in the entertainment park (my mum is in kinda big denial - she accepts me, but refuses to switch pronouns). We (kiddo) chose those large inflatable children trampolines and a female stuff member approached us and said that the kid might be too small to venture inside alone. So she looked at us and asked "Which one of You, ladies, will come inside to accompany her?"
My mum did not even flinch, but at least she had the kind of dignity not to start correcting her like "No, no - this one is a dude" :D
Good one Emily!
So that guy I was talking about earlier... My friend from 8 years ago... He asked me on a date! And I said yes! This will be interesting ;)
Quote from: Jennygirl on July 08, 2014, 10:45:59 PM
So that guy I was talking about earlier... My friend from 8 years ago... He asked me on a date! And I said yes! This will be interesting ;)
I'm very happy for you Jenny! Maybe something good will come out of it!! <3
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Cindy on July 08, 2014, 05:02:30 AM
I had to take my wife for cataract surgery repair. The previous time 2 yrs ago I was presenting as male so I had to change my details.
I registered as the legal guardian, and I just watched as they typed in 'daughter is the legal guardian'
Sad but nice
Awww. That is very sad but weirdly...I don't know, something kind of beautiful but I don't know how to phrase it.
It got more weird in the ambulance taking us back to the nursing home, the driver, another woman, asked me how long had we been in a relationship. I said 30 years, her reply was 'that's fantastic for a lesbian relationship'. I let it slide.
Lol. Aw. Well, you and your wife do have a lovely relationship.
Quote from: Jennygirl on July 08, 2014, 10:45:59 PM
So that guy I was talking about earlier... My friend from 8 years ago... He asked me on a date! And I said yes! This will be interesting ;)
Well....there goes that "secret crush" thread. Out the window now. lol
I hope it goes well Jenny!
Last weekend I was out and about in Madrid doing cultural stuff and food with a couple of (cis) girlfriends.
I got complemented by a waiter for having pretty eyes and later that evening gently hit on by a guy wanting to get us into his bar.
My friends were comically indignant that they didn't get the attention. I was amused - it's not happened before! Yay! :D
Quote from: Julia-Madrid on July 09, 2014, 10:55:47 AM
Last weekend I was out and about in Madrid doing cultural stuff and food with a couple of (cis) girlfriends.
I got complemented by a waiter for having pretty eyes and later that evening gently hit on by a guy wanting to get us into his bar.
My friends were comically indignant that they didn't get the attention. I was amused - it's not happened before! Yay! :D
Nice pass, and I definitely get the guy on your pretty eyes!
Last weekend I took my new girlfriend to see Avril Lavinge at a casino in CT. I got comp tickets but needed my players club card that I lost to get them. So I go to the booth and give them my ID and say I need a replacement card, the woman says ma'am is this your husband? He needs to be here, you can't get the card for him. I say it's me and the. It turned I to an ordeal that involved security and me finally explaining why I look nothing like my ID. Then the process was repeated at the ticket booth. I really need to get a new pic taken. But I wanted to wait for when I do my name and gender marker change. I don't feel like going to the registry more than once.
Quote from: Shantel on July 09, 2014, 11:55:13 AM
Nice pass, and I definitely get the guy on your pretty eyes!
Awww, thank you Shantel...!!
Quote from: michelle666 on July 09, 2014, 12:07:34 PM
Last weekend I took my new girlfriend to see Avril Lavinge at a casino in CT. I got comp tickets but needed my players club card that I lost to get them. So I go to the booth and give them my ID and say I need a replacement card, the woman says ma'am is this your husband? He needs to be here, you can't get the card for him. I say it's me and the. It turned I to an ordeal that involved security and me finally explaining why I look nothing like my ID. Then the process was repeated at the ticket booth. I really need to get a new pic taken. But I wanted to wait for when I do my name and gender marker change. I don't feel like going to the registry more than once.
Good pass. It's for times like these that a practice my male voice every once in a while in case I every have to convince someone I used to be a guy.
wow, there are some great passes here. ^_^
So, the other week, I was changing a rear brake caliper and rotor on my Blazer when one of the neighbors came by. It was the first time we had met. She was looking to borrow a lawn mower. Anyway, she asked me what I was doing and I told her and mentioned that I wanted this car safe to drive when I start truck driving. her eyes went wide and she asked, "Are you a mechanical?"
"Actually, no. I'm just winging it. Its nothing hard really."
She nodded silently and asked if I wanted help. Her brother was just up the street. We could hear him yelling as he and his friend drank beer. I said I was fine and I could do it on my own. Then my son came outside and she asked me if he was my son. I introduced him to her and she said, " well, whats he gonna do if you drive truck? You cant leave him alone."
"He wont be, my spouse is inside."
"Oh, so you're leaving him with his Dad."
"No, his Mom."
"Ah... wait, his Mom? So who had him?"
"My wife. I cant have kids."
"How come? Hystorectomy?"
"Yea, something like that."
"Ah, so you don't got your periods anymore."
"Not the messyness anyway. Some people still get what they call "phantom periods".
"Ah, I dont get mine anymore neither and I dont miss 'em one bit!"
And the conversation carried a little while longer.
in the end, my homophobic brother in law changed the brake pads and rotors for me. all i did was hand him parts and tools. For someone who doesnt see me as female he sure treats me like one some days. Lol.
Quote from: Rainbow Brite on July 09, 2014, 02:36:47 PM
wow, there are some great passes here. ^_^
So, the other week, I was changing a rear brake caliper and rotor on my Blazer when one of the neighbors came by. It was the first time we had met. She was looking to borrow a lawn mower. Anyway, she asked me what I was doing and I told her and mentioned that I wanted this car safe to drive when I start truck driving. her eyes went wide and she asked, "Are you a mechanical?"
"Actually, no. I'm just winging it. Its nothing hard really."
She nodded silently and asked if I wanted help. Her brother was just up the street. We could hear him yelling as he and his friend drank beer. I said I was fine and I could do it on my own. Then my son came outside and she asked me if he was my son. I introduced him to her and she said, " well, whats he gonna do if you drive truck? You cant leave him alone."
"He wont be, my spouse is inside."
"Oh, so you're leaving him with his Dad."
"No, his Mom."
"Ah... wait, his Mom? So who had him?"
"My wife. I cant have kids."
"How come? Hystorectomy?"
"Yea, something like that."
"Ah, so you don't got your periods anymore."
"Not the messyness anyway. Some people still get what they call "phantom periods".
"Ah, I dont get mine anymore neither and I dont miss 'em one bit!"
And the conversation carried a little while longer.
in the end, my homophobic brother in law changed the brake pads and rotors for me. all i did was hand him parts and tools. For someone who doesnt see me as female he sure treats me like one some days. Lol.
Great conversation, good pass...kudos!
In a supermarket
5 year old boy to his mother: 'Look at that woman. Isn't she tall?'
I guess it's a start :)
Quote from: Rainbow Brite on July 09, 2014, 02:36:47 PM
wow, there are some great passes here. ^_^
So, the other week, I was changing a rear brake caliper and rotor on my Blazer when one of the neighbors came by. It was the first time we had met. She was looking to borrow a lawn mower. Anyway, she asked me what I was doing and I told her and mentioned that I wanted this car safe to drive when I start truck driving. her eyes went wide and she asked, "Are you a mechanical?"
"Actually, no. I'm just winging it. Its nothing hard really."
She nodded silently and asked if I wanted help. Her brother was just up the street. We could hear him yelling as he and his friend drank beer. I said I was fine and I could do it on my own. Then my son came outside and she asked me if he was my son. I introduced him to her and she said, " well, whats he gonna do if you drive truck? You cant leave him alone."
"He wont be, my spouse is inside."
"Oh, so you're leaving him with his Dad."
"No, his Mom."
"Ah... wait, his Mom? So who had him?"
"My wife. I cant have kids."
"How come? Hystorectomy?"
"Yea, something like that."
"Ah, so you don't got your periods anymore."
"Not the messyness anyway. Some people still get what they call "phantom periods".
"Ah, I dont get mine anymore neither and I dont miss 'em one bit!"
And the conversation carried a little while longer.
in the end, my homophobic brother in law changed the brake pads and rotors for me. all i did was hand him parts and tools. For someone who doesnt see me as female he sure treats me like one some days. Lol.
Super cool pass Rainbow! You were treated like just another woman. Feels great doesn't it? It was also nice of your brother to change the pads and rotors for you.
Best wishes!
Ally :icon_flower:
Walking into a Chipotle last week I hear a young child say to their mom, "that looks like a boy but it's a girl." The mom promptly shushed the child and they left.
I am not positive that it was directed at me, but it could have been. The sun was glaring in my face so I couldn't actually see them.
As I am only 1 month hrt and still presenting male (tshirts and jeans) I guess thats kind of an inception pass.
I did have my hair down and my glasses off so I looked more feminine than usual.
Quote from: Joan on July 09, 2014, 06:55:20 PM
In a supermarket
5 year old boy to his mother: 'Look at that woman. Isn't she tall?'
I guess it's a start :)
Aww, that's cute!
Nothing wrong with a tall girl, I'm almost 6'2 in a good pair of heels. aha
Quote from: xponentialshift on July 10, 2014, 01:15:36 AM
Walking into a Chipotle last week I hear a young child say to their mom, "that looks like a boy but it's a girl." The mom promptly shushed the child and they left.
I am not positive that it was directed at me, but it could have been. The sun was glaring in my face so I couldn't actually see them.
As I am only 1 month hrt and still presenting male (tshirts and jeans) I guess thats kind of an inception pass.
I did have my hair down and my glasses off so I looked more feminine than usual.
It shows your getting there girl. Given a little more time on hrt you'll pass easily if that's you in your Avatar.
Also, I hope you don't mind me asking. Are you Native American by any chance? I only as because I am, and again, in your Avatar you look like you have Native American in you.
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on July 10, 2014, 01:43:06 AM
It shows your getting there girl. Given a little more time on hrt you'll pass easily if that's you in your Avatar.
Also, I hope you don't mind me asking. Are you Native American by any chance? I only as because I am, and again, in your Avatar you look like you have Native American in you.
Ally :icon_flower:
Yeah that's me in my avatar (pre-hrt). I honestly wasn't expecting anything noticeable for at least a few more months.
And I guess I technically have a bit of native American blood. One great grandmother was either full or half cherokee on my mom's side. And some smaller fraction of blackfoot from my dad's side.
Quote from: xponentialshift on July 10, 2014, 01:50:09 AM
Yeah that's me in my avatar (pre-hrt). I honestly wasn't expecting anything noticeable for at least a few more months.
And I guess I technically have a bit of native American blood. One great grandmother was either full or half cherokee on my mom's side. And some smaller fraction of blackfoot from my dad's side.
Your Native American blood shows in you. You'll be stunning and exotic once you've had a year on hrt. :icon_yes:
I could be stunning and exotic too -if I wasn't such an old lady!, lol!!
Ally :icon_flower:
LOL... Summertime, tank-top time, catching guys trying to look down my top again whenever I have to lean over to do something, not sure if I should feel complimented or violated
Today I had to set part of my groceries down to unlock my bike, when I looked up a young man quickly turned away and his girlfriend punched him in the side and said "Your busted!!!" He of coarse played it off and said he was just checking to see if I needed any help and they walk away holding hands
Quote from: V M on July 10, 2014, 03:52:42 AM
LOL... Summertime, tank-top time, catching guys trying to look down my top again whenever I have to lean over to do something, not sure if I should feel complimented or violated
Today I had to set part of my groceries down to unlock my bike, when I looked up a young man quickly turned away and his girlfriend punched him in the side and said "Your busted!!!" He of coarse played it off and said he was just checking to see if I needed any help and they walk away holding hands
xD he was "just seeing if you needed help" alright! And as the Spanish taco shell commercial girl once said "why not both?" *mexican music begins playing*
Quote from: V M on July 10, 2014, 03:52:42 AM
LOL... Summertime, tank-top time, catching guys trying to look down my top again whenever I have to lean over to do something, not sure if I should feel complimented or violated
Today I had to set part of my groceries down to unlock my bike, when I looked up a young man quickly turned away and his girlfriend punched him in the side and said "Your busted!!!" He of coarse played it off and said he was just checking to see if I needed any help and they walk away holding hands
Hahaha that is so typical, easy pass for you girlfriend! (seen em)
Happened yesterday, My friends were visiting me and one of them asked if the other told me what she said earlier, I said no and so they proceeded to tell me that apparently when my dad and I went to pick them up from a red rooster so they could hang out with me( I don't have a car and they missed their bus), as we pulled up and I lowered my window I waved at them, one of them didn't see my dad and thought I was driving and asked who the girl in the car(me) with me was that was waving to them. Was probably the sunnies I was wearing but that made my day.
Quote from: Charley Bea(EmeraldP) on July 10, 2014, 04:36:11 PM
Happened yesterday, My friends were visiting me and one of them asked if the other told me what she said earlier, I said no and so they proceeded to tell me that apparently when my dad and I went to pick them up from a red rooster so they could hang out with me( I don't have a car and they missed their bus), as we pulled up and I lowered my window I waved at them, one of them didn't see my dad and thought I was driving and asked who the girl in the car(me) with me was that was waving to them. Was probably the sunnies I was wearing but that made my day.
Very cool pass! It's especially great when your friends and people who knew you before transition see you as a girl. I can only imagine how great it made you feel.
Ally :icon_flower:
Thank you Ally, it did make my day especially since my depression has really been getting me lately.
I was mistaken for an actress who was in a thriller on TV recently
Quote from: big kim on July 12, 2014, 06:35:57 PM
I was mistaken for an actress who was in a thriller on TV recently
Was she pretty? ;D
Not as glamorous as i expected but quite attractive,Siobhan Finneran who's been in lots of TV series.probably best known in Downton Abbey and Happy Valley.A couple were convinced it was me in Happy Valley
Quote from: big kim on July 12, 2014, 07:57:52 PM
Not as glamorous as i expected but quite attractive,Siobhan Finneran who's been in lots of TV series.probably best known in Downton Abbey and Happy Valley.A couple were convinced it was me in Happy Valley
I understand she's leaving Downton, perhaps you can be a stand-in although that character she played wouldn't be too flattering for you Kim. I like the Happy Valley look better.
Was riding to the store as I often do and a car pulled out of a driveway nearly hitting me, darn college kids, they didn't look, slow down or anything... I had to hit the brakes pretty hard and as most folks know the front brakes grab much tighter than the back
I nearly flipped the bike, was up on the front wheel looking at the ground thinking "Please... NO!!!" Luckily the back wheel came back down, I landed hard but proper which hurt pretty good for a 52 year old with pre-existing injuries... It was pretty jarring to say the least
I bounced a bit when I landed and then a car full of guys pulled up and one of them yelled "Shake it don't break it Baby!!!" Feeling rather uncomfortable at the moment I shot evils their way
A guy from the back seat tapped him on the shoulder and said "That cow's 'bout ready to put a stomp on ya du" and they sped away
Mooooooo!!!
Ok I think I got a wierd passing moment but im not sure...
*existential crisis intensifies*
I went to some army offices with my brother cause he needed some documents,,,
So when we arrived at the reception I said to the random soldier there that we need some documents, then the guy proceeds to totally ignore me and asked my brother what kind of document does he need...
Now two things crossed my mind...
He either thought I was a girl so there is no way I would possibly need anything from the army so he ignored me,or he was so disgusted by my appearance he chose to just interact with my bro.
Quote from: V M on July 14, 2014, 09:11:24 PM
Was riding to the store as I often do and a car pulled out of a driveway nearly hitting me, darn college kids, they didn't look, slow down or anything... I had to hit the brakes pretty hard and as most folks know the front brakes grab much tighter than the back
I nearly flipped the bike, was up on the front wheel looking at the ground thinking "Please... NO!!!" Luckily the back wheel came back down, I landed hard but proper which hurt pretty good for a 52 year old with pre-existing injuries... It was pretty jarring to say the least
I bounced a bit when I landed and then a car full of guys pulled up and one of them yelled "Shake it don't break it Baby!!!" Feeling rather uncomfortable at the moment I shot evils their way
A guy from the back seat tapped him on the shoulder and said "That cow's 'bout ready to put a stomp on ya du" and they sped away
Mooooooo!!!
Wow VM that was a close call. Hope your not hurt. It seems people are in such a hurry these days if your not looking out for yourself and see them first in time to avoid an accident as you did tragedy can easily happen. Your lucky it could have been worse. Thankfully you saw the danger in time.
This reminds me of my first month back in Florida. I was staying in a motel in downtown Tampa off Kennedy blvd. I had brought my two mountain bikes down with me for transportation until I got a vehicle. I was at a red light crossing Kennedy and I clearly had the walk signal. The next thing I remember is flying through the air backwards and landing on my ass. I looked up to see these two guys in a silver station wagon speed off. The car behind them pulled in and the guy got out to see if I was hurt. It turns out, the silver station wagon ran the red light and caught my bike's rear wheel trashing it and the rear of my bike. Luckily it missed my leg and I got away with a few scratches.
Ally :icon_flower:
Not sure if this counts, but...
I caught a glimpse of a guy through the window next to me, but it was just myself. I'm still getting used to this, I suppose!
Quote from: Allyda on July 14, 2014, 10:11:31 PM
Wow VM that was a close call. Hope your not hurt. It seems people are in such a hurry these days if your not looking out for yourself and see them first in time to avoid an accident as you did tragedy can easily happen. Your lucky it could have been worse. Thankfully you saw the danger in time.
This reminds me of my first month back in Florida. I was staying in a motel in downtown Tampa off Kennedy blvd. I had brought my two mountain bikes down with me for transportation until I got a vehicle. I was at a red light crossing Kennedy and I clearly had the walk signal. The next thing I remember is flying through the air backwards and landing on my ass. I looked up to see these two guys in a silver station wagon speed off. The car behind them pulled in and the guy got out to see if I was hurt. It turns out, the silver station wagon ran the red light and caught my bike's rear wheel trashing it and the rear of my bike. Luckily it missed my leg and I got away with a few scratches.
Ally :icon_flower:
Thank you Allyda
It was a close call and it scared the stuff out of me but I'm okay
I am a rather careful and defensive rider, but a lot of people are in way too much of hurry and not paying attention and the advent of cell phones have only made things much more dangerous, texting while driving is illegal where I live, but people still do it
I've been in a bicycle VS car thing several years before, hence the pre-existing injuries, don't need another round of that stuff
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on July 14, 2014, 09:40:13 PM
Ok I think I got a wierd passing moment but im not sure...
*existential crisis intensifies*
I went to some army offices with my brother cause he needed some documents,,,
So when we arrived at the reception I said to the random soldier there that we need some documents, then the guy proceeds to totally ignore me and asked my brother what kind of document does he need...
Now two things crossed my mind...
He either thought I was a girl so there is no way I would possibly need anything from the army so he ignored me,or he was so disgusted by my appearance he chose to just interact with my bro.
Hopefully and most likely the first. Girls are unimportant in the big real world of important things like joining the army and killing people. You've lost male privilege and so have I but I'm OK with it.
On Monday I went into the city to hand in some paperwork and then meet a new friend in person for the first time at her work and on my way to where I needed to drop off the papers, a man said "Morning Miss', I subtly(well to me) glanced over my shoulders to see if he meant someone else and no one else was around me so I got a slight smile(first real non forced one in awhile), then on the way to meet the friend I was walking though a shopping centre and you know those displays where people try to pull you over to talk about stuff, well as I walked past one(acting like I was looking for something, to avoid them) the girl at the desk said "Good afternoon Miss"(It wasn't mid day yet but no matter and another small smile appeared on my face.
It was one thing for my friend last week to not realise the girl in the car was me, but that was two correct genderings from complete strangers(first time ever). Woohoo!
Also All I was wearing was jeans, t-shirt, skater shoes, a hoody, my laptop bag(posing as a satchel bag) and sunglasses. I think the sunglasses had the major effect but still, finally. :D
Quote from: Charley Bea(EmeraldP) on July 15, 2014, 03:27:42 PM
On Monday I went into the city to hand in some paperwork and then meet a new friend in person for the first time at her work and on my way to where I needed to drop off the papers, a man said "Morning Miss', I subtly(well to me) glanced over my shoulders to see if he meant someone else and no one else was around me so I got a slight smile(first real non forced one in awhile), then on the way to meet the friend I was walking though a shopping centre and you know those displays where people try to pull you over to talk about stuff, well as I walked past one(acting like I was looking for something, to avoid them) the girl at the desk said "Good afternoon Miss"(It wasn't mid day yet but no matter and another small smile appeared on my face.
It was one thing for my friend last week to not realise the girl in the car was me, but that was two correct genderings from complete strangers(first time ever). Woohoo!
Also All I was wearing was jeans, t-shirt, skater shoes, a hoody, my laptop bag(posing as a satchel bag) and sunglasses. I think the sunglasses had the major effect but still, finally. :D
Nice pass Bea especially wearing a hoodie!
Allie :icon_flower:
You know you pass when...
When looking for new eyeglasses and the sales rep says "Ma'am, the women's frames are over here".
Stranger to me and a friend: "Hi ladies"
Me: "Hi"
Her: "Err...guys...ladies...uhhh...guys and ladies"
Guess my voice is the giveaway
Quote from: EmoAlice on July 15, 2014, 06:59:17 PM
Stranger to me and a friend: "Hi ladies"
Me: "Hi"
Her: "Err...guys...ladies...uhhh...guys and ladies"
Guess my voice is the giveaway
Well, it seems like your voice is somewhat gender ambiguous though even if it does lean towards male, so that means you're making progress.
Hwaiting!!! You can do it!!!
Thank you Allie. :)
Had my first PCP appointment at an LGBT friendly doctor's office. The nurse is asking me a bunch of intake questions, and she asks "when did you have your first period?"
Yea...apparently they had assumed I was FTM :o
Quote from: riversong on July 17, 2014, 09:54:53 AM
Had my first PCP appointment at an LGBT friendly doctor's office. The nurse is asking me a bunch of intake questions, and she asks "when did you have your first period?"
Yea...apparently they had assumed I was FTM :o
Good one though, I get that at times too.
I JUST GOT MA'AM-ED!
By a grocer, face too face. Guy mode, thick green winter jacket... I waited for him to correct himself whilst I paid, but he just stared on blankly and DID IT AGAIN as I left and went onto the nect customer.
Wow...I see what the excitement is about now.
No way I pass. I guess mannerisms, voice, messy hair and my glove sleeves which are kinda unusual to see on a guy- plus some myopia. .. but wow. I could just dance.
Quote from: Emmaline on July 18, 2014, 01:34:43 AM
I JUST GOT MA'AM-ED!
By a grocer, face too face. Guy mode, thick green winter jacket... I waited for him to correct himself whilst I paid, but he just stared on blankly and DID IT AGAIN as I left and went onto the nect customer.
Wow...I see what the excitement is about now.
No way I pass. I guess mannerisms, voice, messy hair and my glove sleeves which are kinda unusual to see on a guy- plus some myopia. .. but wow. I could just dance.
Guy mode? No more - he saw a woman in drab. Quite likely if that's how you felt you were. Yes the first few "Ma'am"s are really emotional.
I wasn't expecting that for at least five months!
Quote from: Emmaline on July 18, 2014, 01:34:43 AM
I JUST GOT MA'AM-ED!
By a grocer, face too face. Guy mode, thick green winter jacket... I waited for him to correct himself whilst I paid, but he just stared on blankly and DID IT AGAIN as I left and went onto the nect customer.
Wow...I see what the excitement is about now.
No way I pass. I guess mannerisms, voice, messy hair and my glove sleeves which are kinda unusual to see on a guy- plus some myopia. .. but wow. I could just dance.
Congratulations!! That first Maam is so meaningful. May you have many many more. :icon_bunch:
Allie :icon_flower:
I know i pass when I hear:
"That woman looks just like a dude!" lol
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on July 19, 2014, 10:59:38 AM
I know i pass when I hear:
"That woman looks just like a dude!" lol
Yup, there are a lot of cis women that look just like a dude, so that is a valid pass! ;D
Quote from: Shantel on July 19, 2014, 11:10:08 AM
Yup, there are a lot of cis women that look just like a dude, so that is a valid pass! ;D
Darn right!! LOL!
Quote from: Shantel on July 19, 2014, 11:10:08 AM
Yup, there are a lot of cis women that look just like a dude, so that is a valid pass! ;D
Yupp!
Woman who looks like a dude = woman.
Dude who looks like a woman = dude.
i was at work and i was doing my thing, and i could hear two people talking to each other about me saying the first time i saw him i though he was a girl. the other guy was like yea me too. i haven't started hormones and i was presenting my self as male, so ill take what i can get :)
I went full time last week and as I walked down the main hallway at work I passed right by a few people who I have known for a long time. I waved and said Hi as we passed by each other and they stopped to introduce themselves to me not knowing that I was the transgender person who was on the tip of everyone's tongue at work. They really didn't know and the look on their face when I said my full name was beyond priceless. I have the same last name as I did before but it's a unique last name so there's no way that two people in the same place here would have it. This was the moment when I knew that I'm doing just alright.
Quote from: Megumi on July 19, 2014, 04:58:45 PM
I went full time last week and as I walked down the main hallway at work I passed right by a few people who I have known for a long time. I waved and said Hi as we passed by each other and they stopped to introduce themselves to me not knowing that I was the transgender person who was on the tip of everyone's tongue at work. They really didn't know and the look on their face when I said my full name was beyond priceless. I have the same last name as I did before but it's a unique last name so there's no way that two people in the same place here would have it. This was the moment when I knew that I'm doing just alright.
There you go Megumi, terrific pass wish I had been there to observe in person.
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on July 19, 2014, 10:59:38 AM
I know i pass when I hear:
"That woman looks just like a dude!" lol
:eusa_clap: :eusa_dance:
Quote from: Shantel on July 19, 2014, 11:10:08 AM
Yup, there are a lot of cis women that look just like a dude, so that is a valid pass! ;D
Chuckle, Chuckle, lol! :icon_chick:Quote from: Megumi on July 19, 2014, 04:58:45 PM
I went full time last week and as I walked down the main hallway at work I passed right by a few people who I have known for a long time. I waved and said Hi as we passed by each other and they stopped to introduce themselves to me not knowing that I was the transgender person who was on the tip of everyone's tongue at work. They really didn't know and the look on their face when I said my full name was beyond priceless. I have the same last name as I did before but it's a unique last name so there's no way that two people in the same place here would have it. This was the moment when I knew that I'm doing just alright.
Awesome pass Megumi! :icon_bunch:
Allie :icon_flower:
Quote from: Megumi on July 19, 2014, 04:58:45 PM
I went full time last week and as I walked down the main hallway at work I passed right by a few people who I have known for a long time. I waved and said Hi as we passed by each other and they stopped to introduce themselves to me not knowing that I was the transgender person who was on the tip of everyone's tongue at work. They really didn't know and the look on their face when I said my full name was beyond priceless. I have the same last name as I did before but it's a unique last name so there's no way that two people in the same place here would have it. This was the moment when I knew that I'm doing just alright.
Oh yes, oh yes indeed!
A close friend has childhood friend from Kentucky and her now wife come up to NY to get married and she had never met me before. We all wend out and celebrated and they wanted to visit some of the gay bars in the West Village. We spent the whole evening out dancing and drinking (I didn't drink much since I don't really drink, but did lots of dancing.) Anyway at the end of the night (or should I say morning 3:30am in the morning.) She started asking about how long my wife and I had been together. My wife commented that it started out as a straight relationship from the outside prospective even though our sex life was always lesbian oriented. She had this really confused look and I told her I was transgender. I showed her old pictures of my on my phone and she didn't believe me. She was in total shock after we all confirmed it. She was like good for you and gave me a big hug!!!
Personally after all the talking loud and everything and my voice getting tired, I thought for sure my voice would give it away, but evidently even with a lower pitch voice with feminine resonance I was able to maintain, my voice passed fine.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on July 20, 2014, 10:27:32 AM
A close friend has childhood friend from Kentucky and her now wife come up to NY to get married and she had never met me before. We all wend out and celebrated and they wanted to visit some of the gay bars in the West Village. We spent the whole evening out dancing and drinking (I didn't drink much since I don't really drink, but did lots of dancing.) Anyway at the end of the night (or should I say morning 3:30am in the morning.) She started asking about how long my wife and I had been together. My wife commented that it started out as a straight relationship from the outside prospective even though our sex life was always lesbian oriented. She had this really confused look and I told her I was transgender. I showed her old pictures of my on my phone and she didn't believe me. She was in total shock after we all confirmed it. She was like good for you and gave me a big hug!!!
Personally after all the talking loud and everything and my voice getting tired, I thought for sure my voice would give it away, but evidently even with a lower pitch voice with feminine resonance I was able to maintain, my voice passed fine.
:eusa_clap: :icon_bunch: Another win!
i was out cycling and had to stop a the light whe a car pulled up beside me with the window open and i heard the discussion of is that a girl on the bike driver replies no its a guy any way it was quiet a heated discussion about my gender with the driver saying im a guy and the 2 passengers saying im a girl
well il take that as passing in very unisex clothing with sweat running down my face
It gives me joy to hear all of your victories. I choose to say im androgenous as I dont feel I can tell someone how to perceive me. Id like to look a female as I can but have to accept reality with my size and physical drawbacks. That being said I get ma'amed, he, she, her, him but most of the time just hey you and dont take a chance. Ive been called sir out of spite while in a leather corset and ma'am in a thick winter jacket with a hat on. Its all perception from an individual basis.
I was at The Lounge (cafe where I live, people read their rubbish writing while you drink rubbish caffeine, yeah I only go there cause there's this girl who isn't all that rubbish, more on that later) and I actually had a Freudian Slip! This guy came up to me he's like "Man, you come here every day and I still don't know your name, so uh what's your name?" And I looked at him and I felt my brain go back 8 or 9 years and I told him my name was Aria, I felt so embarrassed but luckily my sister was with me and covered for me by looking at me and going "Yeah James? What you need?" (Her real name is Lillian) If I didn't have my little sister I have no idea what I'd have done. Well anyways the bloke got a bit tempered that I'd ignored him (or seemed to have ignored him) and the rest of my day was quite rubbish as well, except that there was this girl but as I've said before, different story, different thread
Okay, I jut really wanted to brag about this.
5 different accounts of my hospital visit:
1) The triage on intake of ER asked when my last cycle ended, and I said I don't have one. She gave me a curious look and asked why not?
2) The ER nurse wanted me to give a urine sample. She shoed me how to sit on the bed pan and offered to help (I turned her down). So I gave her a little bit and asked what it was for, she said it's a pregnancy test. I said "Sweetie, come here. I'm transgender, I guarantee you I'm not pregnant". Her response: "Oh... so let me get this straight, you have.... no... ovaries?" I said that's correct. "Wait, so you have a male.... anatomy?" Yep. She did the pregnancy test anyways, lol. I was negative
3) The ER resident wanted to check for rectal tone, so he had to stick his finger up my butt. I warned him before he did it that I'm a pre op transsexual, and I didn't want to surprise him. He said "We've seen a lot, nothing it's nothing I can't handle. I would've been surprised for sure, though..."
4) The ER neurologist came in and asked why I'm taking Spiro. I told him that I'm transgender. He said, "Oh... I had no idea. That's the second time this week that's happened to me".
5) The attending came in one day with this pretty big smile that she was trying to contain the day they announced the finding on my brain mri. I said "Well you're smiling like you finally figured something out". Literally the first thing she said was "Yeah, first of all i wanted to tell you I had NO idea you were transgender. It's very rare that one cannot tell, but I really didn't know. You fooled me well! You look great!! You do a great job!" and then she announced my findings.
And not 1 time the entire visit did anybody struggle with a pronoun. Nobody said h....she, nothing.
Edit: The ER was trying to get me a room, they were bound by hospital policy to put me with men. However, they made a room available in the protective custody ward (prisoners) and I had a room by myself on the top floor looking over the city, and right at the Superdome. All because they didn't feel comfortable sticking me in with a guy.
Mega multiple passes Alaina, you deserve bragging rights for that experience hon! :eusa_clap: :icon_bunch:
Btw, that would never happen for me unless it was some hardware store dufus that didn't know the difference between a pipe nipple and a real nipple. :D
When you hear from a female friend that you were identified as a MILF by her son's college friends. And kudos to him, he knew and didn't say anything to them.
Quote from: Sabine on July 23, 2014, 12:11:00 PM
When you hear from a female friend that you were identified as a MILF by her son's college friends. And kudos to him, he knew and didn't say anything to them.
WoW! great pass even with the lewd comment!
Allie :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on July 23, 2014, 12:24:04 PM
WoW! great pass even with the lewd comment!
Allie :icon_flower:
Hey, it's rare (I am older than I look) but I'll take it. ::)
Quote from: Sabine on July 23, 2014, 12:26:25 PM
Hey, it's rare (I am older than I look) but I'll take it. ::)
Same here. Looking at my Avatar you wouldn't know I'm pushing 50 years old. E has been very kind to me, lol!
Allie :icon_flower:
Well;
I don't know if this is anything to brag about, but last night this Australian chick (me) was in a small US town Banning in California with gorgeous woman (Breanne) having dinner in in Chillies (I think that how you spell it) restaurant and I think over dinner as the place filled yup we must have been both called "Maam", "you two women", "hi girls" etc at least 20 times. Even in the ladies room two young women were discussing some fling they had both had with this guy and I made a flippant remark as I was doing my hair that "you should dump the guy" and there are better men out there, and both agreed without a shadow of recognition. It always amazes me how I seem to pass so well. Mind you being with Breanne who looks 100% female helped my cause as well. I just cant get over how gorgeous her figure is. Mind you she is living and working full time as a woman
Judith
Quote from: judithlynn on July 24, 2014, 07:45:46 AM
Well;
I don't know if this is anything to brag about, but last night this Australian chick (me) was in a small US town Banning in California with gorgeous woman (Breanne) having dinner in in Chillies (I think that how you spell it) restaurant and I think over dinner as the place filled yup we must have been both called "Maam", "you two women", "hi girls" etc at least 20 times. Even in the ladies room two young women were discussing some fling they had both had with this guy and I made a flippant remark as I was doing my hair that "you should dump the guy" and there are better men out there, and both agreed without a shadow of recognition. It always amazes me how I seem to pass so well. Mind you being with Breanne who looks 100% female helped my cause as well. I just cant get over how gorgeous her figure is. Mind you she is living and working full time as a woman
Judith
Fantastic pass, more than many can expect! :eusa_clap: :icon_bunch:
Shantel;
I have learnt over the years three key things:
1. Be confident
2. Never look down
3. Smile
Mind you it does help that I have nno Adams Apple, small hands and feet and always wear dresses or skirts. Mind you in Banning most women were in Jeans or Shorts although I was in a Red sleeveless top and black skirt and boots, but I felt a million dollars!
Quote from: judithlynn on July 24, 2014, 04:02:16 PM
Shantel;
I have learnt over the years three key things:
1. Be confident
2. Never look down
3. Smile
Mind you it does help that I have nno Adams Apple, small hands and feet and always wear dresses or skirts. Mind you in Banning most women were in Jeans or Shorts although I was in a Red sleeveless top and black skirt and boots, but I felt a million dollars!
I live in the Pacific Northwest and the majority of women here seem to dress like loggers half the time, so it's always refreshing to see a woman wearing a dress and looking as if they enjoy being a real girly-girl.
Intake nurse: mmhm, and when was your last period?
Me: Oh um... I don't have periods.
Nurse: Oh, did you have a hysterectomy?
Me: No, not exactly.
Nurse: Well then why not, honey?
Me: I don't have ovaries.
Nurse: You don't have ovaries?
Me: Nope, I'm trans.
Nurse: Shut up! ... Really?
Me: Really.
Nurse: Good for you!
Good one Marissa! The nurse must have been close enough to you to see you properly. Very good for her to be supportive.
If I was asked when was my last period they would be expecting a year not a day of the month.
Marissa ;D
Quote from: CoderMarissa on July 24, 2014, 10:12:30 PM
Intake nurse: mmhm, and when was your last period?
Me: Oh um... I don't have periods.
Nurse: Oh, did you have a hysterectomy?
Me: No, not exactly.
Nurse: Well then why not, honey?
Me: I don't have ovaries.
Nurse: You don't have ovaries?
Me: Nope, I'm trans.
Nurse: Shut up! ... Really?
Me: Really.
Nurse: Good for you!
Ha! I just had the same thing happen to me yesterday.
Nurse: When was your last menstrual cycle?
Me: Uh...I've never had one.
This is ancient history but one time I had to meet my ex in a restaurant over some business matters.
She walked past me twice without recognition. She did pick me out on the third pass by because apparently I look like my mother!
Lol.
Oh yes, I am really starting to look like my mother too. Very weird.
Quote from: Autumn on July 25, 2014, 10:52:27 AM
Ha! I just had the same thing happen to me yesterday.
Nurse: When was your last menstrual cycle?
Me: Uh...I've never had one.
Before a recent surgery, an in-take nurse asked me if I was sure I wasn't pregnant. I told her, "disappointingly, no". And, "I'm 45." She said, "Oh, I'm sorry."
You know you pass when:
People start asking for directions on the street again >.>
To be clear I used to be stopped for directions a lot...clearly I had a very approachable and driven "I know where I am and where I am going" look about me in the past...
But since I began to transition, I had gotten used to the overt social responses to my presence of "Don't look it in the eyes honey! Overt your gaze and shuffle around the terrifying trans person's wake...lest it infect us with its straaaange".
So after around 6 months of that reaction, you can imagine my surprise when a couple came up to me and asked me where a local landmark was last week, I was genuinely flabbergasted!
At first I thought is must have simply been a fluke mistake from a pair of clearly visually challenged individuals...or that they possibly had the ingenious idea to ask one of the local sex workers...since they would clearly know the best route to all the obscure back streets and public landmarks in the city...but it's happening with increasing regularity once more :D
So yay for once more attaining my appearance of confidence and geographical awareness...the only downside of this of course, is having to reveal to these nice people that I am actually almost completely inept when it comes to navigating to or from anything that I cannot see within my direct line of sight...and even that can be difficult should it lack a giant floating quest marker over it's head >.>
...
Videogames, you are a cruel mistress...
Quote from: Danniella on July 30, 2014, 09:11:55 AM
You know you pass when:
People start asking for directions on the street again >.>
To be clear I used to be stopped for directions a lot...clearly I had a very approachable and driven "I know where I am and where I am going" look about me in the past...
But since I began to transition, I had gotten used to the overt social responses to my presence of "Don't look it in the eyes honey! Overt your gaze and shuffle around the terrifying trans person's wake...lest it infect us with its straaaange".
So after around 6 months of that reaction, you can imagine my surprise when a couple came up to me and asked me where a local landmark was last week, I was genuinely flabbergasted!
At first I thought is must have simply been a fluke mistake from a pair of clearly visually challenged individuals...or that they possibly had the ingenious idea to ask one of the local sex workers...since they would clearly know the best route to all the obscure back streets and public landmarks in the city...but it's happening with increasing regularity once more :D
So yay for once more attaining my appearance of confidence and geographical awareness...the only downside of this of course, is having to reveal to these nice people that I am actually almost completely inept when it comes to navigating to or from anything that I cannot see within my direct line of sight...and even that can be difficult should it lack a giant floating quest marker over it's head >.>
...
Videogames, you are a cruel mistress...
Nice pass you nerd! lol
(Im a nerd too.)
My second time going out presenting as female was on Monday :)
You (can be fairly confident) you pass when:
You go out wearing distinctly female clothes and no one so much as glances at you :D
Quote from: riversong on July 30, 2014, 09:36:06 AM
My second time going out presenting as female was on Monday :)
You (can be fairly confident) you pass when:
You go out wearing distinctly female clothes and no one so much as glances at you :D
Indeed! Way to blend in. :D
When I was bringing out a sub to a customer that was disabled the other day, his transporter(who happened to be on crutches himself currently) asked me if I was a mother since I was being a bit nuturing and doing that even though I was already off work and all.
There are probably a lot of other little incidences as well, but I don't relish in much of it anymore, I've become a bit jaded to most of it and just do my thing and not worry a lot about it.
Quote from: Jaime R D on July 30, 2014, 10:33:13 AM
When I was bringing out a sub to a customer that was disabled the other day, his transporter(who happened to be on crutches himself currently) asked me if I was a mother since I was being a bit nuturing and doing that even though I was already off work and all.
There are probably a lot of other little incidences as well, but I don't relish in much of it anymore, I've become a bit jaded to most of it and just do my thing and not worry a lot about it.
That's awesome! I would love to get a comment like that one day. That means you "pass" emotionally as well as physically :)
Quote from: riversong on July 30, 2014, 10:42:36 AM
That's awesome! I would love to get a comment like that one day. That means you "pass" emotionally as well as physically :)
She really does!
You know you pass when:
When other supermarket customers ask you about how the seafood department is in the grocery store. I had a woman walk up to me and ask. I'm a very conscientious shopper as I read labels very carefully due to wife having food allergies (casein and corn) and mine (tomatoes.)
Quote from: riversong on July 30, 2014, 10:42:36 AM
That's awesome! I would love to get a comment like that one day. That means you "pass" emotionally as well as physically :)
Pass as what would be the big question!
:P
Quote from: Jaime R D on July 30, 2014, 11:23:13 AM
Pass as what would be the big question!
:P
"asked me if I was a mother" Uh - As a female because mom's are always feminine gender! :icon_poke:
Quote from: Shantel on July 30, 2014, 12:13:16 PM
"asked me if I was a mother" Uh - As a female because mom's are always feminine gender! :icon_poke:
Hey, even female dogs can be mothers!
*runs away*
Haven't been to the hair salon for ages as I have wanted to let it grow out a bit - Stylist I saw I have known for years but this was my first time presenting female and I explained the situation and let her do her magic - They have a computerized database/register system and repeat customers get a discount - sooooo - The cashier asks for my name - I give her my femme name which of cause isn't there - I tell her to look for my male name - She types that in and brings up my account and then asks "Who is John? Is that your son?" - I explain that he is me and that I am transitioning and she says "believe me hon you are there already" - Definitely made my afternoon
be well
jennifer
Great Jennifer! *high five* :)
Quote from: Jaime R D on July 30, 2014, 01:30:34 PM
Hey, even female dogs can be mothers!
*runs away*
You should run away after that self-depricating remark, I can see I'll have to hop a flight to NC and give you an attitude adjustment doll face, you shouldn't be so mean to yourself!
So I was out today with fairly andro clothes (a guys t shirt,a black tight jean and all star shoes) ,me and my dear decided to go get some frozen yogurt, I went to order , the lady there had a full view of my body, I also spoke to her with the manliest voice I could produce and had 0 make up on whatsoever...
As it was natural I thought she could tell I am a bio male, but then later she referred to us as girls
:D
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on July 30, 2014, 06:56:04 PM
So I was out today with fairly andro clothes (a guys t shirt,a black tight jean and all star shoes) ,me and my dear decided to go get some frozen yogurt, I went to order , the lady there had a full view of my body, I also spoke to her with the manliest voice I could produce and had 0 make up on whatsoever...
As it was natural I thought she could tell I am a bio male, but then later she referred to us as girls
:D
You might as well accept it. You ARE FEMALE. :D
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on July 30, 2014, 06:56:04 PM
So I was out today with fairly andro clothes (a guys t shirt,a black tight jean and all star shoes) ,me and my dear decided to go get some frozen yogurt, I went to order , the lady there had a full view of my body, I also spoke to her with the manliest voice I could produce and had 0 make up on whatsoever...
As it was natural I thought she could tell I am a bio male, but then later she referred to us as girls
:D
Why not? I hate to break it to you but you do look like a girl!
Met a girl who knows Lots of trans men. Like is super exposed to trans issues and has seen people in all stages of transition. She can't tell that I'm trans.
Quote from: birkin on August 03, 2014, 11:48:28 AM
Met a girl who knows Lots of trans men. Like is super exposed to trans issues and has seen people in all stages of transition. She can't tell that I'm trans.
That's pretty reaffirming!
My first was about 3 weeks into HRT. I got stopped for having a light out in the back of my car and the cop gave me crap for giving him the wrong license XD
I've passed since about a month or two on HRT but my first full moment though when I felt like I had 'arrived' was when I was waiting around for a friend in a store and a guy started asking me for a woman's opinion on what kind of barbies to get his 2 year old daughter XD I told him I didn't know it'd been a while since I was that little and didn't have kids, but that was great :)
Finally got a nice one for this thread! I'm 10 months hrt and not full time yet due to my work and still needing to wear a wig.
Whilst at home I was sat down after coming back from therapy, had a playsuit, wig and makeup on so was presenting overtly feminine.
Two of my mother's friends arrived - they've known me since I was little and know I'm trans but I haven't seen them for a year or so.
We had a chat for 20 mins with them
They then left and my mum went to wave them off.
My mum then came back in and said, "Peter has just asked me who that girl was."
Cue massive grin.
Quote from: f_Anna_tastic on August 09, 2014, 06:32:03 AM
Finally got a nice one for this thread! I'm 10 months hrt and not full time yet due to my work and still needing to wear a wig.
Whilst at home I was sat down after coming back from therapy, had a playsuit, wig and makeup on so was presenting overtly feminine.
Two of my mother's friends arrived - they've known me since I was little and know I'm trans but I haven't seen them for a year or so.
We had a chat for 20 mins with them
They then left and my mum went to wave them off.
My mum then came back in and said, "Peter has just asked me who that girl was."
Cue massive grin.
Massive grin well warranted! :eusa_clap:
I think this counts. I was at an evening social of the lesbian subgroup of a learning disabled singles group. One of the staff mentioned a trans-women in the group - not present. One of the clients started to misgender her and criticise her, the staffer started to tell her off for being rude and disrespectful. I just didn't take part in the argument but I was just opposite the two of them.
When you see a transgender person on TV and the person next to you goes "man, where do people like this even come from? That's so weird. Although, who knows, maybe I have seen a transgender person somewhere and never knew because I didn't look close enough."
Haha yes...maybe the transgender people are closer than you think. LIKE RIGHT BESIDE YOU ON THIS COUCH.
Quote from: birkin on August 09, 2014, 02:01:38 PM
When you see a transgender person on TV and the person next to you goes "man, where do people like this even come from? That's so weird. Although, who knows, maybe I have seen a transgender person somewhere and never knew because I didn't look close enough."
Haha yes...maybe the transgender people are closer than you think. LIKE RIGHT BESIDE YOU ON THIS COUCH.
God, that's hilarious. I don't know how you kept from laughing.
Quote from: Pikachu on August 09, 2014, 02:17:30 PM
God, that's hilarious. I don't know how you kept from laughing.
I kind of smiled to myself a little, yeah. It has been at least three times now, at this very job, where the topic of transgender comes up and people say something along the lines of "you can always tell" and misgender trans people, but never misgender me. What surprises me is how often it enters conversation, part of me got paranoid for a while, wondering if people were bringing it up to "test" me, but I think it's just one of those issues that's becoming increasingly out there and controversial, kind of like gay marriage was about ten years ago here.
It's nice to know that I pass, and I trust the one person who knows to keep it to herself, but I have to wonder what would happen if my stealth was somehow compromised at this job.
Quote from: MaryXYX on August 09, 2014, 12:29:48 PM
I think this counts. I was at an evening social of the lesbian subgroup of a learning disabled singles group. One of the staff mentioned a trans-women in the group - not present. One of the clients started to misgender her and criticise her, the staffer started to tell her off for being rude and disrespectful. I just didn't take part in the argument but I was just opposite the two of them.
so you stay silent because you pass?
You pass when the words "being clocked" never appear in your mind. :)
Quote from: jname on August 09, 2014, 03:01:08 PM
so you stay silent because you pass?
:police:
Ok. Tread very softly with this.
My voice is androgynous just like my body is, both with a little more femme flair I guess
I had to buy a buy a bike today and the person helping me -mind you it was pretty busy as its a popular place and summer- treated me like a lady, we just casually laughed about my previous bike being stolen and his "wow, amazing legs young lady' comment when I mentioned my height being an issue with finding a nice bike was an internal blush moment. I enjoyed the chat and it made me feel comfy, which doesnt happen often
Sometimes my voice worries me more than my appearance, sometimes vice versa.....there's always something to worry about ^^
What is amazing me here lately is how many people I'm running into who knew me before transition, some who are even transphobic, who are treating me like a lady. I haven't changed my hair color or anything. Yet it's like they don't recognize me. One even stuck his foot way down his throat saying: "I know the guy who used to own this truck -er, well, he wasn't really a guy, um, a (I won't repeat what he said next for it is very offensive, out of respect for everyone), yea, that's what he, er, she was." He was very confident he was talking to a different person. This happened at a car wash with individual stalls closed off from the main highway, so I politely let him continue believing I was a different person for my own safety. He was much bigger and would have made two of me so I thought it best not to burst his bubble.
Ali :icon_flower:
Pheww, nice to hear about those good experiences Allyda :)
Quote from: jname on August 09, 2014, 03:01:08 PM
so you stay silent because you pass?
In that context - learning disabled service users - yes.
I spent today at the "Wilderness" festival wearing my TG badge. I got into several conversations where I established that I am an ordinary friendly woman, then told the person what the badge means. That's the way I usually use "passing privilege".
Quote from: YinYanga on August 09, 2014, 04:35:21 PM
Pheww, nice to hear about those good experiences Allyda :)
Actually this one was a bit more scary than it was good.
Ali :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on August 09, 2014, 06:20:50 PM
Actually this one was a bit more scary than it was good.
Ali :icon_flower:
That particulair one yes, but overall the reactions have been nice, right?
I hope it remains that way and happens more and more often
Quote from: YinYanga on August 10, 2014, 03:58:06 AM
That particulair one yes, but overall the reactions have been nice, right?
I hope it remains that way and happens more and more often
Oh yes, with the exception of a few incidents non trans related reactions from others have been and are very nice. More so than I ever expected. I have to say that for me the biggest thing I wasn't prepared for, though my friends warned me from the start, is being found somewhat attractive and getting asked out/hit on by men. I always thought ladies my age were overlooked by men in favor of younger quarry -I was wrong. But yes, other than a few isolated incidents the reaction from others toward me has been nothing but positive. Mostly I'm just treated like one of the girls by my neighbors and friends, and those who know about my history have so far kept it to themselves.
Ali :icon_flower:
Welcome to the club, Allyda. My therapist warned me of this shortly after I told her I was "99%" time (full time everywhere except work and I only go in to the office every other Monday). She said, "You are an attractive woman and you're going to get hit on by guys. You better start thinking about how you want to address that." Apparently the look on my face was a perfect "deer in the headlights" moment because as she looked at me she began to laugh (in a good natured friendly way) and said, "You haven't thought about this yet, have you? Shall we discuss it?" :P And yes, we did discuss it.
Quote from: LizMarie on August 10, 2014, 12:18:02 PM
Welcome to the club, Allyda. My therapist warned me of this shortly after I told her I was "99%" time (full time everywhere except work and I only go in to the office every other Monday). She said, "You are an attractive woman and you're going to get hit on by guys. You better start thinking about how you want to address that." Apparently the look on my face was a perfect "deer in the headlights" moment because as she looked at me she began to laugh (in a good natured friendly way) and said, "You haven't thought about this yet, have you? Shall we discuss it?" :P And yes, we did discuss it.
For me especially since I've gotten older, I just never saw myself as attractive. So getting hit on and asked out by sometimes even persistent men was the furthest thing from my mind. I only thought about it briefly when my concerned friends would tell me I was attractive, but then I dismissed what they said as them just being nice. Needless to say I'm getting a lot of 'I told you so's' lately though I still struggle to see what others are seeing.
Ali :icon_flower:
I just walked into a medical center, dressed in jeans, a blue hoody and a grey puffy body warmer.
a rude lady pushed in the queue and the nurse behind the desk pointed at me and shouted 'hey, this lady is next.'
I just love hormones. They are the bestest things ever.
"Scruffy woman" is so much better than androgynous - unsure. Do you find it easier to pass in jeans and hoody?
I prefer something closer to "elegant mature woman" but we all have to do what feels right for us.
I'm in my car in a strip mall parking lot, I'm in male mode (though my hair is very curly, there is plenty of 5 o'clock shadow) , I have on a light yellow t-shirt. A guy slightly older than me in his macho sports car whistles at me as he slowly drives by. I'll take that as a compliment. : )
I was basically guy mode!
I plan to part time in boho skirts, elegant tops and sweaters- which should suit a thirty something artist lesbian and certainly should make a clear gender statement.
I would take it as a compliment for sure. You go!
This isn't really a pass because there's no way I would ever pass, it was more of an insulting comment from my sister-in-law who hasn't seen me for several years.
She said, "You look like a girl!"
Georgie: Take care of that five o'clock shadow and stop having a "male mode"!
Emmaline: Artist lesbian is fine.
Shantel: Probably intended as an insult, but if you could just reply "Thank you" it would turn it around.
I was in guy-mode today, and when I went into the women's restroom everyone was staring at me. A few little girls were pointing at me as well. Good to know that I can pass as a male when I want to!
A guy I know at work came out as gender questioning to myself and a woman I work with, and I listened and talked to him about his feelings on his gender and stuff. When he left, she looked directly at me and said "I can't believe how calm you were and how you didn't seem shocked at all. As if it was normal. I mean, given the nature of what he just told you."
Soooo glad I didn't come out at my jobs. -_- I stood up for him of course, but I know if I did so by outing myself I'd never be treated in the same regard as I am now, which is sad.
Quote from: birkin on August 12, 2014, 07:37:41 PM
A guy I know at work came out as gender questioning to myself and a woman I work with, and I listened and talked to him about his feelings on his gender and stuff. When he left, she looked directly at me and said "I can't believe how calm you were and how you didn't seem shocked at all. As if it was normal. I mean, given the nature of what he just told you."
Soooo glad I didn't come out at my jobs. -_- I stood up for him of course, but I know if I did so by outing myself I'd never be treated in the same regard as I am now, which is sad.
True, but interesting revelation for you, kind of like being the fly on the wall taking it all in like a third party observer.
It's true, it kind of makes me wonder what people said about me behind my back when I was pre-transition.
Quote from: birkin on August 12, 2014, 08:42:58 PM
It's true, it kind of makes me wonder what people said about me behind my back when I was pre-transition.
Probably wasn't pretty, but ignorance creates those negative responses until they are enlightened, usually it isn't intended as malicious when they are first confronted and confused buy the situation and at a loss for what to say.
i had my first experience where i thought i MIGHT have passed to more than like, one person, a few months ago.
i was at target and i was asking about a shaving product (shave secret, its great btw) and the woman who worked there asked me if it was a waxing product???
like, idk, are there a lot of guys who wax these days? or was i passing? :o
Quote from: Shantel on August 12, 2014, 09:43:25 AM
This isn't really a pass because there's no way I would ever pass, it was more of an insulting comment from my sister-in-law who hasn't seen me for several years.
She said, "You look like a girl!"
I agree Auntie you could turn this around by saying; "why thank you," or something to that effect. Mary has a great idea here.
Ali :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on August 14, 2014, 12:45:05 PM
I agree Auntie you could turn this around by saying; "why thank you," or something to that effect. Mary has a great idea here.
Ali :icon_flower:
Naw, I'd rather rip off her head! >:-)
Quote from: Shantel on August 14, 2014, 12:54:45 PM
Naw, I'd rather rip off her head! >:-)
Can I help? I haven't ripped off any heads for a long while. Will we be using large garden shears or should I bring my Kintana?
Ali :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on August 14, 2014, 07:06:10 PM
Can I help? I haven't ripped off any heads for a long while. Will we be using large garden shears or should I bring my Kintana?
Ali :icon_flower:
Better be sure your rabies shots are up to date She bites. :D
Quote from: Shantel on August 14, 2014, 07:39:29 PM
Better be sure your rabies shots are up to date She bites. :D
That's what the Kintana's for. Lop off heads with one swing, lol!
Ali :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on August 14, 2014, 07:44:22 PM
That's what the Kintana's for. Lop off heads with one swing, lol!
Ali :icon_flower:
I'm going to +1 this for two reasons. First I like swords. Second, no one messes with Aunty Shan!!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on August 15, 2014, 12:44:16 AM
I'm going to +1 this for two reasons. First I like swords. Second, no one messes with Aunty Shan!!
I guess I'm just chopped liver then, lol!
Ali :icon_flower:
You know you pass when you notice the very 'dykey' lesbian you where just introduced to in the office checking your boobs out. Twice.
Quote from: Emmaline on August 18, 2014, 07:49:31 AM
You know you pass when you notice the very 'dykey' lesbian you where just introduced to in the office checking your boobs out. Twice.
Hah, she's hot for your bod! Good one hon.
Quote from: Emmaline on August 18, 2014, 07:49:31 AM
You know you pass when you notice the very 'dykey' lesbian you where just introduced to in the office checking your boobs out. Twice.
I'm lesbian but I'm not into the dykey ones, lol! I like the cutsey ones!
Ali :icon_flower:
Lol, me too. Actually my tastes sit on the pixie cut end of femme. But she was lovely.
Your ex-boss of 5 years doesn't recognize you when you smile at her.
This guy is into me right? Honestly, I feel a little uncomfortable. This is all new to me. I'm polite and try to keep things casual.
He loses interest because I have four kids.
Not because I am trans. 8)
Haven't heard from him since! LOL!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on August 19, 2014, 08:49:26 AM
This guy is into me right? Honestly, I feel a little uncomfortable. This is all new to me. I'm polite and try to keep things casual.
He loses interest because I have four kids.
Not because I am trans. 8)
Haven't heard from him since! LOL!
A pass! Funny how guys run when they find out she has kids.
Quote from: Shantel on August 19, 2014, 08:53:53 AM
A pass! Funny how guys run when they find out she has kids.
No complaints here! lol
We went to an iHop we used to frequent when we worked in a different area and knew the manager quite well. My wife and I had not been there in over a year when I presented male. This morning we ate there for breakfast and it was fairly crowded. He greeted us and talked to and remembered my wife, but didn't say anything to me and acted like he had never met me before. We had our breakfast, it was great and on the way out paying the check he asked me if everything was good. I said yes, it was great and I paid the bill. As we were leaving (it was quite busy) and says to my wife, "Hope you and your friend come back again soon!"
Next time when it's not so crowded if we are there, I might explain it to him.
QuoteYour ex-boss of seven years doesn't recognize you when you smile at her.
Multipass!
I am a little bummed I won't get to pull this on my old boss. My speaker bio was posted on the conference site a few days ago under my new name, so I suspect that gag has gone.
Desk jockeys!
Last year I had srs in Montreal. I shared the hospital room with a trans-woman who was also having srs. She was visited for most of her stay by her wife. With no time to waste, we were given the task of walking around the nurses' station in our slippers and hospital gowns, relying upon the mobile drip stand for support. I was tired and nauseous, looked dishevelled and was free of make-up.
After the second or third marathon around the nurses' station, I again rested back in my hospital bed. I was curtained off from my neighbour, who happened to be in discussion with her wife. My room mate admitted that she was loath to tell me this, but calling to me from behind the curtain she explained what they were in discussion about. Apparently, her wife was curious about the type of surgery I was having at the hospital, was it a breast augmentation or some other cosmetic surgery, for example. It didn't enter her head that I was also a trans-woman and having srs, even though 95% of the current patients were all trans and having some sort of gender reassignment procedure. I just sat back, raised my eyebrows, felt a little astonished, but pleasantly reassured..
Great pass Nicolette, it probably made the rest of your day a lot easier because I know the pain and discomfort is overwhelming the rest of your senses at that time.
Quote from: Shantel on August 20, 2014, 08:47:58 AM
Great pass Nicolette, it probably made the rest of your day a lot easier because I know the pain and discomfort is overwhelming the rest of your senses at that time.
Funny, I failed to mention the pain and discomfort, but not intentionally and not because I breezed through. Just, I totally forgot about it. I can barely recall it now. Who needs those memories, anyway. :laugh:
Quote from: Emmaline on August 20, 2014, 04:09:42 AM
Multipass!
I am a little bummed I won't get to pull this on my old boss. My speaker bio was posted on the conference site a few days ago under my new name, so I suspect that gag has gone.
Don't assume that! The gag may still be there because honestly, how many attendees actually read every bio? I almost never did back in the 1990s when I attended lots of conferences. Not because I'm mean but because that rarely interested me. I simply assumed that the speakers chosen had proven their qualifications to whomever chose them. On rare occasions I would read a bio but it was rare and I'll bet that I was pretty typical of conference attendees.
You know you pass when.. You're sick, unkempt, in a thrown-together outfit, without a scrap of makeup on, completely hoarse from said illness...
...you introduce yourself to an FTM coworker, tell him you saw him on the LGBTQIA board...
...and he just assumes you're 'somewhere in the [lgbt] group.'
Sorry, dude - your T-dar's malfunctioning a bit. ^_^
Ended up outing myself to someone because I needed advice and she's leaving in two weeks. I said "I'm transgender" and she goes "so you dress in female clothes?"
Quote from: birkin on August 23, 2014, 10:27:20 AM
Ended up outing myself to someone because I needed advice and she's leaving in two weeks. I said "I'm transgender" and she goes "so you dress in female clothes?"
OMG that is so cool, especially coming from a female most of whom are ten times more discerning than men are! Kudos!
I agree with Shantel Birkin, Kudos to you dude! Great pass!
Ali :icon_flower:
When i get up and look in the mirror and like what i see, she is the only person who's opinion matters.
Quote from: StevieAK on August 23, 2014, 01:01:33 PM
When i get up and look in the mirror and like what i see, she is the only person who's opinion matters.
That's right sis!
It's not that I need any affirmation of this misnomer philosophy of "passing" in any way, shape or form at all, but when I ended up in a long checkout queue at Spotlight (sewing/fabrics retailer) over the weekend, and had preschool and infant/primary school children talking to me as though I was their mother, I guess they saw something in me that conveyed to them, how I perceive myself.
Children are the first ones to find the 'chinck' in our armour.
Keep digging down in your own psyche to find your 'sweet spot'.
huggs
Catherine
Quote from: Catherine Sarah on August 24, 2014, 03:59:05 AM
It's not that I need any affirmation of this misnomer philosophy of "passing" in any way, shape or form at all, but when I ended up in a long checkout queue at Spotlight (sewing/fabrics retailer) over the weekend, and had preschool and infant/primary school children talking to me as though I was their mother, I guess they saw something in me that conveyed to them, how I perceive myself.
Children are the first ones to find the 'chinck' in our armour.
Keep digging down in your own psyche to find your 'sweet spot'.
huggs
Catherine
You're comment in the first line is so true. Anyway, good observation on your part about how children perceive things, so it looks like (pardon the expression) a pass to me!
Quote from: birkin on August 23, 2014, 10:27:20 AM
Ended up outing myself to someone because I needed advice and she's leaving in two weeks. I said "I'm transgender" and she goes "so you dress in female clothes?"
Hilarious :) :) :)
I have gained a lot of confidence in myself lately so I went out in public for the first time without makeup on. People still used the right pronouns :)
Quote from: Megumi on August 24, 2014, 05:04:22 PM
I have gained a lot of confidence in myself lately so I went out in public for the first time without makeup on. People still used the right pronouns :)
Super smile.....sorry, no emoticon to match.
Quote from: Megumi on August 24, 2014, 05:04:22 PM
I have gained a lot of confidence in myself lately so I went out in public for the first time without makeup on. People still used the right pronouns :)
Never really wear much make up anymore unless I'm going out at night. I do thou use a bit of BB cream each day, if only its for the sunscreen in it.
i had my first pass. note it was on my 5th or 6th time going out, pre hrt just a padded bra womens clothing and make-up. i was walking through a park and i had a guy from 30 ft away.say "hey there sweet thing." Then he wanted me to go over there and talk to me. i just walked away with a huge grin.
Went to a concert the other night and was pushed to the female guard for a search.
Quote from: michelle666 on August 26, 2014, 01:29:05 PM
Went to a concert the other night and was pushed to the female guard for a search.
Easy pass for you Michelle! :eusa_clap:
Very interesting situations and scenarios that we find our selves in and it is awesome reading about them.
I had a totally unexpected thing happen 2 weeks ago at a family function in a rural farming community in redneck country where the community was also involved about 100 people, a gift opening for a wedding. There was a number of people that I had not seen in years and none had seen me since I started transition. I assumed people knew about me but they had no seen me yet, being a small town. This experience happened a couple of times and it caught me a little off guard.
I would be talking to someone, I knew who they where and I thought they knew who I was. About 5-10 minutes into the conversion I realized that they thought I was genuinely my sister who is about 6 years younger than me. I was shocked and totally thrilled at the same time, it was a cool experience. I then realized the gossip was not as pervasive as I thought it would be.
Quote from: Erica_Y on August 30, 2014, 12:31:18 PM
Very interesting situations and scenarios that we find our selves in and it is awesome reading about them.
I had a totally unexpected thing happen 2 weeks ago at a family function in a rural farming community in redneck country where the community was also involved about 100 people, a gift opening for a wedding. There was a number of people that I had not seen in years and none had seen me since I started transition. I assumed people knew about me but they had no seen me yet, being a small town. This experience happened a couple of times and it caught me a little off guard.
I would be talking to someone, I knew who they where and I thought they knew who I was. About 5-10 minutes into the conversion I realized that they thought I was genuinely my sister who is about 6 years younger than me. I was shocked and totally thrilled at the same time, it was a cool experience. I then realized the gossip was not as pervasive as I thought it would be.
Total pass, and a small town scenario at that, good one Erica!
Quote from: Erica_Y on August 30, 2014, 12:31:18 PM
About 5-10 minutes into the conversion I realized that they thought I was genuinely my sister who is about 6 years younger than me.
Well what do you expect? You are a very attractive young woman and never mind what you used to be.
I went to a new doctor to continue and modify my HRT regiment and one that actually WORKS with my health insurance so I don't have to pay out the backside for lab work and just to see the doctor. Well while the nurse was taking my vital signs and asking me questions as to why I was there. First she was very interested in how tall I was and kept saying it was so rare to see women that are around my height which is 5'11" and then she asked why I was on a hormone regiment. Before I got the chance to tell her she just blurted out "oh you must have had a hysterectomy. I'm so sorry" She didn't believe me when I said no, it's actually because I'm transgender. I really enjoyed that moment as her reaction was genuine and sure enough that voice in the back of my mind that keeps telling me that I don't pass is getting nearly silent :D
Quote from: Megumi on August 31, 2014, 09:06:36 PM
I went to a new doctor to continue and modify my HRT regiment and one that actually WORKS with my health insurance so I don't have to pay out the backside for lab work and just to see the doctor. Well while the nurse was taking my vital signs and asking me questions as to why I was there. First she was very interested in how tall I was and kept saying it was so rare to see women that are around my height which is 5'11" and then she asked why I was on a hormone regiment. Before I got the chance to tell her she just blurted out "oh you must have had a hysterectomy. I'm so sorry" She didn't believe me when I said no, it's actually because I'm transgender. I really enjoyed that moment as her reaction was genuine and sure enough that voice in the back of my mind that keeps telling me that I don't pass is getting nearly silent :D
If you can fool a cis woman you obviously pass with flying colors!
You know you pass when...
You ask one of your female co-workers how she multi-tasks so well, and she replies by asking "Are you a mom?"
Quote from: Carrie Liz on September 01, 2014, 03:40:19 PM
You know you pass when...
You ask one of your female co-workers how she multi-tasks so well, and she replies by asking "Are you a mom?"
Hey mommy! :D Total pass Carrie!
Quote from: Shantel on September 01, 2014, 10:59:04 AM
If you can fool a cis woman you obviously pass with flying colors!
I have always been rather skeptical of my ability to pass but everything I keep experiencing tells me that I actually do and I'm really beginning to believe it!
I was at a club the other night waiting for a stall to open in the ladies room. The girl behind me asked me if I had a tampon. Surprisingly I did. I keep a few in my bag because my gf is forgetful about things like that and I like to make sure she has them when needed.
Quote from: michelle666 on September 02, 2014, 10:28:40 AM
I was at a club the other night waiting for a stall to open in the ladies room. The girl behind me asked me if I had a tampon. Surprisingly I did. I keep a few in my bag because my gf is forgetful about things like that and I like to make sure she has them when needed.
Score! And how very smart and considerate of you Michelle.
Quote from: michelle666 on September 02, 2014, 10:28:40 AM
I was at a club the other night waiting for a stall to open in the ladies room. The girl behind me asked me if I had a tampon. Surprisingly I did. I keep a few in my bag because my gf is forgetful about things like that and I like to make sure she has them when needed.
This^^___^^ is a great idea! Very cool pass Michelle!!
Alli :icon_flower:
I was at a cash dispenser and a guy and his girlfriend said they'd look out for me as there was a shifty looking scrote hanging around and they didn't feel OK about him being near a lady with a stick
I've posted before that I still have a bit of bathroom anxiety. I was at the Sands Casino in PA the other day and had to pee really bad. Using the mens room is out of the question at this point and there were no gender neutral bathrooms so I had to use the ladies room. I walk in and it was mobbed, at least 30 women in there. I walked through the crowd and into a stall, no one batted an eye at me. I think I pass, I haven't been called sir or dude in a long time, it's been miss and ma'am for a while now.
Quote from: michelle666 on September 07, 2014, 11:08:07 AM
I've posted before that I still have a bit of bathroom anxiety. I was at the Sands Casino in PA the other day and had to pee really bad. Using the mens room is out of the question at this point and there were no gender neutral bathrooms so I had to use the ladies room. I walk in and it was mobbed, at least 30 women in there. I walked through the crowd and into a stall, no one batted an eye at me. I think I pass, I haven't been called sir or dude in a long time, it's been miss and ma'am for a while now.
I went to see a concert recently at the forum here in LA. The forum is an older venue with bathrooms that are downstairs. For some reason I kept having to pee so I was in and out of the ladies room several times. Of course there was a line every time but like you no one batted an eye at me being in there.
I had the same experience at dodger stadium a few weeks later except that the line was even longer there. Again, no one cared.
I keep a couple of pads in my purse in case someone asks me for one (which reminds me that I need to pick up some tampons for that same purpose). A girl friend of mine had her period start suddenly when we were out and about recently and I was able to give her a pad and come to her rescue :angel:
I gotta pick up some tampons or pads to keep in my purse for those occasions myself. Yea I've been asked a few times, and my not having one didn't cause me any problems, but I do think its a good idea. Cool passes Eva, Michelle, Kim!
Ally :icon_flower:
You know you pass, when you get a bit tipsy, get sick of of constantly wondering if you pass or not and so ask the person you are talking to if they could tell that you were transgender and they refuse to believe you.
I did it with four people through the night as an experiment, after I had been chatting with them for a bit. A few said they would have had no idea and one said I was lying. I think he thought I wasdoing it to attention seek or something. It was quite a boost though and completely counter to what I normally do.
I also got asked back to someones, who changed his mind when I told him I was trans, so another pass, not that I would have gone. It was a good night.
This weekend I was hanging out with a girl friend and a couple that I did not know but they are friends with my girl friend. I don't believe my friend told them that I am trans. They had recently had a baby so we compared pictures of our kids (mine are 20 & 21 and are off at college) and we talked about our kids.
The wife remarked about the need to pump milk because if she didn't her boobs would get hard and painful, and then she looked at me and said "Right?". I happened to know about this even though I personally have not experienced it so I just nodded and said yes :)
When cis girls ask you how long you were in labor with your son! OMG! Still hyper over that one!! ^-^ ^-^
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on September 08, 2014, 01:42:48 PM
When cis girls ask you how long you were in labor with your son! OMG! Still hyper over that one!! ^-^ ^-^
WoW! Sis great pass! That one would have seriously surprised me too, lol! :eusa_dance:
Ally :icon_flower:
When you are at a bbq, and some friends who knew you before transition keep slipping on the wrong pronouns, but all of the new people keep referring you with the right pronouns. And then when one of the guy (middle eastern) about to leave, he gave the cheek to cheek goodbye gesture to all of us including me, but when the guy after me asked him for one, he said "sorry, this is only for girls only" and shake that guys's hand to bid him goodbye. And I just stood there grinning :D
Quote from: jfong on September 08, 2014, 10:59:38 PM
When you are at a bbq, and some friends who knew you before transition keep slipping on the wrong pronouns, but all of the new people keep referring you with the right pronouns. And then when one of the guy (middle eastern) about to leave, he gave the cheek to cheek goodbye gesture to all of us including me, but when the guy after me asked him for one, he said "sorry, this is only for girls only" and shake that guys's hand to bid him goodbye. And I just stood there grinning :D
This^^___^^ is very cute. Great pass! I really like this -guys stumbling over which pronouns to use, lol! Priceless!
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: paula lesley on September 09, 2014, 05:24:14 PM
Someone you used to work with for 5 years asks if you " have a brother and oh ! he was really great to work with. And how is he ? " :o
That is " THE " weirdest conversation I have ever had ! :laugh:
I would have loved to have heard that conversation! :laugh: How in the world did you talk with what must have been a HUGE smile on your face? ;D Great job!!
So today I go to a consignment boutique to get rid of the very last of my "guy things". I mean, this stuff was too valuable for goodwill, and it was all just taking up space. I figured if I could get a few hundred bucks for it all, make space, then hey- more boots (or guitars ::) ).
"So these belonged to your ex?"
Quote from: Jill F on September 09, 2014, 06:46:35 PM
So today I go to a consignment boutique to get rid of the very last of my "guy things". I mean, this stuff was too valuable for goodwill, and it was all just taking up space. I figured if I could get a few hundred bucks for it all, make space, then hey- more boots (or guitars ::) ).
"So these belonged to your ex?"
Jill you collect guitars the way I collect shoes, lol! Great pass! I bet you had a huuuuuge smile on your face when they said that!
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Jill F on September 09, 2014, 06:46:35 PM
"So these belonged to your ex?"
LMAO!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
I think that definitely qualifies as a PASS! :)
Not really passing but crossing the border into Canada the border guard was very careful not to use any gender specific pronouns until I handed over my passport and she checked the gender marker, at least I managed confusion after 35 hours of travelling without sleep or a shave.
Quote from: Allyda on September 09, 2014, 07:54:19 PM
Jill you collect guitars the way I collect shoes, lol! Great pass! I bet you had a huuuuuge smile on your face when they said that!
Ally :icon_flower:
Still smiling! I guess when women come in with guy things over there, that's the usual case scenario. I'm guessing that it didn't even occur to them that this amazon used to wear those things.
Quote from: antonia on September 09, 2014, 08:49:48 PM
Not really passing but crossing the border into Canada the border guard was very careful not to use any gender specific pronouns until I handed over my passport and she checked the gender marker, at least I managed confusion after 35 hours of travelling without sleep or a shave.
I plan on doing some travelling pretty soon. I wonder if I will have to deal with the same situation?
Given the situation.....great pass. ^.^
Been warned on numerous occasions by customers of the perils of menopause that await me *cough* *cough*. XD
Hey! Menopause was definitely not on my agenda - at all. Hot flushes in a heat wave are really bad news. I was told to stop estrogen six weeks before surgery, which led to a sudden 100% menopause.
It's not as scary as it sounds, just be yourself, be truthful and honest and everything will be fine.
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on September 10, 2014, 03:16:30 AM
I plan on doing some travelling pretty soon. I wonder if I will have to deal with the same situation?
Given the situation.....great pass. ^.^
Quote from: Allyda on August 10, 2014, 12:32:32 PM
For me especially since I've gotten older, I just never saw myself as attractive. So getting hit on and asked out by sometimes even persistent men was the furthest thing from my mind. I only thought about it briefly when my concerned friends would tell me I was attractive, but then I dismissed what they said as them just being nice. Needless to say I'm getting a lot of 'I told you so's' lately though I still struggle to see what others are seeing.
Ali :icon_flower:
Doesn't happen to me. With the exception of Caleb, I end up with guys from India sending pictures of their junk over facebook. I don't do selfies anymore for that reason. Anyone with photoshop can gussy themselves up and look pretty.
Quote from: antonia on September 09, 2014, 08:49:48 PM
Not really passing but crossing the border into Canada the border guard was very careful not to use any gender specific pronouns until I handed over my passport and she checked the gender marker, at least I managed confusion after 35 hours of travelling without sleep or a shave.
I proudly show my ID when passing the security check point at airports. Usually I wear miniskirt and heels, and nobody has yet commented anything. They are just busy doing their own task. How many people does each of them deal with everyday? Hundreds or thousands?
barbie~~
Quote from: Rainbow Brite on September 14, 2014, 01:17:14 AM
Doesn't happen to me. With the exception of Caleb, I end up with guys from India sending pictures of their junk over facebook. I don't do selfies anymore for that reason. Anyone with photoshop can gussy themselves up and look pretty.
I know, ew!, gross! I'm getting the same thing over Skype; guys sending me photo's of their erect penis. My Skype Avatar is the same one I use here so nothing provocative.
Ally :icon_flower:
I haven't tried it, but how about recommending a good GRS surgeon?
When a woman at work gets mad at you for supposedly leaving the toilet seat up.
Quote from: birkin on September 14, 2014, 06:42:06 PM
When a woman at work gets mad at you for supposedly leaving the toilet seat up.
HAH! Nice pass!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on September 14, 2014, 08:53:47 PM
HAH! Nice pass!
lol thanks. I was like "what? I didn't...oh nvm maybe I did." But the REAL question is, who did leave it up? I was the only guy in the house.
My wife and i where getting our twelve week baby scan, the doctor sat us down and was asking about family genetic history. I piped in that my half sisters daughter has fragile x syndrome.
The doctor paused and said to me... "Oh so it's your egg?".
I am pretty happy a doctor couldn't pick me at a few feet.
Oh. And the results?
Waaaaaay pregnant!
A pass and a baby.
Quote from: Emmaline on September 16, 2014, 06:19:41 AM
My wife and i where getting our twelve week baby scan, the doctor sat us down and was asking about family genetic history. I piped in that my half sisters daughter has fragile x syndrome.
The doctor paused and said to me... "Oh so it's your egg?".
I am pretty happy a doctor couldn't pick me at a few feet.
Oh. And the results?
Waaaaaay pregnant!
A pass and a baby.
Congrats on the successful scan! And on the pass, of course..... :)
Quote from: Emmaline on September 16, 2014, 06:19:41 AM
My wife and i where getting our twelve week baby scan, the doctor sat us down and was asking about family genetic history. I piped in that my half sisters daughter has fragile x syndrome.
The doctor paused and said to me... "Oh so it's your egg?".
I am pretty happy a doctor couldn't pick me at a few feet.
Oh. And the results?
Waaaaaay pregnant!
A pass and a baby.
Oh my! Super pass there! :)
Quote from: birkin on September 14, 2014, 10:34:25 PM
lol thanks. I was like "what? I didn't...oh nvm maybe I did." But the REAL question is, who did leave it up? I was the only guy in the house.
We're there a lot of people there? Could one of them be ... how shall I say this ... one of us? Maybe you weren't the only "major pass" that day...
Quote from: suzifrommd on September 16, 2014, 11:16:33 AM
We're there a lot of people there? Could one of them be ... how shall I say this ... one of us? Maybe you weren't the only "major pass" that day...
I had the same thought!
Lol I thought the same thing, maybe one of the girls there trans. They would have to be SUPER passable though haha
When the guy int the DIY shop speaks to you like you're an idiot!
Lol, yeah that's a clear indication, but you also get to confuse the hell out of them:)
Quote from: big kim on September 17, 2014, 07:57:53 AM
When the guy int the DIY shop speaks to you like you're an idiot!
When men offer you seats on the tram
Quote from: Emmaline on September 16, 2014, 06:19:41 AM
My wife and i where getting our twelve week baby scan, the doctor sat us down and was asking about family genetic history. I piped in that my half sisters daughter has fragile x syndrome.
The doctor paused and said to me... "Oh so it's your egg?".
I am pretty happy a doctor couldn't pick me at a few feet.
Oh. And the results?
Waaaaaay pregnant!
A pass and a baby.
Great pass! This is one to remember!
Ally :)
Dressed in a suit for a social function the other day.
Normally I'm used to not passing when I have to speak since my voice is really high pitched.
However, was in a discussion with this lady. She randomly asked me how old I was. Then she assured me that I'd get another growth spurt. Haha, yeah, I haven't grown since the start of high school. But then I realized it was because she thought I was a guy despite my voice :)
This is sort of an odd pass. I wasn't out in public and wasn't even visible.
The phone rang and I answered. On the other end I recognized the voice of my mother-in-law. I said "Hello?" She replied, "Hello <Spouse's Name>." I paused and said, "Oh! She's not here." A corresponding pause and "She's not? To whom am I speaking?" Finally, it dawned on her... "Oh, this is <My Male Name>?" "Yes, can I take a message for her?" "Just tell her I called and to call me back, please."
I was amused. Very very amused. You have to realize that I've known these people for 37 years now. Well, actually 45, since we knew each other since 4th grade but anyway, I've known this woman for a long, long time. The fact that she had no clue who I was on the phone and that she thought I was her daughter left me grinning from ear to ear.
When one of my friends, knowing that I would love to have a baby, suggests that I 'accidentally' get pregnant by my ex. Lol.
When I was leaving the house this morning a guy was walking a puppy so I asked if I could say hi and he said yes, when I started petting him he was all over me. The guy said "she really like women". Made me happy because I have my hair pulled back and no makeup on.
Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on September 19, 2014, 09:07:27 AM
When one of my friends, knowing that I would love to have a baby, suggests that I 'accidentally' get pregnant by my ex. Lol.
Now that is a pass! :)
Quote from: michelle666 on September 19, 2014, 09:57:29 AM
When I was leaving the house this morning a guy was walking a puppy so I asked if I could say hi and he said yes, when I started petting him he was all over me. The guy said "she really like women". Made me happy because I have my hair pulled back and no makeup on.
whoop! whoop! passing without make up!!! I award you with three points
You know you pass when you did what I did today. I can't say what I did and I know this is an annoying post but I need to pat myself on the back somehow.
I did what I did today!! Holy crap! Super pass. lol
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on September 21, 2014, 05:29:28 PM
You know you pass when you did what I did today. I can't say what I did and I know this is an annoying post but I need to pat myself on the back somehow.
I did what I did today!! Holy crap! Super pass. lol
nice
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on September 21, 2014, 06:26:22 PM
nice
You know what it is FHP! If not I'll PM you. I'll PM everyone in history! ^.^
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on September 21, 2014, 07:57:08 PM
You know what it is FHP! If not I'll PM you. I'll PM everyone in history! ^.^
Actually I dont know XD
Anyway let me share a cool pass of mine
I went to my university to register and as I was waiting in the line I talked to a girl who was from the same department
she didnt seem to clock me at all and when I introduced using my female name she said that its beautiful and she seemed excited about it...
I only got a few wierd looks while I was there so I guess its ok...
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on September 21, 2014, 11:21:38 PM
Actually I dont know XD
Anyway let me share a cool pass of mine
I went to my university to register and as I was waiting in the line I talked to a girl who was from the same department
she didnt seem to clock me at all and when I introduced using my female name she said that its beautiful and she seemed excited about it...
I only got a few wierd looks while I was there so I guess its ok...
Definitive Cool pass FHP! :)
Ally :D
Went to buy guitar strings at Guitar Center.
Clerk: "Hi, miss, can I help you?"
Me: "I need several sets of <brand> strings."
Clerk: "Wow, that's totally awesome. What kind of guitar do you have?"
Me: *eyeroll* "I have like 25 guitars, mostly Fenders."
Clerk: "That's amazing. I've never met a lady with a collection like that."
Me: "Umm, is that the REAL price? Last time I got a pretty deep discount."
Clerk: "Oh, I guess I can knock a little something off."
Here's how that same exchange used to go:
Me: "Umm, does anybody even f***ing work here?"
Clerk: "I'll be with you after I finish goofing off/wasting time/picking my butt."
Me: "I need several sets of <brand> strings."
Clerk: "Right on, dude! Those are the sh*t. Let me give you the good guy/artist price."
OMG, like girls like totally play guitars?
Right - girls are there to look decorative. They don't understand techie things like guitar strings. Get used to your new life! Actually getting served quickly is nice though.
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on September 21, 2014, 11:21:38 PM
Actually I dont know XD
Anyway let me share a cool pass of mine
I went to my university to register and as I was waiting in the line I talked to a girl who was from the same department
she didnt seem to clock me at all and when I introduced using my female name she said that its beautiful and she seemed excited about it...
I only got a few wierd looks while I was there so I guess its ok...
I must know the name!!
You get looks because you are tall and you are smoking hot!! Seriously, and I am not the only one here that knows it. You don't just pass......you are SUPER FRIGGIN HOT FHP.
Quote from: Jill F on September 22, 2014, 01:38:49 AM
Went to buy guitar strings at Guitar Center.
Clerk: "Hi, miss, can I help you?"
Me: "I need several sets of <brand> strings."
Clerk: "Wow, that's totally awesome. What kind of guitar do you have?"
Me: *eyeroll* "I have like 25 guitars, mostly Fenders."
Clerk: "That's amazing. I've never met a lady with a collection like that."
Me: "Umm, is that the REAL price? Last time I got a pretty deep discount."
Clerk: "Oh, I guess I can knock a little something off."
Here's how that same exchange used to go:
Me: "Umm, does anybody even f***ing work here?"
Clerk: "I'll be with you after I finish goofing off/wasting time/picking my butt."
Me: "I need several sets of <brand> strings."
Clerk: "Right on, dude! Those are the sh*t. Let me give you the good guy/artist price."
OMG, like girls like totally play guitars?
Everytime I go in there to buy something they are like...."Well who is it for?" I'm all like...."ME!" Then they are all like...."Oh wow holy crap! This is an unusual experience for me. I must write in my journal immediately." I'm like...."Yeah sure, just hand me those drum sticks first."
Quote from: amber roskamp on September 20, 2014, 04:05:27 PM
whoop! whoop! passing without make up!!! I award you with three points
I'm more happy about passing to an animal who only like women!
I had my first auto parts store experience since going full time. It was a pass because I was treated like I didn't know what I was talking about.
So, I finally talk with one of my suppliers over the phone over some orders that need to be changed. We usually just talked via email and never seen each other, but sometimes she spoke to my co-worker too.
For confirmation, she send and email and refer me as "he", so I politely replied to correct her. She apologized on her email and said "that's why I was surprised because the voice sounded female on the phone, with a little bit of an accent." (I do have an accent)
She thought someone else (my co-worker?) pretending to be me LOL, even though it was my co-worker that she's talked to before.
Getting there.. *pat on the back* :)
I spent the weekend at the other end of the state visiting cis male and female friends and their friends who I haven't seen in several years. It was hot and I wore skinny jeans, sandals, tank top and bra. No-one made any negative remarks, there were no eye rolls, and a good time was had by all even though I know damned well that I don't and never will pass.
Because I'm tall I often help people who are not able to reach some products on the higher racks at the market, the other day a little old lady comes up and says " Well you're a tall girl, can you help me with something?" Sure enough there were a few things that her and her friend were unable to reach so I just walked around with them until they got what they needed and picked up stuff I needed along the way
Then they wanted me to go with them to the check out counter with them so I did, they told the checker "We've got this and whatever she has in her cart"
Couldn't have come at a better time as I've been somewhat stressed with financial issues lately
Quote from: Shantel on September 23, 2014, 06:41:16 PM
I spent the weekend at the other end of the state visiting cis male and female friends and their friends who I haven't seen in several years. It was hot and I wore skinny jeans, sandals, tank top and bra. No-one made any negative remarks, there were no eye rolls, and a good time was had by all even though I know damned well that I don't and never will pass.
Pass or not, I'm sure you looked smoking hot Aunty Shan. ^.^
Quote from: michelle666 on September 22, 2014, 10:43:54 AM
I had my first auto parts store experience since going full time. It was a pass because I was treated like I didn't know what I was talking about.
Yes, just like the people at the oil change place last week tried to convince me that I needed $700 worth of maintenance or the car could die at any time, when I know damned well I don't. Sorry people, my regular (and honest) mechanic gave it a once-over 3500 miles ago, gave it all new fluids, some new gaskets, a new battery and a clean bill of health. Why the hell would I need another radiator and transmission flush in just 3500 miles?
Quote from: Jill F on September 23, 2014, 10:13:24 PM
Yes, just like the people at the oil change place last week tried to convince me that I needed $700 worth of maintenance or the car could die at any time, when I know damned well I don't. Sorry people, my regular (and honest) mechanic gave it a once-over 3500 miles ago, gave it all new fluids, some new gaskets, a new battery and a clean bill of health. Why the hell would I need another radiator and transmission flush in just 3500 miles?
I hate this^^___^^. They think just because we're women we don't know anything about our rides. Well, on my first visit it backfired on them. I had my widowed neighbor friend with me when I stopped into my local Advance auto parts store. I needed a fill valve for the A/C on my truck and of course, some R134A to refill the system with after changing out the part. We were both dressed in short shorts and low cut tanks as it was hot that day, and I went for the R134A first.
As I was handing the cans to my friend I saw all 3 guys come from behind the counter over to us asking if they could help us find something. My friend didn't answer and I just said "no, we're fine." Well, they just stood there. It was kind of spooky. After I'd had 4 cans gathered up I followed by my friend headed for the counter. The bald headed one beat the others back asking if the freon was all I needed. I told him about the part I needed for my truck while he stared at my booby cleavage. Long story short, after retrieving the part and ringing it up he asked me for $18.95, I handed him a $20. while he kept batting his eyes back and forth between me and my friend. He handed me back $18.99 saying: "here's your change maam." Well, I didn't pay any attention because I was becoming uncomfortable so I just grabbed the money, shoved the dollars in my bra and the change in my pocket so we could get out of there. :icon_blink:
I still was oblivious to what had happened as she and I got in my truck and I started it. She started giggling saying: "You know you got that part for a dollar right?" I thought she was giggling at them for oogling the both of us so I was a little surprised as I pulled $18.00 out of my bra instead of the $1. I was expecting. Well, we both started giggling as I drove out of the parking lot. :eusa_dance: Earlier that week she had told me how she hadn't been out for dinner in a while, so I took us to Burger King for fish sandwiches with the extra cash. :D
Ally :icon_flower:
Awesome story Ally! lol
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on September 23, 2014, 11:29:49 PM
Awesome story Ally! lol
Thanks Lara. :)
I hadn't had Burger Kings Big Fish sandwich in a while and you know what, It is the best fish sandwich I've had in a long time. My widowed friend has really been a godsend since my breakup with my former SO. I thought hey, Karma smiled on me so why not spend it on my friend. We both had a great time that day. Just two girls out having fun running around town, lol!
Ally ;)
Quote from: Jill F on September 23, 2014, 10:13:24 PM
Yes, just like the people at the oil change place last week tried to convince me that I needed $700 worth of maintenance or the car could die at any time, when I know damned well I don't. Sorry people, my regular (and honest) mechanic gave it a once-over 3500 miles ago, gave it all new fluids, some new gaskets, a new battery and a clean bill of health. Why the hell would I need another radiator and transmission flush in just 3500 miles?
Jill - Seasoned mechanics refer to that practice as a "wallet flush". I've seen them try that on women that were in line in front of me at a shop, but when I got up to the front of the line they didn't try it on me (I was in boy mode).
I did have my first experience as a female at the auto parts store recently. I didn't have on anything low cut so maybe that's why they treated me as just another customer :laugh: I fully expect the same treatment that most females get sooner or later and I plan to have some fun at their expense when they try it >:-)
Quote from: Eva Marie on September 24, 2014, 12:15:28 AM
Jill - Seasoned mechanics refer to that practice as a "wallet flush". I've seen them try that on women that were in line in front of me at a shop, but when I got up to the front of the line they didn't try it on me (I was in boy mode).
I did have my first experience as a female at the auto parts store recently. I didn't have on anything low cut so maybe that's why they treated me as just another customer :laugh: I fully expect the same treatment that most females get sooner or later and I plan to have some fun at their expense when they try it >:-)
A great as you look Eve it will happen. You look really pretty in your new Avatar pic! :)
Ally ;)
Quote from: Jill F on September 23, 2014, 10:13:24 PM
Yes, just like the people at the oil change place last week tried to convince me that I needed $700 worth of maintenance or the car could die at any time, when I know damned well I don't. Sorry people, my regular (and honest) mechanic gave it a once-over 3500 miles ago, gave it all new fluids, some new gaskets, a new battery and a clean bill of health. Why the hell would I need another radiator and transmission flush in just 3500 miles?
But did they check your headlight fluid?
Quote from: Jaime R D on September 24, 2014, 08:37:25 AM
But did they check your headlight fluid?
No, but they did say I needed all new piston return springs.
Quote from: Jill F on September 24, 2014, 03:11:34 PM
No, but they did say I needed all new piston return springs.
Bad muffler bearings will cause that.
Quote from: Jaime R D on September 24, 2014, 08:37:25 AM
But did they check your headlight fluid?
Quote from: Jill F on September 24, 2014, 03:11:34 PM
No, but they did say I needed all new piston return springs.
Quote from: Eva Marie on September 24, 2014, 06:04:33 PM
Bad muffler bearings will cause that.
Lol!, he, he, he ha ha ha ha ha ha he, he, heeeee!^^___^^ :D :D :D :D Y'all crack me up, lol! :D
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on October 04, 2014, 10:13:44 PM
Going to vote, submitting Your ID and getting puzzled look - Oh, this must be Your husband's...
Later, going for the walk with kiddo, getting complimented about kid by an older gentleman whose youngest son is 10 yo, just chatting on and then being asked, where the daddy is... and it went torally awkward when in the end he tried to kiss my hand (like I said - quite an old gentleman).
Pass! :eusa_clap:
Last night I was on route to a dinner with some of my ex-colleagues who does not know I'm trans so I had to go in boy mode. I had to stop by a store to get something. I wore straight black jeans and a baggy pullover, I did not shave and my hair was in pony-tail.
At the checkout a little girl and her father was before me in the line. The girl kept pointing at things I was going to buy and she asked her father if he knew whose things are those. Her father looked at me and said: "Those are for the lady."
It seems I'm really nearing the end of the IPL sessions for my facial hair because I did not shave for days to prevent unnecessary irritation of my facial skin.
I will say that I work for Lowes Home Improvement. My nametag still reads my male name and I still have to use the mens bathroom. While running the power equipment I get the "woman driver" comments. Washing my hands and seeing guys double take to look at the restroom sign. Or my all time irritation, I guess in the past few months I lost brain cells because when viewed as female, I must know less and they will bypass me to find a "man" to help them.
I guess it is working even if I don't see it...
Quote from: Ali girl on October 15, 2014, 10:23:47 PM
I must know less and they will bypass me to find a "man" to help them.
I guess it is working even if I don't see it...
Yep. Welcome to being a woman :)
I was window shopping at a classic car show and looking at a GT 390 Mustang with a 4 speed when the guy selling several Mustangs tried to talk me into buying his 6 cylinder secretary's special as the GT 390 was "a man's car"
Quote from: Ali girl on October 15, 2014, 10:23:47 PM
I must know less and they will bypass me to find a "man" to help them.
Yep, I'm looking forward to less pay and fewer promotions, sorry no promotions, when I come out at work lol
I had a voice pass this morning. I called and cancelled my cable TV yesterday and they scheduled a guy to show up at my apartment at 8am this morning and only told me about it with an automated call very late last night. I've got to go to work today and that appointment time won't work. My account is still in my old boy name because I haven't changed it yet.
So i called today to reschedule:
cable lady: Thank you for calling time warner cable, to whom am i speaking?
me: <old boy name>
cable lady: thank you mam...... errrr, i mean sir
Yep, the voice lessons worked :laugh:
Quote from: Eva Marie on October 17, 2014, 09:52:29 AM
I had a voice pass this morning. I called and cancelled my cable TV yesterday and they scheduled a guy to show up at my apartment at 8am this morning and only told me about it with an automated call very late last night. I've got to go to work today and that appointment time won't work. My account is still in my old boy name because I haven't changed it yet.
So i called today to reschedule:
cable lady: Thank you for calling time warner cable, to whom am i speaking?
me: <old boy name>
cable lady: thank you mam...... errrr, i mean sir
Yep, the voice lessons worked :laugh:
I'm so happy for you Eva! I know how it feels to find your voice after much effort It feels great to get Maam'ed over the phone.. Great pass too! :)
Ally :icon_flower:
Yay for you all! I just left Walgreens... Had to grab makeup, a new straighter, and some nail polish with the wifey... Made my day when the lady working asked "do you ladies need any help?" Super excited and wasn't even trying that hard!
Quote from: Ali girl on October 17, 2014, 12:16:00 PM
Yay for you all! I just left Walgreens... Had to grab makeup, a new straighter, and some nail polish with the wifey... Made my day when the lady working asked "do you ladies need any help?" Super excited and wasn't even trying that hard!
Cool Pass Ali! :)
Ally ;)
I belong to a wine club that is run by a winery in a city that's about 20 miles away from where i live. Each quarter they have a wine club event and the members meet at the winery to taste various vintages and select their wines for that quarter. The area where the wine club is located is in an affluent area and the people that show up for the event seem to be well heeled. As a broke person I am the odd one in the bunch, but I enjoy the experience of hanging out with upper crust people.
Tonight was such an event, so I decided to have a little fun. I put on my tight dark skinny jeans, an elegant back/silver sweater that says "dinner party", and my leather/suede booties with 4" heels (which makes me close to 6 feet tall), and I headed out the door. I was better dressed than most of the women there which was my goal.
I got three basic reactions tonight: some women completely ignored me, a lot of women smiled at me, and the most interesting reaction: some women shot daggers at me with their eyes :laugh: I know that women do this and having it done to me tonight was a uniquely female experience.
Th fact that they shot daggers at me tells me that they saw me as another woman. I passed.
Also, I thoroughly enjoyed the experience of rocking their boat >:-)
Quote from: Eva Marie on October 19, 2014, 12:18:35 AM
Th fact that they shot daggers at me tells me that they saw me as another woman. I passed.
Also, I thoroughly enjoyed the experience of rocking their boat >:-)
Great pass Eva Marie and the above comment makes you my kind of gal, I love doing that and acting unaware and impervious to their reactions.
Quote from: Shantel on October 19, 2014, 09:07:03 AM
Great pass Eva Marie and the above comment makes you my kind of gal, I love doing that and acting unaware and impervious to their reactions.
:laugh: 8)
Quote from: Shantel on October 19, 2014, 09:07:03 AM
Great pass Eva Marie and the above comment makes you my kind of gal, I love doing that and acting unaware and impervious to their reactions.
I second this^^___^^. Great pass Eva! You definitely were getting a jealous reaction. :icon_yes:
I'm having my own problem with the jealous wifey of my next door neighbor. In fact, I just came in the door from talking with her. I made it clear to her I'm lesbian and that I have no interest at all in her husband. I think I eased her mind a little. At least I hope I did anyways. I'm hoping my neighborhood trouble with her is over with. :eusa_pray:
Ally ;)
Quote from: Allyda on October 19, 2014, 04:36:02 PM
I second this^^___^^. Great pass Eva! You definitely were getting a jealous reaction. :icon_yes:
I'm having my own problem with the jealous wifey of my next door neighbor. In fact, I just came in the door from talking with her. I made it clear to her I'm lesbian and that I have no interest at all in her husband. I think I eased her mind a little. At least I hope I did anyways. I'm hoping my neighborhood trouble with her is over with. :eusa_pray:
Ally ;)
Ahhh... jealous women..... i haven't run into that yet problem yet thank heavens. I think you handled it pretty well 8)
I was walking to the women's bathroom at a busy Costco and the sign wasn't visible from behind me so a guy just followed me and stopped in the opening in utter confusion then quickly veered off towards the men's! It got even more interesting when I came out of the stall and an employee did a double take and when at the sinks a woman gave me a death glare while I was washing my hands.
Quote from: Silver Centurion on October 20, 2014, 01:02:54 AM
I was walking to the women's bathroom at a busy Costco and the sign wasn't visible from behind me so a guy just followed me and stopped in the opening in utter confusion then quickly veered off towards the men's! It got even more interesting when I came out of the stall and an employee did a double take and when at the sinks a woman gave me a death glare while I was washing my hands.
Total pass! Use the men's from now on.
I was one of the organizers of a 3 day long trans event. Lot of trans people came. After a talk which I was a part of, a young (cis) girl wanted to find MtF transsexuals for her thesis and asked around for volunteers. I wanted to help her but she seemed to ignore me completely multiple times, even when I stood in front of her. I did not want to say anything, I was curious if she would think I'm trans. She didn't. She didn't get it until my acquaintances pointed me out to her :)
Last week while I was still in Brisbane I went with my uncle, cousin and a friend of my cousin to an RSL club for dinner and when we were finished and plates were being collected the waitress said: "Can I take your plate ma'am?" And then on Sunday during my flight home when they brought the complimentary meals out I was happily surprised by the steward when she said: "Which meal would you like miss?"
For me, it happened when I was walking up to the metro train station a little while back. I was wearing my GTA V snapback that reads "Los Santos" and the sheriff there said "Hey, it's Mr. Los Santos!" Note that we do not know each other and I am not biologically male. I was so happy and also embarrassed, so I just laughed and kept walking. Hope I didn't seem rude, I was just really surprised because I look like a teenage delinquent and I never expect sheriffs to be nice to me, hahaha.
I was walking to the women's bathroom at a busy Costco and the sign wasn't visible from behind me so a guy just followed me and stopped in the opening in utter confusion then quickly veered off towards the men's! It got even more interesting when I came out of the stall and an employee did a double take and when at the sinks a woman gave me a death glare while I was washing my hands.
Yes Silver Centurion, I think it is time to be using the men's
My first time in the men's, was when I needed to go and asked the security person at the door which way to the restroom and she pointed me toward one and when I got about 2 steps from the door I saw men's. I went in used a stall, washed my hands and left; no one said or looked at me differently that I know. All the guys in there wanted to go as quickly as they could and get to class as I was. I thought afterward this was so simple and have been using the men's almost all the time since.
Quote from: mm on October 20, 2014, 01:24:32 PM
I was walking to the women's bathroom at a busy Costco and the sign wasn't visible from behind me so a guy just followed me and stopped in the opening in utter confusion then quickly veered off towards the men's! It got even more interesting when I came out of the stall and an employee did a double take and when at the sinks a woman gave me a death glare while I was washing my hands.
Yes Silver Centurion, I think it is time to be using the men's
My first time in the men's, was when I needed to go and asked the security person at the door which way to the restroom and she pointed me toward one and when I got about 2 steps from the door I saw men's. I went in used a stall, washed my hands and left; no one said or looked at me differently that I know. All the guys in there wanted to go as quickly as they could and get to class as I was. I thought afterward this was so simple and have been using the men's almost all the time since.
FYI - Cis men don't make eye contact and avoid looking at people's faces in the men's room. They rarely speak to another person, just get in and get out, sadly many don't even bother to wash their hands afterwards. The reason for all this odd behavior is rooted in homophobia and fears of being seen as possibly gay. No trans man should have any undue fear of using the men's room, no-one is going to be looking at you. When using the stall be sure the seat is urine free, some cis men haven't been properly potty trained and are slobs.
Quote from: Shantel on October 20, 2014, 07:06:12 PM
FYI - Cis men don't make eye contact and avoid looking at people's faces in the men's room. They rarely speak to another person, just get in and get out, sadly many don't even bother to wash their hands afterwards. The reason for all this odd behavior is rooted in homophobia and fears of being seen as possibly gay. No trans man should have any undue fear of using the men's room, no-one is going to be looking at you. When using the stall be sure the seat is urine free, some cis men haven't been properly potty trained and are slobs.
The only time I have ever heard a random conversation in a mens bathroom is during a sporting event about said game. Even then it is do what you have to do get out no hanging around. The necter of the Gods probably helps in loseing a few peoples lips, and yeah check the seats, bowl, and for paper noting will harden your stomach after a few visits to some filthy bathrooms
The transwoman standing next to you doesn't seem to notice even after you smile at her. I usually set off others' transgen-dar.
This one made me super happy.
I was talking to a customer at work. I was putting a lot of effort into making my voice sound good, but wasn't really sure if it was working. At the end of our conversation, the customer said to me, "I have to say, your voice is so nice..." I expected her to follow up with something like, "I could hardly even tell," or, "good effort!" Instead she said, "You must be a singer or an actress?"
I smiled all day long.
I am having experiences that I didn't quite expect now that I'm legal and full time. For example, I've had men ogle me during the evening. But yesterday was a bit of a surprise. We were at work in meetings all day, a usual Monday sprint planning session, when we broke for lunch. We went to a sandwich place called Rising Roll that makes some pretty nice sandwiches. Standing in line, I noticed four men who appeared to be close to my own age.
And that's when I noticed one giving me the once over. At first, I wondered if I'd been clocked, if I'd been recognized. But then I made eye contact. A smile, a small raise of his eyebrows, a slight tilt of his head, and a half nod and he immediately began talking to his friend, his eyes still on me.
I turned away blushing at that point, completely unexpectedly. I think that was a pass and then some. :)
Quote from: LizMarie on November 04, 2014, 01:48:20 AM
I am having experiences that I didn't quite expect now that I'm legal and full time. For example, I've had men ogle me during the evening. But yesterday was a bit of a surprise. We were at work in meetings all day, a usual Monday sprint planning session, when we broke for lunch. We went to a sandwich place called Rising Roll that makes some pretty nice sandwiches. Standing in line, I noticed four men who appeared to be close to my own age.
And that's when I noticed one giving me the once over. At first, I wondered if I'd been clocked, if I'd been recognized. But then I made eye contact. A smile, a small raise of his eyebrows, a slight tilt of his head, and a half nod and he immediately began talking to his friend, his eyes still on me.
I turned away blushing at that point, completely unexpectedly. I think that was a pass and then some. :)
I love reading about these victorious little events because they are really big and meaningful!
Awesome pass, thanks for sharing :)
Quote from: LizMarie on November 04, 2014, 01:48:20 AM
I am having experiences that I didn't quite expect now that I'm legal and full time. For example, I've had men ogle me during the evening. But yesterday was a bit of a surprise. We were at work in meetings all day, a usual Monday sprint planning session, when we broke for lunch. We went to a sandwich place called Rising Roll that makes some pretty nice sandwiches. Standing in line, I noticed four men who appeared to be close to my own age.
And that's when I noticed one giving me the once over. At first, I wondered if I'd been clocked, if I'd been recognized. But then I made eye contact. A smile, a small raise of his eyebrows, a slight tilt of his head, and a half nod and he immediately began talking to his friend, his eyes still on me.
I turned away blushing at that point, completely unexpectedly. I think that was a pass and then some. :)
I was at work yesterday with my coworkers, all female, and we discuss when we all got our first periods, as a 'just us gals' kind of talk, with nary a look about me, and mine-everyone went around the room, the eight of us, to say what grade it was. Since I really try to blend in, and saying I don't get them is a question I'd not explain further, I say mine came later. Which isn't wrong, its equivalent will after SRS, that's for darn sure.
It made me really happy that I've made it that far, but also really hurt inside, because well, yeah, I can't, and thus, I'm barren, and that emotional pain led to physical pain, and deep tears. My mother, always supportive, told me not to worry about the functions my body can't perform, but rather, what it can perform, in addition to what I've done to get where I am, to get to that point, plus SRS next spring. Sigh. I've never been able to get over the fact that I'm not a natal girl, nor do I think the future holds much hope there.
I'm in the situation where I was born without the ability to have my own genetic children but frankly it does not bother me much and I wasn't that disappointed when the doctors told me about my condition.
You as a person are the sum of two things, your genes and your experiences. Now consider that you share 99.9% of your genes with just about every other human on the planet and that you can pass on your experiences regardless of how closely you are related to someone.
Adoption is not only an option but possibly a way to pass on something greater than the 0.1% gene variance, it's a way to pass on your kindness, compassion and humanity.
As for not being born with XX chromosomes there really isn't anything you, me or anyone else can do about that. The world is full of things that we don't like but can't change and the only way we can go on with our lives is to accept them and make the best of our situation. Take strength from others like one of my favourite persons in the world; Lizzie Velasquez http://www.aboutlizzie.com who has had more challenges thrown at her than just about any person I know but is vibrant and full of life.
Quote from: GorJess on November 04, 2014, 09:47:43 PM
I was at work yesterday with my coworkers, all female, and we discuss when we all got our first periods, as a 'just us gals' kind of talk, with nary a look about me, and mine-everyone went around the room, the eight of us, to say what grade it was. Since I really try to blend in, and saying I don't get them is a question I'd not explain further, I say mine came later. Which isn't wrong, its equivalent will after SRS, that's for darn sure.
It made me really happy that I've made it that far, but also really hurt inside, because well, yeah, I can't, and thus, I'm barren, and that emotional pain led to physical pain, and deep tears. My mother, always supportive, told me not to worry about the functions my body can't perform, but rather, what it can perform, in addition to what I've done to get where I am, to get to that point, plus SRS next spring. Sigh. I've never been able to get over the fact that I'm not a natal girl, nor do I think the future holds much hope there.
On my way home tonight, I pass by a local pizza place and started ordering. I have a pixie hair so its a bit short and I don't normally wear extensions unless I have to and only when I am in the mood for it. I started ordering and this lady at the counter keeps calling me miss :)
Music to my ears LOL...It's been only 2 months on hormones. Here's my most recent pic - I know I look pissed LOL
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Quote from: carmenkate on November 08, 2014, 12:00:12 AM
On my way home tonight, I pass by a local pizza place and started ordering. I have a pixie hair so its a bit short and I don't normally wear extensions unless I have to and only when I am in the mood for it. I started ordering and this lady at the counter keeps calling me miss :)
Music to my ears LOL...It's been only 2 months on hormones. Here's my most recent pic - I know I look pissed LOL
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You look fantastic!
I got a ma'm and a lady this afternoon whilst doing food shopping. Eyeliner draws attention away from other areas I think!
Victory for us Rosintraya :) woohoo xo
You do look fantastic Carmenkate, and totally a "Miss".
Thanks Maryxyx..you are a doll..xo
You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"
Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof
Quote from: Jennygirl on November 10, 2014, 12:27:51 PM
You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"
Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof
Yes indeed! And did they eventually believe you?
Quote from: Jennygirl on November 10, 2014, 12:27:51 PM
You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"
Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof
Nice pass Jenny. Especially the photo requests. I'm happy to see and hear how happy you are and things are going for you! :icon_bunch: :eusa_clap:
Ally :icon_flower:
There's passing and then there is passing beyond reasonable doubt, I think you just pulled off the latter :)
Quote from: Jennygirl on November 10, 2014, 12:27:51 PM
You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"
Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof
Quote from: Jennygirl on November 10, 2014, 12:27:51 PM
You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"
Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof
Where did you go?
SRO Lounge in San Diego with the one and only MaidofOrleans :D :D :D
I went down to visit her in San Diego this weekend. We went out on Saturday night and then played airsoft all day yesterday. We were the only girls there, it was kinda hilarious. I am gonna have to go down again soon, had way too much fun.
Quote from: Jennygirl on November 10, 2014, 12:27:51 PM
Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof
This happened to me at a cis-lesbian bar (with a lesbian couple from Kentucky celebrating getting married in NY) and they still didn't believe me, they said that that had to be my brother. It took witnesses (my wife and a close friend) to convince her.
Once I was intent on working on my voice with a speech pathologist because it didn't sound right to me. I call up a local speech training lady on the phone and say "I would like to make an appointment for speech therapy; I'm trans and I'm trying to sound more feminine."
She replies "okay and what is your partner's name?"
I'm like "that has to do with...?"
She goes "your trans partner? Who you're calling for--?"
I interrupt her with a very not feminine laugh and explain that I'm the one the speech therapy would be for.
She replies "oh... honey you sounds amazing, I had no idea."
*score*
Another time I was still closeted at work, though my hair was long and had been on HRT for about 7 months. Our desks got relocated to the other side of our floor near a different team. In the process of moving my stuff to my new desk I heard one of the guys in the other team talking to his friend "hey, who's the new girl?" And his friend (annoyingly) replied "nah I looked at the seating layout. That's a guy. Look how tall he is." "No way, no guys look like that."
That guy who refused to believe I was anything other than a girl is one of my closer, if idiotic, friends at work now, post outing.
It's tough being the 6'3" amazoness I am. <3
I am attending an international symposium at Nagasaki, Japan. My low manly voice is always problematic, but some foreign people called me as 'she' even after listening my 20-minute talk in English. One of my male colleague also denoted me as 'her' in English.
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Japanese people are very kind and obedient. They seldom stare at me, but they do when I wear fishnet.
barbie~~
I get called "ma'am" by my patients often. I get picked on by the nurses sometimes, but it doesn't bother me at all since it's really a confidence booster!
Last night we had a visiting writer on campus. I've hard her visit twice in the past four years because she's near, cheap, and really good with the students. In both of her past visits (pre-transition), she and I had gone to dinner together after her reading. We are Facebook friends and reply frequently to each other's posts. After her reading and on the way to dinner, she turned to me and said, "How's _______ (my former name). I was surprised he wasn't there." It turns out that she thought I was his ex-wife who also taught in the department. I filled her in, but now I wish I would have said, "That jerk. Oh, I got rid of him."
Went through a State Trooper license checkpoint the other night with my wife in the front seat with me. The trooper walked up to the door and before I could say anything he said "How are you ladies doing tonight?". Kind of nice.
I was a speaker at a conference recently, on a women in videogames panel. Midway through I talked about being trans/intersex and how it let be see misogyny and sexism unfiltered- and the good news is there wasn't any in the studios I worked in.
Anyway, afterwards a girl I was talking to for a good half an hour walks up and says she had no idea I wasn't cis, and passed on that she had overheard a number of people in the lobby talking about it afterwards also saying they had no idea. All pleasant stories, I am told, about seeing someone proudly stand up on the subject.
So I passed to a whole conference of people for two days, even after public speaking for an hour.
I usually don't worry about passing and consider not passing my default comfort zone. And then there are those fun moments; A female friend and i were talking about why we did not have babies and I mentioned feeling a little sad about my undeveloped uterus. She's known me pre transition but gave me a tender look and said "oh dear what happened to your uterus?" We had a good laugh after that.
Quote from: Emmaline on November 13, 2014, 04:23:29 PM
I was a speaker at a conference recently, on a women in videogames panel. Midway through I talked about being trans/intersex and how it let be see misogyny and sexism unfiltered- and the good news is there wasn't any in the studios I worked in.
Anyway, afterwards a girl I was talking to for a good half an hour walks up and says she had no idea I wasn't cis, and passed on that she had overheard a number of people in the lobby talking about it afterwards also saying they had no idea. All pleasant stories, I am told, about seeing someone proudly stand up on the subject.
So I passed to a whole conference of people for two days, even after public speaking for an hour.
Yes. I think nowadays transgender people become more confident in public, as we are connected more by the internet.
barbie~~
I love the baby/uterus/labor/period discussion stories in here! Especially from medical professionals.
"Oh I don't have a uterus"
"Oh what happened?"
"You know, I had it one minute... Must have put it down somewhere when hunting for my keys in my purse... You know. Forget me head if it wasn't screwed on!"
I have to get some fishnets next time I talk in Japan, :)
But I suspect most Japanese would have a tough time clocking a westerner.
But I am Kawaii!
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Things must be looking up... Restroom story from yesterday...
Washing hands...
an older man walks into the door, looks at me and says;
"Am I in the right area?"
Me
"Yes sir, I get that on occasion"
Him
"You sure don't look like a men's to me."
I thought my store manager was going to piss his pants!
Quote from: Ali girl on November 15, 2014, 01:45:34 PM
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Things must be looking up... Restroom story from yesterday...
Washing hands...
an older man walks into the door, looks at me and says;
"Am I in the right area?"
Me
"Yes sir, I get that on occasion"
Him
"You sure don't look like a men's to me."
I thought my store manager was going to piss his pants!
I can see why the older man thought that though.
Almost all Japanese spoke to me in Japanese, except those who attended the symposium, knowing my background clearly.
Even in the street, aged Japanese approached and greeted me in Japanese, although I do not understand Japanese.
Oh. I should mention that even young westerners in the street studied me, as I was probably the tallest person there with 4 inch heels.
When returning home, the Korean flight attendants spoke to me in Japanese, too. I guess the main reason was that my fashion looked closer to Japanese rather than Korean to their eyes (Japanese women tend to wear bold, punk-style fashion items, while Korean young women wear conservatively).
At Fukuoka airport while returning:
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I am sure the two girls are Japanese, not Korean, based on their fashion.
barbie~~
Quote from: Shantel on November 15, 2014, 01:49:28 PM
I can see why the older man thought that though.
Thank you. ;)
(Blushing)
When the doctor prescribing you testosterone asks how long you've been living as male and is shocked when you say you aren't, followed by "Oh man, you know you totally could if you wanted to right? You look GOOD."
When a gentleman gets angry at another guy because he skipped ahead you in in line and says "Excuse me she was ahead if you in line!"
When you go to a public swimming pool on a busy night, wear a two peice and enjoy yourself in the spa, sauna, steamroom and change rooms without so much as a stare!
A two peice!
I freaking pass in a two peice six months in!
I LOVE transition!!!
We were at a friends house warming party last night and my wife had a little too much to drink. (The evening before her birthday.) She was talking to a guy that asked how long we had been together. She replied that we been together 19 years and married in TN nearly 17 years ago. He looked at us and was confused and asked how could we be married in TN since gay marriage isn't allowed there are anywhere in the US 17 years ago. My wife wasn't thinking and outed me (which didn't bother me in that particular crowed of mostly artists, but I later asked her not to do that ever again and she apologized profusely about it later.) Anyway she told him that I was male as the time of our marriage. He couldn't believe it and said he would have never known.
Okay, I can't resist adding one.
You know you pass when . . . .
. . . you play an online game that has only a text chat and an icon. So you identify female, but you choose a male icon and a unisex name to avoid getting hassled and hit on. And every single one of the other players starts giving you advice on the things you are doing wrong if you want people to think you're a guy.
I have absolutely no idea what the heck happened there, but yes that happened to me . . . twice . . . .
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on November 16, 2014, 11:47:10 PM
We were at a friends house warming party last night and my wife had a little too much to drink. (The evening before her birthday.) She was talking to a guy that asked how long we had been together. She replied that we been together 19 years and married in TN nearly 17 years ago. He looked at us and was confused and asked how could we be married in TN since gay marriage isn't allowed there are anywhere in the US 17 years ago. My wife wasn't thinking and outed me (which didn't bother me in that particular crowed of mostly artists, but I later asked her not to do that ever again and she apologized profusely about it later.) Anyway she told him that I was male as the time of our marriage. He couldn't believe it and said he would have never known.
TN is a kind of conservative state?
Yes. Males tend to be preoccupied with the thing between the two legs, while women see the overall appearance of a person.
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on November 17, 2014, 01:51:00 PM
TN is a kind of conservative state?
Yes. Males tend to be preoccupied with the thing between the two legs, while women see the overall appearance of a person.
barbie~~
That's one reason we don't ever want to move back there. (That is where my wife and I met.) We are going there for Thanksgiving next week. Fortunately most of her family is not religious. Some of mine there is and some are not, but we will be spending most of Thanksgiving with her family.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on November 16, 2014, 11:47:10 PM
We were at a friends house warming party last night and my wife had a little too much to drink. (The evening before her birthday.) She was talking to a guy that asked how long we had been together. She replied that we been together 19 years and married in TN nearly 17 years ago. He looked at us and was confused and asked how could we be married in TN since gay marriage isn't allowed there are anywhere in the US 17 years ago. My wife wasn't thinking and outed me (which didn't bother me in that particular crowed of mostly artists, but I later asked her not to do that ever again and she apologized profusely about it later.) Anyway she told him that I was male as the time of our marriage. He couldn't believe it and said he would have never known.
Awesome! That must have felt nice and embarrassing at the same time.
Today during lunch break at work, I walked around with my friend and we decided to go inside MAC to look at some blushes. A make up artist approached us and said "Is there anything I can do for you ladies?" (insert: this is with a pixie cut). After that we went to the drugstore across the street to look at some drug store make up and the sales associate approached me and asked, "ma'am after you are done, please pay for your item at the cosmetics section please"
MUSIC TO MY EARS!
Just want to share this with you ladies xo
Today at work one of my younger occasional weekend punters came in we've had a few conversations before, just the usual hi how are you sort of things. Today she asks if I have a charger for an iphone 5. When I told her no, her reply.
"Oh so your still a 4 girl then"
I passed the eyeball test with conversation, with a girl around my age bracket. YES ;D
I've had several compliments on my dress sense and style, although I still don't know where I got it from. I was at a social afternoon at my local church on Sunday and chatted with a group of women. At the end of the chat one of them said she liked to see a really feminine woman.
Quote from: Jennygirl on November 10, 2014, 04:28:27 PM
SRO Lounge in San Diego with the one and only MaidofOrleans :D :D :D
I went down to visit her in San Diego this weekend. We went out on Saturday night and then played airsoft all day yesterday. We were the only girls there, it was kinda hilarious. I am gonna have to go down again soon, had way too much fun.
Next time you're in San Diego visit me xD
You know you pass when you are able to walk past a group of boys in middle school without them saying anything
The woman sitting next to my wife and I at the restaurant last night assumed from our wedding rings that we were ditching our husbands for the evening. Even after plenty of references to us living together, she still didn't get that we were married to each other.
A guy tried to pick up on me at the grocery store, having a cold and not being too with it I was a bit slow on the uptake and then started sneezing and my nose started to run
Looking a bit confused, annoyed and frustrated he grumbled something that sounded rude with emphasis on the word b*tch as he walked away
Oh well...
Then one of the guys from the meat department came over saying "What a pr*ck!!! Here you go Ma'am" and gave me a couple of paper towels for my nose
Actually he asked me to help him find ham hocks, I told him he should ask one of the butchers
Quote from: V M on December 01, 2014, 09:44:57 PM
Actually he asked me to help him find ham hocks, I told him he should ask one of the butchers
Sounds like a really classy guy who probably drives a rusty panel van with his pants down.
Today while I was Christmas shopping, I went into a card store. The man behind the counter said, "You look familiar. What's your name?" I told him it was Jill and figured he had remembered me from my pre-transition days. It doesn't happen much anymore mind you, but then the guy said how I look exactly like a girl he went to school with.
Wow, I have a cisdoppelganger!
Quote from: Jill F on December 01, 2014, 09:56:11 PM
Sounds like a really classy guy who probably drives a rusty panel van with his pants down.
Ewwwwe, LOL I don't know but I was glad when he went away and appreciated the butcher's kind gesture
You lost your ID and are at the airport for your return flight.... Dumb girl.. seriously should not have gone skateboarding with your ID in your bra.... Now all you have to show them your credit card and medical insurance card....
The man at TSA tells you that you need an extra security screening and to wait while he gets an agent to do the screening. You see him look over his shoulder and call a woman TSA agent over. She doesn't appear to notice anything out of the ordinary during or act any differently after the pat down and extra security scan where you had a brief but pleasant conversation.
I thought back and realized I haven't been gendered as male since the summer. It's a good feeling.
Quote from: JustASeq on December 02, 2014, 12:57:27 AM
You lost your ID and are at the airport for your return flight.... Dumb girl.. seriously should not have gone skateboarding with your ID in your bra.... Now all you have to show them your credit card and medical insurance card....
The man at TSA tells you that you need an extra security screening and to wait while he gets an agent to do the screening. You see him look over his shoulder and call a woman TSA agent over. She doesn't appear to notice anything out of the ordinary during or act any differently after the pat down and extra security scan where you had a brief but pleasant conversation.
I once noticed that security persons in the U.S. airports tend to be blunt, while in other countries they are obedient and kind. Yes. When necessary, women pat down me.
A few years ago, a young security woman at Gimpo airport asked me to show my ID and later shouted like "He is a man!" as another security woman was trying to touch me. I was a little bit upset, and said that she should not say that way. She just apologized. I understand that she should face several hundred or thousand passengers everyday. There should be numerous erratic people, and security persons should deal with them.
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barbie~~
... when you are at a voice doctor who among other things also does voice surgeries on trans people and during the initial voice anylysis and examination the nurse keeps asking you why on earth your voice can go so low and that it is "almost in the male range at times" ;)
I had an appointment with my therapist today, and until now I had always gone in guy mode. But I figured it was time for her to meet Kate.
So I was sitting in the lobby waiting for our appointment. She came out looked around, looked right at me, said hi, and then turned around to go back to her office because she though I wasn't there yet. So I said, "wait...it's me." She said, "Oh my God! I just figured you were some lady waiting for one of the other therapists."
She was kind of giggly the first 5 minutes of our session, and had some very nice things to say.
I'm not sure that totally counts as passing...but I'll sure take it. :)
When going to a job interview as a "man" and the gate-keeper of the building says "Hello miss, can I help you?"
I think we can count that one KatieJ. It reminds me of the first time I went to the divorce mediator. I arrived a bit early, and a bit over-dressed. Then my wife arrived, took a quick look around and went to the reception desk. The mediator came out, said hello to her and called me. My wife looked round and did a double take.
I had the same thing happen at my therapist Katie; she came out; looked at me, seemed a bit confused; then did a double take and recognized me lol.... It's fun fooling the therapist.
Good one Katie and Eva.
I remember my therapist's first glimpse in the waiting room of me as Suzi. Her eyes widened in surprised. "But I told you I was going full time," I reminded her. "People say all kinds of things," she answered. Really boosted my self image. Helped me realized how strong I was for actually going through with it.
Sitting in a general waiting room for multiple medical practitioners, I was the only one in the waiting room and some female practitioner scanned the room, saw me, and came to me and asked me if I was miss so and so for her appointment. I said: Nope!
Happened three times by now with different practitioners. I guess I don't pass as a male very well... :D
The best compliment was this one:
At one time I went to a different MD, who never saw me and only knew I was a female trans with a female name. When I met her, she thought I was female, and out of interest asked me about which FTM surgeries I wanted. :icon_eek: :icon_rolleyes2: It was so weird... I told her I was MTF. :laugh:
She then told me: well, that's a big compliment then! Yeah, I guess so... :eusa_shifty:
A cis woman I had just me at a friends birthday party didn't realize I am trans when I outed myself to her. She said "I just thought you were a lesbian." I'm still kind of confused about exactly what that means....
Anyways, I responded with "Kinda a lesbian, but I like boys too." :)
Ah yes - I was also one time outing myself to a medical doctor (a voice doctor) because I was writing down that I take hormones and so she asked why and then I took a while to tell that I am transsexual. She then looked uncomfortably and finally came out with the question "in which direction?" - LOL - I was a bit flattered but also thought "do I look like a transguy??" ;)
Quote from: anjaq on December 10, 2014, 04:14:47 AM
LOL - I was a bit flattered but also thought "do I look like a transguy??" ;)
Well, that actually happened to me once, in my 1st year of HRT. Wearing leather jacket, jeans, sneakers, I overheard one woman say to her young child in a cute voice: Look, that is a girl who wants to be a boy. :icon_cute:
Safe to say, I never wore that black leather jacket, jeans and sneakers ever again. In fact, I don't even own jeans anymore. I hate them with a passion.
Ah - I would probably not even mind if someone took me for a girl that "wants to be a boy". I dont wear jeans mostly because the usual sizes dont fit me and the XXXL ones seem to be more expensive. But usually it was part of my everyday attire. I do start to like skirts on few occasions now though. But it is a very rare exception yet ;)
I started going to a new dentist about a year ago, and I had to fill out one of those forms where you list your medicines. So I listed estrogen and spiro in with everything else i'm taking.
Later on he was going over the chart with me sitting in the chair, and our conversation went something like this:
dentist: I see that you are taking estrogen?
Me: i'm transgender
dentist: (pauses...... look at me) female to male?
me: no, the other way :laugh:
He has been very understanding about it ever since.
When other woman (complete strangers) start to talk to you? ;D
Seriously, when other woman are striking up conversations with you at the most random places. Would never happen as a guy. Period.
Quote from: Eva Marie on December 11, 2014, 10:04:16 AM
dentist: I see that you are taking estrogen?
Me: i'm transgender
dentist: (pauses...... look at me) female to male?
me: no, the other way :laugh:
I wonder how one could think a transguy would take estrogen without being forced to do ;)
It is interesting though - most people think that transgender would look like their birth assigned gender with maybe some little changes in attire and makeup or such ;) - they seem to have no idea. That doc I went to - I mean I am not overly feminine but I do have some longer hair and have some other accessoires that a transguy probably would not really present - I dont get it...
Quote from: anjaq on December 12, 2014, 02:34:25 AM
I wonder how one could think a transguy would take estrogen without being forced to do ;)
It is interesting though - most people think that transgender would look like their birth assigned gender with maybe some little changes in attire and makeup or such ;) - they seem to have no idea. That doc I went to - I mean I am not overly feminine but I do have some longer hair and have some other accessoires that a transguy probably would not really present - I dont get it...
I think what he was seeing overrode his thought processes and he blurted out what he was thinking before he could correct himself. Having boobs probably helped with that. I took it as a sign that I was on the right track :)
Although I find the point of this thread kinda questionable and braggy.. I kinda am in the mood for it so here's mine... I've been going on chat roulette specifically to test my pass ability and literally every guy has said something very positive about my appearance and no one knew I was trans... I told one guy and he didn't believe me at first... Not trying to brag I'm just really happy.. Especially cause now I know when a guy looks at me in public it might not mean he's clocking me, maybe he's just checking me out? So happy about this^^
I have found myself at the impass last night. Took my three girls to a hockey game as my middle daughter plays little pens hockey in my area. Only one parent knows about me being in mid transition so I had to go in a half way male looking mode. I used the restroom and on my way out this big guy was walking in and literally stopped where I couldn't get out and was giving me strange up and down looks. When he started questioning I acted with the irritated "I get that all the time" he stated his apologies. He then said "I was looking for a chest (they were half hidden under a pens jersey and a zip hoodie)....damn life must be difficult for you looking like that"
I had a hard time not smiling from ear to ear and thanking him.
Quote from: Annabolton on December 20, 2014, 01:50:32 AM
Although I find the point of this thread kinda questionable and braggy..
I don't think it's braggy. We're celebrating our achievements and encouraging others as they get to the point of passing.
Besides Anna, not all of us are as beautiful as you are so early in transition. :)
Quote from: Annabolton on December 20, 2014, 01:50:32 AM
Although I find the point of this thread kinda questionable and braggy.. I kinda am in the mood for it so here's mine... I've been going on chat roulette specifically to test my pass ability and literally every guy has said something very positive about my appearance and no one knew I was trans... I told one guy and he didn't believe me at first... Not trying to brag I'm just really happy.. Especially cause now I know when a guy looks at me in public it might not mean he's clocking me, maybe he's just checking me out? So happy about this^^
I used to do that to in my early days when I had just started hrt and even before. It helped me build a bit of confidence. Its so reaffirming to experience being gendered correctly even if its online.
Hmm I'd have to say one of my most recent experiences was walking into victoria secret with my gf and the women working there would walk by and ask us, "do you ladies need any help" and when we went up to the register, "how are you ladies doing today". It was quite nice, I was squealing with joy on the inside.
Its hard for me to grasp that I've come so far and to be at this point in my life right now just feels so good. I still have a bunch of life problems to deal with and other things to do in my transition but right now this is the happiest I've been.
I wouldn't call it braggy. I think it feels so surprising and jubilant when you first get those passing moments. It lets you know that you really can do this even though so much negative is thrown at you. It is a good thing to share what brings you happiness as well as what brings you discord.
Sadness shared is halved, happiness shared doubled. We could all use a bit of happiness shared.
Quote from: LordKAT on December 21, 2014, 05:02:34 AM
Sadness shared is halved, happiness shared doubled. We could all use a bit of happiness shared.
Kat, that is soooo good! :)
Last night my wife and I went out to see Brian Setzer. I wasn't the only transwoman in the backstage bar area. When she passed me by, she complimented me on my purse. I thanked her and smiled, then she went on with her evening. It became evident that she had no freaking clue that I'm trans as well.
I think that might be the gold standard of passing.
I also had a house holiday party on Saturday night and met a few people for the first time, and a few that I hadn't seen in several years. Some really great things happened.
"Hi, I'm Gail."
"Umm, I'm Jill!"
"Holy sh*t!"
A woman I'd never met before told me that she'd never had known that I was trans if someone hadn't already outed me.
A friend of mine from college that I hadn't seen in many years came and announced that she was getting a divorce from another friend of mine and I suddenly became her new girlfriend with a shoulder to cry on. We are reconnecting with a very different dynamic.
LOL... I had just gotten out of the shower and wrapped my hair up in a towel yesterday when there was a knock at the door... Thinking a friend I was expecting had shown up early I grabbed another towel to wrap myself and answered the door... To my surprise it was a delivery guy with a package for me :o
He gave me a big smile and said "Well hi there :icon_eyebrow: I have a package for male name" So I asked him if he needed a signature
He said no and tried to hand me the package, realizing I couldn't really handle the package right then he looked a bit confused as to what to do
Not thinking I told him he could just kinda slide it in :eusa_doh: :icon_redface: He gave me a rather obvious bad boy smile then politely pushed the package through the doorway
I thanked him for the package and he smiled and said "Happy holidays Ma'am" and walked away
My friend showed up about 10 min.s later
I planned to get some little presents for my parents this afternoon.
Because my voice was terrible this morning and my hair was a mess and I did not feel like going through my normal routine to look half decent, I just put on my male clothes and went to a shopping center nearby.
I did not want to get cash from the ATM because they charge extra money for it and I don't want to use cash if it's not necessary. And since my credit card has my male name on it I thought I will be able to use it without problems since I'm wearing male clothes anyway.
The shopping was terrible, almost got knocked over by an impatient woman who just hit me with a shopping trolley on purpose. Really don't understand it, I'm always trying to leave as much room as I can when I'm in a crowded environment.
I didn't have a lot of choice in choosing which queue I join because of the crowd.
I got to a cashier who I know from an earlier encounter, she is always complaining about something.
I gave her my credit card, and the following conversation took place:
Cashier: "Ma'am you can't be [male first name]. You can only pay with your own card as it says here on the sticker."
Me: "But that is my card."
(She misunderstood it, she heard this is my husbands card or something.)
Cashier: "You can't use your husbands card, go to the bank and request a card for yourself for that account."
At this point I really did not want to start to prove that I am male. :)
Me: "OK then, can I get money from the ATM?"
Cashier: "Use the ATM nearby and be quick because people are waiting."
Of course the only ATM nearby was from another bank so they charged even more for cash withdrawal.
Then I dropped everything in the bag and left as quickly as I could.
Got off the train and was walking down the street in Queens. One of the gypsy cab drivers approaches me and says, "taxi, miss?" Oh boy! I was over the moon. Of course I smiled and said,"no thanks!"
All of yesterday was spent doing housework except I had to pop out and pick up the roast for the Christmas dinner tomorrow, I wasn't feeling like putting on makeup just to go to the butchers so I just showered, shaved and ran out the door.
The butcher was really nice, gave me a 30% discount but on my way home I stopped by the beer store, I finish returning in the cans/bottles I had in the car and then decided to get some beers and invite a friend over for chicken wings and beer.
I line up, waiting my turn, as I approach the cashier smiles, asks "will that be all miss", then asks me for ID (eeeek), my drivers licence has a 3y/o photo on it and was taken on a particularly bad morning, so I hand over the ID and the cashier tilts his head, one side of his mouth opens slightly, then he stands there for about 10 seconds, looks at the ID, back at me, back at the ID, over and over. Finally he hands back the ID, say's "Thank you sir", but as I'm turning around to leave he says "Don't forget your change miss".
I think I broke is fragile little mind ...
I went to see my PCP for the first time and on the new visit paperwork it asks what the reason for this visit it so I put down gender transition/hormones. The provider takes a look at the paperwork and says "so you're female to male."
I was tickled and she was surprised. I'm actually her first MtF patient.
I went to use the male bathroom and some guy yell at me from outside of the bathroom and hes like ""hey! Honey! your going to the wrong bathroom!!!!!"
Then i was walking home and i had 2 different guys catcalling me. Its really creepy but guys usually don't catcall each other so im counting those as passes!
I also had a guy offer me a ride out of nowhere which was really really creepy. He pulled up and said hey baby do you need a ride.
All of this in one night!
When you're shopping for a bra and someone comes to you asking for sizing help
Went to Bunnings yesterday to get some Acetone(It's a long story) and when I got to the checkout the guy there looked at my face and then at my chest and back at my face. Seemed confused. XD
Quote from: amber roskamp on December 27, 2014, 08:07:47 AM
Then i was walking home and i had 2 different guys catcalling me. Its really creepy but guys usually don't catcall each other so im counting those as passes!
I thought this was something that only happened in the movies. Nope...it happened to me twice last week. It's like a simultaneous feeling of awww :) ...and ewwww :(
I can't believe guys actually do this.
When all the male clients at work refer to me as sir, even though my co-workers maintain the fem pronouns, even in the same conversation. Lol
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In the check-out line at the local Dollar General store. When it was my turn to pay, I gave $ to the cashier and received my change, but forgot to pick up the bag until I had walked around 5 feet from the checkout. Went back, and the cashier (a man in his late 60's)looks at me and said, "Can we help you, Maam?" Told that I came back for my items, but cashier had already placed customer's items in with mine. Customer looks in the bag, then back at me, telling cashier, "You put her stuff in with mine!" Customer and cashier jointly take my items out of customer's bag and places them in a separate bag for me. "Merry Christmas, Ma'am" they both say to me on the way out the door.
OMG. I'm 61, pre-HRT, no makeup, out on Christmas Eve, with a barely female voice, almost too tall for a woman (at 6'1") and they're referring to me as "Ma'am" and "her". Therapist told me that I totally vibe female in spite of how I might look to me. Guess I'll believe him now.
Out with my hair clean but a mess. Person trying to sell me perfumes and aftershaves from a brand just starting here in Australia says.
"Here I'll put this on me, we don't want you smelling like a man"
She instantly made a sale with that comment
I went to the mall today with less make up with a long pixie cut and did not have any questioning look at all. Used the women's washroom a couple of times full of patrons even used the mirror to groom myself and put on some lipstick and no look was given.
I went grocery shopping after with a long line up of people and again no attention given :) the cashier even asked me "Do you need any bags ma'am?"
YAY! I was mentally patting myself at the back. I passed!
April
Having dinner in a diner last night, group of 4 early twenties guys come in and sit down at the next table but one.
One looks at me and says to his friend 'How about a bit of foreigner?'
Another replies 'She's way too old!'
A couple months ago I went with a friend to a store because I wanted to get jeans. When I went to the fitting room, I was told "oh, this is the ladies fitting room, the one for men is over there" and I would up having to go to that other dressing room to try on the clothes.
Last night I went to the same exact store, this time to buy enough pants for the work week as this coming week is my first time full time at work. I went up to the fitting room and pretty much paraded in there, was treated super nicely and able to go in without anyone questioning me or having any doubt. I was just another of the many women going in and out. ^^
When at an LGBT slowdance and a queer gentleman asks you to dance and his parter spins your companion assuming that she's the lover you speak off and that you are garden variety lipstick lesbians.
I was visting a friend recently and went to a community Christmas party with her. While there I went to the bar to get a drink and when the bartender handed it to me he said "here you go my dear".
It's so wonderful hearing all of these self-affirming stories!
Two days ago, my boyfriend and I walked into a grocery store. A couple of guys were peddling their family portrait things. So the guy asked if we had kids, I said "no" and my fiancé said "not yet." Then the guy asked if we're expecting. It tickled me!
.......... the waitress in the restaurant thinks your older brother and Sister-In-Law are your Mother and Father, and I'm their daughter.
And the mushrooms weren't off. She was quite genuine.
Still laughing.
Catherine
When You socialise and interact with strangers and it all SUDDENLY goes very well, and when You only have issues in situations when You have to show other people Your ID.
When you walk by the peep show store and they leave you alone.
Quote from: amber roskamp on December 27, 2014, 08:07:47 AM
I went to use the male bathroom and some guy yell at me from outside of the bathroom and hes like ""hey! Honey! your going to the wrong bathroom!!!!!"
Then i was walking home and i had 2 different guys catcalling me. Its really creepy but guys usually don't catcall each other so im counting those as passes!
I also had a guy offer me a ride out of nowhere which was really really creepy. He pulled up and said hey baby do you need a ride.
All of this in one night!
Better get used to this^^___^^ Amber. These kind of things happen to me every time I go out, sands the bathroom thing for I always use the ladies. Great passes tho, you should feel proud and happy over this!! :)
Best Wishes!
Ally ;)
You have full facial hair after days of not shaving prepping for electrolysis and guys still whistle when you walk by on the train platform...And they looked at your face...
Quote from: JustASeq on January 09, 2015, 02:17:13 PM
You have full facial hair after days of not shaving prepping for electrolysis and guys still whistle when you walk by on the train platform...And they looked at your face...
Or you get called miss the day before electrolysis, even dressed in more or less male garb.
Quote from: Wynternight on January 09, 2015, 03:08:46 PM
Or you get called miss the day before electrolysis, even dressed in more or less male garb.
That is about right...Tshirt, hoody, and jeans night before electrolysis ???
I was feeling down a while ago, but reading this thread made me feel so much better.
So I really feel like sharing my own little story here. Not sure if this really qualifies, as I am pre-everything and this is from a decade ago, but FWIW, here it is.
I had grown out my hair for almost a year, but it was still barely shoulder length. I was visiting my parents after a long time and was out for a walk with my father. I'm a few inches taller than him, and I was dressed in jeans and a sweatshirt. A family friend called out to us from behind, and as she approached us, I turned around and she said, "oh it's you? i was wondering who's that tall girl next to <my father's name>"! It felt nice then, but it has taken me a decade since to figure out why. :P
Hopefully I'll have a better story to share here someday. :)
Someone calls you by the wrong name and when you look perplexed they apologize because they mistook you for one of their friends daughters and goes on to say that all the women are tall in that family too :icon_chick:
I have some plastic surgery coming up and needed to get blood tests done in advance. I went to the clinic yesterday to get that done. It's an LGBT-specific clinic so the staff has always been great about pronouns and preferred names and there are always a ton of trans folk around so I'm always very comfortable there. I've always assumed that most people who see me there assume I'm trans (it often seems like most women you encounter there are) but it's a place where passing has never really been a concern because I know I'll be treated with respect either way.
The phlebotomist who was drawing my blood mentioned that she saw on my lab order that I had an upcoming surgery and I told her what it was (it's a Brazilian butt lift). She then cautioned me against having children because pregnancy will change my body after paying so much to look the way I wanted it to.
I had no idea what to say to that. Quite unexpected.
Going through security screening at Newark airport tonight having security guards smile, one commented on me being tall, then having to hand over my "old, pre everything" passport and seeing their faces go "WOAHMOAH" followed by the colour crimson creeping in from the neck up, I need a new passport.
No laser, still had a heavy beard shadow at the time and was about year and a half on hrt I think. I was at the drive-thru picking up prescriptions for my parents and the pharmacist was like, "Oh I didn't know they had another daughter"..err somethin like that anyways I was like omg.. I was fully covered up, in complete male clothes wearing a heavy leather jacket. I was pretty happy when I got home lol.
My mother with a bittersweet moment, telling me to make sure I keep my ovaries safe, and checked as necessary for any maladies, since I'm taking estrogen, as an (implied) risk increase. Took her a good minute to realize, umm, well, that sad reality. It felt good, but it's set me off in so many ways the past few days, though nobody's fault, save biology and my self-perceived hideousness. :icon_cry:
I asked where the women's bathroom was, for the girl I was with, and the woman began to freak out telling me I wasn't allowed in there and that the men's was on the other side and I had to go there. lol.
Was walking with my little daughter around mall yesterday (dressed unisex) and stopped by a couple of female consultants who wanted to sell me Avon cosmetics.
I was at a comic convention when a random older guy walked up to me, and said: "You're so sexy, and I would say that in front of your husband." I awkwardly said: "thank you", and then just kind of inched closer to my friends, and tried to get their attention so the guy knew I wasn't alone. I've had several guys not so casually mention my "husband" as if they're trying to get me to tell them I don't have one. I honestly can't tell if they genuinely think I'm female, or if they just have some kind of fetish for people like me. Either way, it's creepy.
I've had a number of men shout at me on the street, whistle at me, or make sex noises at me in parking lots. I tend to be really unsure of what they're thinking. I never had men talk to me like that before I started transitioning.
I've noticed that since I've been on hormones and dressing as a woman full time, a lot more people (both men and women) call me "sweety", "hun", etc. It seems to happen more on days when I look more passable.
If I go out to dinner with only women, there's a pretty good chance that at some point, the server will call us "ladies". On a few occasions, our server has just kept on calling me "miss", "ma'am", or "hun" all evening after that.
I tend to be kind of neurotic about strangers who act as if I'm a woman, because I don't always see it in my own reflection. I'll have days when I look in the mirror, groan, and drag myself outside because I have something I have to do, only to get hit on, cat called, or called by female pronouns. I tend to discount experiences like that as being from people who are just very trans friendly, or trying to make me feel better about my situation. Maybe someday I'll see it enough in my own reflection that I'll believe the responses are genuine.
When you're talking about transgender people with someone, and make the statement that genitals dont make you who you are...and they respond with "Where do you get that belief from? What makes you empathize with those people?" -_-
When I'm at work and checking a pt. in for half an hour, my upper lip hasn't been shaved in almost a week since tonight is electrolysis night and he still refers to me as she.
Yeah, gives me great hope.
Quote from: ShadowCharms on January 19, 2015, 04:50:00 PM
I tend to be kind of neurotic about strangers who act as if I'm a woman, because I don't always see it in my own reflection. I'll have days when I look in the mirror, groan, and drag myself outside because I have something I have to do, only to get hit on, cat called, or called by female pronouns. I tend to discount experiences like that as being from people who are just very trans friendly, or trying to make me feel better about my situation. Maybe someday I'll see it enough in my own reflection that I'll believe the responses are genuine.
We are always our own worst critic. So if you can learn to accept their compliments/acceptance as genuine (they probably are), then your confidence will grow. And I think that confidence is one of the biggest keys to passing.
I really believe that most people are in their own little cis worlds and don't assume someone is trans unless something is really off (beard shadow, low voice, etc.). It's just not on their radar. But teenage girls seem to be the exception...they have a 6th sense for clocking us.
When talking to someone at the births deaths and marriages over the phone, and having them sending me out a form. Do you go by Ms, Miss or Mrs? As I was speaking to a government agency I had to use my current title. Well actually..... I don't think I have ever heard a guy back step and apologies so fast. Thank you parents for giving me my name
Yesterday I had to go to the emergency room. I got bit breaking up a fight between my dogs and it got infected. Anyway, when the nurse came in and was checking me out she was asking the standard questions and I told her what meds I was on and she says "are you going through early menopause?"
Sometimes when I am walking to my car at night, I will see a woman walking alone. If she sees me, instead of walking away from me, she'll walk a lot closer to me until we both get to our cars.
When you stop thinking about it.
I like that reply BunnyBee. It's like when I'm taking to a few friends about my hospital visit and the aftermath and I realise one of the group doesn't know what I'm talking about and is getting more and more confused.
I don't post in this section often. If I pass I do, if not I don't care. I know I don't pass on the phone- usually. I had to call the IT help line at work about a computer issue, the log said. User XXXX reported that her outlook calendar wasn't working. Rebuilt access to server B, checked she was OK with access. Report closed.
I passed on the phone!
I pass on the phone most of the time. Enough to feel put out when I don't.
Had to call the Sheriff last night because a truck kept slow rolling along our property line last night. They came by 4 times in 15 minute intervals. A bit disconcerting when you can see for a mile in each direction with two other houses in sight from ours. So the Sheriff shows up and addresses my wife and I as ladies and keeps calling me ma'am the entire time. I had sweats and a t-shirt on. Still had makeup on and my hair was still nice from being at work. When he left my wife high fived me and said "How about that!?".
Felt pretty good. ;)
Quote from: ainsley on January 30, 2015, 10:05:59 AM
When he left my wife high fived me and said "How about that!?".
What a great wife! :)
One of the players at the casino I work at just asked me if I was related to a certain friend of his, because I look exactly like that friend's daughter. ("Spitting image.")
Considering how often I seem to criticize myself for not looking like any cis-women I ever see in terms of facial structure and body shape, that one felt good.
It's so true about tween/teen girls. I was purchasing some tights at Macy's yesterday when I saw couple of tween girls playing with one of their smart phone. That means I suspect one took a picture of me and posted it online. As I walked out I felt really self conscious, even picked up a wad of gum on one of my heels... Ugh
Then I went and got some lunch at Panera bread. While in line, I had a nice conversation with Alice. She called my hon and touched my arm like GG's do. I asked if she was on lunch break from one of the stores, to which she told me she was retired. My reply of "I truly would have never have guessed that." got a laugh. She was such a sweet lady. So I guess other than drunks and teen girls I pass pretty well. I can't wait to start HRT adventures.
-Alana
I just love this thread. seeing all the great successes is amazing. I still don't see much change but it must be happening. I have been getting ma'am a lot...
I was at a local sheetz and the girl who was working called me over (miss) to the register, there was a vacuum in the way and the other employee made the comment about it. As the female employee looked back at me I shrugged and said no big deal, she look back at the other employee and said "see, she doesn't mind."
This "passing" has not come without complication. Bathrooms at work are becoming very difficult and customers are stating that "Mike" is a weird nickname for a girl. Then I had to take my middle daughter and eldest doctor to separate appointments. The dentist told my oldest "It is nice your aunt was able to bring you..." she was like yea it is. but the frustration was my middle child. I took her to our normal pediatrician who we have used for over 13 years and it was next to hell. He kept asking me who I was and what my relation was to said child. I said "Father..." mack and jess also "defending" my parental status and he gave up. on the return appointment my poor wife got 50 questions about "that woman" and who she was, why she had the kids.... finally wifey was like "she has been transgender for years.... your just noticing?" Then he asked if our kids needed to talk to anyone ( like I am some kind of evil...) and she replied "No, the kids are fine with it... I am the only one who has had to work with acceptance."
Parents are also noticing more... Mom said she wasn't ready for a skirt or dress but she is trying... well it is progress when she has known for 4 years....
Amazing how we strive to pass yet if it comes to soon and the information doesn't match the visual... it can create havoc.
Ali
Quote from: Alana_Jane on February 01, 2015, 11:11:30 AM
It's so true about tween/teen girls. I was purchasing some tights at Macy's yesterday when I saw couple of tween girls playing with one of their smart phone. That means I suspect one took a picture of me and posted it online. As I walked out I felt really self conscious
Same thing happened to me a couple weeks ago with a couple teenage girls in target. Their trans-dar is as finely attuned as ours, but the difference is that when I clock another trans woman I think "good for her" not "I need to take a picture and put it on Instagram." It's a fine line (not really).
Was at a meetup for lesbians yesterday. Usually I get clocked right away at these things because they're on the lookout for transgirls and a 5'11" gawky girl sets off their transdar.
I was talking with 3 other women one of whom was a divorce lawyer. Others of us were talking about our divorces. One of the other women talked about divorcing her husband. Then the lawyer turned to me and asked whether my divorce from my "husband" was final.
Quote from: suzifrommd on February 02, 2015, 06:21:48 AM
Was at a meetup for lesbians yesterday. Usually I get clocked right away at these things because they're on the lookout for transgirls and a 5'11" gawky girl sets off their transdar.
I was talking with 3 other women one of whom was a divorce lawyer. Others of us were talking about our divorces. One of the other women talked about divorcing her husband. Then the lawyer turned to me and asked whether my divorce from my "husband" was final.
Yes. It's great!
barbie~~
I really can't wait until I pass enough where an officer can pull me over and use my preferred terms. LOL
I really prefer for the cops not to have to pull me over! I'm doing pretty well face to face and by now cold callers and scammers usually call me "ma'am". That was more difficult.
I had a really embarassing meeting at the weekend with our landlord and her mother. We knew our landlord for 3 years now but this was the first time when we met her mother.
I did not come out to our landlord yet so she thinks that we are a heterosexual couple with my girlfriend so I tried to be as manly as I could be for the meeting because I really did not want to come out at this time.
I introduced myself to our landlord's mother as <male_birth_name>.
After the introductions her first words were along the lines of "...oh girls eat some cake and fruit..."
It seemed that nobody noticed the "girls" part apart from me, but I knew that this meeting will be interesting.
We finished discussing the possibilities and then she asked us if my girlfriend and I are relatives. We were a little puzzled and answered no and our landlord quickly added that "How could they be relatives, they are a couple, they live together for years!"
Our landlord clearly missed the fact that her mother seen both of as girls and at that point she was a little shocked that we are a lesbian couple, but she took it alright, she didn't ask any more questions about the topic :D
And when I thought it couldn't get more exciting my girlfriend made the mistake of using my female name when talking about me. I'm quite good at hiding my emotions but I almost panicked and quickly tried to steer the conversation in an other direction so they wouldn't have time to process what they heard.
Fortunately our landlord had some other things on her mind so hopefully she missed all the strange parts of the conversation but I think she had her own strange conversation with her mother afterwards :D
I cannot go on like this forever. I'm not feeling up to coming out at work and going fulltime yet, but in situations like this I'm no longer capable of telling someone that I'm male if they think I'm female. I'm female even if my ID says otherwise at the moment.
It seems my life would be a lot easier if I just ignored all my fears and insecurities and gone fulltime already and work on my problems as I go along.
I came out to the other residents in the flats where I live. Then a little later I transitioned at my church. Then a bit later the big one - at work. It can be done but there are risks if someone from one contexts meets you in another.
I had SRS and transitioned in 1974. I never thought about "passing". I wanted to be a woman and I finally WAS one so there was no passing involved - just a statement of fact - and nobody ever batted an eyelash.
I was away from the community from 1974 until about 10 years ago and didn't give any thoughts to such things until I started reading the forums.
I was sitting in the change room at the rink one day getting ready for figure skating and thinking about "passing". When I looked up there were mothers getting their young daughters changed and teenage girls stripping down from their street clothes to get into their practice dresses and nobody was paying the least bit of attention to me. I chuckled to myself. Apparently "passing" was a non-issue LOL!
Window shopping at the Harley Davidson shop when the salesman told me that if I bought a new Sportster then I automatically got free mebership of the owners group and I could join the ladies section.
When I started going to my current school, none of the people from primary school who go there recognized me. It was awesome.
Really started noticing that strangers are more friendly than before, especially guys. Just little things like smiling, saying hi, wanting to chat...things they'd never do to another guy.
Yesterday I was chatting with a guy in a waiting room and told him I have 4 kids. His next question was, "Wow! And are you a single mom?" I've heard people say that "wow" to my wife a thousand times to show they're impressed that she gave birth four times! I've never received that admiration before. So, not only did he assume that I was their mother, he was also phishing to see if I was single. Yeah...that's a pretty good pass if you ask me.
This one was awkward :). I was taking kiddo over to my ex and there was one woman in the bus, asking for directions (she needed to know which connections to take to get to distant shopping mall) - so I helped her out, we chatted a bit and we had to leave on the same station and go for the same next one.
She complimented kiddo and told that she has four children, all grown up etc etc etc and then she asked for my name (we were having conversation in Russian, which has some relevance here) - I fething hate when people ask for my name when I am dressed very andro because I never know how they perceive me. So, I thought that my voice kinda sucks, and this andro outfit was more male-leaning anyways, so I gave her my male name (in Russian - where it does not have the distinctive male or female ending). I look at her face and it gives literally no signs, and she admits that this is very rare name and she has never met anyone with such name.
Oh well. We go to the next station and keep chatting, and she asks which kindergarten we are attending - I reply giving the location which is on the other side of the city. She comments that it must be pretty far and I reply that it's ok, because during working week kiddo stays with mother and she takes her to kindergarten. She comments that kiddo must be missing her mommy then (me - ???) - I reply that nope, she is with mother for five days in the row. She says, but You just told that she is spending that time with granny. (me - even more ?!?). So I say, nope, she is spending the working week with HER mother, not my... Lady: so, she is not Your daughter then? Me (confused) - nope, she is my daughter. Lady - even more confused - but You just said...
And then I realised...
Love it, breaking peoples preconceptions in the best possible way :)
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on March 04, 2015, 12:55:51 PM
This one was awkward :). I was taking kiddo over to my ex and there was one woman in the bus, asking for directions (she needed to know which connections to take to get to distant shopping mall) - so I helped her out, we chatted a bit and we had to leave on the same station and go for the same next one.
She complimented kiddo and told that she has four children, all grown up etc etc etc and then she asked for my name (we were having conversation in Russian, which has some relevance here) - I fething hate when people ask for my name when I am dressed very andro because I never know how they perceive me. So, I thought that my voice kinda sucks, and this andro outfit was more male-leaning anyways, so I gave her my male name (in Russian - where it does not have the distinctive male or female ending). I look at her face and it gives literally no signs, and she admits that this is very rare name and she has never met anyone with such name.
Oh well. We go to the next station and keep chatting, and she asks which kindergarten we are attending - I reply giving the location which is on the other side of the city. She comments that it must be pretty far and I reply that it's ok, because during working week kiddo stays with mother and she takes her to kindergarten. She comments that kiddo must be missing her mommy then (me - ???) - I reply that nope, she is with mother for five days in the row. She says, but You just told that she is spending that time with granny. (me - even more ?!?). So I say, nope, she is spending the working week with HER mother, not my... Lady: so, she is not Your daughter then? Me (confused) - nope, she is my daughter. Lady - even more confused - but You just said...
And then I realised...
Really! I am just trying to imagine that woman's expression and can't stop smiling. :P
Emily, how did it end btw?
Quote from: antonia on March 04, 2015, 05:40:54 PM
Love it, breaking peoples preconceptions in the best possible way :)
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on March 04, 2015, 12:55:51 PM
This one was awkward :). I was taking kiddo over to my ex and there was one woman in the bus, asking for directions (she needed to know which connections to take to get to distant shopping mall) - so I helped her out, we chatted a bit and we had to leave on the same station and go for the same next one.
She complimented kiddo and told that she has four children, all grown up etc etc etc and then she asked for my name (we were having conversation in Russian, which has some relevance here) - I fething hate when people ask for my name when I am dressed very andro because I never know how they perceive me. So, I thought that my voice kinda sucks, and this andro outfit was more male-leaning anyways, so I gave her my male name (in Russian - where it does not have the distinctive male or female ending). I look at her face and it gives literally no signs, and she admits that this is very rare name and she has never met anyone with such name.
Oh well. We go to the next station and keep chatting, and she asks which kindergarten we are attending - I reply giving the location which is on the other side of the city. She comments that it must be pretty far and I reply that it's ok, because during working week kiddo stays with mother and she takes her to kindergarten. She comments that kiddo must be missing her mommy then (me - ???) - I reply that nope, she is with mother for five days in the row. She says, but You just told that she is spending that time with granny. (me - even more ?!?). So I say, nope, she is spending the working week with HER mother, not my... Lady: so, she is not Your daughter then? Me (confused) - nope, she is my daughter. Lady - even more confused - but You just said...
And then I realised...
The guy who came to fix my BBQ grill igniter today noticed my guitars and amps and asked if my husband was someone famous.
He was pretty floored when I told him they were my guitars, but said he should have figured that out because of all the pink and yellow ones. (I actually had them since before I transitioned.)
*facepalm*
Jill - ah, those stereotypes, lol :).
Thank You antonia and cindy :). Since I was pretty much cornered, I admitted that I am her dad, which made for an awkward pause - during which I assume, she was going mentally through all possible explanations - and ended with standard ones - oh, I am so sorry (please dont, You are not the first person actually. It just.. tends to happen) - it must be Your hair then and that "You both were interacting in such a soft and tender manner".
Actually, kiddo tends to be quite rough in her expressions but yes, I am noticing that I am not really treating her like a dad (unless she really gets me and I grab her and start tickling and scrunching - sometimes she really deserves that though she loves that part as hell :) ). And I suspect, I have no idea how to treat daughter like a dad, because those examples I have seen in kindergarten... they suck, they really do. Seriously, what the hell is wrong with those guys - they barely mutter a couple of words, just issue orders and that's it. Are they really so much afraid to show some affection into their child lives or this is the damn society and its standards of masculine behaviour to blame?
Anyway, I am starting to learn those lessons and though I have not officially went full-time, today in the office I am wearing female hoodie, female jeans and Doc Marten's (well, that one is pretty considered unisex - my feet have shrunk even more and I can squeeze into EU size 40 shoes, yay!) - and I am wearing female active sportswear cycling jacket as well. So far nobody seems to give a damn about - neither at the office, on the streets or in the shopping malls.
OK, I know this is lame, because they always ask this but:
Today I went to a new dentist, with my brand new license and insurance cards. The technician was very nice, just chatting away. Then, before taking the x-rays, she stopped and asked, "Not pregnant, are we?".
I love it. :)
Amazing Emily :) Love this share xo
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on March 05, 2015, 01:04:03 AM
Jill - ah, those stereotypes, lol :).
Thank You antonia and cindy :). Since I was pretty much cornered, I admitted that I am her dad, which made for an awkward pause - during which I assume, she was going mentally through all possible explanations - and ended with standard ones - oh, I am so sorry (please dont, You are not the first person actually. It just.. tends to happen) - it must be Your hair then and that "You both were interacting in such a soft and tender manner".
Actually, kiddo tends to be quite rough in her expressions but yes, I am noticing that I am not really treating her like a dad (unless she really gets me and I grab her and start tickling and scrunching - sometimes she really deserves that though she loves that part as hell :) ). And I suspect, I have no idea how to treat daughter like a dad, because those examples I have seen in kindergarten... they suck, they really do. Seriously, what the hell is wrong with those guys - they barely mutter a couple of words, just issue orders and that's it. Are they really so much afraid to show some affection into their child lives or this is the damn society and its standards of masculine behaviour to blame?
Anyway, I am starting to learn those lessons and though I have not officially went full-time, today in the office I am wearing female hoodie, female jeans and Doc Marten's (well, that one is pretty considered unisex - my feet have shrunk even more and I can squeeze into EU size 40 shoes, yay!) - and I am wearing female active sportswear cycling jacket as well. So far nobody seems to give a damn about - neither at the office, on the streets or in the shopping malls.
I went to the drugstore today to get some lipbalm. I was asking this lady about it and what she thinks about the product. She was very friendly and explained everything in detail. I was wearing a dress shirt and slacks for work - male mode.
After the convo, she sort of yelled to the other saleslady "Do you mind cashing HER out"
I smiled and thanked her.
So, this has been about 8 months ago.
I was in male mode (button up shirts and jeans, no makeup) while attending school, and went fulltime in between semesters. There were two girls that i was friends with that were in my class from the semester before, and i had a class with them again. So, after freaking out about it for days, I texted them both that I was trans and living as a woman now.
They both seperately responded that they thought I was female from the last semester, when I thought I was in guy mode. One said she just thought I was a lesbian.
We had a good laugh.
The transwoman in front of me in the checkout line totally didn't notice, even after I smiled at her.
I was at a local big chain discount store tonight doing some shopping and a guy that was restocking the shelves made a point to ask me if I needed any help as I walked by (I think he was flirting) - "no, i'm fine, thanks!" and about two aisles over another guy that was also doing shelf stocking walked by me and made a funny comment about what he was carrying as went went by with a big smile so I smiled back and then as I was walking away I heard him ask me if I needed any help. I looked back and he had that goofy look that guys get when they are around a female that they are attracted to, so I just smiled demurely and said "thanks, i'm doing ok" and kept walking.
That makes two flirts in the span of two aisles at the store by two decent looking guys :laugh:
I do not care about passing. I frequently meet new people in business. They do know that I am biologically male. In some cases, a few of them study close by my face, and I know the difference in their eyes. I know I pass based on the stare whether they know my background or not.
barbie~~
Quote from: Eva Marie on March 10, 2015, 12:14:25 AM
... That makes two flirts in the span of two aisles at the store by two decent looking guys :laugh:
I love this!
A few days back on facebook, I came out in a group I was added to by a friend. Amid all the usual "what's trans?" and "so which one are you?", there were two comments that I'll never forget, both let me know I'm definitely passing:
From a male member of the group: "OH COME ON...I was drooling over your profile pic just now, and now I feel all awkward about it!" (that was the real tickler, he proceeded to add me and get a full explanation of what it meant to be MtF. He hasn't stopped using female pronouns ever since - he's a real doll <3 )
From a female member: "So wait...you're biologically a guy?"
Me: "Well, yes, in all technicality."
Her: "No boobs? No vagina?"
Me: "Nope and nope."
Her: "YOU'RE PRETTIER THAN I AM OMG I HATE YOU THAT IS SO MESSED UP!!!"
THAT, ladies, is how you know you pass - when a ciswoman loses her cool because she's jealous of your looks. :icon_dance:
A lady saw only the top of my head and said "will you be using credit card, ma'am?" I looked up at her and her jaw instantly dropped and she went quite for a bit and said "...oh my God, sir, I am so sorry, I wasn't looking properly."
Quote from: Eva Marie on March 10, 2015, 12:14:25 AM
I was at a local big chain discount store tonight doing some shopping and a guy that was restocking the shelves made a point to ask me if I needed any help as I walked by (I think he was flirting) - "no, i'm fine, thanks!" and about two aisles over another guy that was also doing shelf stocking walked by me and made a funny comment about what he was carrying as went went by with a big smile so I smiled back and then as I was walking away I heard him ask me if I needed any help. I looked back and he had that goofy look that guys get when they are around a female that they are attracted to, so I just smiled demurely and said "thanks, i'm doing ok" and kept walking.
That makes two flirts in the span of two aisles at the store by two decent looking guys :laugh:
I love this Eva. I hope you get just as good a reaction out of your ex when you see her next. Even to the point that she doesn't recognise you. Best of luck this weekend.
Hugs,
-Alana
I'm at the doctors to get my referral for my neuro, I tell the receptionist we have to change my details. Oh I'm down there as male also can we please change my title, she looks at me up and down.
"What how on earth did that happen?"
I haven't had the guy handing out barber shop flyers try to hand me one in a long time.
Quote from: ImagineKate on March 19, 2015, 10:35:06 AM
I haven't had the guy handing out barber shop flyers try to hand me one in a long time.
:)
Last night I ran into a woman that I had met a handful of times as a guy and had conversed with in depth several times. Apparently she didn't get the memo about me.
"Hi, I'm V."
"Hi V., Jill"
"So are you one of <wife's name>'s law partners?"
"No, I'm her wife."
"How long have you been married?"
"20 years."
*gasp*
Nice!!
I'll add my second to that, having meet you in person. I'd give you a pass any day of the week.
-Alana
Not sure I would count this as "passing" as cis, but its a pretty funny story I thought. When I went to the registry to hand in my name change application, I saw this girl working at the counter who was pretty good friends with my wife and we had talked several times since we always went to her anytime we needed something at the registry since she let us jump the queue and see her right away. So I did the same and went right up to her at the counter and said hi and put my name change application on the counter. She seemed to look at me like I was familiar but wasn't sure who I was. So I asked her "you have no idea who I am, do you?" She tried to come up with something, "I helped you before with a name change application, right?" "Ummm, nope" I replied with a little laugh. "I'm married to ≤wife's name>". I have never seen someone's eyes open so wide and jaw drop like that ever before. Maybe not a pass, but definitely don't look anything like I did before.
Yesterday my Dad had to go to the emergency room for issues related to his prostate cancer. My wife and I went over there on our lunch hour to see him and support my mother. My father comes over for coffee this AM and tells me that when he was there he told the Dr. I was coming to see him. The Dr. looked in the waiting room and then tells my Dad, "No, it looks like a couple of your daughters are here." Ha! So, I: 1) passed to the Dr. and 2) Foiled my Dad who obviously told the Dr. his son was coming over. (He still has trouble saying his daughter to people, even though he uses female pronouns in my presence and uses my new legal name exclusively.)
Quote from: ainsley on April 01, 2015, 09:07:09 AM
Yesterday my Dad had to go to the emergency room for issues related to his prostate cancer. My wife and I went over there on our lunch hour to see him and support my mother. My father comes over for coffee this AM and tells me that when he was there he told the Dr. I was coming to see him. The Dr. looked in the waiting room and then tells my Dad, "No, it looks like a couple of your daughters are here." Ha! So, I: 1) passed to the Dr. and 2) Foiled my Dad who obviously told the Dr. his son was coming over. (He still has trouble saying his daughter to people, even though he uses female pronouns in my presence and uses my new legal name exclusively.)
Third person veracity and justice ;D
When you are at a transgender conference and people think you are a significant other, should have just gone with it ::)
When you go to pick up your first hormone prescription and the pharmacists think they're for "a guy." My old name was on them (The changing process is taking forever) and they were asking me all these questions about "him" and if he was male.. lol!
After being in Florida and passing in a one piece swimsuit with no makeup and beach wind hair my confidence has been very good for my confidence. So we took a detour to East TN to take my Father In Law home so he could take care of a few things. So today we went out to eat at a local restaurant in a very small town with my sister-in-law and her husband. I'm allergic to tomatoes and when I placed my order for a roast beef sandwich I told them to leave off the tomatoes due to my allergy. When the order came in, it had tomatoes on it. I told her I ordered it without tomatoes and the waitress said she would take them off and then my sister-in-law mis-gendered me really bad when she said: "He is allergic to tomatoes and taking it off will not work. He will break out in really bad and it will make him sick to his stomach." The waitress responds: "Who are you talking about? The sandwich is for her!" pointing towards me. My sister-in-law realized the really bad mistake she made and covered herself by saying the her husband (pointing to him who was right next to her) is also allergic to tomatoes (he's not) and that she was confused.
Quote from: Damara on April 02, 2015, 08:04:59 PM
When you go to pick up your first hormone prescription and the pharmacists think they're for "a guy." My old name was on them (The changing process is taking forever) and they were asking me all these questions about "him" and if he was male.. lol!
Nice one :). I went to post office last week to pick up a parcel (I only had the reference No. which they sent me via SMS, not the full summons), so I gave the office lady that ref.No. to look up, without looking at my ID, she logged into database and immediately said that I cannot pick it up because it is for "my male name" :D.
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on April 09, 2015, 02:12:21 AM
Nice one :). I went to post office last week to pick up a parcel (I only had the reference No. which they sent me via SMS, not the full summons), so I gave the office lady that ref.No. to look up, without looking at my ID, she logged into database and immediately said that I cannot pick it up because it is for "my male name" :D.
Yes. We are living a boundary area between men's and women's. Sometimes it is convenient, causing minor problems. Otherwise, we can enjoy it.
So, how could you get your parcel eventually, Emily?
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on April 09, 2015, 04:51:25 AM
Yes. We are living a boundary area between men's and women's. Sometimes it is convenient, causing minor problems. Otherwise, we can enjoy it.
So, how could you get your parcel eventually, Emily?
barbie~~
Well, I would not be me if I left Post Office
without it :D. I politely asked where exactly is the problem and took out my ID. She did not even look at ID or went through that annoying picture comparison mode (I have that one usually happening in banks, when at first they are nice to You ---> then they get to see the ID --> kind of look of disbelief on their face / polite smile from my part ---> their eyes keep going back and forth from my face to picture until they reach some kind of internal decision). So, I guess she decided that either I was him or he sent me (together with his ID) to pick it up :D.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on April 09, 2015, 01:55:20 AM
After being in Florida and passing in a one piece swimsuit with no makeup and beach wind hair my confidence has been very good for my confidence. So we took a detour to East TN to take my Father In Law home so he could take care of a few things. So today we went out to eat at a local restaurant in a very small town with my sister-in-law and her husband. I'm allergic to tomatoes and when I placed my order for a roast beef sandwich I told them to leave off the tomatoes due to my allergy. When the order came in, it had tomatoes on it. I told her I ordered it without tomatoes and the waitress said she would take them off and then my sister-in-law mis-gendered me really bad when she said: "He is allergic to tomatoes and taking it off will not work. He will break out in really bad and it will make hime sick to his stomach." The waitress responds: "Who are you talking about? The sandwich is for her!" pointing towards me. My sister-in-law realized the really bad mistake she made and covered herself by saying the her husband (pointing to him who was right next to her) is also allergic to tomatoes (he's not) and that she was confused.
That is awesome. Passed and a third party handled a family misgendering for you. Solid experience!
Quote from: ainsley on April 09, 2015, 08:34:02 AM
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on April 09, 2015, 01:55:20 AM
After being in Florida and passing in a one piece swimsuit with no makeup and beach wind hair my confidence has been very good for my confidence. So we took a detour to East TN to take my Father In Law home so he could take care of a few things. So today we went out to eat at a local restaurant in a very small town with my sister-in-law and her husband. I'm allergic to tomatoes and when I placed my order for a roast beef sandwich I told them to leave off the tomatoes due to my allergy. When the order came in, it had tomatoes on it. I told her I ordered it without tomatoes and the waitress said she would take them off and then my sister-in-law mis-gendered me really bad when she said: "He is allergic to tomatoes and taking it off will not work. He will break out in really bad and it will make hime sick to his stomach." The waitress responds: "Who are you talking about? The sandwich is for her!" pointing towards me. My sister-in-law realized the really bad mistake she made and covered herself by saying the her husband (pointing to him who was right next to her) is also allergic to tomatoes (he's not) and that she was confused.
That is awesome. Passed and a third party handled a family misgendering for you. Solid experience!
I agree. Sydney, I hope that she stops misgendering you after this incident.
Quote from: cindy16 on April 09, 2015, 12:22:43 PM
That is awesome. Passed and a third party handled a family misgendering for you. Solid experience!
I agree. Sydney, I hope that she stops misgendering you after this incident.
She felt really bad about it and I accepted her apology, but I also explained that it could have caused a dangerous situation in a small town in TN. Hopefully she will be better about it. She hasn't messed up my name in a long time and she tries to gender me correctly so I know it wasn't on purpose.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on April 09, 2015, 01:13:41 PM
She felt really bad about it and I accepted her apology, but I also explained that it could have caused a dangerous situation in a small town in TN. Hopefully she will be better about it. She hasn't messed up my name in a long time and she tries to gender me correctly so I know it wasn't on purpose.
Oh, that's nice
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on April 09, 2015, 07:56:16 AM
Well, I would not be me if I left Post Office without it :D. I politely asked where exactly is the problem and took out my ID. She did not even look at ID or went through that annoying picture comparison mode (I have that one usually happening in banks, when at first they are nice to You ---> then they get to see the ID --> kind of look of disbelief on their face / polite smile from my part ---> their eyes keep going back and forth from my face to picture until they reach some kind of internal decision). So, I guess she decided that either I was him or he sent me (together with his ID) to pick it up :D.
I frequently show my ID in airport or government department. Nobody has yet shown any surprising reaction yet. It was the same in international airports in foreign countries. Probably, the main reason is that I already have very long hair in my ID photo. They can easily know my sexual identity based on my first name. I even suspect whether they indeed look carefully the ID, as they should deal with so many passengers or visitors every day.
One of my ID photos (driver licence):
(https://farm4.staticflickr.com/3936/15429854092_3c023902fd_b.jpg)
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on April 09, 2015, 03:42:19 PM
I frequently show my ID in airport or government department. Nobody has yet shown any surprising reaction yet. It was the same in international airports in foreign countries. Probably, the main reason is that I already have very long hair in my ID photo. They can easily know my sexual identity based on my first name. I even suspect whether they indeed look carefully the ID, as they should deal with so many passengers or visitors every day.
One of my ID photos (driver licence):
(https://farm4.staticflickr.com/3936/15429854092_3c023902fd_b.jpg)
barbie~~
My trouble is that here all names and surnames are gendered - the actual gender marker is on the other side and I have never seen anyone flipping over ID to check it - it is enough to look at someone's name/surname to learn that person's gender. I was very very lucky that I updated my ID/passport last September due to expiry of the previous one - the picture of course is 7 months old, but people can identify that the person is me. But indeed, photos probably are the last part of documentation that those people are looking at - shortly after I updated my ID, I went to elections and was asked whether by an accident I brought my husband's passport... obviously, what they perceived did not match the name and only after I assured them that it was indeed me, they started to examine the photo for similarities. Sometimes it can be fun, but sometimes it gets annoying...
I had a good one this morning. I had just rolled out of bed and was in the process of making coffess when there was a knock at the door. My wife was giving away our old printer/fax and I had no idea that someone was coming for it. I was wearing what I'd slept in, my hair was a mess and I was wearing zero makeup.
I opened the door.
Me: "Yes?"
Her: "Hi, <wife's name>. I'm here to pick up your printer."
Now THAT'S a pass!
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on April 09, 2015, 01:55:20 AM
After being in Florida and passing in a one piece swimsuit with no makeup and beach wind hair my confidence has been very good for my confidence. So we took a detour to East TN to take my Father In Law home so he could take care of a few things. So today we went out to eat at a local restaurant in a very small town with my sister-in-law and her husband. I'm allergic to tomatoes and when I placed my order for a roast beef sandwich I told them to leave off the tomatoes due to my allergy. When the order came in, it had tomatoes on it. I told her I ordered it without tomatoes and the waitress said she would take them off and then my sister-in-law mis-gendered me really bad when she said: "He is allergic to tomatoes and taking it off will not work. He will break out in really bad and it will make him sick to his stomach." The waitress responds: "Who are you talking about? The sandwich is for her!" pointing towards me. My sister-in-law realized the really bad mistake she made and covered herself by saying the her husband (pointing to him who was right next to her) is also allergic to tomatoes (he's not) and that she was confused.
Ha ha ha that is really great, a real pass if I ever heard of it!
I had no idea you were allergic to tomatoes either. I had no idea anyone was allergic to them, actually.
I ran into a classmate that I kind of half knew five years ago, she was working at the post office and I had to show her my ID. She sees my unique last name and goes "hey, I knew a *last name*! Are you related to a *birthname*?" I said "yeah I know her" and she goes "so did she ever have that transgender operation?"
I said "I dont know, she moved" lol
You know you pass when you're sitting in the waiting room at your therapist's office, the story about Aaron Hernandez getting sentenced to life in prison comes on the radio, and the woman sitting next to you goes on a lengthy rant to you about how she hates men, and about how 90% of all news stories are basically "some stupid man did something to hurt someone else."
Methinks I'm officially a member of the girl club, although her blatant misandry made me feel a little disgusted. :P
I haven't checked, but that 90% estimate might be correct.
If it's also correct that 50% of women are sexually assaulted - welcome to the grim reality of life as a woman. In my case only in quite minor ways, and even if they technically count as passes I don't want to count them.
Been counting nine to date
Lived in a wimans shelter for 7 months
And with shared rooms.
Asked by ambulance driver if I was pregnant or something
Men are in shock after spending half an hour with me snd I .
Say " surprise? "
Was buying some lunch only wearing a t-shirt, jeans, ankle boots(tops were covered by jean legs) and a zipped up hoody and when the guy handed me my food he said "Here you go love" and when he handed me my fork he said "There you go love" and this was straight after my second voice therapy session and I instinctively raised my voice pitch a little but barely noticeable. That added to my good mood.
Quote from: natashaX on April 17, 2015, 05:16:38 PM
Been counting nine to date
Lived in a wimans shelter for 7 months
And with shared rooms.
Asked by ambulance driver if I was pregnant or something
Men are in shock after spending half an hour with me snd I .
Say " surprise? "
Be careful with that last one. I don't want to see u get hurt or worse.
After my first attempt at the pole dance in a nightclub (yes at my age) I was briefly chatted up by a lesbian. I'm definitely counting this one!
I had a fun one yesterday.
I've lived near Universal Studios since 1998 but haven't taken the tour since 1997, (and oddly enough in 1979, so apparently I do this once every 18 years) so my wife took us on the VIP tour for my birthday. During a break, the tour guide casually asked me what I did for a living, to which I replied, "Housewife." Then he asked me how many kids I have!
You know you can pass when you are able to hold a conversation with a bunch of gay men and queens and they don't know tea.
You cannot pass to millimeter wave airport scanner... They have installed those buggers in Frankfurt Airport now - apparently I am going to trigger them every time :D. On the other side, female security officer was genuinely surprised when I softly told her not to be surprised about certain parts. "You are what? (keeps patting down) Oh... So... are You male or female?" In overall, it ended very friendly and she was willing to learn, but I am really not looking forwards to have the exact same experience every time I need to pass through FraPort...
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on May 11, 2015, 02:09:02 PM
You cannot pass to millimeter wave airport scanner... They have installed those buggers in Frankfurt Airport now - apparently I am going to trigger them every time :D. On the other side, female security officer was genuinely surprised when I softly told her not to be surprised about certain parts. "You are what? (keeps patting down) Oh... So... are You male or female?" In overall, it ended very friendly and she was willing to learn, but I am really not looking forwards to have the exact same experience every time I need to pass through FraPort...
What?
I claim that it is a serious violation of privacy and human right!
barbie~~
This wasn't quite a pass, but I felt pretty encouraged. I met a woman at my trans support group a couple nights ago. We talked quite a while and at one point she asked if I was stealth at work. I know we all have different definitions for passing and stealth. But...stealth? Me? Well...for starters I'm not even out at work, and I'm still very early in transition.
It's one thing to get the patronizing "yeah sweetie, you pass just fine (wink wink)", but being asked if you're stealth by another transwoman felt like a real compliment. I still doubt that I really even pass in social situations, but maybe I'm farther along than I realize.
Quote from: barbie on May 11, 2015, 11:30:52 PM
What?
I claim that it is a serious violation of privacy and human right!
barbie~~
There are no human rights in the "post 9/11" era as long as airtravel security is involved :). Previously, they had less sophisticated detectors, which triggered only if You had extra amount of metal/plastic on Your body (I have one top with metal buttons which sets the alarm off every time :D), but then FraPort got seriously criticised by gaps in security - private contractors while acting undercover were able to smuggle in pretty much everything they wanted and when FraPort was confronted with the unpleasant results, they immediately replaced detector frames with full body scanners. Now, it seems if You pass as female to the operator, the scanner will operate in "female mode" and if pre-op, then scanner will pick up stuff which is not supposed to be there. I guess that knowing German approach to things they will eventually introduce some guidelines and staff training when dealing with transgender passengers.
IIRC, TSA were the first ones to face this issue - if You would google "full body scanner", "milimeter wave scanner" and "transgender", there are many articles on the web which discuss the issues when travelling while being outside of the binary system (and even pre-op MtFs and FtMs would be considered outside of binary here due to anatomical discrepancies).
Quote from: katiej on May 12, 2015, 12:13:05 AM
It's one thing to get the patronizing "yeah sweetie, you pass just fine (wink wink)", but being asked if you're stealth by another transwoman felt like a real compliment. I still doubt that I really even pass in social situations, but maybe I'm farther along than I realize.
Nice one katie :). And You actually might pass in social situations too, You are just not aware of that yet - it is difficult to be impartial and fully objective here, because how we see ourselves and how others see us is totally different (I still dont get why, but it is so). I started to pass in social situations when I was not even aware of that and sometimes did not know how to respond or even cornered myself into awkward situations. Now, I am trying to presume that I would pass in every social situation when ID is not involved and it goes along pretty well. And even then, last weekend I woke early (after past-midnight flight back home), took a quick shower, put on jeans and hoodie and took a brisk walk to post office (I never try to pass there cause people get confused when looking at me and name on my ID) - yet, despite all those efforts, I got my first ever catcall by four beer-sipping idiots (I really hated that stuff).
Not sure if this was a pass or not...
I was talking to a younger gal at my apt.s who was wearing an AC/DC tee-shirt and commented on it
She replied "Yeah it was kinda cold this morning and this is the only long sleeved tee-shirt I have that doesn't have a bunch of skulls all over it and I can't walk around here with a bunch of skulls all on my tee-shirt"
I said it wouldn't bother me any and she replied "Yeah well, some of the other women might feel a bit bothered, especially the older ones"
I just agreed, chatted a bit longer then went on my way
I think a really good pass I had this past weekend was being told "Happy Mothers Day" and today someone commented today that if I had a tall husband they wonder how tall my kids would be then asked if I had any kids.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on May 12, 2015, 09:35:43 PM
I think a really good pass I had this past weekend was being told "Happy Mothers Day" .
Yes, but this one leaves some strange aftertaste though.
Today my BFF and I went to a ladies expo that was being held at the local convention center. It was a pretty big deal with hundreds of women there. At the same time in the same convention center there were two other major events being held - a Spanish language book fair and some kind of event held by Ru Paul.
At the end of the convention my BFF was talking to a lady that wasn't a vendor but had shown up and was selling perfumed oils. Security came by and told us we had to go because they were closing, so we all relocated outside the event at a table to continue our conversation. Shortly after an older gentleman came by and joined us because he was also looking for perfumed oils and had noticed them on our table.
So were were sitting there having ordinary girl talk about this and that and then some cross dressers from the Ru Paul event that were dressed outlandishly walked by. My BFF and I knew the score but the other people didn't and we had to clue them in as to who they were.
The other people began saying stuff to the effect that a man would never pass as a female due to "x", "y", and "z" (what they actually said is not important). My BFF and I just looked at each other (she knows my story) and both of us were finding it hard to keep a straight face. As they kept talking both me and my BFF made gentle, polite corrections to the rather uninformed (but not hateful) things that they were saying. The temptation was there to out myself and stop the conversation cold, but I was tired and I really didn't feel like outing myself to them to make a point so I didn't. Doing so would have been delicious though >:-)
We finished talking and left. The other people never caught onto the fact that a trans woman was sitting at their very table :laugh:
Quote from: Eva Marie on May 16, 2015, 11:07:51 PM
We finished talking and left. The other people never caught onto the fact that a trans woman was sitting at their very table :laugh:
That isn't a pass. That's a mega pass! Well done!! :)
That's great Eva, you've changed so much in the past couple of years.
Something happened to me yesterday. As the power adapter to our old computer failed, I went to Best Buy, and purchased a new replacement. The sales clerk asked for my credit card and ID, which I gave him. He looked at it as asked... "Is Jxxxx in the store?" I politely replied, "I'm him" He promptly apologized. I understand because Best Buy and Walmart are both popular places for CC identity thieves to rack up a lot of money in easily untraceable items. But I'll take this pass. ;D
-Alana
This is my first post in this thread (yay!) - I've had two encouraging incidents this week, of which one was quite hilarious.
First, on Sunday, when visiting friends, I was gendered correctly by their 4-5 years old children, consistently all night. They had not "prepared" them or anything, so I apparently passed in the eyes of a young child.
Then, today, I had a mani- and pedicure done, and while the beautician did my hands, we chatted a lot, so I presumed she had clocked me (I'm quite dysphoric about my voice, despite having improved a bit over the last few months), and as we spoke about my hands being dry, I told her that it's kind of ironic that my hands were softer before I started taking hormones.
She then asked me what I was taking hormones for, and when I told her that it's because I need antiandrogens and estrogen, she looked as if she had seen a ghost, and spent a good ten seconds before recomposing herself, and continued as normal (impressingly, she didn't change attitude towards me at all as soon as she had processed what just happened). I asked her a bit later whether she actually had not clocked me, and she said that no, it didn't occur to her at all.
So yay, I apparently pass now, not just from a distance, but while speaking to someone who is manicuring me. I feel wonderful and a bit scared at the same time, but mainly just wonderful. Scared because I now have to keep in mind that people can react negatively if they clock me after a while, wonderful because it's just wonderful.
Well done Rina! Now you have to decide if you are going to go Stealth.
At work yesterday I went into the lobby to call a patient. There was a burly, shaved head, leather wearing biker standing at the check-in desk who looked over at me and said, "Not me." I came back out a few minutes later and called my patient again and the biker was walking by the door I came out of and stopped to chat about how nice the day was and how he loved being able to get out and ride. We talked maybe five minutes and then he touched my shoulder and said, "Have a nice day, darling."
I'm very dysphoric about my voice but I have had a lot of patients refer to me as "miss" or "her" even after I check them in. ???
Earlier yesterday I was checking someone in and going through the intake questions which, for new patients there can be a lot of, so I was doing a lot of talking. Out of the corner of my eye I would see "The Look." The "what are you" look. He decided to be discrete (which some haven't) and asked me, "I'm sorry, I didn't catch your name (I hadn't given it as I was a wee bit rushed).
I'm getting "The Look" pretty much every time I step into a public restroom. I got it hard today when I went out to lunch.
Quote from: MaryXYX on May 21, 2015, 06:19:01 PM
Well done Rina! Now you have to decide if you are going to go Stealth.
Thanks! I'm not really planning on stealth, as I would become a nerve wreck trying to hide my history. I also would have to cut off awesome, supportive friends and family to live in stealth. However, when I'm finished with my degree, I do see myself being sort-of-stealth at work. But not in an active way, more in a passive "I don't have a duty to out myself" way.
That's more what I meant. If I'm on the bus or shopping or visiting a church other than my own I'm just one of the older women. The trouble is that most of the places I go it becomes relevant, or people already know me. So often I'm just too much of an activist to keep quiet.
Yeah, me too. I planned on keeping my new Facebook profile "stealth" after I changed my name, but I already find myself sharing activism-related articles and thoughts quite often. It's quite interesting how, once I had announced the name change, the prospect of being out seemed so much less scary that "online stealth" didn't make much sense to me anymore. Obviously, the fact that transition takes up so much space in my mind makes it difficult not to "leak" at times, too!
I'm going to throw a wobbler.
I had lunch in a department store restaurant and I got "love" or "dear".
I had an eye makeover on a cosmetics boutique and the sales woman was very helpful and friendly and called me ma'am.
I bought some jewelry and had similarly friendly treatment.
No way was I passing with part of my chin red from electrolysis and the rest with two day's worth of stubble. This is just a city where a trans woman is a woman.
Quote from: MaryXYX on May 22, 2015, 10:48:03 AM
I'm going to throw a wobbler.
I had lunch in a department store restaurant and I got "love" or "dear".
I had an eye makeover on a cosmetics boutique and the sales woman was very helpful and friendly and called me ma'am.
I bought some jewelry and had similarly friendly treatment.
No way was I passing with part of my chin red from electrolysis and the rest with two day's worth of stubble. This is just a city where a trans woman is a woman.
That is all that I ask for, is just to be treated well by others, and passing is just icing on the cake. I have reached a place in my transition where I am comfortable in my skin, so I don't focus on myself as much as I used to, which allows me to relax, and just be.
::) EXCELLENT yes you're right.And that's so much fun
Cat
Quote from: StrykerXIII on March 11, 2015, 12:33:45 PM
A few days back on facebook, I came out in a group I was added to by a friend. Amid all the usual "what's trans?" and "so which one are you?", there were two comments that I'll never forget, both let me know I'm definitely passing:
From a male member of the group: "OH COME ON...I was drooling over your profile pic just now, and now I feel all awkward about it!" (that was the real tickler, he proceeded to add me and get a full explanation of what it meant to be MtF. He hasn't stopped using female pronouns ever since - he's a real doll <3 )
From a female member: "So wait...you're biologically a guy?"
Me: "Well, yes, in all technicality."
Her: "No boobs? No vagina?"
Me: "Nope and nope."
Her: "YOU'RE PRETTIER THAN I AM OMG I HATE YOU THAT IS SO MESSED UP!!!"
THAT, ladies, is how you know you pass - when a ciswoman loses her cool because she's jealous of your looks. :icon_dance:
Today was the memorial service for my mother-in-law who passed away in February being held in TN. Most of my wife's family had already seen me after I transitioned with mostly positive support. One of my wife's friends has a 7 year old daughter that has seen my twice since I transitioned but she never asked about my change even though she saw me a month prior to transitioning so we just let it go and she has just called me Ms Sydney. So tonight she asks if I was my wife's cousin because she thought we looked alike but I was much taller. Her mother wasn't sure what to say, so the subject got changed. So then she asks my wife, "What happened to your husband?" We weren't sure what to say, so we told her it was complicated and changed the subject. She then says "Don't change the subject mom, where did he go?" My wife and I are cracking up and we just said it was complicated. She runs into the other room thinking we were talking about adult things. So I tell her mother, tell her whatever your comfortable with. She apologized in that she hadn't thought of it, but she wanted to raise her child open minded. She calls her daughter back in. Here is how the conversation went:
7 Year Old's Mother: "Come over here so we can tell you what happened to her (my wife) husband."
Wife: "Sydney used to be my husband, but is now my wife!"
7 Year Old: "What are you talking about?"
Me: "I used to be her husband!"
7 Year Old: "No, your kidding me, that's not true."
Wife and 7 Year Old's Mother: "Yes, it's true, she used to be him."
7 Year Old: "I don't believe you, your teasing me."
Me: "Yes, it's true, I used to be him."
7 Year Old: "Wait, but your a girl!!"
Me (after being told it was OK to explain it from her mom): "I was born with a female brain and a male body, it's very rare, but it does happen. I decided to change my body to match my brain to be my true self, but yes I'm a girl."
7 Year Old: "Oh, that makes sense now. I wondered why you were always around her. (pointing to my wife.) I though maybe her husband was was hiding upstairs this whole time."
Me: "Do you have any questions about it?"
7 Year Old: "I like you much better as a girl and your very pretty. I want to be tall like you when I grow up."
Me: "Thank you, I like myself as a girl better too and being tall is pretty cool."
Of course she continued to gender me female the rest of the evening.
On a road trip and 2 days unshaven, you get walked by an employee to the hidden restrooms... Then as you walk through the double doors, he tells you "Ladies room is all the way at the end of this yellow line." I still don't get how I am getting gendered appropriately under circumstances like that.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on May 28, 2015, 01:06:55 AM
Of course she continued to gender me female the rest of the evening.
Sydney that's awesome!
Quote from: JustASeq on May 28, 2015, 01:30:57 PM
On a road trip and 2 days unshaven, you get walked by an employee to the hidden restrooms... Then as you walk through the double doors, he tells you "Ladies room is all the way at the end of this yellow line." I still don't get how I am getting gendered appropriately under circumstances like that.
JustASeq, from what you said and looking at your picture, I would say your at total male fail! Congratulations! Go girl!
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on May 28, 2015, 01:06:55 AM
Today was the memorial service for my mother-in-law who passed away in February being held in TN. Most of my wife's family had already seen me after I transitioned with mostly positive support. One of my wife's friends has a 7 year old daughter that has seen my twice since I transitioned but she never asked about my change even though she saw me a month prior to transitioning so we just let it go and she has just called me Ms Sydney. So tonight she asks if I was my wife's cousin because she thought we looked alike but I was much taller. Her mother wasn't sure what to say, so the subject got changed. So then she asks my wife, "What happened to your husband?" We weren't sure what to say, so we told her it was complicated and changed the subject. She then says "Don't change the subject mom, where did he go?" My wife and I are cracking up and we just said it was complicated. She runs into the other room thinking we were talking about adult things. So I tell her mother, tell her whatever your comfortable with. She apologized in that she hadn't thought of it, but she wanted to raise her child open minded. She calls her daughter back in. Here is how the conversation went:
7 Year Old's Mother: "Come over here so we can tell you what happened to her (my wife) husband."
Wife: "Sydney used to be my husband, but is now my wife!"
7 Year Old: "What are you talking about?"
Me: "I used to be her husband!"
7 Year Old: "No, your kidding me, that's not true."
Wife and 7 Year Old's Mother: "Yes, it's true, she used to be him."
7 Year Old: "I don't believe you, your teasing me."
Me: "Yes, it's true, I used to be him."
7 Year Old: "Wait, but your a girl!!"
Me (after being told it was OK to explain it from her mom): "I was born with a female brain and a male body, it's very rare, but it does happen. I decided to change my body to match my brain to be my true self, but yes I'm a girl."
7 Year Old: "Oh, that makes sense now. I wondered why you were always around her. (pointing to my wife.) I though maybe her husband was was hiding upstairs this whole time."
Me: "Do you have any questions about it?"
7 Year Old: "I like you much better as a girl and your very pretty. I want to be tall like you when I grow up."
Me: "Thank you, I like myself as a girl better too and being tall is pretty cool."
Of course she continued to gender me female the rest of the evening.
This is way too cute!
When You are wearing zero makeup, jeans, top and denim shirt with rolled up sleaves and gumshoes (pretty much my avi), casually walking into cosmetics store, having a chat with saleslady and being gendered female, despite everything of the above-mentioned...
When you're at your nephew's birthday party, and one of the mothers asks if the relationship between you and your sister is sisters. After you reply yes she introduces you to her family as your nephew's aunty
When I saw someone who I hadn't seen in years in the store. He hadn't seen me since before I grew my hair, and that was 2 years before transitioning.
I was trying to get something on the top shelf at the store. He was getting the same item and asked how many I wanted. I said 2. He grabs them and says, "Here you go ma'am."
I said, "Thanks Pat." He stopped and stared a moment in total confusion. "My name's Tiffanie." I smiled.
"Oh." He grabbed his cart an walked away
I went to a wedding this weekend, and my aunt's ex's brother suddenly started to fear he had missed the fact that my mom and dad had three children, because he could not remember seeing me with them. Then, when my aunt started explaining that I had transitioned, he asked her why I wasn't there. Not until she pointed me out did he realize I'm trans, and that I'm the same person he had met in a male presentation on earlier occasions. We had a very nice talk later in the evening, and he was very accepting.
Later, I learned that my grandma had, days before, explained to a friend that I had transitioned (I am not sure if this person had met me before, as I didn't catch who it was), and that I would be at the wedding. After several hours, she asked my grandma if I had decided not to come after all, since she had not been able to identify me. She was quite surprised when my grandma pointed me out, since she had not noticed anything different about me at all.
In general, I had quite a nice time. I had been worried about negative attention from people who didn't (or barely) know me, but since people didn't notice anything different, there was no problem at all.
So there a neighbor kid who will ask if he can do some weeding in my yard every now and then, he has only seen me in boy mode up until this weekend.
The neighbor kid saw me and even talked to me while I was in girl mode. He asked me if I lived in the house I live in. I kinda freaked out because I never run into people who know me as a guy while I'm in girl mode. So I said no and walked away. Well a couple days later he comes over hoping to do some chores for a few bucks and he sees me in guy mode again, and asked me if I had a twin sister. I told him no that was me. He said wow I really thought you had a twin sister.
it was an awkward experience I went on to explain what being trans means, but he didn't really understand.
Quote from: amber roskamp on June 03, 2015, 05:44:51 AM
So there a neighbor kid who will ask if he can do some weeding in my yard every now and then, he has only seen me in boy mode up until this weekend.
The neighbor kid saw me and even talked to me while I was in girl mode. He asked me if I lived in the house I live in. I kinda freaked out because I never run into people who know me as a guy while I'm in girl mode. So I said no and walked away. Well a couple days later he comes over hoping to do some chores for a few bucks and he sees me in guy mode again, and asked me if I had a twin sister. I told him no that was me. He said wow I really thought you had a twin sister.
it was an awkward experience I went on to explain what being trans means, but he didn't really understand.
That moment can be perplexing, but kids are honest and straightforward.
You may enjoy it.
barbie~~
...the transwoman who sits down next to you for 15 minutes on the subway doesn't notice you one bit.
Quote from: Jill F on June 03, 2015, 03:50:36 PM
...the transwoman who sits down next to you for 15 minutes on the subway doesn't notice you one bit.
Probably she is like me, as I have never seen any other transwoman in the street or the subway.
barbie~~
I knew I was passing, when I went out to run errands without a binder on and was never ma'am-ed. everywhere I went people took me for your regular fat guy with moobs lol
You know you pass when you look in the mirror and love what you see and when people start treating you the way you want to be recognized without having to ask them
So last week I got an email from a friend asking if I could fill in for a speaker at a transgender event, it was very last minute but I said yes and last night I gave a talk about online security and anonymity (I work in the sector).
Long story short after the talk I started talking to one of the spouses and she went on to tell me that she had no idea I was trans until she overheard me talking about electrolysis got very confused :D
Quote from: EmilyElizabeth on March 26, 2012, 04:10:25 PM
My friend (who met me after transition) was trying to explain how tampons feel to a guy. She said she never really felt it once it was secure and then turned and asked me "Do you ever feel it?"
Another time, I was using my one friend's new DS, which has an interesting program that takes your picture and then lets you play a game involving shooting the pictures... Anyways, it identified my face as a "young female face" and she was like, "hey, they got it right"
Another time, with the same friend, we were talking about Modern Family and the gay couple on the show and I said something like "I love their baby" meaning I thought it was adorable. For some reason she took it differently and said "Well maybe you can be their surrogate"
yeah, I might have more, but I can't remember
What game is that on DS?
Quote from: Jake25 on June 11, 2015, 10:11:44 PM
What game is that on DS?
3DS systems come with some free software included. One of those is that game, called Face Raiders.
I run into possibly awkward situation today.
We had course on safety issues at work (crisis situations, fire, emergency evac etc etc etc - with RF being our big neighbour and crisis in UKR all this stuff suddenly seems more important than a couple of years ago...) - and today we had practice lesson on the use of fire extinguishers.
I was walking to the main office building when I was joined by a guy from neighboring department - we met each other a couple of time, I know what's his name is, and he does not know mine. We were chatting on our way to the lecture, as well as during return journey and he was constantly using female gender and pronouns when talking to me... I was wondering if I should tell him, but in the end I did not. And now I am a bit terrified that this might come up one day and become very awkward (I am fully out at work, but I am not hiding it either - it's just I am not making loud and open statements). But apparently, this shows that something has to be done about it, because when complete strangers and distant acquaintances gender You female no matter what You are wearing.... it's probably called a male fail (and yet, I still tend to see a guy or guy-ish features when looking in the mirror).
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on June 12, 2015, 08:18:53 AM
And now I am a bit terrified that this might come up one day and become very awkward (I am fully out at work, but I am not hiding it either - it's just I am not making loud and open statements).
Has he told you about his medical history? Surgeries? Medications? How about his personal history? Where has he worked in the past? Where has he lived?
You don't owe him an accounting of your history any more than he owes you an accounting of his, right?
Quote from: suzifrommd on June 12, 2015, 08:40:36 AM
Has he told you about his medical history? Surgeries? Medications? How about his personal history? Where has he worked in the past? Where has he lived?
You don't owe him an accounting of your history any more than he owes you an accounting of his, right?
I dunno, it's just sooner or later we will run again into each other (we work in the same buildng) and since my name is male, there might be some awkwardness :).
On the other hand, I breached another threshold last Saturday, as me and kiddo went to seaside and at some point of time she had nature's call, so I decided to heck with it, I am not taking 4 y.o. girl to guy's room - and there was no option for family room (the route which we usually follow) - and so we went to female restroom instead (first time in my life ever). Not that anyone saw us there apart of attendant, but at least she did not say a word.
When the bus fills up with kids as school finishes and no one says anything.Happened today, I normally avoid the bus or tram when school let's out.
You know when you pass when..,
You're dressed in jeans and a (unisex) t shirt and a homeless guy asks, "miss can you spare any change?"
Shopping at Target today walk by a mother and her son, few seconds later hear "Mom that's a really tall girl" and the mom saying "She is tall, she might be a basketball player." That made me smile.
I went out with some trans friends last night. When I walked to the restaurant nobody seemed to notice me, but after dinner we all walked a few blocks together and I could literally feel everyone staring at us.
One of my friends is a great girl, but she couldn't pass on her best day. Cheap costume wig, ill-fitting halter top dress, walks like a dude...you get the picture.
I'm under no illusion that I pass 100%, but last night I got a glimpse of what she deals with.
As we transition, we're all super aware of people looking at us and it takes some time to get over the idea that they all know I'm trans. Sometimes they're just checking out your outfit.
So this experience of walking down the street with and without her made it clear that I'm doing pretty well ☺
Quote from: katiej on June 18, 2015, 09:51:02 PM
I went out with some trans friends last night. When I walked to the restaurant nobody seemed to notice me, but after dinner we all walked a few blocks together and I could literally feel everyone staring at us.
One of my friends is a great girl, but she couldn't pass on her best day. Cheap costume wig, ill-fitting halter top dress, walks like a dude...you get the picture.
I'm under no illusion that I pass 100%, but last night I got a glimpse of what she deals with.
As we transition, we're all super aware of people looking at us and it takes some time to get over the idea that they all know I'm trans. Sometimes they're just checking out your outfit.
So this experience of walking down the street with and without her made it clear that I'm doing pretty well ☺
Gah.... I had the same thing yesterday! Usually, people dont give me a second look or "that stare", but yesterday I was walking through shopping mall, desperately (cause most nice and discounted stuff was for size 38-42 - I am size 46) looking for some ideas to expand my attire, and got two episodes, and they were not even in the shops dedicated exclusively for ladies. The first one was an older lady, who was walking towards me and as I caught her stare, she kept looking into my eyes for longer than is considered to be polite. And the other one was with middle-aged woman, who did the same. I still have no idea what that meant - maybe I need to reconsider some steps and roll backwards with my outfit and presentation into more andro, or on the contrary, I was too andro for them, and they could not figure out who the heck I was...
Quote from: katiej on June 18, 2015, 09:51:02 PM
I went out with some trans friends last night. When I walked to the restaurant nobody seemed to notice me, but after dinner we all walked a few blocks together and I could literally feel everyone staring at us.
One of my friends is a great girl, but she couldn't pass on her best day. Cheap costume wig, ill-fitting halter top dress, walks like a dude...you get the picture.
I'm under no illusion that I pass 100%, but last night I got a glimpse of what she deals with.
As we transition, we're all super aware of people looking at us and it takes some time to get over the idea that they all know I'm trans. Sometimes they're just checking out your outfit.
So this experience of walking down the street with and without her made it clear that I'm doing pretty well ☺
This is a fairly typical experience for some in our community and worthy of a separate thread. Contrasts with those in a different place, how does that feel? thank you for the inspiration.
I had just updated my driver's licence to my new name and picture (yipee!). Afterwards I went to the library and while there asked if I could have my name updated that goes with my card. The librarian brought up my account on her computer and then turned to the more experienced librarian sitting beside her:
Her: Is this where I would update the name on his - uh, her card?
Him: That's the right field. But you can't do it there. That's her husband's card.
It went on - I was enjoying their back-and-forth too much to clear it up by saying that I am transgender. In the end I got me a new library card in my new name and took "my husband's" card with me as well.
Over the weekend I had to cross borders twice, first entering the USA from Canada and then going back to Canada from the USA, unfortunately my passport has not been updated for several years :c(
When crossing into the States me and my partner (she's CIS) drove to the booth and the man politely told us we had to go inside for me to get a visitors permit, at this point he takes both our passports and then tells us to go inside a building and wait for our names to be called which we do.
When our names were called we took different paths so I got to the desk first, the immigration agent then referred to me by my partners name, I corrected her and told her no, I'm (insert old name here) at which point she got that "deer in the headlights" confused look, then my partner arrived causing a second wave of confusion to wash over her, she recovered in about 5 seconds, a bit later she asked me if I was sure because my first visit to the US on my own was in '99 and that did not add up, I then pointed out I'm 35 and she wen't "Ohhh".
On the way back I handed the Canadian Immigration official our passports, he looked a bit, we had a talk about customs things and value of things I was bringing and then he said: "I don't want to be a stickler but you really need to renew your documents", I proceeded to explain to him about all the hoops I've been trying to jump through and told him I'd like nothing more than to get them updated, he then commented that this was really silly because it made their job so much harder.
Quote from: antonia on June 22, 2015, 04:00:10 PM
he then commented that this was really silly because it made their job so much harder.
Sure. He is doing a good job.
barbie~~
I had an interesting experience last night.
I was making a trip to see a friend and of course I had to stop to pee. I stopped at a McDonald's and as I walked in I stopped by a trash can outside to throw something away. There were two women and a guy also throwing stuff away and they joked about us all doing the same thing.
I followed them into the restaurant and the women both headed for the restroom with me right behind them, and the "we're doing the same thing" observation was made again.
There was 3 stalls and the women headed for two of them. Immediately after one woman came out and said to me "no toilet paper" before heading into the remaining stall.
I had enough sense not to head into the stall with no TP, so i stood outside and waited.
The woman then opened her stall before she went and offered to let me get some TP so that I could use the other stall.
So, I tore off a length of TP from her stall, thanked her, and went into my stall.
I think thats a pass.
I went to my local bike meet to see a very rare Harley Davidson K model and mixed with the bikers(all sorts from 1% club members,owners of classics,Harleys,Japanese,British and European bikes).No comments or remarks.
Cycling home with a hangover, no makeup and wearing a helmet, gloves, and riding a Cannondale Bad Boy in matte black I got stopped by a woman with two kids asking where were good places to cycle safely in the park, when one of the kids started yelling that she did not want to cycle through the zoo the woman said "be quiet, I'm talking to the nice lady here".
I kinda needed that after getting referred to as "him" by an employee at my favourite lunch place.
Three weeks ago I had a panic attack at work and they called an ambulance. Why going over my medical history the paramedic asked me "I know you said you're 46, but is there any possibility you could be pregnant?".
Than made my day even though I had to go to the hospital.
Quote from: allisonsteph on August 01, 2015, 07:42:26 PM
Three weeks ago I had a panic attack at work and they called an ambulance. Why going over my medical history the paramedic asked me "I know you said you're 46, but is there any possibility you could be pregnant?".
Than made my day even though I had to go to the hospital.
Oh that is perfectly fun and validating. Made me think I would love to reply with; Well we have tried but....."
My wife got carded for beers at Dodger Stadium yesterday. When I grabbed one of them, I was carded as well. When the clerk noticed that we have the same last name, she asked if we were sisters. When we explained that we were married, she just assumed it was a very recent thing and congratulated us.
Passing for cis is nice, but I passed for plausibly 20. Jill for the double win!
Quote from: Jill F on August 02, 2015, 04:21:05 PM
My wife got carded for beers at Dodger Stadium yesterday. When I grabbed one of them, I was carded as well. When the clerk noticed that we have the same last name, she asked if we were sisters. When we explained that we were married, she just assumed it was a very recent thing and congratulated us.
Passing for cis is nice, but I passed for plausibly 20. Jill for the double win!
Yes. A merit of m2f transgender people is that they look far younger.
barbie~~
This has been my first full week of passing consistently.
It all began when my pharmacist looked right through me when she was calling my birth name. She laughed in nervous embarrassment when I caught her eye and indicated it was me she was looking for.
Then came more ID shock when I presented it to get my ears pierced. The guy handled it really well though. Without missing a beat he said "I have to put your legal name here but you can put down your preferred name over here."
The week ended with hellos from wait staff adressing myself and my Mom as "girls" etc.
When I asked where the bathroom was at a Pennsylvania museum I was directed to the lady's...
I don't know how it happened or what I am doing (it might be anything but I have seen an uptick in physical change from the hrt) all I know is that I effin' love it.
Ok...I know I just posted here but I had another one. I was feeling so good I went back to my old early transition enemy. Algorithms. A friend posted a link on facebook to a site that would tell you what celebrity you look like. I got Kourtney Kardashian (sp?). That got my ego going so I went to the "how old do I look" site. When they released it a couple months ago I fed pic after pic into it. It could not peg my age, ranging me from the teens to the octogenarian area and always as male. It ruined my confidence. With extreme trepidation I entered a photo from yesterday...
It pegged me exactly as I am...a 37 year old woman!
Kellam: I think it's confidence. You know you are a woman so the little mannerisms are falling into place and people don't have cause to check.
When you try and tell a group of new friends that you are Trans, nobody believes you and think you are making a joke, and laugh at you. I even did my male voice and they said it just sounded like I was trying to sound like a man. One of them even told me off for trying to make a joke out of Trans ppl as they have Trans friends.
When you meet up with someone you and your sister worked with for a couple years thinks that you are your sister.
She thought I was my sister and had grown like 6 inches from the last time she had seen me.
The best was her reaction when I told her who I used to be :D ;D
...you try to not pass and fail, at least with strangers.
I've been having a difficult time lately as I've reached that point where fully socially transitioning must happen. Soon.
I work in an office. Yay, for employment! It's the only place left where I live as a guy. Boo, for highly religious employers (what was I thinking)! Anyway, we had high-level visitors today, so that meant the end of six months of casual dress.
I did my best, I really did. Binder as always, Dress slacks, dress shirt, oxfords. No tie, because...I just won't. Pulled my hair back in an "I.T. ponytail". I mean, I *felt* pretty butch, right? Okay, the shirt was a really pretty lavender, but whatever.
Our server room A/C units had failed when I came in, so I was swapping failed drives and getting servers back up again for the first few hours of the day. The HVAC guys were going in and out of the room, doing their thing. Every time they needed something, I got "ma'amed", and referred to as "her" and "she". And they were nice enough to hold the door for me very politely and pointedly whenever we were going back to the main office area at the same time.
I think I could get used to this.
Walking through the gun aisle in Walmart while in a dress and passing by a bunch of guys in camo who stare at you weird.
As you walk to the other aisle you hear them laugh amongst each other and assume they clocked you, but instead you hear them say;
"She looked lost."
;D
When nobody pays attention to me.
(https://farm6.staticflickr.com/5630/20403657819_6ddbeafc23_b.jpg)
barbie~~
You know you pass when you get arrested and the jailer asks you if you are pregnant when he books you in
You go through a drive-thru presenting as female but no makeup, 2 day old scruff, not even trying my female voice and I still get ma'am'd.
..when the gas-fitter guys and a stranger in the office greets you with "Good morning ma'am!" while you are pretending to be a man because you did not come out at work yet ...
When you go through the TSA airport screen in Orlando (plus several other locations) with absolutely no search, wand waiving or any other questions (as I did in the past few weeks).
Male Fail Lynne! Time to go full time.
Does this count? After an evening service at a church I've started going to, where they don't know me, I chatted to two of the other women. I mentioned an LGBT group then said I had called myself lesbian while I was going through my divorce. One of the women gave a wry chuckle that I thought meant she or a close friend had also been through a bitter divorce. If they had any suspicions about my 'history' I think I would have found out at that point.
When you look in the mirror and you are happy/satisfied with your reflection. We are our worst critics, so when we honestly pass to ourselves, we have arrived. And to be honest, I'm not where I want to be yet, but I will continue to do everything in my power to make improvements.
When you call places to change your name, and they automatically assume you're changing your last name...
When you're driving and some strange guy pull up to or in front of you and makes obscene gestures like they want to lick your lady bits, then points to the side of the road like they want you to pull over, and signals early, then pulls over. It's happened to me twice in the past week. This goes way beyond cat calls, it's really pervy. :icon_weirdface:
-Alana
Probably mentioned already, but, when you get carded and they don't believe that picture is actually you...
And you know you've found a great bra when someone who knows about you asks if you've recently had a boob job, lol.
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Quote from: KristinaM on October 22, 2015, 06:02:57 AM
Probably mentioned already, but, when you get carded and they don't believe that picture is actually you...
Hahaha that happened to me at Costco.
The cashier asked for ID because the picture didn't look like me. I showed her my DL. I still had the old name on it but gender marker was F.
Hi I had a wonderful weekend for the first time I was out shopping with the Wife and she did not out Me to anybody she has a habit of introducing Me as her husband when I am living full time as a Woman . Then Sunday I was at our church where everybody knows I am Trans but I am totally accepted and a lady approached Me and Said" You look lovely My Dear". I went shopping on my own in the afternoon and went into Clare's to get a new ear piercing I had 3 Young girls around Me discussing the placement and saying things like I think the Lady needs it moved a little to the left HEHeHe . But my favourite one was I was in BK having a snack and a older couple sat with Me at the table and We got chatting about this and that I mentioned that I had great grand children and they Said "You are never a Greatgranny" .I loved it
.......... the hospital staff clock your sister-in-law as your Mother; looking after her daughter.
I'm yet to stop ;D ;D ;D ;D
(And she has NEVER forgiven me. She's a month older than me ;D ;D ;D)
This isn't really passing but where I work I have to stop at an access point in my car and show an ID that gets scanned and compared to my face. This morning I got called ma'am wearing a tie and button down collar LOL. Maybe it helped that the shirt was red.
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I was out getting lunch with my wife at subway. Day old scruff, no makeup, grungy ball cap with my hair up and ponytail out the back and wearing a hoodie.....
When we paid and were leaving the cashier said "Have a nice day ladies!"
Yay! :D
I think you know you pass when women in public smile at you! Women smile at each other a LOT! It's the equivalent of the "head nod" some guys give each other in public.
Pre-transition, women never smiled at me (obviously), but now it seems to happen every single day.
Also getting called "darling," "sweetie," "sweetheart" by older men (like men 50+). I just can't imagine men using those terms on someone they thought was male, or someone who they knew was transsexual, unless they are really open-minded. And also "hun" by older women. Although I would get called hun by older women pre-transition, it happens at a more common rate now, probably because women are addressed with endearing words more so than men are in general.
I've been pushing the boundaries recently. Sitting with two homophobic and probably transphobic Baptist Ladies after a church service and talking about LGBT issues. Even with the clue that I'm pro-LGBT they can't have read me or I would have been the target of their ire.
Quote from: MaryXYX on October 30, 2015, 09:24:40 AM
I've been pushing the boundaries recently. Sitting with two homophobic and probably transphobic Baptist Ladies after a church service and talking about LGBT issues. Even with the clue that I'm pro-LGBT they can't have read me or I would have been the target of their ire.
Funny!
barbie~~
Quote from: Roni on October 30, 2015, 06:53:04 AM
I think you know you pass when women in public smile at you! Women smile at each other a LOT! It's the equivalent of the "head nod" some guys give each other in public.
Pre-transition, women never smiled at me (obviously), but now it seems to happen every single day.
Yes. Also women tend to touch shoulders or hands without any hesitation. In public bus or train, always women sit next to me.
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on October 30, 2015, 01:06:08 PM
Yes. Also women tend to touch shoulders or hands without any hesitation. In public bus or train, always women sit next to me.
barbie~~
Women tend to do that to me too.
Unfortunately so do big men and they spread themselves out. Ugh
It seems as though (presumably) single dads are hitting on me with increasing frequency with their kids in tow by trying to be cute and (dad) smiling in my direction and making small talk. It's kind of nice and kind of annoying. Some are kinda cute though.
Weird. Either I don't "pass" as well as I think I do, or I am too much looking like an icecube or more likely its a cultural thing, but while women (and men) smile at me a lot and don't mind sitting next to me in the bus, I do not get touched or called "hun" or "sweetie" or any german equivalent of this...
Quote from: anjaq on November 02, 2015, 08:16:22 AM
Weird. Either I don't "pass" as well as I think I do, or I am too much looking like an icecube or more likely its a cultural thing, but while women (and men) smile at me a lot and don't mind sitting next to me in the bus, I do not get touched or called "hun" or "sweetie" or any german equivalent of this...
I don't know but it seems cultural?
In the New Jersey Motor Vehicle Commission office when I went to change my gender marker on my driving licence even though they knew exactly what I was there for with my old pic, male name and M gender marker, the woman behind the counter still referred to me as "hun." So yeah they clearly knew I was trans yet they did it anyway.
So I don't think it is really a gauge of passing or not.
What is a gauge of passing for me is how many men in the hardware store now rush to help me pick out stuff. I was buying a toilet flush valve and even though I have replaced many over the years the store clerk made sure that he gave me his best advice on how to install it, even after repeatedly saying, "thanks but I am fine."
How I know I didn't pass was a guy looked at me, laughed and said, "what's up man." Clearly I was clocked. This was some months though, even before I went to Korea. I gave him the Jersey salute and went on my way.
You get asked 2 times in one week the date your last menstrual cycle and twice that your are not pregnant. I messed up my ankle skateboarding and yeah, had to go to 2 different doctors... Such an awkward series of questions. And a lot of confusion about what to write in forms about menstrual cycles LOL. Yes or no "I could be pregnant" is an easy one.
Called the bank, got called Ms J***** (as expected.)
My old name is a common Irish name that some women have. Think speaker of the house.
We were straigtening things out with my name change. Anyway when we were talking, the representative was saying, "One of my friends changed her name, it was this weird long thing. If I had a daughter, I would name her R*** though (my old name), but I can understand why you wanted it changed, as people could think you're a guy then when they talk to you they realize, oh no, you're a girl..."
I said, "yeah, something along that line. I like my new name better. My mom chose it for me."
I was out the other day; no makeup, baby milk everywhere, bags under eyes, shattered from being a new parent to a teething baby and I got a compliment from a shop assistant who looked at me and said without hesitation "I wish I looked as good as you after I'd had my little one; I was a blubbering wreck for months and you still look gorgeous" I was so flattered but I had to tell her my wife had the baby and I just watched haha
Nice one SashaGrace!
when I get called miss when I'm not even wearing make-up. In truth I can't remember being miss gendered in a long time besides for work where I present male.
My ID is still male everything ew but I went out to a club with my friends and the door guy is hitting on me the whole time. I was more focused about being with my girls and having fun so I wasn't really talking to him. He called me back over and tried talking to me again and then he let us all go in before whoever was infront of us so my friends and I went in front of line. He then asked for my ID to get in, I handed him MY ID and I was laughing and he took it as a joke. He was saying there's no way this is me and I kept trying to prove it was. My friends were helping me out trying to explain to him, he was holding the line up so he said your going to have to come back with your ID. I was so upset I didn't get in but I was happy that I passed that well lol. I felt bad that I couldn't get in but we found somewhere else to go. I get clocked for my voice sometimes but I'm working on it. It's all about embracing whatever reaction you get I'm still going to be a proud transgender woman whether someone clocks me or passes me.
Quote from: Nattiedoll on November 10, 2015, 01:26:05 AM
It's all about embracing whatever reaction you get I'm still going to be a proud transgender woman whether someone clocks me or passes me.
Thank you! So good to read that on this thread.....
It's the most important part Tessa! People will always try to clock you for something so the best thing to do is to remain confident because I am secure with my womanhood, the woman that try to clock me aren't.
When you go for your srs assessment and the nurse, says are you here with a patient? Yes, gives name, and she says, well that's obviously not you, where is she? :-P
Walking by the frozen food aisle. And older guy says "Hello" I say "Hello" back to him he then smiles and says "Boy I sure am hungry" I almost asked him has that pickup line ever worked for you?
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Not a pickup line, just being friendly to a pretty woman.
You know you pass when... you meet someone who you know is extremely transphobic and they not only chat with you but they hold the door open and treat you like a lady.
For my protection though, I will not say who it is.
But people who know me outside of here may have an idea. :)
Quote from: MaryXYX on November 12, 2015, 09:58:15 AM
Not a pickup line, just being friendly to a pretty woman.
I don't know the way he smiled and looked at me shudder
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"I don't know the way he smiled and looked at me shudder"
OK, but the "pretty woman" part still sounds right.
This is an oldie for me, but one of my favorite instances:
"You know you pass when..."
...you accidentally plop down your old license (heh, big woops!) as you're getting paperwork sorted at the bank for your deceased father's estate and the banker says "No hun, I need your license; you gave me your fathers" (she didn't look at the name, just a glance at the picture)
I used to be my own dad, apparently. wEiRd, right ?!?!!
You know you pass when...
Riding the elevator. I don't feel so good, it shows, and there's just one other woman there.
She asks, "you feeling good hun?"
Me, "No, I'm kinda not feeling good if you know what I mean."
She asks, "Oh, your friend is here?"
Me, puzzled at first... then a lightbulb goes off in my head... "Oh no no, it's not that, it's just probably something I ate, but thanks anyway."
Quote from: iKate on November 13, 2015, 01:22:47 PM
You know you pass when...
Riding the elevator. I don't feel so good, it shows, and there's just one other woman there.
She asks, "you feeling good hun?"
Me, "No, I'm kinda not feeling good if you know what I mean."
She asks, "Oh, your friend is here?"
Me, puzzled at first... then a lightbulb goes off in my head... "Oh no no, it's not that, it's just probably something I ate, but thanks anyway."
I never know how to react to this one.
This happened fourteen years ago......after FFS and before SRS. I caught what seemed like a very bad cold and cough and it would not go away. I made an appointment with a doctor.....a general practitioner who I had never been to. I go to my appointment and had to fill out a form on a clipboard providing the typical information that a doctor's office needs on the first visit. I sat down in the waiting room and filled out the form, then when the nurse came to take me to the examination room she took the clipboard with the form, looked over it, and then asked me if I was pregnant. I was not sure I heard her correctly but said "no" and held my composure as she escorted me back to the examination room. While I was alone in the room waiting for the doctor I had a big smile on my face and almost felt like laughing. I knew then that I was getting to where I wanted to be. On the drive home my confidence was soaring. That event took me to a new level which allowed me to be confident and comfortable in almost any situation.
Last night I went to my ham radio club meeting. I hadn't been there in months. However they knew I was trans as I told them in an email.
Well I started chatting with people when I got there. People told me they were glad to see me etc etc. I figure good they accept.
People started chatting with me and one of them asked," so how's your husband?" I asked,"my husband?" The guy said, "yeah, how's (my old name)?" I said," oh wait, you think I'm my wife? No no no. I sent out an email saying I'm transgender and when the meeting starts I'm going to tell everyone." They were like so in shock. One of them said,"WOW You're kidding right?"
So even after all that I give my short announcement saying "hi my name is Kate, you may have known me as (old name) and I've been through a lot lately and well I'm back."
I sit next to a guy who I know very well. We have a conversation about things, he asks how everyone is, how the kids are then he said," well say hi to your husband for me."
I said,"oh wait what is my name?"
He said,"(my wife's name)"
Then I was like oh god... I had to explain the whole Trans thing to him and it took him a while to grasp...
That was an interesting night.
You order takeout and have just paid.. The cook is bringing another takeout order over and asks "Are you Melissa?" I had my bag of food directly in front of me.
Quote from: iKate on November 13, 2015, 01:22:47 PM
Me, "No, I'm kinda not feeling good if you know what I mean."
She asks, "Oh, your friend is here?"
Me, puzzled at first... then a lightbulb goes off in my head... "Oh no no, it's not that, it's just probably something I ate, but thanks anyway."
LOL, yeah its kind of funny how people jump really fast to that conclusion if you are feeling sick for any reason at all. Apparently that "friend" is blamed for a lot ;) .
I had one friend of mine give me painkillers and relaxants that are very useful for women with cramps coming from that issue once, when I was having abdominal cramps - and amazingly they worked, even though I am rather sure it was more a intenstinal thing than what she thought.
And a Coworker tried hard to convince me to drink lemon juice against the headaches coming from PMS and she also had some other tip regarding the abdominal pain, since I had both of these at any time...
I try to not deny that I do have this but also not confirm that I have. Just trying to navigate around these situations....
In the supermarket today I ask this woman if she could move her cart. Music blasting in her ears, she couldn't hear me. I talk a little louder. Nothing, Then I get frustrated and push her cart aside. She then suddenly realized I was there, with a total b**h face. She turned to me, pulled off her headphones and told me, "damn, you on the rag or something?"
I just said, "nevermind. You win." and I turned around and went the other way.
Quote from: anjaq on November 20, 2015, 04:40:32 PM
LOL, yeah its kind of funny how people jump really fast to that conclusion if you are feeling sick for any reason at all. Apparently that "friend" is blamed for a lot ;) .
I had one friend of mine give me painkillers and relaxants that are very useful for women with cramps coming from that issue once, when I was having abdominal cramps - and amazingly they worked, even though I am rather sure it was more a intenstinal thing than what she thought.
And a Coworker tried hard to convince me to drink lemon juice against the headaches coming from PMS and she also had some other tip regarding the abdominal pain, since I had both of these at any time...
I try to not deny that I do have this but also not confirm that I have. Just trying to navigate around these situations....
I definitely don't explain that I'm trans. If anything I just say, "no" or "nevermind."
I had a You know you pass when moment this morning at work .I was in the restroom touching up my makeup and one of the cleaners that I chat to a lot came in .She said "making yourself all pretty then" I said well trying to look alright anyhow we chatted a bit more and she saw my wedding ring and said " does your husband work here as well" I thought everybody was aware that I am Trans but apparently not . The oddest thing was I used to talk to her before I transitioned but she obviously cannot see the connection so I must look OK then .WEEEEEEEEEEE
Quote from: ToniB on November 23, 2015, 02:31:03 AM
I had a You know you pass when moment this morning at work .I was in the restroom touching up my makeup and one of the cleaners that I chat to a lot came in .She said "making yourself all pretty then" I said well trying to look alright anyhow we chatted a bit more and she saw my wedding ring and said " does your husband work here as well" I thought everybody was aware that I am Trans but apparently not . The oddest thing was I used to talk to her before I transitioned but she obviously cannot see the connection so I must look OK then .WEEEEEEEEEEE
I used to think everyone at work knew I'm trans. Day by day I'm finding out that this isn't true at all.
I also think some people know and have forgotten.
I think that is what is happening to you. :)
Quote from: iKate on November 23, 2015, 10:49:03 AM
I used to think everyone at work knew I'm trans. Day by day I'm finding out that this isn't true at all.
I also think some people know and have forgotten.
I think that is what is happening to you. :)
Two of my clients have hired several new people over the last year and I was also surprised that they still don't know. I thought I would be a topic of office gossip, but apparently not. Even then those that do know say that they can't picture me being male anymore as it just seems natural that I'm a woman.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on November 23, 2015, 10:26:47 PM
Two of my clients have hired several new people over the last year and I was also surprised that they still don't know. I thought I would be a topic of office gossip, but apparently not. Even then those that do know say that they can't picture me being male anymore as it just seems natural that I'm a woman.
Generally people will be afraid about gossiping about you as that may be a disciplinary offense. In NJ there are strong laws and protections against discrimination based on gender identity and expression.
But in your case, no, people probably genuinely don't know.
I'm pretty sure my cats don't know I'm trans, and some people do, and others don't, so it's a mixed bag, but I like my life, and I'm happy being me, and that's what really matters.
Quote from: iKate on November 25, 2015, 11:45:43 AM
Generally people will be afraid about gossiping about you as that may be a disciplinary offense. In NJ there are strong laws and protections against discrimination based on gender identity and expression.
But in your case, no, people probably genuinely don't know.
Since the laws don't apply to contract work or vendors, your right.
Today I was at a client's 3rd party warehouse location that I had not been there since it opened in 2010 as my pre-transition self. I went there to setup their workstations to access my clients system (that I wrote.) There were only two out of the 50 employees there there that I knew pre-transition. One had known for 9 years because he and I work at the same company. He didn't recognize me at first (after all it had been 5 years since he seen me). Then I said hi to him and he had this puzzled look. (Someone had already told him 6 months ago that I transitioned.) Then his eyes opened wide up and he says, "Wow you look good, <hesitant at old name>." I told him it was now Sydney. His response: "Well it's nice to meet you Sydney "<pause>, "again." He then asked about my wife, and my brother. We talked for a few minutes catching up on life. He had to cut it short because he was on duty, but he gave me a big hug and said he was glad to see the new me.
The other one I had known for 2 years at the same old company and he didn't even recognize me at all. I didn't get a chance to speak with him.
Quote from: kittenpower on November 25, 2015, 02:07:44 PM
I'm pretty sure my cats don't know I'm trans, and some people do, and others don't, so it's a mixed bag, but I like my life, and I'm happy being me, and that's what really matters.
Dogs seem to bark at me more compared with other men or women ::)
barbie~~
You know you pass (or will pass) when ur not even full time yet so you go into men's room and someone is looking back and forth at you, then says omgggg wait omg (confused). Then I smile and say "did I confuse you sir" he then says holy ->-bleeped-<- I thought you came into wrong bathroom! I laughed and took it as a compliment.
This happened today :)
Someone asked my wife and I if we were "twinsies".
My wife and I were out to lunch today, as we were finishing up the waitress asks: "Are these together or separate?" when asking about the bill.
This happens all the time now. :)
Honestly I never pass physically, I am a linebacker in a dress.
My voice however is another thing. I work at a call center and when we do internal transfers it will show our name on the phone bar, for some reason my dead name keeps showing up. So I frequently get internal peers asking me if I logged in under the wrong name because "clearly I am not 'dead name'." It always makes me smile
Not exactly passing but:
I've just come back from the local Baptist "coffee & cake". The minister stopped to chat to me, I was telling him about being alone at Christmas and I wouldn't be seeing any of my family. Then I said one of the local daughters invited me to Sunday dinner for a short while after I moved here, but stopped when she realised she wasn't going to see her father again. He said "Well can't she see her father if she wants to?" - he had forgotten I used to be her father!
I was in North Face looking for a winter coat because those sales are amazing, and this woman comes up to me and goes "OHHH you're about the same size as my son, can you try this on?" and needless to say i internally had a small emotional breakdown from happiness.
also i'm way too chicken to brave the men's loo, so i get FIILTHY looks from women going into the women's toilet, especially when there's a long line.
My kitchen sink backed up over the weekend, flooding the kitchen. When they repaired the clog, the maintenance guy not only cleaned up the mess created by the repairs, he cleaned my entire kitchen and washed my dishes that were sitting in the sink.
That never would have happened back when I was perceived as a guy.
I stood in the supermarket checkout line, when the cashier looked my way and said, "sir! I'm closed!"
I couldn't believe that I was misgendered/clocked! White as a ghost, I told the woman, "sir? What part of me is SIR?"
Then she said, "Ma'am, I was talking to the gentleman behind you."
Oops... lol
Quote from: iKate on December 07, 2015, 09:28:26 PM
I stood in the supermarket checkout line, when the cashier looked my way and said, "sir! I'm closed!"
I couldn't believe that I was misgendered/clocked! White as a ghost, I told the woman, "sir? What part of me is SIR?"
Then she said, "Ma'am, I was talking to the gentleman behind you."
Oops... lol
LOL, oops, I've almost made the same mistake a few times when I realized they were talking to the person next to me or behind me.
Oops yes! I haven't quite done that but I have been too sensitive.
Both of you look as if you should just blend into society.
Went out to have a glass of beer with an old friend recently.
Once we'd ordered and my friend went to fetch his wallet (or something - could've been his cell phone beeping), the bartender asked "is he paying for the both of you, or do you want me to split the bill?"
::)
You hear the following in the post office-
"Goddammit you fat ugly bitch, you took my f***ing parking spot."
Me: "That's funny, if it was yours, then why is my car in it?" *gives her the finger*
Quote from: iKate on December 07, 2015, 09:28:26 PM
I stood in the supermarket checkout line, when the cashier looked my way and said, "sir! I'm closed!"
I couldn't believe that I was misgendered/clocked! White as a ghost, I told the woman, "sir? What part of me is SIR?"
Then she said, "Ma'am, I was talking to the gentleman behind you."
Oops... lol
HAHAHAHAHA!!! That's almost happened to me several times. I love the "WTF!?" feeling, then you turn around and there's a dude there.
Quote from: Rina on December 08, 2015, 06:15:14 AM
Went out to have a glass of beer with an old friend recently.
Once we'd ordered and my friend went to fetch his wallet (or something - could've been his cell phone beeping), the bartender asked "is he paying for the both of you, or do you want me to split the bill?"
::)
Lol, I've gotten out of the habit of reaching for my wallet after dating for a while. Unless I'm really not attracted to my date...
My most recent confidence boosting moment was at a company party my boyfriend invited me to. A female friend of my boyfriend I met there, her husband and my BF and myself were talking for a while. They were really cool, and after getting to know each other, (let's call her J) J complimented me on my makeup as an aside saying she often felt uncomfortable with all the fancy pomp of the big parties and didn't really know how to get herself glammed up.
I was pretty unselfconscious after I had spent about a week assembling my outfit and look for that night. I honestly don't know if J knew I was trans or not, but nevertheless I could tell her compliment was genuine and it kind of floored me for a second. I almost immediately transitioned into talking about the parts of my makeup routine I had troubles with and how I went to have someone do my makeup for me and asked a lot of questions to get past it. But that one moment was a big deal for me, getting acknowledged for not only being attractive but good at doing my makeup by another woman.
Hugs,
- Katie
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Quote from: Obfuskatie on December 10, 2015, 08:46:50 PM
Lol, I've gotten out of the habit of reaching for my wallet after dating for a while. Unless I'm really not attracted to my date...
It's kind of normal to split here (many women refuse to let the guy pay), but apparently it's uncommon for the girl to take the whole bill, since the option didn't even seem to occur to the bartender. Kind of entertaining since this was a long-time friend, and I don't date guys anyways. And when seeing friends, I'm used to sometimes paying their bill, and sometimes being paid for.
Anyway, even though we were going to split, my feminist side kinda took over and I told her "I'll take the whole bill, provided my credit card works". But turns out the pub in question didn't accept Diners, so my friend ended up paying after all... Oh the irony.
QuoteMy most recent confidence boosting moment was at a company party my boyfriend invited me to. A female friend of my boyfriend I met there, her husband and my BF and myself were talking for a while. They were really cool, and after getting to know each other, (let's call her J) J complimented me on my makeup as an aside saying she often felt uncomfortable with all the fancy pomp of the big parties and didn't really know how to get herself glammed up.
I was pretty unselfconscious after I had spent about a week assembling my outfit and look for that night. I honestly don't know if J knew I was trans or not, but nevertheless I could tell her compliment was genuine and it kind of floored me for a second. I almost immediately transitioned into talking about the parts of my makeup routine I had troubles with and how I went to have someone do my makeup for me and asked a lot of questions to get past it. But that one moment was a big deal for me, getting acknowledged for not only being attractive but good at doing my makeup by another woman.
It's kind of nice when cis women start relating to you as a woman at parties, whether or not they are aware of your status. I went to a Christmas party with my martial arts club recently, and there were several encouraging moments. First, on our way from the restaurant to the afterparty, a group of drunk, misogynist guys walked by us and had a very loud discussion about women, seemingly centered on how hopeless we are not doing their every bidding. My instructor, who is a woman and have known me since before I started transitioning, gave me a sideways glance, rolled her eyes and smiled. I've noticed this on other occasions too, that women who have known me since before I transitioned, that I meet often, increasingly relate to me as a woman instinctively.
Later, at the afterparty, someone who were at our Christmas party two years ago (she's from another part of the country, so I haven't met her since) was there, and when we started speaking, she obviously didn't recognize me. She even introduced herself. I decided not to do the "I think we met two years ago" thing since I really wasn't in the mood for trans education, and it seems like she didn't clock me throughout the evening.
I kind of find these situations in parties a lot more encouraging than other situations like passing in stores, pharmacies, doctor's office and so on, since I tend to get slightly drunk at parties, and that means I also lose some voice control. I had a long period when sober me passed and drunk me just almost passed. But I guess over time, my voice is so used to speaking like I normally do (I can't even find my old voice back, when I tried once just for fun a friend of mine said it sounded unnatural, like I was forcing my voice down), that losing a bit control doesn't affect it as much.
Quote from: Rina on December 11, 2015, 03:21:28 AM
I kind of find these situations in parties a lot more encouraging than other situations like passing in stores, pharmacies, doctor's office and so on, since I tend to get slightly drunk at parties, and that means I also lose some voice control. I had a long period when sober me passed and drunk me just almost passed. But I guess over time, my voice is so used to speaking like I normally do (I can't even find my old voice back, when I tried once just for fun a friend of mine said it sounded unnatural, like I was forcing my voice down), that losing a bit control doesn't affect it as much.
I'm seriously not used to my new lack of alcohol tolerance, after dropping some weight and a lot of muscle mass, so I totally know what you mean about getting a bit drunk at parties. I've found a somewhat similar thing with my own voice control, in that trying to talk lower hurts my throat. That being said, I still have my tenor vocal range, and when I don't think about it I can slip into the new bottom of my register that is a bit huskier than most women's.
There's also up talk and down talk, which has something to do with taking social cues and unconsciously modulating your voice in certain situations, and when we drink it can amplify the effect. I know I don't always sound super femme, especially when I'm talking to someone I'm out to, but I think most people take cues from my mannerisms, inflection and appearance more than tone. And I know I often use a higher and softer pitch and tone when I talk to my boyfriend than my mom.
Hugs,
- Katie
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Quote from: iKate on December 07, 2015, 09:28:26 PM
I stood in the supermarket checkout line, when the cashier looked my way and said, "sir! I'm closed!"
I couldn't believe that I was misgendered/clocked! White as a ghost, I told the woman, "sir? What part of me is SIR?"
Then she said, "Ma'am, I was talking to the gentleman behind you."
Oops... lol
Hah! That's great! :D
Quote from: iKate on December 07, 2015, 09:28:26 PM
I stood in the supermarket checkout line, when the cashier looked my way and said, "sir! I'm closed!"
I couldn't believe that I was misgendered/clocked! White as a ghost, I told the woman, "sir? What part of me is SIR?"
Then she said, "Ma'am, I was talking to the gentleman behind you."
Oops... lol
Thats hilarious, iKate
One becomes so overly sensitive to misgenderings at times that one mistakes these situations for something offensive.
Quote from: Rina on December 11, 2015, 03:21:28 AM
I tend to get slightly drunk at parties, and that means I also lose some voice control.
That was sadly true for me as well for many years. It was not totally bad, but bad enough that I was occasionally asked what the problem is with my voice and twice I was asked if I was trans... It also happened when I was relaxed in other ways, not just alcohol induced. Thats why I eventually went to have VFS, I can just hope now that this will be better.
I had breast augmentation surgery many years ago and the surgeon asked my partner afterwards if I was pregnant recently, as my breasts apparently leaked a bit during surgery. LOL Also, seeing a GP for a checkup and then getting a cervical screening letter later in the year was fun.
It hasn't been long since I started to transition (only seen the GP once and had one session of IPL), and on 5 occasions on one day shop assistants have referred to me and my sister as "ladies" and me "darling" although I was in total guy mode lol XD
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A week or two ago I was in Belfast and had decided to brave the men's loo, since I've gotten a haircut and can't really pass for female anymore (I look very young, though, still.). I couldn't figure out how the sink worked since it had one of them yokes where you put your hand beside a sensor and the water will flow, so i got pretty frustrated. This tall guy turns to me and goes "ay laddie, not working for ye?" and turned it on. It made this laddie happy.
I went to see my doctor for a refill on HRT and he was on holiday, so I saw the walk in doctor. She looked at the meds I was on (spiro and estradiol) and asked if I had PCOS (something you need ovaries for). I said "no, I'm trans." Clearly this just messed with her mind even more, since when she looked at my bloodwork and saw that my testosterone was at a higher than normal level, she told me that I needed to stop taking testosterone supplements for at least 6 months and then get my bloodwork done again (?). At this point, I figured it was hopeless to try to explain things, told her I would stop the T supplements, got my prescriptions, and got out of there.
<<stop taking testosterone supplements>>
Why can't doctors read the notes!?!
Quote from: MaryXYX on January 04, 2016, 04:33:41 AM
<<stop taking testosterone supplements>>
Why can't doctors read the notes!?!
Seems perfectly reasonable. The doctor's recommendation was obviously for an orchi. ;-)
Walked into court passed through metal detectors the thing beeps guard walks up to me and says its your bra strap
Was out with a couple of friends last week and I ordered my lunch, wearing pretty neutral clothing and when my order was called the lady serving said "Sorry about the wait ma'am"
I'm reviving an old-ish thread, but I've always liked reading this one. It's fun to celebrate our accomplishments, right?
So this afternoon I was checking out at a clothing shop and chatting with the cashier. I handed her my debit card, and she took one look at the name and then asked for my ID (still with old name and picture of a guy). She said, "I'm sorry, only he can use this card." I chuckled a bit and said, "yeah...that's me." She still didn't get it and tried to explain that I couldn't use "his" card. I said "that's me...I've been going through some changes." She finally got it and was shocked! She felt really embarrassed and told me I'm "doing a lot better than most trans people who come in the store." I made sure to say thank you...cause I knew what she meant. It was an awkward compliment...but I'll take it.
Thanks for reviving this thread, it is fun to read.
I had a nice comment today, I've been on hormones for around 6 months, but have struggled trying to look feminine while wearing cycling clothes (which are typically unisex at best). Today I decided to catch the train with my bike, so caught the lift down to the platform. I had a quick chat with a lady on the lift, and when we went to get off she told me "Off you go Blossom."
Definitely put a smile on my face.
I do feel this one was pushing the envelope. There were two new women at the Asperger group yesterday evening so I had a chat with them. I invited them to the women's group we have recently started and somehow I seem to 'manage'. Then I told them we have a member of the main group who is in the process of transition MtF and could be coming to the women's group. None of the people at the Asperger group seem to have any problem at all with trans-people and as far as I could tell the new ones didn't realise I am also trans.
So it's been a busy weekend for me...
For our 12 year old son's birthday we took him out to dinner to Japanese hibachi. Much to my wife's horror, the chef keep referring to all of us women at the table as sexy mom each time he served us something.
This afternoon at the playground my children kept calling me daddy. A little boy they were playing with looked at them and said where's your daddy all I see is you mommy.
Mega smiles both times!
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Quote from: RachaelAnne on April 17, 2016, 11:10:35 PM
So it's been a busy weekend for me...
For our 12 year old son's birthday we took him out to dinner to Japanese hibachi. Much to my wife's horror, the chef keep referring to all of us women at the table as sexy mom each time he served us something.
This afternoon at the playground my children kept calling me daddy. A little boy they were playing with looked at them and said where's your daddy all I see is you mommy.
Mega smiles both times!
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Yes. Children are very flexible.
As my daughter grows up (age 12), she now knows when she has better avoid calling me daddy. For example, in the shopping mall.
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When you go to a store after work in male clothing to get razors because you didn't shave for 3 days and a mother tells her little daughter at the entrance to let the lady take a shopping basket.
I was at Costco this weekend and needed to buy a couple of cases of water. There were a couple of guys in the water section getting water for themselves and they said "Do you need some water ma'am?" They proceeded to get two cases of water and put them in the bottom rack of my cart. Big smile from me!!
A female friend and I went clothes shopping last weekend. It's prom season, and I found myself waiting on a bench in a very crowded dressing room with lots of young ladies trying on gorgeous gowns with their friends and mothers and lots of employees buzzing around. The crowd got me feeling like I had giant spotlight shining on me but no one else seemed to care or notice.
Earlier I had tried some clothes on in that same dressing room but everything they carried was too small for me. When I got there I asked a female attendant if there was a dressing room available and she told me which one to use without missing a beat.
If I can blend in in that environment I think that I can blend in anywhere.